I'm probably one of those who has not done a Tough Mudder, only Spartan (and Viper) Races, but identify more with the TM's 'all for one, one for all' ethos. Especially interesting to hear how they redesigned obstacles like Everest to be only surmountable through teamwork (with the rounded top lip). The stories in between chapters are the true highlights though, from the state troopers running in memory of their fallen comrade, to the war veteran running the full course with only one arm and one leg, and many more inspiring stories that left me with that warm fuzzy feeling.
Now I really want to do a TM.
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There are certain people in life who make you want to be a better person. They hold themselves to such a standard that you want to raise your own standard just because you are around them.
One of the questions we asked ourselves when we created TM was: "How do you create a culture and an authentic experience that will reliably deliver grit, a quality that people seem to crave but don't know how to find?
This craving, this grit-shaped hole, feels like a recent phenomenon, perhaps a by-product of our fortune in living.
Character in Oundle was about being prepared for any crisis and being at home in any social situation. Young men "who feel acceptable at a dance and invaluable in a shipwreck".
Public speaking taught the author this lesson: He had done something truly petrifying to him, and come through. By doing genuinely challenging things one could change the way one thought of oneself and the perception of others.
"Character building" is exactly what the phrase suggests: one formative brick of a challenging experience, however small, laid on top of another.
At Harvard, the author discovered that there are few places on Earth that talk more engaging about the value of teamwork and show less interest in it in practice. The university selects the most competitive individuals from five continents and requires them to compete for two years.
You can't control what people say about you or think about you, but you can control how you react - at which point being honest with your actions and motivations becomes the only thing that counts.
"Truth and courage aren't always comfortable, but they're never weakness." -Brene Brown
When you get negative publicity that you believe unfair, the day afterwards you feel: "Oh God what will everyone think of me?" Then you realise that the people who know you will think exactly the same of you as they did before. And the people who don't know you, you're not too concerned about anyway.
Secrets of a 80-year-old kungfu master:
1. Sleep well.
2. Get together with your friends.
3. Laugh everyday.
The Electroshock Therapy obstacle was certified "no more dangerous than a cow fence". Which is reassuring to the degree to which you are wary of cow fences.
"I have been often struck by how people who have been high achievers academically have a disproportionate fear of failure and how this can make them overly inclined to fall back on tried and trusted procedures and products. A lot of these people rise to leadership positions by arguing against risk."
If you're not making mistakes, there are only two possible outcomes, neither of which is good. The first possibility is that you are making mistakes and hiding them or are oblivious to them - and that's a big problem. The other possibility is that you are not pushing yourself to change and improve - which will quickly become a big problem down the line. Punishing honest mistakes kills creativity.
People believe that in the recent past they have gone through a great deal of change, but when they look to the future they believe there will be a lot less. At whatever point we are in our lives we tend to regard the present as a watershed moment at which we have finally become the person we will always be. This is a fundamental mistake.
We should never content ourselves with the familiar. If you are not growing, chances are you are dying.
The crucial element of that self-selecting character that is often overlooked: Entrepreneurs find it almost impossible to do what they are told when the instruction seems arbitrary or perverse.
A startup should not be a choice, but a psychological necessity. At the root of that psychology is a refusal to accept the status quo.
Any entrepreneurial mission is nonnegotiable. The best test of any idea is the realisation that you will never be happy in your life until you have at least given it your best shot.
Self-selection, not conversion.
When you practice leadership, you learn that you can try to nurture a culture in which people feel they have a stake and which you hope they can thrive, but not everyone will seize that chance.
The solution is not to modify the way you work so everyone feels at home, but to be consistent to the values that culture emphasises and try to communicate the reasons behind them. Values can't be tailored to fit everyone.
What is lost in the online actions of slacktivism is the vulnerability and risk of putting ourselves out there. If there is no effort or cost in what we do, then there is also no reward when we succeed, and no lesson when we fail.
It is often in those Ah, Fuck It moments, when we look outwards from the stresses of our lives, that new bonds and friendships are created and deepened, and tribes begin to form and creativity happens.
If we look for every second to be purposeful and every hour to give us personal gains, we not only forget that the best of times usually happen unplanned, we stop being Givers, with all the benefits that flow from that.
Control only gets you so far: sometimes we have to just close our eyes, jump into thin air, and trust that hands will be there to catch us.
There is no finish line when creating a company. Any business must always think of itself as an unfinished business, and all proper work is work in progress.