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Pitchin' A Fit!: Overcoming Angry and Stressed-Out Parenting
ANGER DESTROYS FAMILIES. You don’t have to let it destroy yours.
Parenting comes with stresses that can make the most laid-back among us feel irritable, frustrated, and angry. Even parents who sincerely love their children sometimes use the wrong methods of anger and frustration in an attempt to control their children. But angry parenting doesn’t just weaken relationships between parents and their children; it can, over time, destroy them. Few parents set out to become yelling meanies who no longer enjoy their children. Yet many feel stuck, unable to pull themselves out of their ugly habits. This book:
- Provides practical and biblical solutions to get to the other side of the issue
- Gives hope and freedom from the tyranny of stressed-out and angry parenting
- Offers solutions that are ideal for any family.
If anger is in your home — even in small ways — this book is for you. It is time to replace that anger with something more powerful: patience and peace. Israel and Brook share candidly from their experience as parents.
Parenting comes with stresses that can make the most laid-back among us feel irritable, frustrated, and angry. Even parents who sincerely love their children sometimes use the wrong methods of anger and frustration in an attempt to control their children. But angry parenting doesn’t just weaken relationships between parents and their children; it can, over time, destroy them. Few parents set out to become yelling meanies who no longer enjoy their children. Yet many feel stuck, unable to pull themselves out of their ugly habits. This book:
- Provides practical and biblical solutions to get to the other side of the issue
- Gives hope and freedom from the tyranny of stressed-out and angry parenting
- Offers solutions that are ideal for any family.
If anger is in your home — even in small ways — this book is for you. It is time to replace that anger with something more powerful: patience and peace. Israel and Brook share candidly from their experience as parents.
162 pages, Kindle Edition
First published February 1, 2016
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About the author
Israel Wayne
17 books69 followersIsrael Wayne is an author and conference speaker who has a passion for defending the Christian faith and promoting a Biblical worldview. He is the author of the books "Questions God Asks," "Questions Jesus Asks," "Pitchin' A Fit! Overcoming Angry & Stressed-Out Parenting," "Education: Does God Have an Opinion?," "Answers for Homeschooling: Top 25 Questions Critics Asks," "Raising Them Up - Parenting for Christians," and "Foundations in Faith."
Israel has been a regular columnist for The Old Schoolhouse Magazine, Home School Digest, Home School Enrichment and Brush Arbor Quarterly magazines. He is also the site editor for ChristianWorldview.net.
Since 1995, Israel has traveled the nation speaking on family, homeschooling, revival, discipleship, and cultural issues.
He is frequent guest on national radio and television programs. Israel's family began home educating in 1978 and has been featured in national and international publications including TIME Magazine, WORLD Magazine, Answers, Revive, HSLDA Court Report, The Arizona Republic, The New American and the Wall Street Journal. Israel has been featured as the keynote speaker at various conferences, with over 5,000 in attendance.
Israel and his wife Brook were joined in marriage without dating and share their testimony of God's faithfulness on an audiobook titled, "What God Has Joined Together." Israel and Brook, both homeschool graduates themselves, are homeschooling parents of eleven children.
Israel desires to see God's people learn to think and live Biblically.
Aiming for both the head and the heart, Israel's goal is to challenge audiences to take every thought captive and make it obedient to Christ. In his words, "God's Word applies to all areas of life. There is not one facet of our existence which does not fall under the direct claim of Lordship by Jesus Christ. This includes how we spend our money, what entertainment we consume, how we educate our children, how we use our time, etc. All of life must be understood from within a Biblical worldview."
Israel has been a regular columnist for The Old Schoolhouse Magazine, Home School Digest, Home School Enrichment and Brush Arbor Quarterly magazines. He is also the site editor for ChristianWorldview.net.
Since 1995, Israel has traveled the nation speaking on family, homeschooling, revival, discipleship, and cultural issues.
He is frequent guest on national radio and television programs. Israel's family began home educating in 1978 and has been featured in national and international publications including TIME Magazine, WORLD Magazine, Answers, Revive, HSLDA Court Report, The Arizona Republic, The New American and the Wall Street Journal. Israel has been featured as the keynote speaker at various conferences, with over 5,000 in attendance.
Israel and his wife Brook were joined in marriage without dating and share their testimony of God's faithfulness on an audiobook titled, "What God Has Joined Together." Israel and Brook, both homeschool graduates themselves, are homeschooling parents of eleven children.
Israel desires to see God's people learn to think and live Biblically.
Aiming for both the head and the heart, Israel's goal is to challenge audiences to take every thought captive and make it obedient to Christ. In his words, "God's Word applies to all areas of life. There is not one facet of our existence which does not fall under the direct claim of Lordship by Jesus Christ. This includes how we spend our money, what entertainment we consume, how we educate our children, how we use our time, etc. All of life must be understood from within a Biblical worldview."
