Messy Love: Difficult Conversations for Deeper Connection

by Jay Shetty

Love isn’t always clean, calm, or clear. In Messy Love, Jay Shetty invites us behind closed doors into coaching sessions with three couples navigating the complicated terrain of modern relationships. You’ll witness raw moments of vulnerability as they work through resentment, broken trust, and generational patterns–with no script, no filters, and no certainty of the outcome.

Through these intimate sessions, Jay shares tools you can use

- Communicate with clarity and compassion
- Break painful cycles of blame and withdrawal
- Create emotional safety and rebuild trust
- Turn daily moments into rituals of appreciation

This isn’t about “perfect” love, it’s about practiced love. About learning that every argument, every silence, every small act of care can become a doorway to deeper connection.

Building on the principles shared through his bestselling books and viral talks, Messy Love represents a new evolution for Jay. His typical insightful commentary is on full display, but in these unscripted sessions, he steps out of his usual role as interviewer to face the unexpected alongside the couples, delivering wisdom and guidance in the moment as their journeys unfold.

Whether you’re single, dating, partnered, or healing, Jay’s new Audible Original promises to pull you in and give you tools that can spark powerful transformation.

If you or someone you love is struggling with violence in a relationship, you can find resources at creative-interventions.org and thehotline.org.

Genres: Nonfiction

Audible Audio

Published January 22, 2026

About the author

Jay Shetty is a storyteller, podcaster, and former monk. Shetty’s vision is to Make Wisdom Go Viral. He is on a mission to share the timeless wisdom of the world in an accessible, relevant, and practical way. Shetty has created over 400 viral videos with over 5 billion views, and hosts the #1 Health and Wellness podcast in the world, On Purpose. Learn more at JayShetty.me.

Reviews

[Lisa · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very insightful, Jay is a very good coach. There’s definitely a lot of skills here that even if you in your partnership are not having any issues should keep mindful to practice. There were a lot of notes that I took. And it opened up my eyes to a lot of things and reason of maybe why there can be some particular conflicts and how you can better solve them with your partner.
This was not more like a book, but more like listening into peoples therapy sessions, such as the HBO show.
Either either way, I think Jay has a very calm vibe about him or he effectively listens and is able to interpret other people while to give them the skills that they would need to move forward

[Helen Wu ✨ · Rating 4 out of 5]

Listening in couples therapy…insightful exercises but will only be useful if you actually deploy them though.

[Andleeb · Rating 3 out of 5]

So mess. I did learn a few things about boundaries and used it with my husband. Of the 3 couples, I enjoyed the work and evolution of the same sec couple.