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The Unspoken Rules of Love What Women Don't Know and Men Don't Tell You
Why does the modern-day search for romance so often end in disappointment– especially for women? Is it something women do? Something they don’t do? Are women missing important information about the opposite sex–or about themselves? Is there something wrong with them that they long so desperately for “’til death do us part”?
Sadly, many women today see their ongoing singleness as a weakness or lack of worth. In truth, women’s dreams go unfulfilled not because they do not deserve for them to come true, but often because of wrong assumptions–assumptions that can be corrected by learning a few key truths. In The Unspoken Rules of Love, authors Michelle McKinney Hammond and Joel Brooks seek to clear up these misperceptions, giving women the information they need to succeed in long-term, lasting male-female relationships and teaching them how to find satisfaction, value, and fulfillment in their relationship with God, both while they wait and after the wait is over.
Drawing on both the perspectives of its male and female authors, this book deals with the hard issues and the questions women ponder as they consider the dilemma of how to obtain lasting love. The Unspoken Rules of Love will help women adjust their desires, redefine what they are attracted to, set their values in order, and determine their goals–freeing them at last to pursue the loving relationships they desire.
Sadly, many women today see their ongoing singleness as a weakness or lack of worth. In truth, women’s dreams go unfulfilled not because they do not deserve for them to come true, but often because of wrong assumptions–assumptions that can be corrected by learning a few key truths. In The Unspoken Rules of Love, authors Michelle McKinney Hammond and Joel Brooks seek to clear up these misperceptions, giving women the information they need to succeed in long-term, lasting male-female relationships and teaching them how to find satisfaction, value, and fulfillment in their relationship with God, both while they wait and after the wait is over.
Drawing on both the perspectives of its male and female authors, this book deals with the hard issues and the questions women ponder as they consider the dilemma of how to obtain lasting love. The Unspoken Rules of Love will help women adjust their desires, redefine what they are attracted to, set their values in order, and determine their goals–freeing them at last to pursue the loving relationships they desire.
208 pages, Paperback
First published February 18, 2003
About the author
Michelle McKinney Hammond
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As a bestselling author, speaker, singer and television co-host, Michelle has authored over 30 books (selling over one million copies worldwide), including best-selling titles The Diva Principle, Sassy, Single and Satisfied, 101 Ways to Get and Keep His Attention, and Secrets of an Irresistible Woman. A gifted vocalist, Michelle has recorded two CD’s, It’s Amazing and Let’s Go In and co-hosted the Emmy Award-winning television talk show Aspiring Women.
She has appeared on countless television shows including Bill Maher’s Politically Incorrect, E Channel’s “Soap Talk,” NBC’s The Other Half, The 700 Club, and BET’s Oh Drama! as well as a regular relationship segment on WGN Morning News. She has graced the cover of magazines such as Today’s Christian Woman Precious Times, The Plain Truth and Gospel Today. She has been a contributing writer for Spirit Led Woman, Discipleship Journal and has been featured in articles in Shine, Essence, Ebony, Jet, Black Enterprise Magazine, The Chicago Tribune, The Associated Press and The New York Times.
Following several successful years in an award-winning advertising career as an art director/writer/producer (her clients included Coca-Cola USA, McDonald’s, Procter and Gamble, GMC and Ford Motor Company), Michelle suffered a devastating leg injury after being hit by a car. For her the accident was a spiritual turning point, a wake up call to embrace her purpose and fulfill her destiny. These bedridden months gave birth to her first bestseller, “What to Do Until Love Finds You.” Since then Michelle has emerged as a highly-respected author, speaker and singer, reaching a diverse audience nationally and internationally. Crossing denominational lines, addressing secular audiences, as well as addressing men and women from every walk of life, Michelle is known for “keeping it real.” She addresses real-life issues with candor and wit, and the hard questions with sensitivity and empathy. This merits her reputation as a relationship and life empowerment coach, crossing the great divide and sharing keys that lead to reconciliation between the sexes.
Michelle’s underlying message is “get yourself in spiritual order and your natural life will come together.” Her passion is to give relevant and workable solutions to people’s questions based in timeless spiritual truths. Sharing solid, effective principles that will help her audience to navigate through the journey of life and reach the ultimate destination of living and loving to their fullest potential.
As a bestselling author, speaker, singer and television co-host, Michelle has authored over 30 books (selling over one million copies worldwide), including best-selling titles The Diva Principle, Sassy, Single and Satisfied, 101 Ways to Get and Keep His Attention, and Secrets of an Irresistible Woman. A gifted vocalist, Michelle has recorded two CD’s, It’s Amazing and Let’s Go In and co-hosted the Emmy Award-winning television talk show Aspiring Women.
She has appeared on countless television shows including Bill Maher’s Politically Incorrect, E Channel’s “Soap Talk,” NBC’s The Other Half, The 700 Club, and BET’s Oh Drama! as well as a regular relationship segment on WGN Morning News. She has graced the cover of magazines such as Today’s Christian Woman Precious Times, The Plain Truth and Gospel Today. She has been a contributing writer for Spirit Led Woman, Discipleship Journal and has been featured in articles in Shine, Essence, Ebony, Jet, Black Enterprise Magazine, The Chicago Tribune, The Associated Press and The New York Times.