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September 27, 2019
I dragged my feet on finishing this one just because it was so. darn. convicting. It was spot-on and exactly what I needed to hear since I've been having more anger issues with the kids as they get older, and I haven't been dealing with it or them appropriately, thus creating even more of a mess. This was an excellent read with a lot of encouragement as well as exhortations and logical, Biblical guidance to start creating better patterns.
"Angry and stressed-out parenting is seeking to build our children using our own might and our own power. We feel like we're 'pulling teeth' as we try to drag our youngsters along to conform to 'correct' outward behavior. Our might, our angst and rage, our yelling and lecturing, won't capture the hearts of our children. It is through God alone, by the power and might of His Holy Spirit, that our children's hearts will be won over to the Kingdom of God. Ours is a clear path of obedience to partner with Him as He does this work."
"Angry and stressed-out parenting is seeking to build our children using our own might and our own power. We feel like we're 'pulling teeth' as we try to drag our youngsters along to conform to 'correct' outward behavior. Our might, our angst and rage, our yelling and lecturing, won't capture the hearts of our children. It is through God alone, by the power and might of His Holy Spirit, that our children's hearts will be won over to the Kingdom of God. Ours is a clear path of obedience to partner with Him as He does this work."
March 11, 2016
Parenting is not easy. I have lost count of how many days just in the past few weeks that jam packed full of hectic activities with the accompanying stress that on most occasions leads to angry parenting. As parents, we have the best of intentions – plan ahead for that upcoming event, school project, you name it. Unfortunately, life throws a great deal of curve balls our way and how we deal with the expected and the unexpected can go a long way towards overcoming stressed out parenting and the pitfalls that will inevitably occur.
Israel and Brook Wayne recently published a book that addresses the issues of stressed out and angry parenting. As the parents of nine children, let’s just say they have the experience to speak on such an issue. My wife and I are the proud parents of a teenager and of course raising a teenager has plenty of complications. However, that is just one child. I can only imagine the stress that is inherent with raising nine children.
What the reader will find in this book is practical and helpful recommendations, many of which are rooted in the life experiences of the authors. They have clearly been there and done that when it comes to dealing with a plethora of stressful situations that often lead to angry parenting.
I appreciated that they noted early on in the book that not all anger is sinful. There is such a thing as righteous anger. Thus, it is not wrong to be upset with your children for wrongdoing. However, lashing out in anger against them for their actions does fall under the umbrella of sinful behavior, something Scripture demands we avoid. Israel and Brook remind the reader that we are to be slow to anger and quick to listen, two traits that are very difficult to practice yet are essential for godly relationships with children or with anyone for that matter.
The authors also address the issues of life that typically lead to angry outbursts. Again using their own experiences, Israel and Brook aptly note that anger comes from a root of selfish desires such as pride, unbelief, envy, and rebellion. As a parent you may be saying to yourself, “I am not being envious when I get angry with my child.” Israel and Brook correctly note in response to such a statement that “Envy or jealousy is ultimately rooted in dissatisfaction with God. It is an implicit accusation against God’s justice. It suggests that God has not been fair in His dealings with us.” Now think again about your angry outburst. I humbly admit pondering why God could not have given me a child that perfectly obeyed. Yep – dissatisfaction with God is indeed a root of envy.
Perhaps the most helpful section of the book was Israel and Brook’s engagement of the various triggers for anger. We all have those buttons that get pushed and when they do, it is akin to a nuclear weapon lifting off that speeds towards its destination to explode with the energy of a thousand suns. It was helpful to read how influenced we are by social media and the media in general. I firmly believe that social media has made the general public less patient. We expect everything to be provided in quick soundbites and that fast food had better be fast or we are calling the manager to complain. Patience and the art of listening are largely absent from relationships. Again, the importance of being slow to anger, recognizing our trigger points, dealing with them, and listening to the needs of our children are all saliently explored by Israel and Wayne.
Parents, we all get angry. However, we should not let anger control our emotions and how we interact and raise our children. There is a better and a more godly way that uncontrolled outburst. Parenting will have its share of stressful moments. The question is do we give in to the pressures of life and let those pressures have a deleterious impact on the rearing of our children. The personal experiences, sound biblical insight, and helpful points to ponder provided by Israel and Brook Wayne in this book will be a bounty of help to parents. Take the insights they have to heart, add them to your parenting tool chest, and I am convinced that while the stress may not subside, your approach to stress will, leading to fewer episodes of angry parenting.
I received this book for free from New Leaf Publishing Group via Cross Focused Reviews and the opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”
Israel and Brook Wayne recently published a book that addresses the issues of stressed out and angry parenting. As the parents of nine children, let’s just say they have the experience to speak on such an issue. My wife and I are the proud parents of a teenager and of course raising a teenager has plenty of complications. However, that is just one child. I can only imagine the stress that is inherent with raising nine children.
