لماذا يسيء أبناؤنا التصرف؟ وماذا نفعل حيال ذلك؟

by Kevin Leman, إسراء جاد (Translator)

"يمكن لأطفالك التحكم بك وبأعصابك. لكن لا تدعهم يفعلون ذلك!
نوبات الغضب. الكلمة بكلمة. رَمْي الأشياء. الانهيارات. ضرب الأبواب. يعرف الأطفال كيف يضغطون عليك. لقد جربت كل الأساليب، لكن لا شيء يبدو أنه يُجدي نفعًا.
هذا لأنك لا تعالج الأسباب الجذرية لسوء سلوك أطفالك، كما يقول خبير التربية الدكتور كيفن ليمان. في كتاب لماذا يسيء أبناؤنا التصرف؟ يكشف بالضبط لماذا يسيء الأطفال السلوك من خلال الاستراتيجيات العملية التي تجدي نفعًا، وهي كفَوزٍ طويل الأمد لكليكما.
بفضل ذكائه وحكمته، يساعدك دكتور ليمان على رؤية الأمور من منظور طفلك، ويكشف عن سبب قيامه بما يفعله، وممن يتعلم سلوكياته، ولماذا يستمر في التصرف بشكل سيئ. إنه يحدد مراحل سوء السلوك، وفي أي مرحلة يوجَد طفلك، وليس كيف تتجنب سوء السلوك فحسب بل كيف تواجهه وتحوِّله إلى سلوك جيد.

بنهاية هذا الكتاب، ستبتسم بسبب التحوُّل الذي أصابك وأصاب طفلك ومنزلك."

Genres: Parenting

256 pages, Paperback

Published September 1, 2023

About the author

Dr. Kevin Leman, an internationally known psychologist, radio and television personality, and speaker, has taught and entertained audiences worldwide with his wit and commonsense psychology. The best-selling and award-winning author has made house calls for hundreds of radio and television programs, including The View with Barbara Walters, The Today Show, Oprah, CBS's The Early Show, Live with Regis Philbin, CNN's American Morning, and LIFE Today with James Robison, and he has served as a contributing family psychologist to Good Morning America. He is the founder and president of Couples of Promise, an organization designed and committed to helping couples remain happily married. Dr. Leman is also a charter faculty member of iQuestions.com. He has written over 30 best-selling books about marriage and family issues, including The Birth Order Book and Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage. Dr. Leman and his wife, Sande, live in Tucson. They have five children.

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Reviews

[Mariam Gawwad · Rating 3 out of 5]

كتاب خفيف أسلوبه سهل و ترجمته كويسة
لكن بعض آراء الكاتب مش بوافق عليها لو حصل اي زي ترك الطفل ك عقاب ف اوضته لوحده أو تحميل الطفل مسئولية اخواته الصغيرين .. غير كده أنا مقتنعة ١٠٠٪ أن سوء سلوك الاطفال لفت انتباه وسبحان الله لسه مخلصة روايه أخفيت صوتي بتتكلم عن نفس الموضوع و أن ترتيب الاطفال في العائلة بيفرق في شخصيتهم
أرشحه وبشده ❤️👏🏻

[Nabeel Hassan · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very good book.

[Elizabeth Fox · Rating 4 out of 5]

I fully enjoy reading Dr. Leman's books. He has a great knack for writing that makes his books flow and be read easily, which I like.
This book, as many others of his deal with parenting; key points of kids desiring, wanting and needing attention and the steps in which that can look. Also, on how to slowly start correcting behavior by first as the parent being willing to change, and ideas of what that could look like. He gives great examples and ideas on how to respond to said examples. Plus, the little bonus Q & As he usually has at the end of the books are always interesting to look through. In the end similar to othes of his, but still a very insightful read.

[Jeffrey Bush · Rating 4 out of 5]

I'm a big fan of the author. He has written some great books!

This books places the behavioral problem on the parents, not on the children. Very true and a well-worthy read!

[Karen · Rating 4 out of 5]

discipline vs punishment was really good

[Brenna · Rating 3 out of 5]

I liked what he had to say, maybe not how he said it. His advice seemed a little arrogant, like see how easy it is to raise kids?? when I'm sure he didn't actually find it easy all the time either. But I've always been a big fan of natural consequences for discipline and he was big on that here. He maybe doesn't give kids enough grace and says they're always trying to manipulate us and sometimes I think they just want comfort from someone they love, but mostly I liked his advice. Definitely not a very researched book, he seemed to just spout all of this out of his brain with no references but I think he's mostly right anyways.

[Anna Tsurkan · Rating 4 out of 5]

Great book! I didn’t even know about the connection between the birth order and behavior. It helped me realize why some kids and parents are who they are. But most importantly, this book provides strategies on how to unfold the situation and change your family dynamic. One small disadvantage is that some advice seems pretty simplistic. So, I have a feeling that it might not work for all characters.

[Chantel · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really enjoyed this book - it’s not really anything *new* but I feel like his method of explaining with the examples he gave made the difference between punishment and reality based discipline very clear and the reasoning behind their potential misbehaviors very understandable. Great option to gift new parents or to read yourself for reminders and encouragement when you go through inevitable seasons of misbehavior with your own tiny humans.

[إيناس عبد اللّٰه · Rating 4 out of 5]

كتاب جيد جدًا.
الكاتب لديه أسلوب مشوّق في الكتابة فلا تمل معه، ويُقدم جيدًا لأفكاره. ونصائحه عملية فلا يتركك للجانب النظري فقط. كما أنّ أهم ما يدور حوله في تعديل سوء سلوك الطفل هو تعديل سلوك الأبوين! فهما مدار سوء السُّلوكِ وجوهره! وكذلك السلوك الجيد أيضًا! فلَعمري هذا أفضل شيء بيّنه الكاتب وتناوله... سلوك ابنك السيئ ينشأ منك وإليك.
الترجمة واضحة، لكني أشعر أنها آلية بلغة أجنبية لا عربية -لا أدري كيف أعبر عن ذلك-.

[Katie Marcus · Rating 4 out of 5]

I read this to compare to his earlier book, Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours. There are portions of this one that are taken word for word from that one or ideas that have just been very slightly tweaked. This one gives more in depth info on birth order and the role of the parent and their own upbringing. The concept of reality discipline is communicated very similarly in the two books with some slightly different application examples - naturally, due to the large span of time between the two publications. If you were looking at his works and only plan to read one, I’d pick this one.

[John Quattrocchi · Rating 4 out of 5]

Starts out kinda slow, if a book of this type can do that? But the ideas and concepts start to flow and it gets very interesting and worth the read. Some things were obvious to me about parenting and others were new but made sense. Worth the read if you’re looking to learn new ways to parent your children.

[Beth Virgil · Rating 5 out of 5]

I am thankful to God that my counselor recommended this book. I’ve been searching for that kind of parenting book for years! God got it to me just in time!!!