Covers all aspects of Christian marriage from building a spiritual foundation and developing intimacy to communicating effectively and managing conflict, gathering the advice of top marriage authors and counselors.
David Stoop, PhD, is a licensed clinical psychologist in California. He received a master's in theology from Fuller Theological Seminary and a doctorate from the University of Southern California. He is frequently heard as a cohost on the nationally syndicated New Life Live! radio and TV program. David is the founder and director of the Center for Family Therapy in Newport Beach, California. He is also an adjunct professor at Fuller Seminary and serves on the executive board of the American Association of Christian Counselors. David is a Gold Medallion-winning author who has written more than thirty books, including Forgiving the Unforgivable, and Rethink How You Think. He resides with his wife Jan in Newport Beach, California, and has three sons and six grandchildren.
One thing my wife and I have enjoyed since before we were married is reading books together. Our marriage is our #1 ministry that we will have in this world, so we want to make sure that we are constantly seeking wisdom and reminding ourselves of the implications of the covenant God has established between us. We have a great marriage, but never want to make the mistake of feeling we’ve got everything “figured out”. There are many wonderful books on marriage and family from which we have greatly benefited in the last couple years.
This is not one of them. We were eager to read it when we got it, as several of the contributing authors (each chapter is written by a different “marriage expert”) have written books that we’ve enjoyed. With any compilation-style book, there are strong and weak chapters, so we were not surprised to discover that was the case with this book. To be fair, there are a couple chapters in this book (for instance, “The Spiritual Foundation for Marriage”) that are quite good. Unfortunately, the vast majority of the chapters (there are 25 in all) seem to vacillate between being shallow and being unbiblical.
For a book which claims to base its marital counsel on a Biblical foundation, there are a surprising number of chapters without a single reference to Scripture! Honestly, many of these chapters would feel right at home in the self-help section of your local secular bookstore. A few of them, such as the chapter on managing finances, give advice that is downright contrary to what God prescribes for us in His word! I’d quote an example of this, but we were so angry when we read the chapter that we took a scalpel and cut the chapter out of our book… oh well!