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Get a Life, Then Get a Man: A Single Woman's Guide
The key to enjoying the single life is to lead a full and rewarding existence. For dating to be successful, single women must first acquire the most attractive quality--a fun, happy, and productive life. From setting goals, nurturing friendships, and being kind to oneself, Jennifer Bawden provides both practical and inspirational guidance for women who desire a whole new outlook on their singlehood. Once they have gained esteem and support, readers are ready to apply Bawden's frontline tactics for meeting men. From the first approach in a crowded room and strategies for "the call back" to handy icebreakers for the first date, Bawden shows how to proactively pursue a variety of interesting prospects. Get a Life, Then Get a Man inspires women to take back their dating destinies--to get confident in their actions and smart about their choices. In the process, they'll discover that being single can truly be fun, free, and satisfying.
- GenresSelf Help
256 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 2000
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November 3, 2022
Even if you don't acquire a romance, this book provides tools for growth and vibrant living. No one has to live desolately in our era. Protect your rights and the rights of other women by living your truth. Everyone will benefit!!
May 30, 2019
I totally disagree with the 1 star reviewer. It’s obviously written by a critical, jealous girl. The first part of her book has nothing to do with finding a man, it’s about finding a life for yourself. Because this book was so empowering to me when I read it, I had to respond to the review.
I can tell you first hand that I am one of the women who feels much stronger because of this book. I don’t know if I need or want a man, but it is still nicer to chose than be chosen. The book says the opposite of the review, the book says that a relationship will not magically solve any woman’s problems. And how insulting to incinuate the book encourages women to find a rich man. Her book is obviously written for professionals.
I can tell you first hand that I am one of the women who feels much stronger because of this book. I don’t know if I need or want a man, but it is still nicer to chose than be chosen. The book says the opposite of the review, the book says that a relationship will not magically solve any woman’s problems. And how insulting to incinuate the book encourages women to find a rich man. Her book is obviously written for professionals.
December 3, 2023
A must read book, OMG!, it feels like reading my current life, it teaches you to how to get a life enjoy being single while searching for your man, its like hitting two birds with one stone. To all the single women out there you must get your copy now !
February 2, 2024
I highly recommend this book. As a Muslim woman I found her advice super helpful. Her book was incredibaly inspiring and confidance building. I am grateful for this author's unique prospective advice. It changed my life for the batter!
December 3, 2023
My sister gave this book to me as it really helped her confidence and changed her life. I can understand why as so many tips I've started using.
February 21, 2024
It made me realize that I do not have to depend on anyone for my happiness or goals, self empowerment is what this book taught me!! 5 stars!!
September 19, 2012
When I saw the title of Bawden's book, I assumed it would be an empowering read for single women, telling them what I often tell my dating/relationship clients: Stop waiting for a man to be happy. Create a life you love now and then it will be easier to find a great relationship.
Maybe eventually it *does* get into this but I stopped reading about 15% of the way through because Bawden's examples and advice were nothing like what she promised in her title.
First of all, Jennifer Bawden is single. She's created an entire manual on how to find a man/great relationship although she actually hasn't been able to do this herself (and she laments several times in the first few chapters that she does feel depressed at times when she's not in a relationship).
I was shocked to see that she spends the first part of this book promising her readers that if they just follow her 'formula' they will find a great guy. Right there, she completely discredits herself. Her original assertion was that she helps women become strong and independent and wise enough to know a man is not the key to happiness. But then she proves that she's not empowering women to get a life, she's teaching them how to get a life with the end goal being to get a man. The message is the same as many relationship books I've read, setting readers up to believe that a relationship will solve all of their problems and magically create happiness in their lives. Yuck.
Another major problem I had with this book was that Bawden constantly contradicts herself. For example, she states that women should earn their own success and not wait for some man to come along and take care of them. I was totally with her there. But then she states how her friends have used her formula to end up with "CEOs, doctors, investment bankers, even real-life princes!" Every example she gives of someone who ended up with a great guy alludes to his bank account. Nowhere in her examples does she mention true love, shared values or anything else of real significance. So her formula basically will help you find your sugar daddy. So much for being an independent, strong and successful woman!
The last and final issue I had with Bawden's book (when I finally decided it was a waste of time to continue) was that the advice she gives is so vague and general that I can't imagine it actually helping anyone. "Make a to-do list, and do the things on there! Get rid of your clutter! Get organized!" She makes a bunch of big statements like this without actually giving step-by-step instructions on how a person could do this to better their life. This seemed like incredibly lazy writing to me and it's apparent from all of the typos that their was some lazy editing going on as well.
In short, Bawden's book was disappointing. She claims she helps woman become strong and independent but all she did in this book was advertise how she buys into the collective cultural assumptions about 'getting a man.'
Maybe eventually it *does* get into this but I stopped reading about 15% of the way through because Bawden's examples and advice were nothing like what she promised in her title.
First of all, Jennifer Bawden is single. She's created an entire manual on how to find a man/great relationship although she actually hasn't been able to do this herself (and she laments several times in the first few chapters that she does feel depressed at times when she's not in a relationship).
I was shocked to see that she spends the first part of this book promising her readers that if they just follow her 'formula' they will find a great guy. Right there, she completely discredits herself. Her original assertion was that she helps women become strong and independent and wise enough to know a man is not the key to happiness. But then she proves that she's not empowering women to get a life, she's teaching them how to get a life with the end goal being to get a man. The message is the same as many relationship books I've read, setting readers up to believe that a relationship will solve all of their problems and magically create happiness in their lives. Yuck.
Another major problem I had with this book was that Bawden constantly contradicts herself. For example, she states that women should earn their own success and not wait for some man to come along and take care of them. I was totally with her there. But then she states how her friends have used her formula to end up with "CEOs, doctors, investment bankers, even real-life princes!" Every example she gives of someone who ended up with a great guy alludes to his bank account. Nowhere in her examples does she mention true love, shared values or anything else of real significance. So her formula basically will help you find your sugar daddy. So much for being an independent, strong and successful woman!
The last and final issue I had with Bawden's book (when I finally decided it was a waste of time to continue) was that the advice she gives is so vague and general that I can't imagine it actually helping anyone. "Make a to-do list, and do the things on there! Get rid of your clutter! Get organized!" She makes a bunch of big statements like this without actually giving step-by-step instructions on how a person could do this to better their life. This seemed like incredibly lazy writing to me and it's apparent from all of the typos that their was some lazy editing going on as well.
In short, Bawden's book was disappointing. She claims she helps woman become strong and independent but all she did in this book was advertise how she buys into the collective cultural assumptions about 'getting a man.'
March 25, 2012
OMG I love this book. I learned so many things. I was desperate to find someone, but I realized I dont really like anyone. I am just lonely, and want to feel loved. My life is also kinda a mess. I am getting my life in order. I feel 100% better now. I dont need a relationship yet. I am content, and still accomplishing my goals and dreams. I encourage girls to read this book, this could really help them understand.
February 27, 2013
Good information. What I found most interesting were the chapters about meeting men, how to overcome initial shyness or approach men. I will probably buy this book and keep it handy for future reference.
January 4, 2009
never dated
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