“When I’m a parent, I’ll never…” Using the responses of over 500 LDS adults, Dr. Randal Wright developed this book on how to avoid the 25 most common parenting mistakes so you can become the extraordinary parents you want to be!
To be honest I only made it halfway through. At the beginning of the book he says this is based off of a survey that asked several LDS families what did their parents do right and what mistakes did they make. This is a compilation from the mistakes with quotes mixed in and personal stories. He said that the answers from the first question would be in a future book. I’d much rather read that but couldn’t find anything written by him yet. In our home I feel like the mistakes I kept reading about we were already doing well with not having a problem with. I’d much rather hear about the above and beyond good things others are doing to see what we might implement in our family. Also although he does list solutions to the mistakes because you start every chapter with a mistake the whole book has a much more negative feel.
A must-read for any LDS parent. Backed by research and the words of Church leaders, the author not only presents solutions to common parenting problems, but also gives compelling arguments for why those solutions should work--all while avoiding setting himself up as the final word on the subject. This book delivered exactly what it promised, and I believe the concepts inside will help my family for years to come.
The author starts out with a story that really engages the reader--right in the introduction! Each chapter focuses on a potential parenting mistake and is filled with real life stories, many from his own experiences, quote by prophets and other church leaders, scripture references, studies and statistics, and more. I found the combination of these to be fantastic. I didn't feel like I was being preached to and like I'm not doing anything right, yet I realized that there are some areas that I need to work on and I have some great ideas on how to go about making changes. Things were told in a straightforward and kind way.
There are 25 chapters--some of them are: quality time, the crossroads, family traditions, peer pressure, television, music, movies, parental examples, physical affection, family fun, discipline, steady dating, underage dating, communication, self-worth, and warning signs. There were funny stories and stories that made me stop and think. There were spiritual stories and tender moment.
This is a book that I will read again because it seems like there's something for everyone and as each child is different, I'm sure different things will pop out at me, depending on which child is on my mind at the moment.
A general book with some good points to beware of in your parenting. It mostly stated a lot of problems and didn't give a ton of specific solutions, but good for the novice self-help reader.