If My Husband Would Change, I'd Be Happy: And Other Myths Wives Believe

by Rhonda Stoppe

Like most brides on their wedding day, you no doubt were filled with love for your husband and the hope of a happy life together. But perhaps today, as the realities of life together have settled in, those happy expectations are going unfulfilled. And it's tempting to think, "If only my husband would change, I'd be happy."

That myth is but one of many that Rhonda Stoppe dispels in her easy-to-read exploration of what it takes to experience a truly happy marriage. In the process, she addresses such important topics asunderstanding your husband's need for your unconditional respectrekindling the love that drew you to your husband in the first placerefusing to believe the lie that you'd be happier married to someone elselearning to be content in the midst of financial strugglesthinking about sex from a biblical worldview

If you desire to rekindle the love and hope you felt on your wedding day, this book will go a long way toward making that dream come true.

Contains discussion questions and personal reflections at the end of each chapter.

Genres: Marriage, Nonfiction

224 pages, Paperback

First published August 1, 2015

About the author

Rhonda Stoppe is an accomplished and enthusiastic Christian speaker who has spent more than 20 years in ministry to youth and women. Also a pastor's wife, she and her husband, Steve, minister in Northern California and have four grown children--two sons and two daughters.

Reviews

[Dawn · Rating 5 out of 5]

I'm not really big on reading "how to" books. I'd never even read a book on how to write a novel. I'd simply read and studied the books I loved and figured out what it was about them that MADE ME LOVE THEM. I'm just not super into reading non-fiction, no matter what it's about. Probably something to do with my ADD. :)

Now, about reading this "how to me married" book that I signed up for... It basically took everything I'd been noticing and the knowledge I'd been collecting and put it into a very readable text. I was pleasantly surprised by how straight forward and to the point it was without being boring. The writing style is very fluid and engaging.

Now that I've read and enjoyed this book, I plan to read her book Mom's Raising Sons to be Men next.

FULL REVIEW AT: http://dawncrandall.blogspot.com/2016...

[Carrie Schmidt · Rating 5 out of 5]

Rhonda Stoppe’s writing style is conversational and engaging, which helps puts readers at ease. Because, if you’re picking up a book with this kind of title, unless you’re doing so for review purposes, you probably are hurting. Your marriage isn’t turning out the way you expected it to, the way you dreamed it would, and you’ve probably become very disillusioned with love and romance and all those fairy tale imaginings we women carry close to our hearts. You need someone to sit down next to you – knee to knee – and hold your hands, look in your eyes, and tell you that they get it, that you’re not alone, and that there is hope.

A book like this, with Rhonda Stoppe at the helm, is the next best thing.

Perfect for newlyweds and “oldyweds” (like me lol), If My Husband Would Change, I’d Be Happy gives hope and practical resources to wives who are at the end of their patience, the end of their love, and perhaps the end of their marriage. It’s engaging and conversational while at the same time packed with solid truth, Scriptural support, and wise advice. I also really enjoyed the “From a Husband’s Perspective” at the end of each chapter, written (as you may have already guessed) by the author’s husband. The chapters also end with two sections called “Thinking It Through” and “Living It Out” and links are provided throughout to Rhonda’s website NoRegretsWoman.com for additional supplemental material. These all combine together to make this an excellent resource for small groups too. I know I will be re-reading this book often to keep the truths in it at the forefront of my mind and my marriage.

(I received a copy of this book in exchange for only my honest review.)

See my full review at Reading Is My SuperPower

[Jo|Ruth Reads · Rating 5 out of 5]

I'll be the first to say... I'm normally not into nonfiction/self help books. So I was not expecting to enjoy this as much as I did. And yet, I was pleasantly surprised! I went through all of it in one day! I always say that a good book sometimes feels like a mentor at times. And that's exactly how I felt about this one. I literally took notes the whole time, and tracked down a physical copy to keep so I can highlight and come back to it. I didn't realize the biblical wisdom that would be contained in this book, and I am so thankful for it. Every chapter was packed full of true stories, godly advice, how to apply what was taught, insight from a man's perspective, and lots of bible verses to show where the information was coming from. Most of all... I was reminded that our purpose in this life is our relationship with God, and when that's not the priority all else will lack. We have to let God fulfill us, see ourselves through God's eyes, and lean on him for our answers. And most of all, allow him to guide our steps... in our marriage and through our lives. What a blessing this book was. When honestly I didn't think I "needed" it, and yet, I gained so much from it , I'm thankful! If you want some biblical instructions and advice for your marriage... this is a wonderful resource.

