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The New Lady in Waiting: Becoming God's Best While Waiting for Mr. Right
You Are Worth Waiting For! In a world consumed with quick-fixes, superficial romances, and “hookup” relationships, maybe you’re asking- What’s the benefit to actually waiting for God’s best? Is there a perfect plan for my future-or is it just a fairy tale? Should I just settle like everyone else? With all-new insights from Jackie Kendall, a new generation will answer these questions and discover what made Lady in Waiting a life-changing encouragement to over half a million readers worldwide. You will learn • Step into your royal identity as a daughter of the King and experience contentment, security, and patience in your life • Protect your purity as you see how God sees you-valued, beautiful, and one-of-a-kind • Take advantage of the waiting process and use it to become a woman of devotion, faith, and conviction • Refuse to settle for anything or anyone less than God’s best for your life Enjoy the wait, embrace the journey, and experience the extraordinary power of being a Lady in Waiting! This is a great book for when God says wait.
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Published April 15, 2014
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June 14, 2024
Not Bozos, only a Boaz! Quite an interesting read, quoting many scriptures that I had not considered as in-depth before. Recommend for those seriously seeking a life partner.
October 28, 2014
This edition of Jackie Kendall's books about becoming a lady in waiting is the 20th anniversary edition of her classic material. What differs in this book from the others in her series is the way the book is presented; the author talks directly to her target audience--young ladies in waiting (for boyfriends, for dates, for mates). To quote the author,
"What we did with [this book] was update and enhance: update some of the material to enhance the principles that are time-tested. So you will see lots of new illustrations and added examples woven right in with the original text. There are a number of issues that have become HUGE in our culture among singles since twenty years ago: Internet dating, social media temptations, same-sex attraction, pornography and other sexual taboos (like dating married men), to name a few. Absolutely every principle to guard and guide the heart that applied to single gals twenty years ago applies now. The particulars do not altar the principles."
In essence, this is not just another guide for singles. The focus is not on a woman's status but on the state of her heart. There are ten basic precepts that the author has derived from the study of the book of Ruth, an Old Testament book of the Bible. She explains how Ruth demonstrates all these tenets throughout her books and presentations. The ten principles are the foundation of Jackie Kendall's ministry for the past twenty years. The books are heavy on application with plenty of real life scenarios the author has gleaned over the years.
One of the most striking statements the author says in this 20th edition bears repeating often. "Whenever I hear about a woman's struggle--single, married, or divorced--most of the time I can trace the issue back to one of the precepts in this book that was not applied. Whether you're thirteen or thirty, in these pages you will find so many transferable concepts that impact whatever situation you are facing now." I've personally come to realize that these principles are also valid within marriage, as the glue which strengthens an already sound foundation.
This book is designed in such a way that the quotes and headings grab your interest visually. You can either read this book from cover to cover because it flows well and keeps interest high, or you can use it as a reference, returning to sections by topic. Segments are short and easily digested for today's shorter attention span. There are quotes, tables and charts, lists, study questions, large headings, and stories that make a topical search easy to perform. There are plenty of white spaces in the 235-page-book. It does not look like a textbook. For group leaders there is a study guide available for your small group or large study group.
One segment in the chapter, "Becoming a Lady of Purity" approaches two related topics: what the author calls the law of diminishing returns, and sexual brinkmanship. Both topics are ones I don't see being addressed for pre-teens and teens enough. Yet it is crucial information for the awareness of the psychology of relationships between boys and girls, and men and women. This is a subject I remember hearing for the first time when I was in college, attending a Christian youth gathering. I remember my astonishment at the revelations when I was 18, and can only imagine how much greater the need is today for those younger than that and are dating. This book has so much to say to today's young people.
Another aspect about this book I love is its conversational tone. It is easy to read, and readily relate-able to the girls and women who read it. It is also flexible in that there is a wide range of ages and stages of singlehood among women today. The pertinent message is applicable to the entire range, to all situations women find themselves in regarding desiring, attaining or recovering from relationships with a Bozo or a potential Boaz.
