Femdom for Nice Girls: A Self-Guided Manual for the Caring Mistress

by Lucy Fairbourne

From childhood onwards, females are encouraged into subservient roles, so that taking the lead can feel strange and unnatural, even "unfeminine" and "not nice". We are discouraged from aggressively grabbing what we want, and instead encouraged to sacrifice and nurture. We are taught to be prizes, not competitors. Surely, there has to be more to life than that. Many men - the ones who value assertiveness (and even a little cruelty) in their female lovers would agree. So would many women. If you're one of these women, or if your man is one of those men, then this book could be just what you and he have been searching for. Chapter  

Genres: BDSM, Sexuality, Nonfiction, Relationships, Love

108 pages, Kindle Edition

Published November 4, 2015

Reviews

[Wendy · Rating 5 out of 5]

An educational book introducing women to femdom. Each chapter has reflection questions.
Mostly written for femdom committed relationships.
It is a good read for those dominant women interested in exploring the world of femdom.

[Sara Belanger · Rating 3 out of 5]

Really little about after care... And also little about other femdom dynamic that aren't slave based

[Natalya · Rating 3 out of 5]

From a psychological perspective, this book is incredibly insightful and informative --- from both sides.

[Donna · Rating 1 out of 5]

The title is misleading. This is a ‘Femdom 101’ manual. It gives details on how to domme (a lot focusing on the negative like punishments, etc. but nothing actually about this spoke about doing it as a ‘nice girl’. A manual for the caring mistress is the subtitle here. Nothing about this spoke about balancing a relationship/love with the kinkier side of things, how to take yourself out of comfort zones, etc. The entire book refers to your partner as ‘your slave’, completely disregarding anyone who doesn’t have a slave dynamic. Just a very 1-dimensional read in all honesty. Learned nothing from this.

[Paulskim · Rating 5 out of 5]

The book is easy to read and inspiring to establish/maintain/develop caring dominance within a loving couple. I liked the fact that it focuses on both partner's needs. It does an excellent job of demystifying various BDSM concepts in a non-threatening way. Discipline is well-emphasized, and the author provides many alternatives to establish Domestic Discipline, helping a wife to be guilt-free for training and disciplining the husband. It contains many clear examples of activities, enhancing a Dominant/submissive relationship. It is a handy guide for establishing a Femdom household.

[Vander Alves · Rating 1 out of 5]

Psychologically shallow step-by-step on how to perform a particular kind of BDSM relationship, with a tone suggesting this is how it works in general.

[Valizander B · Rating 3 out of 5]

Quick read. At minimum it provided insight for D/s vernacular, but leaves the reader (or me more specifically) with many unanswered questions. Questions that could open my mind and trigger thoughts, ideas, and an overall better understanding. As such, while the worksheets ask very insightful questions, I found myself at a complete loss as to how to answer majority of them.

I don’t know that I’d fully recommend this for a beginner, at the same time. With it being such a quick read, I’d say it’d be helpful to return to after gaining a deeper understanding of who you are as a Domme and how to fully unlock that part of yourself.

[Katie · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5 stars

Decent succinct overview.

[JW David · Rating 4 out of 5]

It seemed like a good primer, but since my SO can't be bothered with restarting intimacy I guess I'll never know for certain.

[Pleasure Your Shelf · Rating 1 out of 5]

Brief, basic, hetero-centric. Skip it