I received a complimentary copy of this audio book. This review reflects my honest opinion.

[Edward · Rating 5 out of 5]

Shocked how clear and honest this was. And frankly surprised that the author is a woman. Seriously good.

[Dana McKenzie · Rating 5 out of 5]

I am not really big on self help books, but obviously with the title like, If my husband would change, I’d be happy… I just had to check it out. I think this is so much more than a self help book, it’s a Bible study, it’s a wealth of wisdom and I loved it.

This book was packed with so much wisdom and truth! I truly appreciated how it was written, with stories that were truly relatable and then strategies and truth that was backed by the Bible.

This book was soul filling and I highly recommend it to everyone. I’m definitely going to check out the other book written by Rhonda Stoppe.

[Jalynn Patterson · Rating 5 out of 5]

About the Book:

Like most brides on their wedding day, you no doubt were filled with love for your husband and the hope of a happy life together. But perhaps today, as the realities of life together have settled in, those happy expectations are going unfulfilled. And it's tempting to think, "If only my husband would change, I'd be happy."

That myth is but one of many that Rhonda Stoppe dispels in her easy-to-read exploration of what it takes to experience a truly happy marriage. In the process, she addresses such important topics as understanding your husband's need for your unconditional respect rekindling the love that drew you to your husband in the first place refusing to believe the lie that you'd be happier married to someone else learning to be content in the midst of financial struggles thinking about sex from a biblical worldview

If you desire to rekindle the love and hope you felt on your wedding day, this book will go a long way toward making that dream come true.

Contains discussion questions and personal reflections at the end of each chapter.



My Review:

When you first get married and for many years thereafter you are stuck in a honeymoon phase in more ways than one. You are building your life with this person and everything seems all cupcakes and roses and life just seems so grand and it has turned out yo be everything you thought it would. Then boom something enters your life and it seems like your life is laying in pieces on the floor. And you wonder how did it ever get to this point. What happened?!


Well I'm going to be the first one to tell you that it can be a lot of things but one thing that will get you to a very unhappy place very quickly is the wrong expectations that we have of our spouse and everything that got you to that point. The love that your are expecting can only come from place and that's Jesus Christ. The author of If My Husband Would Change, I'd Be Happy, has written a book to dispell these myths of marriage along with many others to get us to a place of reflection and change.


Based completely on scripture she gets us to see our role as God sees the church and upon doing that she gives us a way od dealing with the bumpy and down right rocky times in our marriage so that there are more good times to reflect on and build on. With God at the base and foundation of our marriages many things tend to work themselves out. I know because I have been there. I like the advice that the author offers and she knows her stuff!


**Disclosure** This book was sent to me free of charge for my honest review from the author.

[Shannah Mauney · Rating 5 out of 5]

When I first saw this book, I was intrigued by the title. It caught my attention because I know I've made that statement before, either to my husband or to myself. So, I thought "why not?" Let me tell you how happy I am that I picked up this book. Rhonda Stoppe is an excellent author. Her conversational tone throughout the book made me feel at ease, even during the topics that pricked at my consciousness. I felt like I was sitting down with my girlfriends for a nice chat every time I picked up this book. Read my full review: http://faithlovebooks.blogspot.com/20...

[Dave · Rating 4 out of 5]

I thought this was a very good book for wives and husbands too! I liked the emphasis on putting Jesus at the center of your marriage and working on changing yourself instead of being frustrated with your mate's imperfections. It is a mistake to think some kind of "training" will change your spouse. I have found putting Jesus first, accepting my spouse, and working on myself works very well in the long run! It even results in unexpectedly, unintended positive changes that happen in my spouse and me little by little over time. Acceptance of my wife the way she is instead of trying to change her to fit my needs and expectations is key! The same goes for her I think!

[Amanda H · Rating 5 out of 5]

I love this book (as well as the one mentioned below about raising boys), since Rhonda Stoppe does such a wonderful job of grounding her message in the word and using personal stories to drive home the different points. I appreciate reading the true stories and learning from the decisions others have made, whether they had to learn it the hard way or not. This is a wonderful book to pick up and read, one that will strengthen your marriage and your walk with the Lord.

I received this audiobook from Just Read. This is my honest review.

[Camille Dayton Fostering.literacy · Rating 5 out of 5]

I’ve avoided how to books for the past two years because I was feeling overwhelmed with a lot of ideas. This year I’m slowly working some back in and I’m really enjoying what I’m learning.