Disclosure of Material Connection: I received a complimentary review copy of this book from The Book Club Network (bookfun.org) on behalf of Destiny Image Publishers, Inc. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”
In essence, this is not just another guide for singles. The focus is not on a woman's status but on the state of her heart. There are ten basic precepts that the author has derived from the study of the book of Ruth, an Old Testament book of the Bible. She explains how Ruth demonstrates all these tenets throughout her books and presentations. The ten principles are the foundation of Jackie Kendall's ministry for the past twenty years. The books are heavy on application with plenty of real life scenarios the author has gleaned over the years.
One of the most striking statements the author says in this 20th edition bears repeating often. "Whenever I hear about a woman's struggle--single, married, or divorced--most of the time I can trace the issue back to one of the precepts in this book that was not applied. Whether you're thirteen or thirty, in these pages you will find so many transferable concepts that impact whatever situation you are facing now." I've personally come to realize that these principles are also valid within marriage, as the glue which strengthens an already sound foundation.
This book is designed in such a way that the quotes and headings grab your interest visually. You can either read this book from cover to cover because it flows well and keeps interest high, or you can use it as a reference, returning to sections by topic. Segments are short and easily digested for today's shorter attention span. There are quotes, tables and charts, lists, study questions, large headings, and stories that make a topical search easy to perform. There are plenty of white spaces in the 235-page-book. It does not look like a textbook. For group leaders there is a study guide available for your small group or large study group.
One segment in the chapter, "Becoming a Lady of Purity" approaches two related topics: what the author calls the law of diminishing returns, and sexual brinkmanship. Both topics are ones I don't see being addressed for pre-teens and teens enough. Yet it is crucial information for the awareness of the psychology of relationships between boys and girls, and men and women. This is a subject I remember hearing for the first time when I was in college, attending a Christian youth gathering. I remember my astonishment at the revelations when I was 18, and can only imagine how much greater the need is today for those younger than that and are dating. This book has so much to say to today's young people.
Another aspect about this book I love is its conversational tone. It is easy to read, and readily relate-able to the girls and women who read it. It is also flexible in that there is a wide range of ages and stages of singlehood among women today. The pertinent message is applicable to the entire range, to all situations women find themselves in regarding desiring, attaining or recovering from relationships with a Bozo or a potential Boaz.
Disclosure of Material Connection: I received a complimentary review copy of this book from The Book Club Network (bookfun.org) on behalf of Destiny Image Publishers, Inc. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”
July 31, 2018
I bought this book for a church connect group. I was ready for this group and to talk about singleness, relationships, etc. but I wasn't too sure about the book. I thought this book would be super-cliched like Captivating by John and Stasi Eldridge (which I didn't finish because I disagreed with a lot of what they said in that book). I thought it would be a book that wouldn't speak into my situation.
It turns out it wasn't cheesy or cliched. And it pretty much spoke into all the things I've dealt with as a single person, as well as the things I'm currently experiencing.
I love this book so much. I don't know if I have the right words to explain how much this book has inspired me and changed me. Lady in Waiting speaks to all types of single Christian women, from those who know that it's not the end of the world if they're single to for those who need that reminder that singleness isn't a disease and there is beauty in being single. It is the book for women who have skipped ahead of God's will and try to find their own "Boaz" but haven't been successful. It is a book for those who have been in relationships in the past that has caused them heartbreak. This book brings healing.
This is my favourite read of 2018. This book changed my outlook on being single and in some chapters, called me out on my foolishness, all while reminding me of who God is. If it's in His will for me to be with someone special, He will make it happen.
The reason for the 4/5 stars is because you can't do .5 stars here. But the main heavier reason is I felt there were a few verses used out of context to further some points. In my opinion, if those out of context verses were taken out, I think Kendall's points would have made sense and be able to stand alone. Other than those issues, I highly recommend this book to everyone.
It turns out it wasn't cheesy or cliched. And it pretty much spoke into all the things I've dealt with as a single person, as well as the things I'm currently experiencing.