What the reader will find in this book is practical and helpful recommendations, many of which are rooted in the life experiences of the authors. They have clearly been there and done that when it comes to dealing with a plethora of stressful situations that often lead to angry parenting.
I appreciated that they noted early on in the book that not all anger is sinful. There is such a thing as righteous anger. Thus, it is not wrong to be upset with your children for wrongdoing. However, lashing out in anger against them for their actions does fall under the umbrella of sinful behavior, something Scripture demands we avoid. Israel and Brook remind the reader that we are to be slow to anger and quick to listen, two traits that are very difficult to practice yet are essential for godly relationships with children or with anyone for that matter.
The authors also address the issues of life that typically lead to angry outbursts. Again using their own experiences, Israel and Brook aptly note that anger comes from a root of selfish desires such as pride, unbelief, envy, and rebellion. As a parent you may be saying to yourself, “I am not being envious when I get angry with my child.” Israel and Brook correctly note in response to such a statement that “Envy or jealousy is ultimately rooted in dissatisfaction with God. It is an implicit accusation against God’s justice. It suggests that God has not been fair in His dealings with us.” Now think again about your angry outburst. I humbly admit pondering why God could not have given me a child that perfectly obeyed. Yep – dissatisfaction with God is indeed a root of envy.
Perhaps the most helpful section of the book was Israel and Brook’s engagement of the various triggers for anger. We all have those buttons that get pushed and when they do, it is akin to a nuclear weapon lifting off that speeds towards its destination to explode with the energy of a thousand suns. It was helpful to read how influenced we are by social media and the media in general. I firmly believe that social media has made the general public less patient. We expect everything to be provided in quick soundbites and that fast food had better be fast or we are calling the manager to complain. Patience and the art of listening are largely absent from relationships. Again, the importance of being slow to anger, recognizing our trigger points, dealing with them, and listening to the needs of our children are all saliently explored by Israel and Wayne.
Parents, we all get angry. However, we should not let anger control our emotions and how we interact and raise our children. There is a better and a more godly way that uncontrolled outburst. Parenting will have its share of stressful moments. The question is do we give in to the pressures of life and let those pressures have a deleterious impact on the rearing of our children. The personal experiences, sound biblical insight, and helpful points to ponder provided by Israel and Brook Wayne in this book will be a bounty of help to parents. Take the insights they have to heart, add them to your parenting tool chest, and I am convinced that while the stress may not subside, your approach to stress will, leading to fewer episodes of angry parenting.
I received this book for free from New Leaf Publishing Group via Cross Focused Reviews and the opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”
May 18, 2016
They had me at the introduction when a story is told about the family leaving on a trip and one of the 9 children is asked to feed the chickens. I thought the story was funny but if you were there as one of those parents it wouldn't have been too funny.
The book is filled with personal stories. The authors do an excellent job of keeping the readers attention while presenting some relevant and practical information for parents. It's not just about their opinions or what works for them it's about Biblical parenting.
In 12 short chapters the authors share how not to parent with/in anger . . .
Stressed Out and Overwhelmed
Is It Wrong to Get Angry?
What Causes Anger?
Provoking Our Children to Wrath?
Trigger Happy — What Sets You Off?
Yelling Moms, Hollering Dads
“But I’m Not Patient!”
What Patience Is and Isn’t
Nurture in the Heart of Correcting
The Power of Affirmation
Creating Peace in the Home
Accountability
From the back cover:
Provides practical and biblical solutions to get to the other side of the issue
Gives hope and freedom from the tyranny of stressed out and angry parenting.
Offers solutions that are ideal for any family
The authors also offer practical help and resources through their website , blog as well as Facebook groups. (bold words are direct links)
For an interview with Shaun Tabatt of Cross Focused reviews click here.
This book is a super easy read. The chapters are a little long but they are broken up with sub thoughts that make the reading really easy.
This is a good and practical book for any parent.
Available at Amazon, Barnes and Noble and Christian Book(dot)com.
If your interested there is a reading group here.
Thank you Cross Focused Reviews and New Leaf Press for the opportunity to read and review this book.
I was only asked to provide an honest review.
Linking with The Art Of Homemaking, Titus Tuesday, Share Your Cup, Home Matters, Home Sweet Home and Katherine's Favorite Things
This review is posted at Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Christian Book(dot)com and on Facebook
The book is filled with personal stories. The authors do an excellent job of keeping the readers attention while presenting some relevant and practical information for parents. It's not just about their opinions or what works for them it's about Biblical parenting.
In 12 short chapters the authors share how not to parent with/in anger . . .
Stressed Out and Overwhelmed
Is It Wrong to Get Angry?
What Causes Anger?
Provoking Our Children to Wrath?
Trigger Happy — What Sets You Off?