Rhonda’s recurring theme is that “old ladies know stuff.” I found her book to be full of wisdom and a lot of wonderful advice in how to have a marriage that lasts. Each chapter has a short section with her husbands point of view, which I found to be very helpful and insightful. Also, many of the stories from her ministry were inspiring. One chapter, titled The Waltz, brought me to tears. I own an audio copy of this book, but I will likely buy a hard copy simply so I can reread that chapter often.

The audio is narrated by the author, which is my favorite way to listen to a non fiction book. She read it with feeling and humor, which made me love every minute. Thank you to the author for the advance listener copy of this book. A review was not required.

[Hallie (Hallie Reads)]

a solid book of relationship advice!

it's so easy to think, "if this thing or that thing about my life would change, everything would be perfect and i'd be happy," but really, outward circumstances shouldn't be dictating inward contentment. so much of life is out of our control, even how the people we love behave, so it's important to focus the choices we can make that may help to affect our attitudes and perspectives—which oftentimes, comes back to a relationship with Jesus, making sure to spend time in prayer, in the bible, and in a community of believers.

this book is full of such reminders. it's also got entertaining stories, humor, and thought-provoking questions. the audiobook makes for a quick and easy listen, a great resource for whenever you may need it.

(i received a complimentary copy from the publisher. i was not required to write a positive review, and all the opinions i have expressed are my own.)

[Emily · Rating 4 out of 5]

If My Husband Would Change, I’d Be Happy is the first book I have read written by Rhonda Stoppe. I thoroughly enjoyed this book. Though I didn’t necessarily learn a lot, this book was mostly on the encouraging level. It was encouraging to see I was not alone and that I could encourage my husband and pour into my husband and marriage.

I really enjoyed the layout of this book. Each chapter kept me engaged. I liked that there were some extra resources available to pour into the reader. I also enjoyed the stories; it really brought the whole book to life and engaged the reader. Having also a small section from her husband helped bring things into perspective and giving that male perspective was helpful.

When I was done I was left feeling encouraged to keep on going and to also work on myself as a wife.

*I received a complimentary copy from the author and voluntarily chose to review it. All opinions are my own.

[Rachel Valentine · Rating 5 out of 5]

Just reading this title (and its subtitle) was a little reassuring to me. I have thought those very words a number of times. Obviously I wasn't the only one that had thought those ridiculous words.

If My Husband Would Change, I'd Be Happy: And Other Myths Wives Believe is not quite what I was expecting, but that was a good thing! I am not a great wife and mother, but I truly desire to BE a great wife and mother, so I have read a number of marriage books, and this one is actually different than most of them. Although all the "Good Wife Guides" I have read are definitely Christian based, most of them still focus on the practical steps you can take to be an excellent wife. This book truly focuses on the fact that you will only be fulfilled through a relationship with Jesus Christ.

From the back of the book:

Like most brides on their wedding day, you no doubt were filled with love for your husband and the hope of a happy life together.

But perhaps today, as the realities of life together have settled in, those happy expectations are going unfulfilled. And it's tempting to think, "If only my husband would change, I'd be happy."

That myth is but one of many that Rhonda Stoppe dispels in her easy-to-read exploration of what it takes to experience a truly happy marriage. In the process, she addresses such important topics as


-understanding your husband's need for your unconditional respect


-rekindling the love that drew you to your husband in the first place


-refusing to believe the lie that you'd be happier married to someone else


-learning to be content in the midst of financial struggles


-thinking about sex from a biblical worldview


If you desire to rekindle the love and hope you felt on your wedding day, this book will go a long way toward making that dream come true.

Contains discussion questions and personal reflections at the end of each chapter.

Rhonda Stoppe is a good author, from the very beginning of the book she is engaging and non-judgmental. She opens with humor, which is something I always appreciate.

I read the book in just a few days (and not only because I needed to finish it in time for my review date!), and enjoyed it. My only complaint about the book is that she is rather self-promoting sometimes. Each chapter ends with an invitation to look at something on her website. She also hints at some stories and ideas she has, but has already covered in other books, so she doesn't mention them here.

While at first I didn't appreciate the fact that she was urging us to buy her other products while reading the book, after thinking about it a little I realized that she was avoiding a huge flaw that many prolific writers of non-fiction have: writing the same book over and over. How many times have you picked up a new book because it was by an author you respected, only to find that half the book is the same stories or lessons you have read a handful of times before, with only a little bit of new information thrown in? As an avid reader of non-fiction, I have noticed this a few times. By just explaining that she wrote about that in her other book she is letting you know that she has more to say on the topic without boring people that have read her other books.

