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A Wife’s Secret to Happiness: Receiving, Honoring, and Celebrating God’s Role for You in Your Marriage
The path to marital happiness is different than you think. When our plans for marriage improvement begin with “If my husband would . . .” or “If, as a couple, we could . . .” we’re missing the secret. Despite her man’s flaws and failures, the Lord plans to bless a wife’s marriage through her husband. "A Wife’s Secret to Happiness" shares eleven powerful, practical blessings that God wants to pour into your lap like sweet spiritual confetti, and the wifestyle habits that will attract or reject this divine provision. No matter your title—from stay-at-home mom to business executive to ministry leader—you can celebrate God’s role for you as a wife and learn how to - Embrace vibrant marital roles without getting stuck in gender ruts - Reduce stress and busyness by building intimacy and strength - Boost love, support, and encouragement in your communication - Deepen your spousal connection so you won’t feel alone - Restore dreams for your life with your spouse Through thoughtful exploration of biblical promises, humorous hope-filled stories, and compelling testimonies, Jen shares how God empowers her life as a submissive millennial wife, and inspires readers to experience the same freedom.
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215 pages, Kindle Edition
Published March 19, 2017
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April 1, 2017
A Wife's Secret to Happiness is a very well written guide for any wife in need of a joy infusion in her marriage. Marriage is amazing and beautiful but no couple has ever stayed married without a lot of hard work and sometimes we can do all that we know to do and still feel stuck and lack happiness.
Jen Weaver beautifully and thoroughly lays out God's best plan for us as wives that leads to our blessings, and ultimately happiness in marriage. She shares her own marriage experiences openly and how God's Word transformed her heart to see His ultimate intentions for her good in obeying His design for wives. This book will no doubt be a blessing to you, your spouse and your marriage. It is a foundation that you will be able to build on for years to come.
This book draws you in from the second you start reading and you'll find yourself nodding your head in agreement with Jen's stories and her thoughts as you read. She does a brilliant job of sharing her own past thoughts and attitudes and then comparing them to God's heart for marriage. Each chapter will leave you encouraged and equipped in your marriage.
Jen Weaver beautifully and thoroughly lays out God's best plan for us as wives that leads to our blessings, and ultimately happiness in marriage. She shares her own marriage experiences openly and how God's Word transformed her heart to see His ultimate intentions for her good in obeying His design for wives. This book will no doubt be a blessing to you, your spouse and your marriage. It is a foundation that you will be able to build on for years to come.
This book draws you in from the second you start reading and you'll find yourself nodding your head in agreement with Jen's stories and her thoughts as you read. She does a brilliant job of sharing her own past thoughts and attitudes and then comparing them to God's heart for marriage. Each chapter will leave you encouraged and equipped in your marriage.
September 8, 2020
I still consider myself newlywed halfway into our second year of marriage, and I so much enjoy reading godly wisdom for marriage from women who are a few steps ahead of me on this journey. Reading Jen Weaver’s book felt like chatting with a friend. There’s so much richness to this book, but one of my favorite points she makes is that while we women are learning to be godly wives, our men are learning to be godly husbands. Let’s not bombard them with unrealistic expectations. We can make space for our husbands to become the men God wants them to be by supporting their call to lead—and not trying to take the reins ourselves. Weaver also includes practical “quizzes” throughout to help us check our “wifestyle” and grounds her advice in God’s Word. I highly recommend this book and will likely go back and re-read it again.
March 23, 2017
This book on finding happiness as a wife is heavy of spiritual overtones. It is an interesting read for anyone married or not.
March 15, 2017
For every wife or bride-to-be who's ever struggled with the biblical command of wifely submission, Jen Weaver has broken the topic down using uncommon wisdom, grace, and most importantly, scripture. Rather than the shackle seen by society, Ms. Weaver shows the many blessings of living under the cover of a husband's leadership and authority.
In plain--and often highly entertaining--language, A Wife's Secret to Happiness walks the reader through the different facets of submission (or WifeStyles) in a way sure to make one think twice about the wisdom of God's will versus the norms of society. I highly recommend this book to both wives AND husbands.
In plain--and often highly entertaining--language, A Wife's Secret to Happiness walks the reader through the different facets of submission (or WifeStyles) in a way sure to make one think twice about the wisdom of God's will versus the norms of society. I highly recommend this book to both wives AND husbands.
