All the Good Ones Aren't Taken: Change the Way You Date and Find Lasting Love

by Debbie Magids, Nancy Peske

Are you ready to turn your romantic fortune around at last? Dr. Debbie has discovered eight behavior patterns that are typical of dissatisfied singles and will teach you how to recognize your romantic style, understand why you make certain relationship choices, and take powerful steps toward creating the lasting love you deserve. The Old Faithful: longs for the one she can't have and is unable to move forward The Whirlwind Dater: constantly dates but never finds a fulfilling, permanent relationship The Standstill: rarely dates and has a difficult time relating to men on an intimate level The Forbidden Fruit Hunter: gets involved with emotionally unavailable men who may be married or already have a girlfriend The Compassionate Rescuer: always dates the guy who has problems, putting her energy into "fixer-upper" boyfriends The Wanderer: just one man is not enough to fill the void, so she always has a lover or potential boyfriend on the side The Uptown Girl: only attracted to men with money, prestige, and looks The Runaway Bride: good at relationships until asked to commit-then finds a way to end the relationship, pronto If you long for a lasting, committed, loving relationship, All the Good Ones Aren't Taken has the key to unlocking your heart."

Genres: Relationships, Nonfiction

352 pages, Paperback

First published May 30, 2006

Reviews

[Elle · Rating 4 out of 5]

I found this book at the library. It is geared towards 40 somethings, so as a mid-20 something you wouldn't think I would find much interest in the book. However, this book as a good message. It is saying that people have the power to change their love life, the expectations and their patterns.

This book gave me some things to think about in terms of how I deal with my parents and how that affects how I choose to live my life.

The reader has to do a lot of the work here because the information is very broad. If you are dissatisfied with you love life and want to take the power back and try and fix it this is a book to consult. It doesn't provide tricks or a set of rules everyone can use. It doesn't promise a happy ending to your life. Instead it suggests things to think about and ways to slowly change your own patterns and hopefully find the love you deserve.

A refreshing relationship read.

[Kate · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book does a really nice job of classifying "dissatisfied singles" into eight categories, based on thought, dating, family, and behavior patterns. Then it gives advice on how to go about changing those patterns in order to end up with a fulfilling relationship -- including how to stand up to your family, to discover who you really are and what you really want.

The book is written optimistically and hopefully, and gives examples of dating behavior that was sometimes, strikingly familiar to me, and sometimes easy to write off as "that's not what I do."

I recommend this book, though, as a mirror for anyone who is looking for a lasting relationship and having difficulty finding it.

[Kj · Rating 3 out of 5]

Every now and then I pick these silly self help books up and feel like reading them - and then I remember that they're all much too general to solve any particular problem or move any particular project forward. But I read this one anyway - and it's not bad for a general "fix yourself first" book. The beginning was strong, and the ending was good, but the middle was muddled.

[Paula Katinas · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book has good advice for women like me who can't seem to attract the right man. The book pointed out that I'm standing in my own way. I like the book's title, too. It's a play on the expression single women like to say all the time about how all the good men are taken.

[Shannon · Rating 3 out of 5]

Drawn to this book for the chapter on the whirlwind dater where I quickly identified myself I was entertained but thankfully not truly a case study. Offers tips for those stuck in repetitive failed relationships.

[Tami · Rating 2 out of 5]

this book had some insights but it boxes people into categories and it was just trite.

[Dina Guardado · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a very great and insightful book.