Overall I think this book is a meaningful, but still fun, read.

I received a copy of this book free of charge to review from LitFuse. All opinions are my own.

[Keri My Table of Three · Rating 4 out of 5]

Disclosure: I was given a copy of this book from LitFuse in exchange for a fair and honest review. My review and thoughts are 100 % honest and my own.

Real life comes flooding in after our honeymoon phase and we are slammed into the reality that marriage is not only a beautiful and rewarding thing, but it is hard work. It takes a level of selflessness that doesn't come easy all the time. In Rhonda's book she addresses this subject with Biblical wisdom and years of experience, in counseling , with her pastor husband. While I can't relate to all of the ups and downs shared in the book, there are many times when I found myself within these pages. Often causing me to check myself and seek forgiveness and wisdom in my prayer time. I love books that encourage us to examine our hearts and strive to do better, don't you? Along with all the stories the author shares in this book, I also love how interactive her book is. There are some great tools Rhonda has included within this book that makes it not only a great personal read but ideal for a book club or women's group. These sections at the end of each chapter, as I describe below, quickly became my favorite part of the book and I would look forward to them each time.

1. From a Husband's Perspective: This section is a great addition to the chapters in my opinion. I love how we can learn from Rhonda's words then in turn see the man's perspective from her husband, Steve. Sometimes it is hard for us to see thing from our spouse's perspective so as I read this section it inspired me to try and always see things from both sides. Something that can be hard for me in the heat of the moment, if being honest. I just loved hearing his commentary on what his wife had just shared with us.

2. Thinking it Through & Living It Out: Once we have had the pleasure of hearing from both Rhonda and Steve we then get to put what we have just learned into practice in these two section. I am truly a person that learns by doing and writing things out, so I enjoyed working through these portions of the chapter. It will be nice also to go back through the book at a later time and review what I shared. If you have a book club or women's study group at church, I would highly recommend looking into sharing this book with your ladies.

4. Corresponding Audio Links: Along with the three previous sections I mention above,it was a good surprise to see that Rhonda included some amazing supporting audio clips at the end of each chapters. How awesome is that?This is not something I have ever seen done before and I really thought it was a great bonus. These clips are such a great way to add to the book and make it a more interesting read. It was a fun way to hear the author actually speak after hearing her in my head as I read. Each of the links for the chapters are found by visiting her website NoRegretsWomen.com

Let's face, some times reading non fiction and staying engaged completely. But I really enjoyed the way this book was broken down in the chapters. For my full review you can visit

[Victor Gentile · Rating 5 out of 5]

Rhonda Stoppe in her new book, “If My Husband Would Change, I’d Be Happy” published by Harvest House gives us And Other Myths Wives Believe

From the back cover: Like most brides on their wedding day, you no doubt were filled with love for your husband and the hope of a happy life together. But perhaps today, as the realities of life together have settled in, those happy expectations are going unfulfilled. And it’s tempting to think, “If only my husband would change, I’d be happy.”

That myth is but one of many that Rhonda Stoppe dispels in her easy-to-read exploration of what it takes to experience a truly happy marriage. In the process, she addresses such important topics as

understanding your husband’s need for your unconditional respect
rekindling the love that drew you to your husband in the first place
refusing to believe the lie that you’d be happier married to someone else
learning to be content in the midst of financial struggles
thinking about sex from a biblical worldview

If you desire to rekindle the love and hope you felt on your wedding day, this book will go a long way toward making that dream come true.

Contains discussion questions and personal reflections at the end of each chapter.

Ladies, it is official what you brought to the wedding were all kinds of stories that he could not possibly live up to. Honestly there is so much men have to live up to that having a whole bunch of myths operating against certainly is not going to help. Rhonda Stoppe examines twelve myths that women bring into the marriage. At the close of each chapter her husband, Steve, has written a section called “From a Husband’s Perspective.” As you read what he says, you will not only glean a man’s perspective, but also insights from the many years of Biblical counseling he has done with husbands and wives. At the end of each chapter you will find two sections called, “Thinking It Through” and “Living It Out.” These will allow you to study and apply the truths you’ve learned. Are you married? No matter how good, or bad, your marriage is this book will make it better. Thinking of getting married? This book will give you new thoughts. Know others that are married? This book can help them too. No matter where you are in life I believe this book would be beneficial for any stage of marriage you are at. Everyone should have this book.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book for free from Litfuse Publicity Group for this review. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

[Rebecca Ray · Rating 5 out of 5]

There are a lot of myths that we seem to believe about our husbands. One of those myths for unhappy wives is that if their husbands would change, that they would be happy. Others include ideas such as, “If I were married to someone else, I’d be happier,” “If I were prettier, he’s love me more,” and “More money equals less stress.” These myths and other common ones for wives are the myths tackled in Rhonda Stoppe’s new book, If My Husband Would Change, I’d Be Happy (& Other Myths Wives Believe). As I occasionally lapse into believing some of these myths (mostly the ones about being prettier or having more money), I was thrilled to get the opportunity to review this book and share a few of my thoughts about it.