May 30, 2017
In “A Wife’s Secret to Happiness,” Jen Weaver shows—not just tells—how submission, honor, and respect are the “tent pegs” of a blessed marriage. They’re also the godly wife’s allies in “driving” out the enemy because “Jesus wants to show off in your marriage.”
This is the first marriage book I’ve read that’s as wonderful as my favorite one, “Love & Respect” by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs (I’ve mentioned L & R several times on my blog). Jen Weaver writes with poignancy, humor, and honesty. I didn’t feel burdened or preached at by her words. Her writing is grace-based with no hint of legalism.
I won this book from a free blog draw and was not obligated to review it; however, since I found it to be a blessing, I’m happy to share my thoughts about it.
My favorite reminder in her wifely advice is that a bride is her husband’s lover—not mother. Our calling is to be a partner, a friend, a helper, and a lover to our men. God is the only one who should hold a parenting role in our husband’s life. It’s freeing for all involved to leave the teaching, admonishing, and leading to God. Jen Weaver does a wonderful job of showing us how to enjoy the biblical role the Lord has for women in marriage. I love how she organized the topics and ended each chapter with a few questions for review and pondering.
This marriage book is a five-star blessing. Although her target audience appears to be younger couples, I highly recommend it for newlyweds and older ones alike. A godly wife is a lifelong learner because she desires to continue being a blessing to her husband.
March 14, 2017
My One Word for 2017 is marriage so when I come across a marriage resource, I am all in. Jen Weaver writes A Wife's Secret to Happiness through thoughtful exploration of biblical promises, humorous hope-filled stories, and compelling testimonies. Jen shares how God continually empowers her life as a submissive millennial wife, and encourages you to experience the same freedom!
"If I want a Godly husband, I'd stop disqualifying him from the leadership role in my life and encourage him to walk in it." I have been parked on this quote for a couple of weeks now. I can't get it out of my mind. I can't get it out of my heart. I find myself wondering if this is me. Am I disqualifying my husband from his leadership role in my life? Am I robbing him of what God called him to do? How can I do better? How can I encourage him to walk in this role God designed him for?
I have an extremely hard time watching tv. It's not that I don't like watching tv, it's that it is so hard to find shows that do not present an overbearing wife and a doormat husband. I start out watching a show because, of course the commercials look interesting. Then minutes in, the wife is treating her husband like a child, calling him names, or treating him as though he were stupid. I quickly turn it off. I see it in real life too. Wives bossing husbands around. Wives putting their husbands down to their friends. Wives yelling at their husbands as though they were one of their children. Wives acting like they rule it all and save the day while their husbands sit by as if they were nothing but a big doofus. I cringe and feel embarrassed for the husband as I look at his eyes and see the hurt and embarrassment. Jen Weaver says in her brand new book A Wife's Secret to Happiness, "Nothing harms a man's credibility more than a corrective wife. She expects him to blow it, sitting in wait for her chance to save the day." Jen also says, "We think of these statements as inconsequential, passing words soon forgotten, But they can plague our men and discredit them to others, because anything we mock relates to an area our men need built up." What if instead of mocking our husbands, instead of acting as though he can't put bread and butter together for toast, instead of correcting him, instead of bossing him around, we would encourage him? What if we would lift him up? What if we would praise him?
"If I want a Godly husband, I'd stop disqualifying him from the leadership role in my life and encourage him to walk in it." I have been parked on this quote for a couple of weeks now. I can't get it out of my mind. I can't get it out of my heart. I find myself wondering if this is me. Am I disqualifying my husband from his leadership role in my life? Am I robbing him of what God called him to do? How can I do better? How can I encourage him to walk in this role God designed him for?
I have an extremely hard time watching tv. It's not that I don't like watching tv, it's that it is so hard to find shows that do not present an overbearing wife and a doormat husband. I start out watching a show because, of course the commercials look interesting. Then minutes in, the wife is treating her husband like a child, calling him names, or treating him as though he were stupid. I quickly turn it off. I see it in real life too. Wives bossing husbands around. Wives putting their husbands down to their friends. Wives yelling at their husbands as though they were one of their children. Wives acting like they rule it all and save the day while their husbands sit by as if they were nothing but a big doofus. I cringe and feel embarrassed for the husband as I look at his eyes and see the hurt and embarrassment. Jen Weaver says in her brand new book A Wife's Secret to Happiness, "Nothing harms a man's credibility more than a corrective wife. She expects him to blow it, sitting in wait for her chance to save the day." Jen also says, "We think of these statements as inconsequential, passing words soon forgotten, But they can plague our men and discredit them to others, because anything we mock relates to an area our men need built up." What if instead of mocking our husbands, instead of acting as though he can't put bread and butter together for toast, instead of correcting him, instead of bossing him around, we would encourage him? What if we would lift him up? What if we would praise him?
