Rather than being an exhaustive exegetical review of the Biblical text as it relates to leadership structures within the church, How I Changed My Mind About Women in Leadership takes a more casual and experiential approach to the topic. It feels much more like a group of people sitting around the fire, sharing personal stories and anecdotes about themselves and how they came to see the role of women in the church today. It's a great introduction to the egalitarian position, especially if you approach it with an open mind and willingness to listen.
Again, while this is is not a broad theological treatise, there are some high marks that were really important for me. The book is a collection of short testimonies from various people in the evangelical world. I was quite impressed by the selection of contributors: pastors, teachers, professors, speakers, scholars and business executives. They have all had exemplary lives, and have made much of what they've been given. The list of accolades is long and impressive. Even more so, each of them specifically expressed their love of God and his word, and their deep devotion to Biblical inerrancy. Many touched on specific arguments against egalitarianism that have been troubling for me, such as the risk of making the Bible say something it doesn't actually say, the risk of becoming too liberal with interpretation, or the risk of the issue of female leadership opening the door for a weakening towards other cultural issues that I think the Bible speaks exceedingly clear on. These arguments hold less water for me now.
While I can't say that this book made a broad and sweeping change in my view, there were a number of points that really struck me as I read the book. One concerned the supposed "clarity" that many complementarian churches ascribe to the consideration of female leadership, clarity that just happens to spawn a wide variety of practices and rules across churches who in theory believe in the same "clear" issue. If the issue is so clear, why is there is so much debate and difference in implementation, even among churches who fall along the same lines?
Furthermore, it's particularly obtuse how far some churches and denominations go in order to try to maintain their position despite some of the absurdity that results. Can a women speak in front of men? Well, maybe not, but hey, she could speak behind a curtain, or perhaps in a different room connected via a microphone and speaker. Or maybe all the men could be in the same room, as long as they face the opposite wall. Or perhaps she could speak during an interview-style format with a man on stage. But hey, aren't women heavily featured in many children's programs? So they can teach boys? But not men? At what age exactly does that become inappropriate? What verse did you get that from? Buy hey, women can be missionaries, right? We don't have a problem sending them overseas to a foreign nation, potentially with a risk of harm or death, to share the gospel. We're okay with that, right? But they can't preach at a western church? Okay, so they could teach the gospel to a black or brown man across the ocean, but not a white man at an American church? These types of stories in the book were extremely illuminating for me. Some of the places we (the global church) find ourselves in really fall down in light of honest, rational and logical examination. We need to be intellectually honest and be willing to admit when we get it wrong.
Another striking point to me was many of the contributor's ruminations on Genesis 1 and 2, before sin enters the picture. There is an absence of hierarchy in these passages. God makes both man and women in his image. Both carry the Imago Dei. Even further, God gives both male and female the command to subdue the earth, and to be fruitful and multiply. These two early chapters in the Biblical text have become increasingly important to me over the years, as they reveal God's intent for humanity and human flourishing, before sin marred that ideal in any way. These passages should inform our view of male and female roles and relationships.
Many of the authors talk about denominations and traditions I am less familiar with, denominations that seem truly archaic to me, in terms of how they contextualize the gospel for the world in which we now live. For example, head coverings have not been an issue in any single church I've ever been a part of, but it apparently is still an issue for some. Yet, even in the churches I've called home, it again is troubling that such priority is given to a single verse about women having authority over men, but the same priority is not given to the single verse about head coverings. Why one and not the other?
Speaking of verses, many of the authors do deal specifically with some of the ones that have been stumbling blocks, such as 1 Timothy 2 and Ephesians 5. In all honesty, these areas are less problematic for me. One verse from Paul about women not having authority over a man does NOT meet my own personal criteria for an eternal principle for human flourishing. There are many New Testament verses that speak of slavery in a similar fashion, but I don't think nearly anyone would simply pull those out of context to justify the continued practice of one human enslaving another. Yet we do just that regarding female leadership. However, I did want some authors to speak to the passages on requirements for elders, in 1 Timothy 3 and Titus 1. This was notably absent, which was disappointing.
Many of the contributors also speak not only of leadership in the church but of the role of men and women in marriage, and in these places, I have very little resistance. At the core of my beliefs, I have always viewed marriage as a partnership. I have not always acted in accordance with this view, because I did grow up in a home that was male-lead, and have also been in churches where women were not allowed to become elders. Those environments have pressed upon me some subtle and not-so-subtle ways in which I interact with my wife with the assumption that I hold the leadership role. I think I have used this approach in positive and negative ways over the years, but at the deepest level, I'd prefer a partnership with Ciara. So I agree with the authors. One of the most common arguments used in favor of husband-focused leadership is the scenario where man and wife cannot agree, and someone needs to make the decision. What an eye-opening experience it was to realize, through the authors of this book, that this scenario almost never occurs in most marriages! It's laughable to think now why that one specific and rare situation has been used to justify such a massive view on marriage. In almost a decade of marriage, this scenario has not occurred even one time, and if it did, I would take the position posited by one of the authors: if you can't decide, then wait until you can. Or, perhaps, I would actually follow ALL of the instruction of Ephesians 5, to be the head of my wife by dying to myself and laying down my life for her, as Christ does the church. It seems that headship implies that we as husbands would more often than not be doing the things our wives request.
In the end, what How I Changed My Mind about Women in Leadership did for me was to truly cement the whole topic as an open-handed issue for me. It really is. It's not an issue I feel the church should divide over. I know many, many people who deeply and authentically love Jesus and his Bible, and land on complementarianism as well as many who land on egalitarianism. I think I could love and serve a church who falls on either divide. However, what this book also solidified for me is something that is no longer an open-handed issue for me, and that is the voice of women in the church. Even if a church honestly evaluates the text and decides that the role of elder is for men and not for women, women ABSOLUTELY must have loud, strong and prominent voice into the decisions, direction and vision of the church. Anything less falls dramatically short of God's intent for his church and his world. We cannot simply cast aside literally half the church, with all of their giftings and callings and abilities. Any church that is not encouraging women, listening to them, empowering them, discipling them, and and allowing to serve at some level of leadership is falling drastically short of the kind of church that God calls us to be.
There is so much more I could expound here, but this review is already too long. I think How I Changed My Mind about Women in Leadership is a great read, will challenge some of your assumptions, and will open up the broader conversation of women in leadership. The book went a long way towards removing some of the fear I had surrounding this topic. I hope to read more detailed books about female leadership in the years to come.