I love this book so much. I don't know if I have the right words to explain how much this book has inspired me and changed me. Lady in Waiting speaks to all types of single Christian women, from those who know that it's not the end of the world if they're single to for those who need that reminder that singleness isn't a disease and there is beauty in being single. It is the book for women who have skipped ahead of God's will and try to find their own "Boaz" but haven't been successful. It is a book for those who have been in relationships in the past that has caused them heartbreak. This book brings healing.
This is my favourite read of 2018. This book changed my outlook on being single and in some chapters, called me out on my foolishness, all while reminding me of who God is. If it's in His will for me to be with someone special, He will make it happen.
The reason for the 4/5 stars is because you can't do .5 stars here. But the main heavier reason is I felt there were a few verses used out of context to further some points. In my opinion, if those out of context verses were taken out, I think Kendall's points would have made sense and be able to stand alone. Other than those issues, I highly recommend this book to everyone.
April 14, 2016
Really this book is 2.5 stars. She has a lot of good things to say, but I would recommend against this book.
This is not a grace-filled, gospel-filled book. It’s very much a list of do’s and don’ts with a mention of grace and forgiveness at the end of most chapters as an afterthought.
Her talk on purity was dismal. The message is: If you do anything in the “No-Zone” or beyond (sex) your relationship is doomed. Only if you are completely pure can you hope to have a good marriage. Let me say clearly - The Bible teaches that sex before marriage is a sin and that lust is a sin. Ideally, you should wait to be physical until after marriage. However, if you’ve already had sex or if you and your godly boyfriend messed up, repent of your sins. God will forgive you and he will heal you. Your relationship might end and it might turn into an amazing marriage.
It took her 195 pages of talking about avoiding Bozo’s and waiting for Boaz for her to say what I feel like would be most important. If you are a Christian, you should ONLY EVER date a Christian, a growing, maturing Christian. Second, make sure he will lead your family. This is a true blessing. If a man has these two qualities then he is a Boaz or at least a Boaz in the making. He’s also a sinner, so he may act like a Bozo occasionally, give him grace, because you will need it too!
This is not a grace-filled, gospel-filled book. It’s very much a list of do’s and don’ts with a mention of grace and forgiveness at the end of most chapters as an afterthought.
Her talk on purity was dismal. The message is: If you do anything in the “No-Zone” or beyond (sex) your relationship is doomed. Only if you are completely pure can you hope to have a good marriage. Let me say clearly - The Bible teaches that sex before marriage is a sin and that lust is a sin. Ideally, you should wait to be physical until after marriage. However, if you’ve already had sex or if you and your godly boyfriend messed up, repent of your sins. God will forgive you and he will heal you. Your relationship might end and it might turn into an amazing marriage.
It took her 195 pages of talking about avoiding Bozo’s and waiting for Boaz for her to say what I feel like would be most important. If you are a Christian, you should ONLY EVER date a Christian, a growing, maturing Christian. Second, make sure he will lead your family. This is a true blessing. If a man has these two qualities then he is a Boaz or at least a Boaz in the making. He’s also a sinner, so he may act like a Bozo occasionally, give him grace, because you will need it too!
October 28, 2024
havent read the full book, just the study guide. for me personally, its so good and helping me to uncover the motivation and to know exactly what love is, according to bible. this book guiding me more to be the best version of myself, being content, and to be a godly woman<3
August 20, 2014
About the Book:
In a world consumed with quick-fixes, superficial romances, and “hookup” relationships, maybe you’re asking—
What’s the benefit to actually waiting for God’s best? Is there a perfect plan for my future—or is it just a fairy tale?
Should I just settle like everyone else?
By using this interactive study guide, (ideal for Bible studies, small groups, and church classes going through the Lady in Waiting video sessions), you will answer these questions as you discover how to:
• Step into your royal identity as a daughter of the King and experience contentment, security, and patience in your life • Protect your purity as you see how God sees you—Valued, beautiful, and one-of-a-kind
• Take advantage of the waiting process and use it to become a woman of devotion, faith, and conviction
• Refuse to settle for anything or anyone less than God’s best for your life
Enjoy the wait, embrace the journey, and experience the extraordinary power of being a Lady in Waiting!