March 21, 2017
As a professional counselor, I highly recommend A Wife's Secret to Happiness. I will confess I hesitated to read it at first as I felt that my marriage is a little less traditional but the author did not get stuck in gender stereotypes and endorsed great freedom in the couple relationship. I ended up receiving great value in the theme of involving God more intentionally in your marriage relationship.
So often in my office I meet women who are discouraged in their marriage and looking for something they can do to make it better even when their husbands won't attend couples counseling. This book is a great resource as it provides 11 practical ways for you to allow God to be more involved in your marriage and encourages you to approach difficult aspects of your marriage in a more positive way. I also like the author's use of constructive communication skills. She also addresses issues of abuse and husbands who are not walking with God.
My favorite takeaway is when my initial reaction is to be annoyed with my husband, I take those moments and ask God to bless him with a sincere heart.
So often in my office I meet women who are discouraged in their marriage and looking for something they can do to make it better even when their husbands won't attend couples counseling. This book is a great resource as it provides 11 practical ways for you to allow God to be more involved in your marriage and encourages you to approach difficult aspects of your marriage in a more positive way. I also like the author's use of constructive communication skills. She also addresses issues of abuse and husbands who are not walking with God.
My favorite takeaway is when my initial reaction is to be annoyed with my husband, I take those moments and ask God to bless him with a sincere heart.
March 27, 2017
Clearly, Jen Weaver has masterfully thought through the mechanics of "wife styling," but what I appreciate most is the heart that is woven into each page of this book. She tackles every area of marriage from the engagement phase to the bedroom, and she conveys a divinely-blessed message with maturity, humor, and with the wisdom of a woman twice her age. As a former pre-marital coach, I cannot recommend this book enough. Excellent work, Mrs Weaver.
January 15, 2018
This is a great book if you have been married if you are married or you are going to ever get married. This has to be straight from God. Jen and Jarred have not been married that long therefore this was totally God breathed. Very good book really makes you take a step back and really think about the way God would have you react in situations in your marriage.
June 21, 2017
very practical and biblical!
June 21, 2017
Very convicting and God glorifying. I love her questions and action-steps at the end of each chapter. This book has blessed me so much.
November 29, 2021
It was ok. I skimmed the last few chapters. There were some helpful sections like the one about communication but her writing didn’t resonate with me at this point.
March 17, 2017
I can't stop thinking about this book! Jen Weaver's voice is by turns hilarious, thoughtful, inspiring, and convicting in all of the best ways. It's clear she's spent years not just writing this book but actually LIVING it and it's amazing to read through her story. This book isn't just for millennials, it's for wives. Period. The Word of God rings true no matter your age and Jen brings the promises for our marriages hidden in the scriptures to the forefront of the biblical narrative in such a way that anyone can understand it. There are so many times throughout the book where she shares an insight or a thought on a scripture that made me look at the Bible in a whole new way, and highlights stories in the Word I never thought pertained to marriage but they do! (Chapter 9. Blew my mind.) Hands down, this is the best book on marriage I've ever read and I can't wait to see what the coming resources for our husbands look like! Awesome job!
March 16, 2017
One thing we always need as a wife is to work for a better marriage. There is always room for improvement. Jen got real and down to the nitty gritty in this book. Marriage isn't all sunshine and roses and the insight that Jen portrays brings you to a moment of "Oh so I am normal", "Other people do struggle, but there is a way to improve". This book is full of fun, joy, and encouragement all the way through it and is good for any woman in any season of marriage, whether praying to get married, engaged, newlywed, or seasoned wife it brings your thinking back to who should be first and foremost in your marriage and that is God! Bringing our focus back to what matters and encouraging us to follow in all that the Lord has for us a wife to support our husband, marriage, and family!
March 15, 2017
Jen Weaver has written a powerful book with the ability to change lives. Sharing her own experiences as well as the testimonies of many women in challenging places in their marriages, she has brought forth wisdom that is extremely practical and absolutely relevant to any woman who wants her marriage to reflect the beauty and blessing that comes from the hand of God. Deep and rich, this is a book to delve into and discuss with friends. Much more than a how-to manual for being a happier wife, it is also a wonderful window onto what a life lived in intimate relationship with the Lord looks like. Get this book, grab your highlighter, and begin! You'll be so glad you did!
