For Better or for Worse...But Not for Lunch : Making Marriage Work in Retirement

by Sara Yogev

The only guide to overcoming the psychological stresses that can ruin a marriage after retirement People are retiring earlier and wealthier than ever before. Why, then, are so many retired couples, instead of having the times of their lives together, becoming so angry, alienated, and estranged? Written by a psychologist specializing in work-family issues, For Better or for Worse...But Not for Lunch explores this troubling trend and provides readers with the information and tools they need to make their relationships thrive in retirement. This is the first book devoted entirely to planning for the psychological aspects of retirement and its impact on marriage. With the help of vivid case studies from her files, Dr. Yogev illustrates common psychological and emotional problems--such as loss of a sense of purpose, too much togetherness, fights over friends and grandchildren, and tension over money--that can put undue stress on a marriage after retirement and describes her proven conflict-resolving, relationship-building techniques.

Genres: Nonfiction

258 pages, Paperback

First published August 17, 2001

Reviews

[Raymond Parish · Rating 4 out of 5]

I recommend for couples moving toward the new retirement in this changing world. The information for couples who don't retire at the same time is especially insightful. One criticism: the author has minimal focus on how healthy couples maximize their strengths to navigate this potentially vibrant stage of life.

[Margaret · Rating 4 out of 5]

exercises instead of questions, but helpful information

[Sharon · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great resource for couples to begin talking about how they want to spend their time after "retirement". Not a topic to avoid but rather a topic to be discussed, in order to enjoy this next stage of life. Exercises at the end of each chapter makes this a good activity book and one you will want to refer back to again and again.

[Karen Stubenvoll · Rating 5 out of 5]

The author seems to have a great deal of insight into the psychological issues that people face in retirement, especially regarding couples' relationships. A fascinating read for someone who wants to plan for a good retirement.

[Helen Gallagher · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent book whether contemplating retirement or stuck in the "What's next?" phase of the next chapter of your life.

[Chuck Slack · Rating 4 out of 5]

A thought-provoking read.