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50 Ways to Play: BDSM for Nice People
For the millions of readers who have been, shall we say, "inspired" by the publishing phenomenon 50 SHADES OF GRAY, this simple, accessible “beginners guide” to BDSM features 50 BDSM activities couples can sample. Warning: you should try this at home!
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112 pages, Paperback
First published June 29, 2012
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August 11, 2012
I didn't like BDSM before I read this short volume and I still don't like it. I have been flabbergasted as to the popularity of Fifty Shades of Grey with women. Then today I noticed this book in a side bar advertisement here at Goodreads. My first thought was oh great someone is going to cash in on the FSoG mania and end up getting people injured. I checked out the book on Amazon and the Kindle version was only $2.99 so I decided to read it out of curiosity. EDIT 8/11/2012: The price of this book in Kindle is now $8.99. No long curiosity priced for my budget!
As I mentioned above, I really dislike BDSM. I don't consider myself a prude, but I just don't feel that pain and humiliation have any place in a loving sexual relationship. I will grudgingly give this book credit that for a couple looking to dabble in BDSM, this is brief introduction--although I have some serious reservations. I would have been far happier if this book was simply devoted to a little kinky sex and role playing. You know, flip a coin to see who is going to be the dominant, "yes master" giggle, restraints loosely tied, a playful slap on the ass. All good fun stuff with no pain and no humiliation. Well let's put it this way, this book got far beyond simple role playing and fooling around for a little extra spice. Its going for the real deal, although the tamer versions, sort of BDSM lite. It delves into BDSM far more than I am willing to play, although for the couple just wanting to role play, you could certainly pick up ideas here--you don't have to do everything stated in the book.
The book is very short, print length of 112 pages, it is concise--except as noted below, and fairly well written although it does have a certain rushed quality to it. The book describes the various gear, rudimentary methods, and some cautions. It even suggests common house hold implements to replace the expensive gear and sex toys. Much of the book seemed to be vanilla sex (the pain free kind that I really love) hurriedly adapted to BDSM. It struck me that the authors are trying to ride FSoG's coattails before it becomes yesterday's thrill. Reading this book will not make you a master practitioner of BDSM. It will give you an introduction, and in my mind there in lies the danger of 50 Ways To Play.
Because the book is about real BDSM, albeit the kinder and gentler form, and not just simple role playing, I don't feel that the authors offer up sufficient cautions about what the couple is embarking on. The first few pages almost come off sounding like, "if you want to save your sex life, you have to try BDSM." I honestly believe that most people's sex lives will do just fine without any BDSM. So here is a list of reservations I have about this book.
--Insufficient cautions that BDSM is not for everyone.
--Insufficient explanation of the psychology of the dominant and submissive and how to handle the roles.
--Insufficient explanation on limits, safe words, and the safe - sane - consensual concepts. It is mentioned but almost in passing.
--Insufficient explanation on safety. One doesn't simply pick up a whip and start lashing someone's ass with it.
--No discussion of safe sex methods. The word condom does not appear in this book.
--No discussion of the need for contraception. Yes it should be obvious, but it does not hurt to remind people.
--No discussion on the potential dangers of an over enthusiastic dominant.
--No discussion on being sober and in a good frame of mind. BDSM, anger, alcohol and drugs do not mix.
To the book's credit it did offer a discussion on Aftercare, where the couple express care and love for each other. Like the rest of the book the chapter was brief, but at least it did provide a fleeting notion that some tenderness for each other may be in order.