Yelling Moms, Hollering Dads
“But I’m Not Patient!”
What Patience Is and Isn’t
Nurture in the Heart of Correcting
The Power of Affirmation
Creating Peace in the Home
Accountability
From the back cover:
Provides practical and biblical solutions to get to the other side of the issue
Gives hope and freedom from the tyranny of stressed out and angry parenting.
Offers solutions that are ideal for any family
The authors also offer practical help and resources through their website , blog as well as Facebook groups. (bold words are direct links)
For an interview with Shaun Tabatt of Cross Focused reviews click here.
This book is a super easy read. The chapters are a little long but they are broken up with sub thoughts that make the reading really easy.
This is a good and practical book for any parent.
Available at Amazon, Barnes and Noble and Christian Book(dot)com.
If your interested there is a reading group here.
Thank you Cross Focused Reviews and New Leaf Press for the opportunity to read and review this book.
I was only asked to provide an honest review.
Linking with The Art Of Homemaking, Titus Tuesday, Share Your Cup, Home Matters, Home Sweet Home and Katherine's Favorite Things
This review is posted at Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Christian Book(dot)com and on Facebook
August 18, 2017
Some highlights:
"All discipline needs to be redemptive, for the good of the child."
"If you are correcting your children in anger you are doing it wrong."
"We fail because we stopped... abiding in the Lord Jesus."
"Angry confrontation is really all about us."
"Having a strong marriage is one of the best things you could ever do for your children. Don't neglect your marriage in the process of trying to raise your children."
"All discipline needs to be redemptive, for the good of the child."
"If you are correcting your children in anger you are doing it wrong."
"We fail because we stopped... abiding in the Lord Jesus."
"Angry confrontation is really all about us."
"Having a strong marriage is one of the best things you could ever do for your children. Don't neglect your marriage in the process of trying to raise your children."
March 22, 2016
I cannot recommend this book enough and it is going to be the first I tell people about now when they ask for books on parenting. Their raw honesty is refreshing and it was much easier to search my own heart.
February 21, 2020
This book had solid advice on how to step away from angry, frustrated, stressed parenting. There was a lot of scripture and advice on how to actively apply the concepts taught.
I was only mildly impressed with this book until the chapter on patience. I absolutely loved that chapter and learned a lot.
I'd recommend this book to any parent whether or not you think you're an angry parent. There is plenty of good, Biblical based advice for any parent.
I was only mildly impressed with this book until the chapter on patience. I absolutely loved that chapter and learned a lot.
I'd recommend this book to any parent whether or not you think you're an angry parent. There is plenty of good, Biblical based advice for any parent.
April 4, 2019
Even if you're not a yeller, sound Biblical advice on how to parent with patience and love.
January 14, 2023
One for every parent to read!
April 29, 2021
I appreciated the use of scripture to back up a point. I Also enjoyed the questions to consider at the end of each chapter.
March 13, 2016
I never considered myself to be an angry person. However, as a new parent, I found depths of anger toward my children for not acting in predictable or controllable ways that I never even imagined I would have. Although I wouldn’t say I’ve “arrived,” the past eleven years have been wonderfully sanctifying as the Holy Spirit convicts me of the sinful anger that sometimes grows while doing life with four children. So, when I received the opportunity to review Pitchin’ A Fit!: Overcoming Angry and Stressed-Out Parenting, I knew that it would probably be a book that I would find helpful in dealing with sinful anger in my life.
The authors, Israel and Brook Wayne, know that no parent sets out to become a yelling, destructive (or even potentially abusive) factor in the life of his or her children. After all, these are the very children that we hold in honor as gifts from God, our future and precious to us in every way. Yet, if we in our powerlessness and lack of control, explode with anger and frustration, we will find that these precious little ones grow up to be angry children who will not want to continue in relationship with us. They wrote this book to help us to examine anger in our lives: the causes, the triggers, and the way we provoke it in our children. They go through and examine all these things, and they give parents practical and Bible-based solutions in patience, child training, abandoning yelling, giving affirmation, and creating peace in their houses.
The book is a very good compendium of advice and examination. The authors write in a user-friendly and conversational style that isn’t intimidating or condemning, but instead, reminds you that they are parents in the thick of the battle against their own pride and selfish desires that lead to angry words and feelings. I needed this reminder because much of the time, when I grow angry, I later realize that I’m the one in the wrong because my response is often triggered by my own selfish desires. (A big thing parenting has taught me is how selfish I am!)
I gleaned a couple of pieces of advice that were particularly applicable to me, such as using few words. I can give quite the lecture at times, and that doesn’t do anything to help your child to behave in the way that you would have them to behave either! I also cringed a little when I saw the bit over playing off each other’s anger with the child as spouses. It’s happened before in our house. We’re still a work in progress, but I guess we all are!
