How to Spot a Dangerous Man Workbook: A Survival Guide for Women

by M.A. Sandra L. Brown

This workbook is a companion piece to the author's forthcoming book HOW TO SPOT A DANGEROUS MAN BEFORE YOU GET INVOLVED, pub date 12/04. It is created to be used along with the book and also in the author's workshops on how women can make good relationship choices, although it can also be used by itself.

Women who date dangerous men fall into many categories, from the teenager to the divorcee, from the waitress to the professional woman. They often move from one category of dangerous man to another, from the violent to the unavailable, from there to the clinger. They need to figure out how to break this pattern, and this workbook serves that purpose.

This workbook is a realistic and effective tool for women to break the dangerous man pattern, and contains 22 worksheets/quizzes to lead women to the place where they can effectively create their personal DO NOT DATE list of red flags.

See table of contents for specifics.

Genres: Nonfiction

89 pages, Paperback

First published April 28, 2005

Reviews

[Eletta0925 Fouche · Rating 5 out of 5]

I have the companion book to this workbook as well as the workbook itself. I figured with the guys I was seeing I needed this book. And boy did I. Although I have an affinity for the emotionally unavailable. Most have been combination types.

This book helped me realize that I just dont date well and so I just dont date. So there you go.

But I have hope. A healthy relationship is out there for me. I plan to have it thanks to Sandra Brown!!!

[Sioux · Rating 4 out of 5]

Some of this book was helpful--but I did not like the victim blaming that was a frequent theme. That was how I interpreted some of it, anyway. Also, it is not true that only "weak" and "codependent" women or women who want to "fix" or "rescue" depraved men end up in these relationships. These kinds of stereotypes are outdated and are not useful to anyone. Big turn off.
There is a difference between stating that one needs to be accountable for one's participation in a toxic relationship, and beating the survivor over the head with toxic shame about having been involved with a terrible guy--or even a series or progression of terrible guys. I do think this book has value in that it is a good book to scare you out of interacting with anyone with a penis when you're in the recovery phase from an abusive relationship/marriage, and should be focusing on your own healing anyway.
I listened to the audible version, and I found the narrator's voice grating and really awful, so perhaps that contributed to my not finding this book terribly helpful and being less receptive--it honestly made me feel really paranoid and stressed about interacting with anyone male AT ALL, and that isn't supposed to be the point.

[Shawn Lowe · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is very helpful in understanding why we pick some of the people we pick to be in our lives. I wanted answers. For too many times I have picked dangerous men and ignored the red flags. I'm tired, my soul is tired, and I like to be happy. I've spent most of my adult life single and when I decide it would be great to add someone special to my life, I pick the worst possible partner. I know why, because of childhood trauma, and I want so badly to break the cycle. I'm 53 now and have much living to do and want someone special to share it with - Except, I pick men that add nothing and take everything, I always have. This book was helpful and I've bought the workbook to dig deeper.

My one criticism is that she is really hard on addicts. I am recovered, and I get the numbers are small for those of us who make out of the gates of hell and remain there, but there is always hope if a person is honest, open and willing. It can make a difference and plenty of people have done it. I don't recommend a relationship with an active addict, but those of us in recovery, and working a solid program should not be lumped in terminal failure column. People do get better and stay well.

[m.o.m. · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a book every mother should read and then give to her daughter (and son).

[Stephenie wright · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent thanks

I need,to read again I need,to reference it occasional I would like,a paperback copy to relax with and write allover