In this book, Rhonda shares personal stories, helps you enrich your relationship with your husband, teaches you to deal with unfulfilled longings, gives you a secret to keeping your husband’s attention, and give you 10 keys to a happy marriage. She also has her husband write a page or two each chapter giving insight into the myths from the husband’s perspective. She has small audio clips and resources on her website for each chapter of the book and some reflection and application questions at the end of each chapter, making this a great resource for a young wives Bible study.

There are some of these myths that I tend to believe, and others that I know aren’t true, so I felt bolstered by Stoppe’s self-assured and confident tones in the book. I also felt bolstered by her reliance on scripture as her guide. So many of the marriage books that I have read (even Christian ones!) do not point you back to Christ as a part of advice that they are giving you. Stoppe constantly reminds you that your husband is not supposed to fulfill all the longings in your life. Only Christ can do that.

I also was constantly impressed by Stoppe’s continuance to have wives look at the changes that they can make in their attitudes. She reminds wives not to be self-focused on their own happiness. Instead, she reminds us to focus on loving Christ and looking to the happiness of others above our own happiness. With those guidelines, we’re able to live a more Christlike life, and our marriages will improve, even if our husband never changes:-)

Disclaimer: I received a complimentary copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for an honest review.

[Beth · Rating 4 out of 5]

I received this book from Litfuse Publicity for no charge in exchange for my honest review of this book. The opinions expressed here are my own.




Book Description:





Like most brides on their wedding day, you no doubt were filled with love for your husband and the hope of a happy life together. But perhaps today, as the realities of life together have settled in, those happy expectations are going unfulfilled. And it's tempting to think, "If only my husband would change, I'd be happy."
That myth is but one of many that Rhonda Stoppe dispels in her easy-to-read exploration of what it takes to experience a truly happy marriage. In the process, she addresses such important topics as
•understanding your husband's need for your unconditional respect
•rekindling the love that drew you to your husband in the first place
•refusing to believe the lie that you'd be happier married to someone else
•learning to be content in the midst of financial struggles
•thinking about sex from a biblical worldview
If you desire to rekindle the love and hope you felt on your wedding day, this book will go a long way toward making that dream come true.
Contains discussion questions and personal reflections at the end of each chapter.

My Thoughts:

If My Husband Would Change, I'd Be Happy: And Other Myths Wives Believe is the first book by Rhonda Shoppe I have had read and I really enjoyed it. If My Husband Would Change is a great book for any wife whether newlywed or a seasoned wife. I found Rhonda Shoppe's style. I really enjoyed the her writing. I found myself laughing in many places, she uses humor in many areas, which really kept my interest and made the book different from other books I have read on marriage. This book is well researched and well written. This book really shows Rhonda Shoppe's heart about marriage and family. I definitely found this book thought provoking and convicting, busting the myths we wives hear about marriage and life. I recommend this book to anyone who is married whether 1 month or 40 years, you will not be disappointed. I cannot wait to read more from Rhonda Shoppe. I give this book 4 STARS.

[Rachel DeVaughn · Rating 4 out of 5]

There are 12 chapter contents to this book. Some of which: “I will respect him when he earns my respect. (The concept of unconditional respect)”; “All he wants is sex. (when you long for romance)”; “I would be happier married to someone else. (The grass is not greener on the other side of the fence)” and more!

Most of the book is written by the author Rhonda, but towards the end of every chapter, her husband writes some paragraphs from his perspective about the current chapter. I think that having the husband’s perspective along with the wife’s perspective on every chapter is really informative and greatly adds to content of this book.

Also at the end of every chapter she includes a “thinking it through” questions and “living it out” questions. All the chapters suggest scripture references to read as well. You can also go to her website to hear audio clips from each chapter. They can be found under the free resources tab.

