Honest Dialogue

by Bent Falk

Focusing on how someone in need can best be helped, the author identifies the skills and honesty of the practitioner as key to how effective this can be. Looking in detail at the nature of boundaries, the willingness of the practitioner to speak from a place of authenticity and to be honestly present to the experience of the individual person, and the sensitive and economical use of language, the author shows how people in a state of deep personal crisis can be richly helped. Taking the view that no set response is always right or always wrong, he argues strongly for the importance of going with what is spontaneous and real in the moment, and responding thoughtfully and with integrity to the experience of the person in need.


The book is an inspiration to develop deep awareness about the practice of encounter. The author provides many in-depth case examples, and sample scripts with actual questions and answers included, in the hope that this short and deceptively simple book may serve to raise the awareness of, and broaden the range of, possible interventions for the open-minded reader.

Genres: Psychology

120 pages, Paperback

First published January 1, 1996

Reviews

[John · Rating 5 out of 5]

This short book gives you an introduction in how to have a conversation with those who are in a crisis situation of some kind, that be loss of a dear one, sickness, loss of faith or other similar events. The approaches here are not the only answer, but the author invites us into a proven way of entering into these conversations, that is practical and makes sense. You cannot go too wrong as long as you are honest and yourself, but there are some guides that can help you walk deeper into the path of the other and find that genuine connection that is needed.

[Karen Margrethe · Rating 4 out of 5]

Bogen bringer et spændende perspektiv på krisehåndtering og krisesamtaler med autentisk nærvær som værktøj. Med et øje for såvel spirituelle, psykologiske som eksistentielle overvejelser og med koncist formulerede sætninger, er bogen et lille fin input til, hvad kontakt, nærvær og accepterende ærlighed kan gøre for den ramte og hjælperen i en krisesammenhæng.

[Oliver Winther · Rating 4 out of 5]

Grænser, følelser, autentisk selv, accept m.m bliver alt sammen udfoldet på en meget letlæselig måde.
Jeg får lyst til at købe bogen (lånt på bib) og slå op i den igennem min karriere. Simpelthen så mange gode pointer på meget få sider.

[MizzSandie · Rating 5 out of 5]

The wisdom in this little book, is one I’ll revert back to, professionally as well as personally.
It’s a gem.
It’s an eye-opener. And a myth- and illusion-debunker.

[Jesper · Rating 5 out of 5]

Meget professionel anvendeligt visdom på få kompakte sider. Instrukser der er nemt læselige men kræver en livslang, der gør at jeg vil vende tilbage til og bruge bogen igen.

[Maria b · Rating 4 out of 5]

i reallly liked this my favorit parts was the way they would talk in the book where intesting

[Amalie · Rating 4 out of 5]

En virkelig fin lille bog, med en masse livskundskab omkring det at være menneske, og at 'hjælpe' mennesker i nød. Jeg har bevidst sat at 'hjælpe' i situations-tegn, da det er et af hovedpointerne i bogen; at al hjælp ikke nødvendigvis er en entydig god ting, og at for meget hjælp faktisk kan være et misforstået hensyn, da man risikerer at bekræfte den hjælp-søgende i deres offerrolle. Det som det handler om, er at give den hjælpsøgede hjælp til selv-hjælp, alt andet hjælp er et overgreb. Det var rigtig rart at få det understreget på så fin en måde. Som Bent Falk bla,. skriver: Det er bedre at lære en sulten at fiske, end at give ham en fisk.

Det er helt klart ikke sidste gang, jeg åbner denne bog.