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Don't Wanna Be a Mom and That's Okay: Owning your body and your choices without apology
A journalistic and sociological investigation into reproductive freedom in the 21st century.
Far more than a personal memoir, Don't Wanna Be a Mom and That's Okay is a contemporary treatise on the deconstruction of compulsory motherhood. Based on unprecedented field research conducted in 2025 with 51 women, journalist Monica March delivers a robust behavioral analysis of one of the most impactful silent revolutions of our the choice to be childfree.
In this work, the author transcends mere opinion, anchoring the discussion in hard demographic data and a solid theoretical foundation, engaging with thinkers such as Simone de Beauvoir, bell hooks, Patricia Hill Collins, and Naomi Wolf. The result is a profound mapping of how social pressure, economic structures, and cultural myths—such as the universal "maternal instinct"—operate to limit female autonomy.
Weaving the rigor of journalistic investigation with the sensitivity of active listening, March
The Sociology of How the decision not to have children impacts social mobility, career trajectories, and women's financial autonomy.
The reality of non-motherhood through the lens of race and social class.
Expanded The concept of leaving a social, artistic, or intellectual legacy that extends beyond biology.
The Myth of What real data says about the happiness and aging of childfree women, debunking the stereotype of loneliness.
Don't Wanna Be a Mom and That's Okay is not just a book for those who have decided against having children; it is an essential read for gender scholars, mental health professionals, and anyone interested in understanding new family configurations and the inalienable right to say "no" in order to say "yes" to an authentic life.
About the Monica March is a journalist and writer dedicated to investigating contemporary social transformations and life choices that challenge the status quo. Her work combines qualitative research with literary narrative to document the modern female identity.
#childfree #feminism #femalefreedom #lifechoices #bodilyautonomy #identity #womenempowerment
Far more than a personal memoir, Don't Wanna Be a Mom and That's Okay is a contemporary treatise on the deconstruction of compulsory motherhood. Based on unprecedented field research conducted in 2025 with 51 women, journalist Monica March delivers a robust behavioral analysis of one of the most impactful silent revolutions of our the choice to be childfree.
In this work, the author transcends mere opinion, anchoring the discussion in hard demographic data and a solid theoretical foundation, engaging with thinkers such as Simone de Beauvoir, bell hooks, Patricia Hill Collins, and Naomi Wolf. The result is a profound mapping of how social pressure, economic structures, and cultural myths—such as the universal "maternal instinct"—operate to limit female autonomy.
Weaving the rigor of journalistic investigation with the sensitivity of active listening, March
The Sociology of How the decision not to have children impacts social mobility, career trajectories, and women's financial autonomy.
The reality of non-motherhood through the lens of race and social class.
Expanded The concept of leaving a social, artistic, or intellectual legacy that extends beyond biology.
The Myth of What real data says about the happiness and aging of childfree women, debunking the stereotype of loneliness.
Don't Wanna Be a Mom and That's Okay is not just a book for those who have decided against having children; it is an essential read for gender scholars, mental health professionals, and anyone interested in understanding new family configurations and the inalienable right to say "no" in order to say "yes" to an authentic life.
About the Monica March is a journalist and writer dedicated to investigating contemporary social transformations and life choices that challenge the status quo. Her work combines qualitative research with literary narrative to document the modern female identity.
#childfree #feminism #femalefreedom #lifechoices #bodilyautonomy #identity #womenempowerment
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164 pages, Kindle Edition
Published March 17, 2025
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About the author
Monica March
13 books13 followersMonica March é escritora e jornalista brasileira dedicada a explorar narrativas sobre transformações pessoais e escolhas de vida. Com uma abordagem sensível e autêntica, ela busca estabelecer conexões através de histórias que ressoam com seus leitores.
Seu livro de estreia na não-ficção, Amando o Amor de Alguém, alcançou reconhecimento internacional ao abordar relacionamentos não convencionais com profundidade e empatia. Em Palavreio, revelou seu lado mais poético através de uma coletânea de poesias e microcontos que exploram as complexidades das emoções humanas. Com Não Quero Ser Mãe e Tudo Bem, trouxe um manifesto corajoso pela liberdade de escolha, reunindo pesquisas e depoimentos de mulheres que desafiam a maternidade compulsória.
Suas obras estão disponíveis em diversos idiomas na sua página de autora na Amazon, com acesso gratuito pelo programa Kindle Unlimited.
Agora, Monica estreia na ficção com seu primeiro romance de literatura contemporânea no gênero clean romance — já com tradução prevista para diversas línguas.
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Monica March is a Brazilian writer and journalist dedicated to exploring narratives about personal transformations and life choices. With a sensitive and authentic approach, she seeks to build connections through stories that resonate with her readers.
Her non-fiction debut, Loving Someone's Love, gained international recognition for its thoughtful and empathetic exploration of unconventional relationships. In heartspeak, she revealed her poetic side through a collection of poetry and flash fiction that delves into the complexities of human emotions. With Don't Wanna Be a Mom and That's Okay, she delivered a bold manifesto for freedom of choice, bringing together research and testimonials from women who challenge compulsory motherhood.