About the Author:
Jackie Kendall has ministered through teaching and counseling for more than 30 years. As President of Power to Grow Ministries, Jackie is a sought after conference speaker for people of all ages and stages of life. Jackie has chosen a road marked by personal vulnerability, accessibility and honesty.
Jackie's husband is the Vice President and Chief Operating Officer of Power To Grow Ministries. Ken previously served in short-term mission with World Servants for 16 years. They have two grown children, Ben and Jessica. Jackie has a Bachelor of Science degree in Education/English/Bible.
My Review:
So many times we ladies jump head long into the finding the right guy before we actually see that maybe we could use some work ourselves before we are even able to find the right guy. That is where the newly updated The New Lady In Waiting by Jackie Kendall comes in. It is a Christian girls guide to working on ourselves first before we go looking for the perfect prince. This book is an excellent one to get your life and your mind in order to receive God's special blessing for you.
There are so many things about ourselves that need that final run through before we try to looking for that one final relationship that we will settle on for the rest of our lives. For myself I dated several "bozos" before finding the man of my dreams. I prayed for him and he was given to me. Don't get me wrong it took a long time for me to realize how blessed I actually was, but I'm grateful that he stuck it out with me. Through scripture, encouragement, and inspiring stories the author suggests we continue becoming a better Christian daughter to the King before searching for the man of our dreams. If we put God first everything else will fall into place!
**Disclosure** This book was sent to me free of charge for my honest review from Book Fun.
In a world consumed with quick-fixes, superficial romances, and “hookup” relationships, maybe you’re asking—
What’s the benefit to actually waiting for God’s best? Is there a perfect plan for my future—or is it just a fairy tale?
Should I just settle like everyone else?
By using this interactive study guide, (ideal for Bible studies, small groups, and church classes going through the Lady in Waiting video sessions), you will answer these questions as you discover how to:
• Step into your royal identity as a daughter of the King and experience contentment, security, and patience in your life • Protect your purity as you see how God sees you—Valued, beautiful, and one-of-a-kind
• Take advantage of the waiting process and use it to become a woman of devotion, faith, and conviction
• Refuse to settle for anything or anyone less than God’s best for your life
Enjoy the wait, embrace the journey, and experience the extraordinary power of being a Lady in Waiting!
About the Author:
Jackie Kendall has ministered through teaching and counseling for more than 30 years. As President of Power to Grow Ministries, Jackie is a sought after conference speaker for people of all ages and stages of life. Jackie has chosen a road marked by personal vulnerability, accessibility and honesty.
Jackie's husband is the Vice President and Chief Operating Officer of Power To Grow Ministries. Ken previously served in short-term mission with World Servants for 16 years. They have two grown children, Ben and Jessica. Jackie has a Bachelor of Science degree in Education/English/Bible.
My Review:
So many times we ladies jump head long into the finding the right guy before we actually see that maybe we could use some work ourselves before we are even able to find the right guy. That is where the newly updated The New Lady In Waiting by Jackie Kendall comes in. It is a Christian girls guide to working on ourselves first before we go looking for the perfect prince. This book is an excellent one to get your life and your mind in order to receive God's special blessing for you.
There are so many things about ourselves that need that final run through before we try to looking for that one final relationship that we will settle on for the rest of our lives. For myself I dated several "bozos" before finding the man of my dreams. I prayed for him and he was given to me. Don't get me wrong it took a long time for me to realize how blessed I actually was, but I'm grateful that he stuck it out with me. Through scripture, encouragement, and inspiring stories the author suggests we continue becoming a better Christian daughter to the King before searching for the man of our dreams. If we put God first everything else will fall into place!