At any rate, it’s a helpful book, and the authors have done a podcast interview on The Shaun Tabatt Show that you can also check out to learn more about the book as well.
Disclaimer: I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for an honest review.
The authors, Israel and Brook Wayne, know that no parent sets out to become a yelling, destructive (or even potentially abusive) factor in the life of his or her children. After all, these are the very children that we hold in honor as gifts from God, our future and precious to us in every way. Yet, if we in our powerlessness and lack of control, explode with anger and frustration, we will find that these precious little ones grow up to be angry children who will not want to continue in relationship with us. They wrote this book to help us to examine anger in our lives: the causes, the triggers, and the way we provoke it in our children. They go through and examine all these things, and they give parents practical and Bible-based solutions in patience, child training, abandoning yelling, giving affirmation, and creating peace in their houses.
The book is a very good compendium of advice and examination. The authors write in a user-friendly and conversational style that isn’t intimidating or condemning, but instead, reminds you that they are parents in the thick of the battle against their own pride and selfish desires that lead to angry words and feelings. I needed this reminder because much of the time, when I grow angry, I later realize that I’m the one in the wrong because my response is often triggered by my own selfish desires. (A big thing parenting has taught me is how selfish I am!)
I gleaned a couple of pieces of advice that were particularly applicable to me, such as using few words. I can give quite the lecture at times, and that doesn’t do anything to help your child to behave in the way that you would have them to behave either! I also cringed a little when I saw the bit over playing off each other’s anger with the child as spouses. It’s happened before in our house. We’re still a work in progress, but I guess we all are!
At any rate, it’s a helpful book, and the authors have done a podcast interview on The Shaun Tabatt Show that you can also check out to learn more about the book as well.
Disclaimer: I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for an honest review.
May 30, 2016
Israel and Brook Wayne in writing Pitchin’ A Fit! have given parents of children of all ages a valuable resource.
Parents especially fathers are given the command to not provoke their children to anger. Yet it seems in parenting we are tempted to match our children’s temper tantrums and fits with our very own. It is all too easy as a parent to direct our frustrations over the stresses of life at our children and this is why this book is so important.
The authors provide a biblical assessment of anger noting while there are grounds for righteous anger all to often the anger that is expressed toward children is unrighteous and sinful. The authors encourage parents to find out what the triggers of anger are in their families and begin to pray and address those areas. The authors put forward what is to be put on in the place of anger and those qualities that replace anger are patience and affirmation.
I would recommend this book to any parent. It’s too important of an issue for parents not to address. Our children learn how to react to life and others through us, if as parents we leave a legacy of anger it will bear poisonous fruit in the lives of our children.
Disclosure: I received this book free from from the publisher for providing this review. The opinions I have expressed are my own, and I was not required to write a positive review. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 http://www.access.gpo.gov/nara/cfr/wa...
Parents especially fathers are given the command to not provoke their children to anger. Yet it seems in parenting we are tempted to match our children’s temper tantrums and fits with our very own. It is all too easy as a parent to direct our frustrations over the stresses of life at our children and this is why this book is so important.
The authors provide a biblical assessment of anger noting while there are grounds for righteous anger all to often the anger that is expressed toward children is unrighteous and sinful. The authors encourage parents to find out what the triggers of anger are in their families and begin to pray and address those areas. The authors put forward what is to be put on in the place of anger and those qualities that replace anger are patience and affirmation.
I would recommend this book to any parent. It’s too important of an issue for parents not to address. Our children learn how to react to life and others through us, if as parents we leave a legacy of anger it will bear poisonous fruit in the lives of our children.
Disclosure: I received this book free from from the publisher for providing this review. The opinions I have expressed are my own, and I was not required to write a positive review. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 http://www.access.gpo.gov/nara/cfr/wa...
March 18, 2016
I love parenting books that offer sound biblical advise for raising your kids, by people who have lived through it, experienced it, fumbled and failed and then found what really works to make a change for the family-that's this book. The author does an amazing job offering parenting tips that stand on truth for correcting and bringing up your kids. There are numerous tips on how to end that ongoing power struggle so many of us parents go through by breaking through pride and anger. Will everything in this book apply to your family, probably not, but the parts that do are worth the price of this book.
For me personally, I am a single mom of 5 kids, so I tend to get a little stressed out and impatient at times, which ca lead to some angry parenting, even on small scales. This book helped me realize where I was going wrong and how a few tweaks can put an end to so many of the struggles I was having with my kids. Do I still have power struggles, sure, but not nearly like I was having or on the same level. I easily can recommend this book to help out parents in need!
Disclaimer: I received a free copy of this book from the publishers via Cross Focused Review in exchange for my honest review.
