Những Điều Tôi Không Đăng Lên Mạng Xã Hội

by Chrissy Stockton, Quynh Lam (Translator)

“Tôi thích nhắc nhở bản thân nhớ rằng đằng sau mỗi hashtag của các cặp đôi hạnh phúc là một cuộc tranh cãi, đằng sau mỗi vầng trán mịn màng là một phần mềm chỉnh ảnh, và đằng sau mỗi buổi hoàng hôn ở vùng Caribbean là một cuộc hành trình có những chiếc va-li đóng đầy đồ đạc và sự chờ đợi hàng giờ ở sân bay.”

Trong cuộc sống hiện đại, mỗi chúng ta đều có ít nhất một tài khoản mạng xã hội, để rồi bao quanh chúng ta là những tấm ảnh tuyệt đẹp, cột mốc đáng nhớ và trải nghiệm đáng tự hào. Nhưng ẩn dưới những lấp lánh đó, qua biết bao bộ lọc filter, là những nỗ lực cố gắng, là những khoảnh khắc chân thực đến xấu xí, là nỗi lo âu mà ta chọn giấu kín với thế giới này.

Vậy nên bạn ơi, cuốn sách này ở đây để bạn hiểu, và ngừng so sánh cuộc sống thực của chính mình với “hào quang” của người khác.

Và chúng ta hãy cùng trân trọng những kết nối thực cùng bao trải nghiệm tuyệt vời trên thế giới này.

Cuốn sách có nhiều tác giả.

Genres: Nonfiction, Essays

136 pages, Paperback

Published February 21, 2022

Reviews

[Sarah · Rating 3 out of 5]

Actual rating 3.5! This was a fascinating and relevant essay topic, especially among women who invest so much time and energy in ensuring that our social media lives look perfect. I enjoyed certain essays more than others.

The topics of the essays are fantastic, but the reason it’s only a 3.5-star rating is that the writing is mediocre at best. The writers have great ideas and such strong points, but some of the essays just feel very dull!

I recommend reading the book because it’s something that most women can relate to.

[Rose McMackin · Rating 1 out of 5]

This was barf-erifically bad

[Lara · Rating 4 out of 5]

"The reality is, the reality doesn’t perform as well."

[Angharad · Rating 3 out of 5]

- delves into the world of the reality behind instagram pics
- a collection of short essays including one from nikita gill
- very short and easy to get through
- some essays fell flat for me and missed the point of 'instagram reality'
- however some were eye-opening
- 3/5 stars

[Kris Anderson · Rating 5 out of 5]

Interesting

I definitely found this to be highly relatable, hence, why I left Facebook an Instagram and started from scratch on Twitter. Perhaps it’s about finding your medium, however, I’m sure quite a bit of the authors are introverted; their perspective is interesting when they seem to be battling their inner demons outside of posting the moment in time that everyone wants to see and be jealous over. This book further reaffirms that social media is terrible for everyone, and that just like with anything else should be engaged in doses or moderation. People have trouble disconnecting and need constant validation. I used to be that way, however, I have since left people behind to try the more archaic way of interacting, phone. Whether texting or calling I know that someone personally reaching out means that they care more about me as a person than watching at arms length, especially if I’m suffering. Social media is the perfect environment for victims, guilt, and stealing (time, money, effort, self-esteem, etc). Great book!

[Kaitlyn · Rating 3 out of 5]

I received this book through a Goodreads giveaway; all thoughts and ratings are my own.

Overall, I thought this was a fast but interesting read. None of the individual essays included took more than ten minutes to read, most were far quicker. Not every essay was equally good, with some quite forgettable and others that I loved. Almost all of them made me think, even if it was just to disagree with some aspect of the essay.

If you're interested in how people hide and edit what they post on online, along with liking personal essays, I'd recommend this book. The rating is based on how I felt overall about the book - there are several essays I would have rated 4 or 5 stars, but there are other essays I would have only rated 1 or 2 (and of course a few that are 3s). Without actually going through and rating each essay, it feels like a 3 average to me.

[Ida · Rating 4 out of 5]

Probably 3.75*, but I’m rounding it up to 4;)

I read one essay before bed almost every night for about three weeks, and I truly believe that this is the way to read this book: one story at a time.

