Your Kid's a Brat and It's All Your Fault: Nip the Attitude in the Bud--from Toddler to Tween

by Elaine Glickman

In this wise and hilarious parenting book, Elaine Rose Glickman tells parents that—when it comes to their bratty kids—the buck stops with them!  
 
      You’ve seen them—kids running wild through restaurants while the parents avert their gaze and order another cappuccino. You’ve heard them—kids telling their parents to “shut up” and “get me that.” You’ve met them—kids who dress inappropriately and roll their eyes and never say “thank you.” Maybe one of those kids belongs to you.
      Combining incisive commentary with grounded, practical advice, Your Kid’s a Brat and It’s All Your Fault will have you recognizing and laughing at yourself, your fellow parents, and a culture that seems determined to turn our precious angels into not-so-precious brats. Divided into three sections—”Your Budding Brat” for toddlers and preschoolers, “Your Bratty Child” for grade-schoolers, and “Your Bratty Tween”—this book is packed with wisdom and tips culled from the trenches of child-rearing. Your Kid’s a Brat and It’s All Your Fault will not only help you grow adept at responding to specific misbehaviors, but also will encourage and empower you to become the confident, respected parent you yearn to be.

Genres: Nonfiction, Parenting

320 pages, Paperback

First published February 9, 2016

Reviews

[شريف سالم · Rating 5 out of 5]

كتاب رائع رائع
مفيد للغاية

[Amanda Knowles · Rating 2 out of 5]

I was seriously looking for something to help with Sammy's meltdowns; some tips on things I can say or do to help, or solve why his emotions get so high he can't handle them. Well I picked the wrong book! The first few chapters seemed to be good ideas and things I do think children should be taught: Say Please, Say Thank you, don't wander around restaurants or stores, etc. I don't understand why there were 2 separate chapters for Say Thank you and Say Please. I kept thinking maybe this book was aimed at older kids, but they kept mentioning 'toddler' and more specifically ages 4 and 5. Some of the things I heard I can't understand expecting of such a young child. I can understand the concept of wanting them to be perfect and never inconvenience your life or people around you but they are children.

At some points I would laugh out loud because some of the things they expected of children I don't know a single adult that does them. Keep your napkin in your lap at dinner time, set the table correctly (Blade facing whichever way it was) and elbows off the table. Or the fact that she pretty much wanted to have her child do all the housework so they can become a contributing member of the household. Maybe she was talking about older kids and I do agree they should be taught responsibilities but they should not be required to do everything in the household. They are still children and that is not what their childhood should be filled with.

Maybe I am just a bad Mom because I don't expect my child to do things that are my responsibility... Or Maybe making him an "employee" of mine would solve the tantrums. But either way I am not willing to try that method at this time.

My hunt will continue for a a book that focuses more on tantrums and how to help minimize them.

[Heather Flores · Rating 4 out of 5]

This sometimes funny, sometimes over-done parenting book puts today's parenting skills (or lack thereof) into sharp perspective, pointing the finger exactly where it should be! Everywhere I go I see and hear bratty, entitled, disrespectful kids speaking and behaving in ways I would never even DREAM of when I was a kid. The ideas presented in this book should be broadcasted, reminding parents who should be in charge, and helping them take back the reigns if their kid is already a "brat". I will definitely read this again when my daughter gets a little older. Maybe I'll even take notes next time ;)

[Louise · Rating 3 out of 5]

I skimmed most of the book and read only the relevant chapters. I liked the conversational tone of it and not a whole lot is new for someone who has read any modern parenting books. I deducted one star for slut shaming in the chapter called "Your kid dresses like a prostitute."

[Yasmeen · Rating 4 out of 5]

حبيته ممتع ومفيد.
الكتاب بيقسم حياة الطفل في الأسرة لثلاث أقسام:
الأطفال الصغار.
والأطفال من سن ٥ إلى ١٠ سنوات.
والأطفال قبل سن المراهقة من ٩ إلى ١٢ سنة.
وبيستعرض المشاكل اللى بتواجه الأم مع طفلها في كل مرحلة وبيقدملها حلول عملية تساعدها أنها تكون مستمتعه بأمومتها❤
حبيته❤.

[Marie · Rating 5 out of 5]

As a new mother, I have no idea how to do this parent thing! One thing I know is that I do not want to raise a brat; I want my baby to adjust to society with as few challenges as possible. But how the heck do you actually do that?!