I really enjoyed this book-it was very easy to read! I personally needed to read chapters 2 and 3 which I feel will help me become more kind, loving, more respectful, and more appreciative of my husband.

This is a wonderful Christian marriage book and almost all the advice in each chapter boils down to our love and obedience to God.

In chapter 5 titled "I would be happier married to someone else"; they list eight practical ways to cultivate a happy marriage.
1. Have a realistic expectations.
2. Your husband is not like you.
3. Think the best about your husband.
4. Be kind to one another
5. Refuse to fantasize about being married to someone else.
6. Your husband is not your enemy.
7. Love Christ more than you love your husband.
8. Determine that divorce will never be an option.

"The key to having an all out love for your husband lies in how well you love God."

"It is never too late to transform your marriage by applying God's principles to your marriage relationship."

I received a complimentary copy of this book from LitFuse Publicity in exchange for an honest review on my blog and social media-all opinions are my own.

[Natalie Walters · Rating 4 out of 5]

There are lots of non-fiction, how-to, self-help, let-me-give-you-advice books out there on how to make yourself better, your lives better, your world better BUT very few that I've ever read will meet you where you are and speak Truth-God's Truth-into your heart or in this case marriage.

Until now.

If you're like me you're probably thinking, "Hey, my marriage is good. My husband and I love each other. We don't fight much. We're making it." That's what I was thinking before I picked up this book and boy, oh boy-it took only one chapter to convict me that I was wrong. Not that my marriage isn't good-it is. But that my marriage could be better! So much better and it wasn't my husband who needed to change-it was me.

Rhonda Stoppe offers this book as an instrument to help women become the kind of wives God wants us to be to our men. Filled with Scripture to encourage and reveal God's desire for us, I found myself having to admit there were definitely areas in my role as a wife I could improve upon. And what was most revealing is that it wasn't because I wanted to be a perfect wife but because I wanted to honor God in my role as help-mate to my husband. Rhonda's husband, Pastor Steve Stoppe gives readers a glimpse into the husband's thoughts at the end of each chapter, which I found helpful and reassuring. There's also a Thinking It Through and Living It Out section at the end of each chapter, which help the reader apply new found truths to their lives in a tangible way.

The enemy likes nothing more than division. In countries, in communities, and especially in families. I believe this book is a great tool for women to have to ensure unity, peace, love, and hope rule their marriage. Women who are engaged to be married and women who are married will find this a great resource to be the kind of wives who will bring honor their Lord, their husbands, and their families for generations to come.

*I received a copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for my honest review.

[LeAnne Klopfenstein · Rating 4 out of 5]

'If My Husband would change I'd be Happy" is a good book to read at any stage of marriage if you feel discouraged, unfulfilled, or 'empty'. Rhonda Stoppe takes great care in focusing on the Biblical aspects of marriage--and, even more to the point, the makes clear the critical importance how one's personal relationship with Christ needs to come above all else. Each chapter takes on a specific topic, which means that some chapters will hit home more than others and make the personal in different ways based upon each individual reader. Stoppe uses insight from her own marriage (both problems and solutions), and also brings examples of healthy and weak marriages from others with whom she has friendships. Having the opportunity to view the struggles followed by the progress made within other marriages is encouraging & realistic.

Each chapter ends with insight from Rhonda's husband, Steve, as well as questions that reflect back on what you gained from each chapter. Having Steve's perspective is a great addition to the book, and is probably the aspect of the book that was most helpful to me.

If I had to choose a person I would buy this book for, I would first buy it for someone getting ready to get married or hoping to soon be engaged--especially someone with insecurities or thoughts that life will be 'perfect' once she is married. The next person I would buy it for would be friends who are married but seem to struggle with respecting their husbands and are fairly critical of them because they haven't fulfilled what the wife expected when she got married. The book is specifically written for Christian women, but I do think it's a good book that presents the Gospel and the need for Christ as our personal Savior to non-Christian women--giving them the opportunity to come to know Christ and have a powerful impact on her role in her marriage!

*I received a complimentary copy per my honest review*

[Katherine Jones · Rating 3 out of 5]

Like any faithful wife, I’m open to instruction on how to make my marriage better — more enjoyable for both my husband and myself. This was the motivation behind my decision to review Rhonda Stoppe’s If My Husband Would Change, I’d Be Happy. And in her book I did indeed find many new ideas to put into practice.

She positions herself as a Titus 2:4 woman, the older woman the apostle Paul instructs to teach younger women how to love their husbands. It’s an apt description. Her tone and approach is highly personal. If readers don’t already have such a Titus 2:4 to mentor them in this way, they will find one here.