For me personally, I am a single mom of 5 kids, so I tend to get a little stressed out and impatient at times, which ca lead to some angry parenting, even on small scales. This book helped me realize where I was going wrong and how a few tweaks can put an end to so many of the struggles I was having with my kids. Do I still have power struggles, sure, but not nearly like I was having or on the same level. I easily can recommend this book to help out parents in need!
Disclaimer: I received a free copy of this book from the publishers via Cross Focused Review in exchange for my honest review.
July 1, 2016
This book is real. Israel talks about the effect of negative examples in his own life and how he overcame a difficult childhood upbringing to forge a new path for his own family. Brook shares the pressures mothers face rearing and homeschooling a large family while serving in ministry and traveling frequently. If any couple understands how hard it is to control our temper with children underfoot, these two do. Yet they don’t condemn; they offer support.
Pitchin’ a Fit offers a fresh perspective of the anger problem, a new definition of patience, and a clear call for change. The authors give clear steps for changing our habits within our hearts and within our home. This book is a welcome help for new and mature parents and anyone wrangling children.
Pitchin’ a Fit offers a fresh perspective of the anger problem, a new definition of patience, and a clear call for change. The authors give clear steps for changing our habits within our hearts and within our home. This book is a welcome help for new and mature parents and anyone wrangling children.
March 22, 2019
This book came a perfect time for me. Israel and Brook are so transparent with their own story. This book was chock full of truths and confrontations about anger from scripture. If you’re looking for a nice, feel-good book that tries to help you overcome anger this is NOT it. Many times I had to abruptly end my reading as I was so incredibly convicted over the truths they presented from scripture. They cut right to the heart issues of anger. But, not only does it offer conviction, it is full of hope. It never left me despairing. I realized that I don’t have to live enslaved to my anger, I can have victory through Christ. Highly recommend—definitely one of the most influential books I’ve read in the area of parenting.
May 19, 2017
Encouraging and Insightful!
I recommend this book to any Christian parent who wants to overcome angry parenting tendencies. Written in a conversational way, this book contains a great deal of biblical wisdom. Rather than coddle a parent's conscience, the reader is encouraged to face reality and finds encouragement and practical information that is truly helpful.
I recommend this book to any Christian parent who wants to overcome angry parenting tendencies. Written in a conversational way, this book contains a great deal of biblical wisdom. Rather than coddle a parent's conscience, the reader is encouraged to face reality and finds encouragement and practical information that is truly helpful.
August 2, 2018
Such a great reminder and encouragement
This book provides a helpful and Biblically based look at parenting and anger. I appreciate the call to repent, seek the Lord, and walk in the Spirit this book continually advocated so that parents can discipline in love and have Godly patience. I am definitely recommending this book to my friends with kids!
This book provides a helpful and Biblically based look at parenting and anger. I appreciate the call to repent, seek the Lord, and walk in the Spirit this book continually advocated so that parents can discipline in love and have Godly patience. I am definitely recommending this book to my friends with kids!
July 27, 2019
If you’ve ever at least once lost your cool, lost your temper with your children, this is a great book to read. Written with love and powerful scriptures to back up the authors words, you will feel the hope we have in Jesus that he can and WANTS us to overcome our anger, yelling, outbursts, etc. This will be a book I read over and over again!!!
September 5, 2018
Amazing Insight
This book was such a game changer in our household! It really helped me focus on my issues and ask the Lord to change those patterns of sinful behavior as a parent.
This book was such a game changer in our household! It really helped me focus on my issues and ask the Lord to change those patterns of sinful behavior as a parent.
May 2, 2019
The Waynes keep it practical and Biblical in this little book about the harm in parenting in anger. They remind us often to turn to Christ the only source of true change.
2019 - A book about parenting
2019 - A book about parenting
October 19, 2017
Pitchin’ a Fit! Overcoming Angry and Stressed-Out Parenting by Israel and Brook Wayne is an enlightening read. Unfortunately, stress is apart of everyday life and it seems to be multiplied when you are a parent. Being a parent of two under the age of five and one teenager makes my own household seem even more stressful.
I approached the Wayne’s book, Pitchin’ a Fit!, with great anticipation because I know I lose my patience and tend to let life and parenting stress me out too much. A lot of the book spoke to me. It was easy to connect with such statements as:
“Just why do little stressors have to all gang up on me together…?” (page 14)
“We like to safeguard our lives and avoid stress at all costs.” (page 15)
“Very often, anger is a defense mechanism that we utilize, not only to protect our physical well-being, but also our emotional and/or spiritual well-being.” (page 44)
Personally, I find that I often let things build up and then I lose my patience. There is an entire chapter: “But I’m Not Patient!” that discusses the idea that most see patience as sliding scale. We say, “I’m losing my patience” but it isn’t really something we lose. Brooke Wayne addresses that idea the “Patience isn’t Passive.” Too often we think of it as something to be lost but we must make an active choice to walk with those who might anger us with love and encouragement. “Patience…opens the door of a relationship” while anger slams it shut. (page 114)
This book provides a Christian perspective on how to handle “angry and stressed-out parenting.” It is recommended to: “ask God to forgive you and change your heart” and “believe that God can and will change you.” Pitchin’ A Fit! contains numerous biblical quotes and references to provide the reader with insight so one can “memorize it, and apply it.” (page 52)
I would recommend this book to Christian parents – even those who are not overcoming anger and who are not stressed out. It reminds us not to enter a “default mode” of criticizing our children but to look for positive ways to discipline children and bring them closer to God.
