A pilgrim is a traveler who is on a journey to a holy place.
And, whether that holy place has an actual, physical location, like a Mecca or a Jerusalem, or is still yet to be determined by the traveler, “your sacred space is where you can find yourself again and again.” (Joseph Campbell)
The pilgrim in this story, Harold Fry, may be the unlikeliest pilgrim of all. He's a 65-year-old recent retiree who hasn't seen his son or slept in the same room as his wife in twenty years. Harold has “made a mess of being a husband, father, and friend. He had even made a mess of being a son. It wasn't simply that he had betrayed Queenie (his co-worker and friend), and that his parents did not want him. It wasn't simply that he had made a mess of everything with his wife and son. It was rather that he had passed through life and left no impression. He meant nothing.”
At the novel's beginning, Harold receives a letter from Queenie Hennessy, a former co-worker. In this letter, Queenie reveals that she is in a hospice in Northern England (at the border of Scotland), and that she is dying of a terminal cancer. She simply wanted to thank him for his friendship and bid him farewell.
And, though Harold is a man who wouldn't be described as either spiritual or spontaneous, he is provoked to start the unlikeliest pilgrimage to Queenie Hennessey's hospice on the other side of England. As readers, we don't understand why he wants to do this, and we don't understand how he's going to succeed, but nonetheless, he starts walking. Not driving. Walking.
And, it turns out, “life was very different when you walked through it.”
Harold learns pretty quickly that “you saw even more than the land when you got out of the car and used your feet.”
He's right. It is through this trek, this unlikely pilgrimage, that we come to know him, to see him. We come to know his wife, Maureen, back at the house, too.
And we, the readers, take this holy trek, too.
This is a true pilgrimage: painful, poignant, and humorous.
And the author, Rachel Joyce, punched her fist through my rib cage and pulled my heart out through the shards of bone, and whispered, ever so sweetly, “You'll suffer on this journey, too.”
Through her writing, I became a follower of Harold's, one of the lost ones who joined him. I wanted him to explain things to me, like. . . can you fix a marriage, once it's been shattered, and how do you win back the love of a grown child who has turned his face away from yours, and what, after all, is the true meaning of our existence?
But Harold doesn't have any more answers than you or I, he can only contribute that “not knowing was the biggest truth, and you had to stay with that.”
And Queenie can only contribute that she “had touched life, played with it a little, but it is a slippery bugger, and finally we must close the door, and leave it behind.”
Ouch, you guys, and DANG IT.
I followed Harold to the very end of this story, which is also a beginning, and I sobbed like a baby, too.
This book is a gift, and I received it.
We have not even to risk the adventure alone. The heroes of all time have gone before us. The labyrinth is thoroughly known. We have only to follow the thread of the hero's path, and where we had thought to find an abomination, we shall find a God. And where we had thought to slay another, we shall slay ourselves. Where we had thought to travel outward, we shall come to the center of our own existence. And where we had thought to be alone, we shall be with all the world.
(Joseph Campbell)