March 16, 2017
In Jen's book A Wife's Secret to Happiness, you'll be challenged to reevaluate what it looks like to "submit" to your husband. In this age of equality, Jen shares how the "s" word is actually a Biblical blessing to our marriage.
This book is filled with Jen-style stories from the Bible, practical application, quizzes, testimonies, and points to great bonus content.
As I read through the book, I considered what type of wife I am. I realized how I can be a more effective wife and care for the gift I call my husband. A gift to him, but also a gift to me.
This book is filled with Jen-style stories from the Bible, practical application, quizzes, testimonies, and points to great bonus content.
As I read through the book, I considered what type of wife I am. I realized how I can be a more effective wife and care for the gift I call my husband. A gift to him, but also a gift to me.
March 16, 2017
Jen has done a fabulous job explaining what submission looks like in today's marriages. Through humor & real stories, Jen is able to break down indimitating walls on a deep topic. Packed full of great insight & all the added bonuses make this a great addition to any #wifestylin tool chest!
March 14, 2017
Jen shares the secrets! Through these eleven blessings from God, Jen encourages us to not only invite God in, but for us to grow in, our marriages. She shares beautiful stories from her own marriage and equips us with challenges and downloads to help us on our journey. “What we do when faced with the crazy—that’s what makes a marriage last.” Who can’t relate to that? I highly recommend this book and suggest you round up your girlfriends and use it for your next book club and/or Bible study.
September 22, 2017
The teaching in this book is solid. However, I thought there were some immature references (air biscuits, cat feces hits the fan, etc) that detracted from her credibility. I would have given it another star without those.
February 28, 2026
This was packed with refreshing reminders. Reminders that God put your husband as the head of your home and how as a wife we can be a partner to him. It’s not about him ruling over you and having “control” but being a team. Great for any Godly wife to read.
March 16, 2017
A book that makes you look deeper into yourself which then helps you look deeper into your marriage. A thought provoking book for sure!
March 18, 2017
Jen uses just the right amount of personal story, biblical reference, and practical tips to help anyone looking to strengthen their marriage.
March 25, 2017
Even though I'm an unmarried 25-year-old, this book was such a blessing to me! I hope to get married in the near future and oftentimes I find myself nervous thinking about that. I take marriage so seriously and I value it as the most important human relationship I'll ever have. And because of that, it kind of scares me. I don't want to mess it up and I wish I felt more prepared.
However, after reading A Wife's Secret to Happiness, I have found those same hesitant and skittish emotions replaced with joyous excitement for all these blessings that Jen mentions over and over again in her book. Through the chapters, I feel like she has come alongside me, taken my hand, and started guiding me down this unknown path that I was too scared to venture before.
I highly recommend this book to women of all ages, whether you're married or not. You will learn (or be reminded) of amazing things God has planned for you within marriage and you can even take fun quizzes and get practical tips to help improve how you're #wifestylin if you discover you're slightly off track. Jen's tone is friendly, encouraging, and authentic.
To all my still-single ladies out there...you HAVE to check this out!
However, after reading A Wife's Secret to Happiness, I have found those same hesitant and skittish emotions replaced with joyous excitement for all these blessings that Jen mentions over and over again in her book. Through the chapters, I feel like she has come alongside me, taken my hand, and started guiding me down this unknown path that I was too scared to venture before.
I highly recommend this book to women of all ages, whether you're married or not. You will learn (or be reminded) of amazing things God has planned for you within marriage and you can even take fun quizzes and get practical tips to help improve how you're #wifestylin if you discover you're slightly off track. Jen's tone is friendly, encouraging, and authentic.
To all my still-single ladies out there...you HAVE to check this out!
April 5, 2017
I was surprised by A Wife's Secret to Happiness. The reader wasn't bogged down with old-fashioned jargon. Jen respected her readers by not talking down to them about what a woman should do. She began with singing a wife's praise! She built her reader up with real life stories of wives in all too familiar situations and gave her reader practical exercises to easily put into practice, along with several downloadable worksheets and quizzes to keep the reader constantly engaged. I saw a lot of my marriage in these pages. Although targeted toward a millennial reader, I took some very valuable lessons from the book on how to better love my spouse.
May 3, 2017
Jen Weaver's book, A Wife's Secret to Happiness, is an easy but educational read about the struggles and joys of being married. Weaver's insight and well thought out information gives the reader a Biblical approach and application to have the best relationship possible the way it was intended to be experienced.
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