The Art of Saying "No" with Grace and Respect

by Charlene Richard

Do you have a bit of an internal freak out when you are invited somewhere that you really don’t want to go, but you don’t know how to say “no’?

I bet your heart rate goes up and you start to breathe quickly because you are dreading that awkward conversation where you try to say “no” without hurting the other person’s feelings.

Or maybe you don’t say “no” and end up spending way too much time and energy doing things you really have no desire to do.

How many times have you been at an event or doing some task and you asked yourself, “Why did I agree to this?”

The cost of not being able to say “NO” is huge. It robs us of our time, energy, money, joy and sometimes even our health.

I get it, you’re a really nice person and you like to help people, and that’s great if you are doing it while still taking care of yourself and spending time with the people you love. It’s not great when it comes at a cost.

Many women struggle with saying “No”. Maybe you’re scared that the other person will get angry or be disappointed in you.

In my work as a counselor and coach, I have spent the last seven years helping women learn how to say “No” and set boundaries so that they can do the things they really want to do.

After reading Dr. Gabor Mate’s book When The Body Says No, I decided it was time to learn how to rock my “No” factor and take better care of myself – so my body doesn’t have to.

Want to know my step-by-step plan for learning how to say “No” in a way that is respectful of your loved ones?

Learn how to manage your internal freak out and how to say no in a way that is respectful to others yet taking care of your own needs. Happy reading.

Feel free to share it with as many women as possible. Share the Love!

Much love,
Charlene
oxox

Genres: Self Help

21 pages, Kindle Edition

First published May 10, 2013

Reviews

[Ron Wroblewski · Rating 5 out of 5]

A short, concise, system to learn how to say NO to unwanted requests.

[T · Rating 5 out of 5]

A clear and succinct little book. And by little, I mean tiny. I read it in 45 minutes. I’m rating it 5-stars for what it is, a coach’s personal guide to setting and sustaining boundaries, specifically when it involves saying No like you’ve never said it before.

For a free primer on asserting boundaries, it was EXACTLY what I needed and I’m grateful for it. I had an upcoming situation that I knew it was time to handle, but also knew I didn’t know how to, which is why it had slid by for so long. The blind spots I had were addressed precisely. While a good deal more data and a broader approach could be offered, this little book gave me the missing pieces I needed to quickly shift my life for the better.

[Theresa M Fairbanks · Rating 5 out of 5]

I absolutely loved this book, a good practice to adopt. Easy read, short and full of helpful info.

[Leslie · Rating 3 out of 5]

Good advice! I am terrible at telling people no. I will also following the breathing technique when a certain family member starts pushing my buttons.

[Jonquila Lowe · Rating 1 out of 5]

No comment

Not much I can say, nothing special or different about this read. Go talk to someone if you're feeling some type of way.

[Timothy · Rating 5 out of 5]

A clear and succinct little book. And by little, I mean tiny. I read it in 45 minutes. I’m rating it 5-stars for what it is, a coach’s personal guide to setting and sustaining boundaries, specifically when it involves saying No like you’ve never said it before.

For a free primer on asserting boundaries, it was EXACTLY what I needed and I’m grateful for it. I had an upcoming situation that I knew it was time to handle, but also knew I didn’t know how to, which is why it had slid by for so long. The blind spots I had were addressed precisely. While a good deal more data and a broader approach could be offered, this little book gave me the missing pieces I needed to quickly shift my life for the better.

[Madhu N · Rating 4 out of 5]

Quick read with good advice. This is a skill that everybody needs to learn in their life eventually and the author has done a good job of explaining how this can be done without hurting others feelings at the same time feeling we have done the right thing.

[Iami Menotu · Rating 1 out of 5]

An essay

[Pixie Kris · Rating 2 out of 5]

Found this over simplistic and too gender biased.

[Mithesh V M · Rating 4 out of 5]

A nice read

[Sarah Chase · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good book. I personally have an issue with saying no. So the 3-6 breathe technique works for me. Puts me in a calm place.

[Jitendra Vishen · Rating 4 out of 5]

I liked this small book. It put forwards a mechanism called EDC - Empathise, Describe, and clarify. And I Think can work if you use it properly.

I rate this book 4/5.

[Ronak · Rating 5 out of 5]

Nice and concise book

Concept is summarized in nice way. little explanation would have helped a lot though.
Overall good book to read in one seating.

[Sharon K. Woolsey · Rating 4 out of 5]

They Art of Saying No with Grace and Respect

A good book to help you say no in a unconvincing way. Breathing exercises to reduce stress before hand. A brief but effective way to proceed to a respectful NO.

[Akash Balwante · Rating 3 out of 5]

Its necessity to say no

This book gives us brief idea about the importance to say no as well as how to achieve same in our daily Life with very good tips.