I approached the Wayne’s book, Pitchin’ a Fit!, with great anticipation because I know I lose my patience and tend to let life and parenting stress me out too much. A lot of the book spoke to me. It was easy to connect with such statements as:
“Just why do little stressors have to all gang up on me together…?” (page 14)
“We like to safeguard our lives and avoid stress at all costs.” (page 15)
“Very often, anger is a defense mechanism that we utilize, not only to protect our physical well-being, but also our emotional and/or spiritual well-being.” (page 44)
Personally, I find that I often let things build up and then I lose my patience. There is an entire chapter: “But I’m Not Patient!” that discusses the idea that most see patience as sliding scale. We say, “I’m losing my patience” but it isn’t really something we lose. Brooke Wayne addresses that idea the “Patience isn’t Passive.” Too often we think of it as something to be lost but we must make an active choice to walk with those who might anger us with love and encouragement. “Patience…opens the door of a relationship” while anger slams it shut. (page 114)
This book provides a Christian perspective on how to handle “angry and stressed-out parenting.” It is recommended to: “ask God to forgive you and change your heart” and “believe that God can and will change you.” Pitchin’ A Fit! contains numerous biblical quotes and references to provide the reader with insight so one can “memorize it, and apply it.” (page 52)
I would recommend this book to Christian parents – even those who are not overcoming anger and who are not stressed out. It reminds us not to enter a “default mode” of criticizing our children but to look for positive ways to discipline children and bring them closer to God.
May 2, 2025
This book was incredible and it changed my life and the way that I parent. It helped me to learn how to handle situations the way Christ would want me to handle them and not just fly off the handle because I was too angry at my child for telling them for the hundredth time to pick up something. I love that it is packed with scripture so it’s not just an opinion, but you get to see it in the word of God and allow God’s words to transform your life. Honestly, when I got this book, I thought it was going to be about helping kids that are throwing a fit and I was pleasantly surprised that it was geared towards more the parents and it is exactly what I needed. I want to be a mom that honors God and leads my kids to Christ and in order for me to accomplish that task. I have to lead with love use discernment on how to handle situations but don’t respond in so much anger that it makes your kids go farther from you as opposed to coming closer to you.
I truly believe this book will help you no matter what walk of life you’re in and I am so grateful. I took the time to read it because it has radically changed my life for the better.
I truly believe this book will help you no matter what walk of life you’re in and I am so grateful. I took the time to read it because it has radically changed my life for the better.
December 9, 2019
I loved how practical and down-to-earth the authors were. With a passel of kids themselves, they seem more than qualified to share about the stresses and triggers of real life. I especially resonated with Brooke's story of being a new mom trying to navigate the realities of child-discipline. I, too, didn't realize the depth of my emotions until they were revealed by the refining work of parenting. I found myself chewing on her words that these are God-ordained trials designed to reveal our inadequacy without Him and our need for Him. The thought that these moments might be given on purpose to try my faith challenged what I truly believe about God's sovereignty in my life. If I truly believe this is the great work He has given me, I am not going to be angry about the interrogations He brings. I do recommend this book for anyone who has been challenged in the area of anger and wants to dig deeper into Scripture. I think there is much to be gleaned
May 1, 2025
Convicting. Challenging. Encouraging. Outstanding. Relatable. Biblical. These are just a few words that sum up Pitchin' a Fit.
My book is marked up, dog-eared and highlighted and if I could mark up the audiobook, I would. I have thoroughly enjoyed and benefited from this book. This book is no-doubt convicting, but in a grace-filled way. Not once did I feel shame from the authors' tone or words about having or displaying anger. Israel and Brook Wayne share their own stories about anger which makes the book relatable and encouraging. They discuss causes of anger, triggers for anger, but also ways to overcome anger and how to be more affirming. And they do all of this through a Biblical lens.
This book has been a vital book in my parenting journey, and I will keep it nearby and accessible to read again and again. I highly recommend this book to all parents who struggle with anger in any way. This is a must-have in the Christian parents home.
My book is marked up, dog-eared and highlighted and if I could mark up the audiobook, I would. I have thoroughly enjoyed and benefited from this book. This book is no-doubt convicting, but in a grace-filled way. Not once did I feel shame from the authors' tone or words about having or displaying anger. Israel and Brook Wayne share their own stories about anger which makes the book relatable and encouraging. They discuss causes of anger, triggers for anger, but also ways to overcome anger and how to be more affirming. And they do all of this through a Biblical lens.