At the heart of Rhonda’s marriage advice — and what I perhaps appreciate most about this book — can be summed by what she says in chapter one:

“It all comes down to this: The key to having an all-out love for your husband and experiencing fulfillment in your marriage does not lie in how well your husband measures up to your expectations, but in how well you love God.”

Powerful. Paradoxical. And true.

I did find the author’s chummy tone and questioning technique distracting at times (“There is nothing more attractive than a handsome man filled with God-honoring humility — don’t you agree?”). But this is a minor point, and certainly a subjective one. I was most helped by Rhonda’s big-picture perspective in regards to marriage. I liked the way she addressed a different common myth in each chapter. I also appreciated the insights from her husband that she includes in every chapter — a voice to represent the man’s side of marriage.

All in all, married women in almost any season could benefit from the wisdom offered here.

Thanks to Litfuse Publicity for providing me a free copy to review. All opinions are mine.

[Tima · Rating 4 out of 5]

As women we are told this beautiful fairy tale about the wedding and marriage. Our prince charming will treat us like princesses and do everything to make us happy. Then when reality sets in and we find out that our husbands are humans with flaws just like us, many of us are disappointed. The author has combined her personal experience with her years of experience in the ministry of counseling to write a book about many of the myths women believe when entering marriage. Using a faith based approach, the author sprinkles common sense and practicality with stories and humor. Each chapter ends with a section called "Thinking It Through" with scripture and space for writing that helps the reader sort through their thoughts. The next section is called "Living It Out" and takes a practical approach.

The chapters were filled with advice and thoughts that were extremely helpful and introspective. While I think my marriage is great, there is always room for improvement on my part. So this was a wonderful refresher course. The questions and thoughts at the end really helped solidify what I'd just read. This book would work great as a personal study or for a small group setting. While the main focus is women who feel frustrated or lonely in their marriage, I think any married or soon-to-be married woman would greatly benefit from reading it. Overall, great book with lots of insightful thoughts on marriage from someone who's been there.

I received this book free of charge from Litfuse Publicity in exchange for my honest review.

[Mazzou B · Rating 4 out of 5]

Again, I must begin my review with humbly confessing that I cannot be the best judge of this book since I am single. However, I am 24 and have observed marriages all around me for several years. I also happen to be a woman and can (sort of) imagine what it would be like to have a husband. Lastly, I have brothers and can see the way I fail to respect them as foreshadows of how I would probably fail to respect my husband someday. Thus, in short, I was able to understand and glean from this book. In fact I found it immensely helpful. If I should someday marry, this book will be a repeated read for me! I have ready a few books directed to wives and this ones ranks high amidst my couple favourites in that category. I highly, highly recommend this new book! I love how the author, Rhonda Stoppe is a woman who obviously has character but has learned how to respect and serve and love her husband. This makes this book all the more applicable and relateable to a variety of personalities. I think it's very important for women to realize why we think and grab ahold of certain myths which are potential marriage-breakers. We need to see these weaknesses/problems/sins and remedy them. This book will help because it is incredibly practical and convicting. It makes a major point of the need for salvation and a trust in Jesus. It explains idolatry and the results really well, which is also a necessary point in a book on marriage!

I received a copy of this book from the publisher in exchange for my honest opinion. Thank you!

[Julie D. · Rating 5 out of 5]

What I liked about this book is that the author points women to the source of all things - God. She reminds women that they need to look to God for their happiness and security. She shares a lot of Scripture throughout the book and I think that's so important for women to make the Word of God an important part of their life and their marriage.

I also liked that this book will appeal to women who have been married just a short time or women who have been married for many years. It's not geared toward any type of wife but all wives. There is a lot of wisdom for all wives and I, myself, found that I learned a lot of this book even though I've been married for over 30 years!

Another thing I loved is that there were questions at the end of each chapter to help you focus on areas that you might feel you need to focus on. She asked some questions that I hadn't even thought about for myself and that was really eye opening and enlightening. She also has us look up Scriptures and write out our thoughts of the wisdom we gained for ourselves and our marriage through those Scriptures. Just really good stuff!

I highly recommend this book to wives (or wives to be) as I think we all have the tendency to think our marriages and our lives should end in a happily ever after that is not rational. Yes, we can have happiness with our husbands but our lives aren't fairy tales. This was an excellent book on marriage and I really enjoyed and learned a lot from it!

