At the beginning of the 21st Century we find ourselves dizzy with resources for conscious evolution. But how do we make sense of all the techniques and traditions? Where do we begin, and what takes top priority? In The New IQ, David Gruder provides a practical roadmap for personal growth that allows readers to move forward with informed integrity. By reviewing the wealth of psychological and spiritual wisdom from across history and culture, secular and sacred aspects of human experience, Gruder identifies the three core human for authentic self-expression, connection with others, and to make a positive difference in the world. Providing more than just a compendious survey, he also streamlines this breadth of information in to a user-friendly version of the personal development process, helping readers to identify which methods are best for them at each stage of their own work.The teachings and techniques are all out there.but not until now have they been organized and reframed for the contemporary seeker.
When I first requested to review "The New IQ: How Integrity Intelligence Serves You, Your Relationships, and Our World", I thought it would be about restoring moral integrity to the world. I had no idea what Integrity Intelligence was; and even the back cover blurb and author's introduction didn't prepare me for what I found within this book's pages.
"The New IQ" discusses our 3 Core Drives: authenticity - living in accord with our deepest, truest selves; connection - how much connection do I co-create with others; and impact - how much positive impact do I have on my world.
Dr. David Gruder uses case studies and personal examples to show how being out of integrity with one of your three core drives impacts you and others. More than that, however, "The New IQ" shows how undigested childhood experiences--traumas we have not dealt with--impact us as adults.
While not a big surprise, I found Gruder's discussion on the survival plans children put in place when they aren't receiving what they need from their parents, and how rather than digest these childhood experiences, these adults continue to be in survival mode, particularly interesting and engaging. Gruder also brings up Energy Psychology--a topic I became familiar with when reviewing "The Genie in Your Genes: Epigenetic Medicine and the New Biology of Intention" by Dawson Church. Gruder believes that Energy Psychology could provide "rapid, reliable and lasting" help with removing personal baggage.
"The New IQ" also covers the 7 WisePassions: teachability, self-care, discernment, harvesting, power, synergy and stewardship. Gruder spends time providing details on each of these WisePassions.
With his conversational style, Gruder has written a book that many will find helpful. It is also good to read about what the author has learned about himself through his clients. Included additional resources allow the reader to continue her study on Integrity Intelligence.
Can we really have it all? Can we make a good living at a job that we love, spend quality time with our families, and make the world a better place, all while keeping our personal integrity? The New IQ says not only is it possible to have it all while keeping our integrity it states that integrity is actually the key to making it all happen.
At first, that statement might seem a little odd to a lot of people. After all, the majority of us try to follow the rules and show others that we are generally good people. Why then do bad things like illness, divorce, and being fired from a job happen?
The unfortunate truth is that most of us aren't very honest with ourselves. Without even realizing it, the majority of us spend our adult years stuck in the survival modes we learned as children. Even when it is clearly obvious that we won't receive the connection, validation, and protection that we so desire from our parents (or others that we've transferred these needs onto), we continue to try to redeem ourselves. The genuine parts of ourselves (including our true talents and gifts) simply get locked away with the hopes that no one will ever see (and judge) the real us.