This book has been a vital book in my parenting journey, and I will keep it nearby and accessible to read again and again. I highly recommend this book to all parents who struggle with anger in any way. This is a must-have in the Christian parents home.
May 1, 2025
This book helps parents deal with anger and stress in their interactions with their children.
The authors are experienced parents and speakers, focusing on the heart issues behind parental outbursts. They combine personal stories (which I loved), scriptural insights, and practical strategies to encourage parents to pursue patience and godly character in their parenting.
This book has a Biblical foundation. The authors root their advice in scripture. It is relatable and honest. The Waynes share their own struggles with anger which is an encouragement for anyone reading that you are not alone. I liked the practical tips such as identifying anger triggers, developing new habits, and practicing repentance and forgiveness.
The overall focus is on overcoming anger and stress by seeking God’s help and allowing Him to transform you into the parent you aspire to be.
The authors are experienced parents and speakers, focusing on the heart issues behind parental outbursts. They combine personal stories (which I loved), scriptural insights, and practical strategies to encourage parents to pursue patience and godly character in their parenting.
This book has a Biblical foundation. The authors root their advice in scripture. It is relatable and honest. The Waynes share their own struggles with anger which is an encouragement for anyone reading that you are not alone. I liked the practical tips such as identifying anger triggers, developing new habits, and practicing repentance and forgiveness.
The overall focus is on overcoming anger and stress by seeking God’s help and allowing Him to transform you into the parent you aspire to be.
April 11, 2025
This book is so good, it is hard to put down, but also hard to keep reading without pausing to take note and reflect. Definitely not a quick read, but a good read. It doesn't tell you to stop yelling, but the background of why you are yelling (get ready for a heart check) as well as what happens to the kids when we are yelling. What message am I trying to tell my kids when I am yelling?
I recommend this book to any parent as well as anyone dealing with anger issues. (I have suggested it to someone who asked for my help in dealing with anger.)
I have listened to this audio book while cooking dinner and my kids have been disobedient. It was quite the real life reminder of how to respond the right way.
I will definitely be reading and listening to this book again!
I recommend this book to any parent as well as anyone dealing with anger issues. (I have suggested it to someone who asked for my help in dealing with anger.)
I have listened to this audio book while cooking dinner and my kids have been disobedient. It was quite the real life reminder of how to respond the right way.
I will definitely be reading and listening to this book again!
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April 28, 2025Posting this review for those who are going to click Add to Cart thinking this is for their ragey tweenager. Yes, I absolutely added the paperback to a large order, probably to get myself to a free shipping threshold and didn't read all the reviews. But I'm so glad I did. Honestly, if I had thought it was for parents, about parents, I may not have chosen it. This book is relatable, practical, and gives anecdotal and Biblical responses to a parent's inclination to allow anger to infiltrate their reactions. I started reading the paperback and then decided to add the audiobook. It has been the perfect supplement in quiet moments of laundry folding or rage decluttering bouts. I am very grateful for the wise words and the non-preachy tone used throughout.
April 25, 2025
Rarely have I found authors with the ability to be effective like this without being vulnerable. Israel and Brook Wayne’s desire to help other parents raise their children in a godly way is apparent through their willingness to be vulnerable before all of us. They have shared personal stories and scriptures to help parents think through our reactions toward our children. This book has made me deeply consider how I respond to my children, what legacy I want to leave them, and how I am showing them Jesus or failing to do so. It is a short read, but it is one to savor and absorb. It is one I believe I will refer to again and again.
April 22, 2025
Pitchin’ A Fit by Israel & Brook Wayne is a helpful book for parents. I appreciated their personal stories that I could easily relate to. The Wayne’s addressed various conflicts and struggles that parents face and pointed us back to scripture to gain wisdom in how to address those conflicts. The practical advice and tips are helpful. The book is interesting and entertaining to read (or listen to) yet is also helpful resource to come back to again and again to glean more understanding and help.
April 26, 2025
With an attention grabbing title, the authors turn the table, exposing how we as parents can be the true culprits of parenting issues, unintentionally leading our child to copy our own undesirable behavior. This biblically sound book provides a grace-filled approach to parenting with tips you can put into practice today. Each chapter ends with questions to help the reader evaluate where changes may be needed. A very relevant, encouraging parenting book.
March 8, 2020
This book does a fantastic job of inspiring a parent toward good anger management. It's full of uplifting Bible verses and personal anecdotes. Encouraging and convicting. However, it's short on both strategies for a person to manage their anger, and specific examples of what to do in tough situations. Say your 4yo hurls a hairbrush at the face of your 2yo--what do you do? I still don't know 😩
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