Her books are available in multiple languages on her Amazon author page, with free access through Kindle Unlimited.
Now, Monica makes her fiction debut with her first contemporary clean romance novel — already set to be translated into multiple languages.
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September 5, 2025
The Book I Wish Existed When I Was 20 (So I'm Writing Its First Review)
Plot twist: The author is back to review her own work because apparently, I'm the only one brave enough to say what dozens of women already told me in private. And that's exactly why this book needed to exist.
Don't Wanna Be a Mom and That's Okay is the book I wrote after years of hearing "You'll change your mind" and decided to ask other women: "Did you?" Spoiler alert: Most of us didn't, and we're doing just fine, thank you very much.
Monica March (yes, me again, being my own cheerleader) takes on one of society's most sacred assumptions —that every woman secretly dreams of tiny footsteps and sleepless nights. This book says: "What if some of us dream of uninterrupted sleep and disposable income instead?" And somehow, the world doesn't end.
What makes this book special isn't just my perspective (though I'm obviously biased), but the dozens of real women who shared their stories. These aren't bitter, selfish monsters society sometimes paints us as —they're teachers, doctors, artists, wives, daughters, and humans who simply chose different paths to fulfillment. The research and interviews create a tapestry that says: "You're not alone, you're not broken, and you're definitely not the first woman to feel this way."
The sections on dealing with family pressure and social judgment hit especially hard because, let's be honest, Aunt Martha at family dinner can be ruthless. But the strategies for building supportive communities and finding fulfillment beyond motherhood? Chef's kiss —even if I do say so myself.
Is this book controversial? Probably, and I'm okay with that.
Will it change minds? Maybe some, but mostly it will validate hearts that already knew what they wanted.
Should men read it too? ABSOLUTELY. Understanding and supporting the women in your life shouldn't be optional.
To every woman who's ever felt guilty for not wanting kids: this one's for you. To everyone else: thanks for keeping an open mind —the world needs more of that.
Perfect for: Women who've been questioned about their life choices, partners who want to understand, professionals working with women, and anyone who believes freedom of choice isn't just a slogan.
Fair warning: May cause sudden urges to book that solo vacation, adopt another plant instead of a baby, and confidently answer "No, and I'm happy about it" at family gatherings.
Plot twist: The author is back to review her own work because apparently, I'm the only one brave enough to say what dozens of women already told me in private. And that's exactly why this book needed to exist.
Don't Wanna Be a Mom and That's Okay is the book I wrote after years of hearing "You'll change your mind" and decided to ask other women: "Did you?" Spoiler alert: Most of us didn't, and we're doing just fine, thank you very much.
Monica March (yes, me again, being my own cheerleader) takes on one of society's most sacred assumptions —that every woman secretly dreams of tiny footsteps and sleepless nights. This book says: "What if some of us dream of uninterrupted sleep and disposable income instead?" And somehow, the world doesn't end.
What makes this book special isn't just my perspective (though I'm obviously biased), but the dozens of real women who shared their stories. These aren't bitter, selfish monsters society sometimes paints us as —they're teachers, doctors, artists, wives, daughters, and humans who simply chose different paths to fulfillment. The research and interviews create a tapestry that says: "You're not alone, you're not broken, and you're definitely not the first woman to feel this way."
The sections on dealing with family pressure and social judgment hit especially hard because, let's be honest, Aunt Martha at family dinner can be ruthless. But the strategies for building supportive communities and finding fulfillment beyond motherhood? Chef's kiss —even if I do say so myself.
Is this book controversial? Probably, and I'm okay with that.
Will it change minds? Maybe some, but mostly it will validate hearts that already knew what they wanted.
Should men read it too? ABSOLUTELY. Understanding and supporting the women in your life shouldn't be optional.
To every woman who's ever felt guilty for not wanting kids: this one's for you. To everyone else: thanks for keeping an open mind —the world needs more of that.
Perfect for: Women who've been questioned about their life choices, partners who want to understand, professionals working with women, and anyone who believes freedom of choice isn't just a slogan.
Fair warning: May cause sudden urges to book that solo vacation, adopt another plant instead of a baby, and confidently answer "No, and I'm happy about it" at family gatherings.
January 13, 2026
This was a beautiful book to read. As someone who has personally been on the fence about having children, I felt that this book did a wonderful job of bringing common concerns to light while also providing a strong sense of validation. I appreciated the way it challenges the idea that not having children means being “empty” or lacking purpose, especially by highlighting the many childless women who have done remarkable things—both on large and small scales.
I also really valued how much research and how many statistics were included, reinforcing that these perspectives are supported by evidence rather than just opinion. Overall, I think this is a book all women should read before having children, as it thoughtfully and honestly highlights the very real considerations and challenges that come with the role and title of being a mother.
I also really valued how much research and how many statistics were included, reinforcing that these perspectives are supported by evidence rather than just opinion. Overall, I think this is a book all women should read before having children, as it thoughtfully and honestly highlights the very real considerations and challenges that come with the role and title of being a mother.
January 3, 2026
Interesting, full of statistics. I don’t think everyone who doesn’t have children is required to do so much work they win a Nobel prize. Some of us are just content to be a good auntie and upstanding member of society.
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