This book was SO helpful! I would have done everything wrong it seems. Haha I am a pushover! The author gives you comfort when the tough love suggestions would make you feel uncomfortable or like you're hurting your child. I needed that. There's even a list of phrases to practice at the end!

My little guy is only 11 months old but the book addresses each stage of life through the tweens, separated into chapters that allow you to flip to the stage you're currently in. I read the whole thing now so that it can help me with my parenting philosophy overall. But, I'll definitely be pulling it out to re-read sections as they come up. I highly recommend to any other new parents out there looking for some guidance!

[Julie Akeman · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was hilarious! The advice is not new, and she's like WAKE UP PEOPLE! You have to set limits, say no, have consequences. It's not just the kids attitude, it's the parents attitude, quit catering to your child's ego or self esteem. I've never been one to do that myself, the problem was not knowing exactly how to get something across to them in certian situations. I never had to fight too much with the 'kid wants stuff in the check out line"....sometimes they get a treat and sometimes they don't, but they know there might be a next time so I don't get much whining in this. But really this book was fun and a great read and a sprinkling of swearing in it yet she has a chapter on "when your tween swears like a sailor". That one was priceless.

[Nicholas James Langsdorf · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is a good mix of some practical advice and some really amusing humor. The advice is broken down by age groups, and scaled appropriately to the child's developmental level. I would boil down the message to: start when your children are relatively young; be honest, be open, teach your children what matters to you, and most importantly, be patient. I'm currently a 6th grade teacher, and hope to work on adopting a more patient and supportive attitude toward my students.

[Zanna Hugo · Rating 4 out of 5]

Ludicrously funny and very informative, this book - borrowed from the library - is going to have to be bought. I love how the author comes up with cunning little ways to deal with little issues in child rearing without losing her sense of humor or suggest that i spank my child.

Plus, the occasional F-Bomb was refreshing. :)

[Helen Hanna · Rating 3 out of 5]

Returned it to the library without finishing. Pretty funny!

[Brent Seheult · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book discusses everything parents do that makes their children brats to begin with. It was a great read for me and it showed me a lot of areas where my son has failed as a parent.

[Nazee · Rating 5 out of 5]

So informative and HILARIOUS!!!

[Melisa · Rating 4 out of 5]

I’m not so much apologetic about my kids behavior but accepting of it. I think that kids will be kids and that it’s all normal. I still think much of it is, but there should be stricter guidelines imposed on my kids in particular. My kids aren’t impolite per say, but they could definitely do with some more manners and learning to be more respectful. The unappreciative aspect gets to me the most since I believe so much in the value of hard work and not being wasteful.. but I also think it’s a reflection of some of the behaviors they see in their parents. Or maybe that’s just me punishing myself for things I shouldn’t be. That happens a lot too..

I thought this book was a good reminder that I need to recognize bratty behavior and try to curtail it before it becomes a real problem. Kids are very impressionable and eager to please. At this stage, it’s easiest to instill a sense of what is right and admirable. While a lifetime of attitudes left upon me by my own parents, and a deeply difficult relationship to try and maintain are hard to overcome, I know my kids deserve the best and being a brat (or just selfish and irresponsible) is not what they want to be in the future.

[Candace Haskell · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is a good primer on becoming the parent your child deserves. Glickman nails the current generation of parents (self included) who failed to consequence their children into self-reliant behavior. Many of us told our kids to do something, they ignored us, we said it again, they ignored us, and eventually, we "give up and take care of everything."(p. 105) Glickman is into say it once - and let natural consequences mete out the result (kid gets in trouble at school for not doing the homework - don't drive both of you crazy trying to make him do it.) She has tips for toddlers, tweens and teens and also good thoughts on age-appropriate chores.
What I didn't care for was the profanity and the sarcastic tone that got old - use that in your home and a lot of shame ensues. So the recommendations were sound, but the delivery, though funny in the beginning, wore on me.

[Sandra · Rating 4 out of 5]

I'm still reading it , but I think it is a good book for parents & grandparents to read. It is funny and down to earth. It has easy steps to take so your kid won't be a brat. This was a first-read win. I will be passing this on to my god-daughter.

[Jeannie · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good read for today's brats

[Karen · Rating 2 out of 5]

Purchased for our parenting collection. It seems best for an audience of the first child.