While I found some of the stories a little bit boring (not really the right word for it, but they didn’t grasp my attention), others I actually shred a few tears while reading. The struggles some of these women were/are facing really struck home. I’m not an adult, I don’t have a job like all of these women who wrote this or anything like that, but I struggle like them just the same. I highly recommend this collection of essays as I believe this (unfortunately) is something most girls/women struggle with in today’s society.

[Caitlin Conlon · Rating 2 out of 5]

I received this book as a freebie almost a decade ago now, and finally decided to get it off my shelf & read it.

I think this hasn’t aged very well. The way we talked about social media in 2017 is different from 2025—the new thing is about embracing cringe & being honest, whereas back then it was about keeping up appearances. I think this may have resonated with teens in 2017, but not teens (or adults) in 2025.

The essays were a mixed bag, some better than others, but I was struck by the consistent, typical Thought Catalog style of article in here. It felt more like scrolling through their website than it did reading a book of essays. I just wanted more depth from it.

[Carissa · Rating 5 out of 5]

A raw, emotional collection of women with relatable (occasionally painful) problems. Mental illness, motherhood, romantic relationships, the “cool girl” conundrum, self-care, self-esteem, feeling inadequate or immature or disconnected... these stories were the first in a while that made me underline quotes and passages. Every woman can find something poignant in here that echoes their current conflicts, and every woman ought to read it!

[Soumya John · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book definitely delivers on the subject it chooses to address. Although each individual essay may not provide adequate depth, while all of them are read together, there is something to take back from it. It's super simple to read and worth the time! I'd recommend Kim's, Chrissy's and Melanie's essays in particular.

[stephanie 🧚🏻‍♀️ · Rating 3 out of 5]

Definitely some insightful reads, although others failed to really stand out or stick with me. Worth a read for sure as it was just a few dollars off Amazon and took me less than an hour to finish. My favorite essays were Introduction (Chrissy Stockton), My Social Media Life Is Bullshit (And I Feel Fine) (Mélanie Berliet), and I Don’t Want a Los Angeles Kind of Love (Chrissy Stockton).

[Alex Locklear · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was sent to me from a goodreads giveaway and I am so happy it did. As someone who is on social media to promote myself and my business, I completely understand and relate to this book. The essays in this book are short and sweet, and incredible. Love love loved this, 4.5✨

[Len · Rating 4 out of 5]

I received my copy via a Goodreads giveaway.
I applaud the editor and authors for their courage and honesty in challenging the facade which many of us (men, too) somehow feel the need to maintain. The stories themselves, too, are wrll-written and entertaining. Kudos.

[Melissa Rodriguez · Rating 3 out of 5]

Shorter than I thought

I bought this book after reading a Thought Catalog article of the same name. I thought it would be a similar format as that article. It does not, I would have liked to have seen the instagram photos these essays were referencing.

[Sarah · Rating 3 out of 5]

A nice short collection of essays that talk about what everyone is always thinking about social media: that it's all fake. Nothing entirely profound in these essays, but I always appreciate someone else putting into words what I'm feeling.

[Mai Phan · Rating 3 out of 5]

About my pointview, this book talks some story about love, travel, family, job, ect........ But it not like my expectation. I thought this book would about some thing on social media ( maybe has a little, too ) but it not clear too much.

[Toni · Rating 5 out of 5]

A very well written and interesting way to show a short glimpse into social media and reveal some real life encounters. Thanks for tackling one of this century’s biggest monsters...

[Kat Vellos · Rating 4 out of 5]

Insightful piece of reality, fast read

[Joseph Dubey · Rating 4 out of 5]

Not too bad. I liked most of the short stories

[JulienneReads ✧.* ◡̈ · Rating 3 out of 5]

There were stories that felt flat but there were also stories that I enjoyed. A quick read! It’s better to read them one day at a time than reading them all in one sitting. 😊

[reasonstobehappytoday · Rating 4 out of 5]

Trần trụi, một chút xót xa nhưng đôi lúc lại thật ấm áp và ngọt ngào.

[Rina Azzuddin · Rating 1 out of 5]

I didn’t like it.
Not gonna revisit.
Barely tabbed any pages.

[Xandra · Rating 2 out of 5]

Only a few essays made this worth reading.

[Helen Mills · Rating 2 out of 5]

Disappointing very random put together collection of ‘stories’ though I’m not sure they were entertaining enough to call stories. I think I was expecting something quite different from the title (little mini ‘secrets’ that people would share - but this was not the case)