Following several successful years in an award-winning advertising career as an art director/writer/producer (her clients included Coca-Cola USA, McDonald’s, Procter and Gamble, GMC and Ford Motor Company), Michelle suffered a devastating leg injury after being hit by a car. For her the accident was a spiritual turning point, a wake up call to embrace her purpose and fulfill her destiny. These bedridden months gave birth to her first bestseller, “What to Do Until Love Finds You.” Since then Michelle has emerged as a highly-respected author, speaker and singer, reaching a diverse audience nationally and internationally. Crossing denominational lines, addressing secular audiences, as well as addressing men and women from every walk of life, Michelle is known for “keeping it real.” She addresses real-life issues with candor and wit, and the hard questions with sensitivity and empathy. This merits her reputation as a relationship and life empowerment coach, crossing the great divide and sharing keys that lead to reconciliation between the sexes.
Michelle’s underlying message is “get yourself in spiritual order and your natural life will come together.” Her passion is to give relevant and workable solutions to people’s questions based in timeless spiritual truths. Sharing solid, effective principles that will help her audience to navigate through the journey of life and reach the ultimate destination of living and loving to their fullest potential.
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April 5, 2012
“Love never stops learning.”
Learning from this book will make you wiser and better in dealing with relationships. To bestow a teaser from the book, I’ll give you the top 15 most remembered lines of Michelle McKinney Hammond and Joel A. Brooks Jr.
1. God’s work in your life does not change your past, but it can change the effect your past has on to your present.
2. When a man wants you, you must be aware that only you will do.
3. Sensitivity to God is very important when it comes to matters of the heart.
4. Pursuit is the evidence of someone’s desire.
5. When the right man comes along, God will lead him to your door.
6. Remove yourself from his options.
7. The woman who sets her heart upon God and plants herself in God’s word will always be fruitful.
8. If you give your heart to God, He will protect it.
9. The kind of man you want will be attracted to the kind of woman you are.
10. God is trying to get you to understand that He must be your first love in order to get you happiness in any human love that follows.
11. Details take time.
12. Time reveals all things.
13. Patience allows love to become the preeminent force in the relationship.
14. When it’s love, waiting won’t seem long or unreasonable.
15. Love is worth waiting for.
CONTENT:
For the first pages of the book, it was a bit boring because it was just too generic and humorless. However, as you go along, you’ll find yourself on the hook to the book because it’s becoming more specific in dealing with your man. In addition to that, it’s drawn from a male and female’s perspective. I would go for books like that since there are no assumptions from the men’s point of view. Lastly, the preeminent content of the book is taken from the bible.
PRICE:
To obtain that long lasting love, get your 225 pesos from your wallet!! LOL
RATING:
7 over 10 bookmarks.
-Uninviting and dull front cover
-Too serious but substantial content
-Justifiable price
Learning from this book will make you wiser and better in dealing with relationships. To bestow a teaser from the book, I’ll give you the top 15 most remembered lines of Michelle McKinney Hammond and Joel A. Brooks Jr.
1. God’s work in your life does not change your past, but it can change the effect your past has on to your present.
2. When a man wants you, you must be aware that only you will do.
3. Sensitivity to God is very important when it comes to matters of the heart.
4. Pursuit is the evidence of someone’s desire.
5. When the right man comes along, God will lead him to your door.
6. Remove yourself from his options.
7. The woman who sets her heart upon God and plants herself in God’s word will always be fruitful.
8. If you give your heart to God, He will protect it.
9. The kind of man you want will be attracted to the kind of woman you are.
10. God is trying to get you to understand that He must be your first love in order to get you happiness in any human love that follows.
11. Details take time.
12. Time reveals all things.
13. Patience allows love to become the preeminent force in the relationship.
14. When it’s love, waiting won’t seem long or unreasonable.
15. Love is worth waiting for.
CONTENT:
For the first pages of the book, it was a bit boring because it was just too generic and humorless. However, as you go along, you’ll find yourself on the hook to the book because it’s becoming more specific in dealing with your man. In addition to that, it’s drawn from a male and female’s perspective. I would go for books like that since there are no assumptions from the men’s point of view. Lastly, the preeminent content of the book is taken from the bible.
PRICE:
To obtain that long lasting love, get your 225 pesos from your wallet!! LOL
RATING:
7 over 10 bookmarks.
-Uninviting and dull front cover
-Too serious but substantial content
-Justifiable price
January 10, 2019
Her Gifts & Purpose are superbly presented in every work she's written and every show and event she's done. I went to one of her speaking/book signing events and hearing her speaking voice made all of her books seem Audible! Her "Spoken Word" segments are sooo verrry moving, passionate, funny, and Always richly thought provoking.
Saw Joel at a separate Speaking/signing event for this book and he brought the Male perspective, ALIVE! That's something I'd always been missing and proves to be priceless even today…and I'm an old married lady!
Saw Joel at a separate Speaking/signing event for this book and he brought the Male perspective, ALIVE! That's something I'd always been missing and proves to be priceless even today…and I'm an old married lady!
June 3, 2020
Great to read both male and female perspectives. This is helpful to me.
The most important take aways: being whole and patient. This book thoroughly details the need to be healthy emotionally; the vetting process for both sexes; and, the spiritual marriage purpose.
Many hidden gems sprinkled throughout.
And, dating is so to collect data.
The most important take aways: being whole and patient. This book thoroughly details the need to be healthy emotionally; the vetting process for both sexes; and, the spiritual marriage purpose.
Many hidden gems sprinkled throughout.
And, dating is so to collect data.
Displaying 1 - 4 of 4 reviews