**Disclosure** This book was sent to me free of charge for my honest review from Book Fun.
August 23, 2014
I have been privileged to read Lady in Waiting by Jackie Kendall. Wow - I originally got this book to talk about these important concepts with my daughter as she begins to enter middle school and begins to focus on boys, looks, etc. I wanted to help her keep her focus where it should be - on God first and foremost.
I absolutely loved the way she described her engagement as well as her wedding. I was challenged that even though our engagement and wedding didn’t take on that form, I can look for and pray, asking God to give me opportunities like that in my daily life as well.
However, I ended up getting much more out of this book than just a learning tool for her. I realized that I have never found my completeness in God and instead used to look for it in “getting married, my children,” Etc. I realized that even though I’m happily married to my husband for over 15 years and I may have squandered my single years (got married later in life) instead of using them wholeheartedly to serve God (something I hope to teach my daughter differently), that cycle can end here. My husband supports my relationship with God as He himself has a strong relationship with our Father. I realize that the more time and effort I put into cultivating the relationship I have with my Father, the healthier I will be as a wife, a mother, and a person in general. I can break the cycle I have perpetuated starting now (one thing I love about God is it is NEVER too late to be restored and healed) and it will only enhance my marriage, my parenting, my life in general. And it’s exciting to me.
I highly recommend this book to single women, starting at a young age as she handles the tougher subjects delicately, and it’s great for married women as well to remind them who they need to be complete in - not their husbands, careers, or children. Only when we immerse ourselves wholeheartedly in our relationship with God will be truly feel complete. I have been growing in my relationship with Him for years now, but the great thing about all relationships is you can never stop digging deeper until you take your last breath - there is always something new, exciting to learn about each other.
Great book for women of all ages and in all stages of life. I received this book for free in exchange for my honest opinion from BookClubNetwork. I have placed my review on Deeper Shopping, Amazon, Goodreads, and Barnes and Noble.
I absolutely loved the way she described her engagement as well as her wedding. I was challenged that even though our engagement and wedding didn’t take on that form, I can look for and pray, asking God to give me opportunities like that in my daily life as well.
However, I ended up getting much more out of this book than just a learning tool for her. I realized that I have never found my completeness in God and instead used to look for it in “getting married, my children,” Etc. I realized that even though I’m happily married to my husband for over 15 years and I may have squandered my single years (got married later in life) instead of using them wholeheartedly to serve God (something I hope to teach my daughter differently), that cycle can end here. My husband supports my relationship with God as He himself has a strong relationship with our Father. I realize that the more time and effort I put into cultivating the relationship I have with my Father, the healthier I will be as a wife, a mother, and a person in general. I can break the cycle I have perpetuated starting now (one thing I love about God is it is NEVER too late to be restored and healed) and it will only enhance my marriage, my parenting, my life in general. And it’s exciting to me.
I highly recommend this book to single women, starting at a young age as she handles the tougher subjects delicately, and it’s great for married women as well to remind them who they need to be complete in - not their husbands, careers, or children. Only when we immerse ourselves wholeheartedly in our relationship with God will be truly feel complete. I have been growing in my relationship with Him for years now, but the great thing about all relationships is you can never stop digging deeper until you take your last breath - there is always something new, exciting to learn about each other.
Great book for women of all ages and in all stages of life. I received this book for free in exchange for my honest opinion from BookClubNetwork. I have placed my review on Deeper Shopping, Amazon, Goodreads, and Barnes and Noble.
February 5, 2015
I had read the author's original version of this book some time ago and LOVED it! It changed my life and put me on a completely different path than I was walking. So, when this new edition came out, I was anxious to get this book to see how it was updated. To my delight, Jackie Kendall wrote this book in a completely different way by speaking directly to the reader whom she was hoping was reading the book - "young ladies in waiting". However, the material spoke to the ladies' "mates" as well.
The author did a fantastic job at updating and enhencing her previous publication by giving new examples and illustrations that she was able to intersperse throughout her stories.
Jackie's unique way of writing is truly blessed and touched by God because you cannot read her books and walk away unchanged. You will look at life differently. You will look at ordinarily, everyday happenings, and stop and look at them differently. You will never be the same.