*This book was provided to me for my honest review by LitFuse Publicity Group

[Michelle · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is a love and marriage book about myths wives believe. It is written by Rhonda Stoppe who has more than 20 years experience helping women build no-regrets lives. The author's position is that the wife's love of God, not her husband, is how she'll experience fulfillment in her marriage.

Growing up, I did not have a healthy experience of what marriage was like. On the rare occasions I saw my parents kiss it surprised me. I would laugh and say something like, `mommy and daddy are kissing....eww. Which has put a damper on my own marriage.

This book is like any other book that teaches about Titus 2:4 as its base. Teaching that love for your husband comes directly through how much you love God. Even a marriage that has been in shambles for years can be fixed through your love of God.

There are three sections at the end of each chapter that are very helpful. (1) From a Husband's Perspective, (2) Thinking it Through, and (3) Living it Out. These are not only ideas to meditate on but they make it much more than another Titus 2:4 book. The reader may also visit the author's website for audio's and songs to listen to.

`If My Husband Would Change I'd Be Happy` reminds me of the book `The Love and Respect Connection` written by author Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, which is also quoted in this book.

Disclaimer: I received this book from Litfuse Publishers for my honest opinion.

[Michelle · Rating 5 out of 5]

Of course the title of this book grabbed my attention because who in the world writes a Christian book like that?! And then you see the small print, clever! So I would say that this is a good description for those who thought their entire world would be happily ever after once they were married. Also, in reality you do find a lot out about your man once married, even if you have been dating a long time. This book had some great funny stories, some realistic “I can’t believe that just happened” stories, and Biblical truths about marriage. Honestly, the majority of this book was nothing I hadn’t read. I’ve been married almost five years and have gone through more marriage books than I can count. This one is good for those who have been married a little while. If you are just married and read this book, you might not totally understand what the author is getting at.

I would say this is a good book to keep on hand and read every few years. Things change, and she reminds us women why we got married in the first place.


I recommend to the married gals who have had a year or two anniversary. Five stars.


“I received this book from Litfuse for free in exchange for an honest review.”

[Sherry Lynn · Rating 5 out of 5]

And I thought... A very modern approach excellent for all women. Although this reader didn't care for the title. And actually neither did The Cowboy. I get the concept. But, I think that there are women that wouldn't buy the book based on the title. Especially if your in a marriage that is struggling. There have been times in my marriage that if I had bought this title I wouldn't have left it laying around for The Cowboy to see. With that said . . .
I encourage you to buy it anyway. The teaching is Biblically sound. And in my opinion if Elizabeth Barnes endorsed it (and she did) then you need to read it!
This one is a keeper for me (along with the titles by Elizabeth Barnes).
It was a simple read. Filled with humor and light heartedness but also filled with great insight and sound scriptural advice.

I received a lovely complimentary signed copy from Litfuse in exchange for my honest review.

[Lisa Rupertus · Rating 4 out of 5]

I have to be honest I wasn't so sure about this book. The quirky title had me a little scared. However one chapter in I was hooked - and convicted! Rhonda Stoppe writes to us like that older best friend that has been there and doesn't want you to have to go there too. She shares life experiences of her own and others to help us learn from their mistakes. We all know being selfish and wanting to change others doesn't work but sometimes we do not recognize those moments in our own lives. By reading others' tales it helps us to see the bigger pictures and makes changes before we fail.

I wish I had this book years ago when I was about to get married. If your old and married like me you will still learn a lot about love, respect and honoring your marriage vows. This is really an important and good read.

*I received a copy of this book for review, all opinions are my own.

[Anne Martin · Rating 2 out of 5]

The author chose a funny way to give her opinion on the unrealistic expectations of young people about love and she conveys her message quite well. But after the first pages, she relies mostly on scripture to tell woman to love Christ more than their husbands, for instance, and it can only be useful for deeply religious women.
What disturbed me mostly was the feeling that for her, thee man is the head of the family, like Peter was the head of the church. Not much place for feminism here.
Most of her advice is full of common sense though and true in most cases.

[Crystal Carney · Rating 5 out of 5]

"If My Husband Would Change, I'd Be Happy: And Other Myths Wives Believe" is unlike any other self-help book I have ever read. In this book, Rhonda Stoppe writes about having a "God-centered" marriage. I like that she writes from personal experience and uses Scripture to back her up. This would make a great wedding gift for any Bride-to-be. I recommend this book to all wives and brides to be.

*Disclaimer*
I received this book free from the publisher in exchange for my honest review. I am not required to write a positive review. ALL opinions expressed are 100% my own.