Swingers: True Confessions from Today's Swinging Scene

by Ashley R. Lister, Ashley Lister

Swinging, swapping, public sex, threesomes, soft-swaps, group sex, and full-blown orgies—everybody has heard about them, and everyone knows someone who knows someone who was rumored to. Answering the questions Who is really doing it? How? Why? What is it like? And what really happens?, this book compiles a host of thrilling true stories from wife swappers and swingers. Presenting the motives, experiences, and aspirations of a variety of genuine couples and singles, it gives insight into the lives of those who participate in this extremely popular activity. Candid interviews present detailed stories about what occurs in bedrooms, private parties, adult clubs, and even public carparks. Most importantly, those people who participate tell the story.

Genres: Sexuality, Erotica, Nonfiction

249 pages, Paperback

First published June 1, 2006

About the author

This author is also published under the pen name Ashley Lister.

Reviews

[Mediaman · Rating 1 out of 5]

The "true confessions" are simply Penthouse Letters-style fantasies about British swingers, with very limited and repetitive scenarios. This certainly isn't any type of investigative report nor a how-to book. It's laughable in spots and gets old very quickly. And every man uses a condom--isn't that amazing? Namely, the book is totally unrealistic.

There are only a couple of pages with any real facts. Some are questionable, such as the claim that swinging started when American fighter pilots during World War II started random partner key exchanges. But most of this is just fantasies fulfillment.

The worst aspect is that this is totally from a female viewpoint--ironic since it's a male author. In order to make swinging stories palatable the writer makes this almost all about partnered females hungering after lots of sex with multiple partners or making love to other women. The idea is given that there are millions of suppressed ladies that are starving to swing and have orgies. There are too many episodes in here of women being rammed by seven men, twelve men, and more, with partners watching happily. You know, totally normal!

Then Lister preaches about how society is horrible in keeping people from swapping partners. "The arguments against swinging are an unavoidable part of our cultural conditioning....but active participants present many strong arguments for their lifestyle." Really? There's nothing in the book that is a legitimate argument to reject monogamy. The main concern--health issues--isn't really addressed and the message that everyone uses condemns is unrealistic.

Lister also repeats the excuse for one couple, "Swinging was more of an addition to a healthy relationship rather than a tonic for one that was failing." So the book is essentially a propaganda piece pushing cheating, polyamory, and promiscuity that all women seem to welcome and love in order to keep their relationships strong. With no negatives given. How ridiculous.

There's also one giant missing piece to this story--while the book is filled with woman-on-woman sex (all called "bisexual"), there's not one thing about men touching other men or having interest in sex with the male side of the couple. In the rare cases where there are two men with one women, the guys don't touch each other. Even the double penetration episodes have the men filling different holes.

So the book isn't truly representative, but instead a way to make us think that married woman are naturally hungry for sex with multiple partners. This is wishful thinking that shows all the wonderful things about sleeping around and almost none of the negativity.

[Michael · Rating 4 out of 5]

In dem Buch Swinger wird über den alternativen Lebensstil der Swinger gesprochen. Dabei bekommt man sowohl negative, als auch positive Dinge zu hören. Die Tabuisierung des Themas wird natürlich auch angesprochen. Es wird eine Menge Erotik geboten durch die handelnden und erzählenden Personen. Es wird mit Vorurteilen aufgeräumt.

Fazit: Für alle Menschen, die gerne auch mal über den Tellerrand hinausschauen, und sich für Tabuthemen interessieren, ist dieses Buch sicherlich eine interessante Wahl. Hier gibt es die Möglichkeit Vorurteile abzubauen und alternative Lebensstile zu ergründen.

[Mark Farley · Rating 5 out of 5]

A dangerous and confrontational collection of true life experiences from the swinging world. From doggers to orgy participants to a night in the life of a gangbang girl, Ashley Lister explores and implores the world of alternative lifestyles. It's a very horny and frank book, extremely sexy and lurid. For the utter pervert in us all.

[Rashad Raoufi]

its failry easy read and detailed, gives a voice to the secrecy but it its faily cliche tricks of narrative style of accesible erotic writing,but interesting neverthless.