I wasn't. I highly recommend this book. I received this book from the author through bookfun.org in exchange for my honest review.
The author did a fantastic job at updating and enhencing her previous publication by giving new examples and illustrations that she was able to intersperse throughout her stories.
Jackie's unique way of writing is truly blessed and touched by God because you cannot read her books and walk away unchanged. You will look at life differently. You will look at ordinarily, everyday happenings, and stop and look at them differently. You will never be the same.
I wasn't. I highly recommend this book. I received this book from the author through bookfun.org in exchange for my honest review.
August 16, 2014
I have read the expanded edition of this book as a young adult struggling with being single and loved it. This book truly helped me in a time where I was struggling with being single and with no hope of meeting Mr Right. This book opened my eyes to see that I was looking for a Bozo. I threw myself into going back to school and volunteering as a EMT. It was during one of my evenings that I was volunteering on the ambulance at a dirt racetrack in a neighboring county that I met accidentally my Boaz. It took several months later before we officially met and he told me the one thing that attracted me to him was my willingness to help others in their time of need.
I would recommend this book to any young and older lady struggling in with life, no matter what their status is.
I would recommend this book to any young and older lady struggling in with life, no matter what their status is.
July 30, 2019
This was okay. There were a few things that were really helpful, but then there were some things that seemed a little over the top. Like, I got what the author was trying to say, but it came across a little crazy. For example, she talked about having emotional boundaries as well as physical boundaries in a relationship. I got that she was saying that you have to guard your heart and trust God with your future and your relationships, but it came across like she was saying you shouldn't get close to someone until you get married, that sharing everything with someone emotionally before marriage is wrong. Which just sounded super silly lol. Like, I would never marry someone if I felt like we hadn't emotionally connected completely!
September 15, 2014
Lady in Waiting is a must read for all women, especially young single women. The book is broken down into 10 chapters: Lady of Reckless Abandon, Lady of Diligence, Lady of Faith, Lady of Virtue, Lady of Devotion, Lady of Purity, Lady of Security, Lady of Contentment, Lady of Conviction, and lady of Patience.
I really liked this book. It really is great to remind us to focus firstly on God.
Great read. Highly recommended. Five stars
I really liked this book. It really is great to remind us to focus firstly on God.
Great read. Highly recommended. Five stars
March 13, 2015
This is a great self help and improvement book. It is also great to read bedside! I really liked that it talked about whether or not you were in a relationship. The book is about YOU! How you are worth waiting for. There are Bible references and the book is an overall positive message. There is also a presentation page so you can give this book as a gift. I am giving this book a 4/5. I was given a copy to review from The Book Network Inc., however all opinions are my own.
January 6, 2015
Great read for single or married persons
Such wonderful insight! This book really made me think. It made me uncomfortable and really look at myself and my choices. It was excellent. I will patiently wait on God!
Such wonderful insight! This book really made me think. It made me uncomfortable and really look at myself and my choices. It was excellent. I will patiently wait on God!
June 14, 2016
I have read this multiple times, and I can not recommend this any higher that 5 stars. This is a must for any woman, a reminder that being single is not the end of the world; rather the beginning of hearing god in a different way.
April 7, 2023
This book is very honest about girls’ emotional struggles and unhealthy habits when interested in a guy. Some may find it offensive because she doesn’t hold back to criticize these behaviors, but I appreciate it.
December 25, 2016
Loved it, A call to service and closer relationship with God...
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May 8, 2017Awesome great for all ages to read.
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May 15, 2017I love this book because it provides a lot of real life lessons that I can apply to my lofe and teach my daughter.
November 11, 2019
Amazing book for single people. The author goes through 10 ways we can become a Lady in Waiting. Don't settle! Wait for your Boaz.
November 11, 2019
despite being heavy, this is a must-finish-all in book for anyone seeking well whats needed to becoming God's best while waiting for mr right. i highlighted almost every page of this book!!!!
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