To be honest, I do not like this book. I feel that it is basically a vanilla sex book (a good thing) which has been BDSM-ized to ride the cash wave of FSoG. I don't like the attitude that "OH try it, you will love it" as though BDSM was nothing more than some kinky technique on the order of nude massage or a really nifty sexual position. BDSM is a very intense method of sexual expression that can result in physical and psychological harm to the participants if incorrectly done and I question the wisdom of providing a rushed how to manual without adequately describing the dangers inherent in the activities and the psychological atmosphere of sado-masoshism. This book is an introduction, and I don't feel that BDSM is something that one should fool with based on a 112 page cursory introduction. For anyone seriously contemplating purchasing this book, read the Wikipedia article on BDSM and follow the links. Caution, some of the information and images provided in Wikipedia are disturbing...exactly what this book lacks.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BDSM
As I mentioned above, I really dislike BDSM. I don't consider myself a prude, but I just don't feel that pain and humiliation have any place in a loving sexual relationship. I will grudgingly give this book credit that for a couple looking to dabble in BDSM, this is brief introduction--although I have some serious reservations. I would have been far happier if this book was simply devoted to a little kinky sex and role playing. You know, flip a coin to see who is going to be the dominant, "yes master" giggle, restraints loosely tied, a playful slap on the ass. All good fun stuff with no pain and no humiliation. Well let's put it this way, this book got far beyond simple role playing and fooling around for a little extra spice. Its going for the real deal, although the tamer versions, sort of BDSM lite. It delves into BDSM far more than I am willing to play, although for the couple just wanting to role play, you could certainly pick up ideas here--you don't have to do everything stated in the book.
The book is very short, print length of 112 pages, it is concise--except as noted below, and fairly well written although it does have a certain rushed quality to it. The book describes the various gear, rudimentary methods, and some cautions. It even suggests common house hold implements to replace the expensive gear and sex toys. Much of the book seemed to be vanilla sex (the pain free kind that I really love) hurriedly adapted to BDSM. It struck me that the authors are trying to ride FSoG's coattails before it becomes yesterday's thrill. Reading this book will not make you a master practitioner of BDSM. It will give you an introduction, and in my mind there in lies the danger of 50 Ways To Play.
Because the book is about real BDSM, albeit the kinder and gentler form, and not just simple role playing, I don't feel that the authors offer up sufficient cautions about what the couple is embarking on. The first few pages almost come off sounding like, "if you want to save your sex life, you have to try BDSM." I honestly believe that most people's sex lives will do just fine without any BDSM. So here is a list of reservations I have about this book.
--Insufficient cautions that BDSM is not for everyone.
--Insufficient explanation of the psychology of the dominant and submissive and how to handle the roles.
--Insufficient explanation on limits, safe words, and the safe - sane - consensual concepts. It is mentioned but almost in passing.
--Insufficient explanation on safety. One doesn't simply pick up a whip and start lashing someone's ass with it.
--No discussion of safe sex methods. The word condom does not appear in this book.
--No discussion of the need for contraception. Yes it should be obvious, but it does not hurt to remind people.
--No discussion on the potential dangers of an over enthusiastic dominant.
--No discussion on being sober and in a good frame of mind. BDSM, anger, alcohol and drugs do not mix.
To the book's credit it did offer a discussion on Aftercare, where the couple express care and love for each other. Like the rest of the book the chapter was brief, but at least it did provide a fleeting notion that some tenderness for each other may be in order.
To be honest, I do not like this book. I feel that it is basically a vanilla sex book (a good thing) which has been BDSM-ized to ride the cash wave of FSoG. I don't like the attitude that "OH try it, you will love it" as though BDSM was nothing more than some kinky technique on the order of nude massage or a really nifty sexual position. BDSM is a very intense method of sexual expression that can result in physical and psychological harm to the participants if incorrectly done and I question the wisdom of providing a rushed how to manual without adequately describing the dangers inherent in the activities and the psychological atmosphere of sado-masoshism. This book is an introduction, and I don't feel that BDSM is something that one should fool with based on a 112 page cursory introduction. For anyone seriously contemplating purchasing this book, read the Wikipedia article on BDSM and follow the links. Caution, some of the information and images provided in Wikipedia are disturbing...exactly what this book lacks.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BDSM
July 25, 2012
I must have a dirty mind because I loved this. Loved Fifty Shades also (only read the first book). No, it wasn't War and Peace and neither is this, but both are lots of fun. I don't think this is really about BDSM, maybe really softcore BDSM but mostly its about KINK with some tying up and "high sensory" sexual experiences which was what we needed. Some people obviously find that immoral or weird or whatever, but there's my dirty mind again because I like it. I think people really need to lighten up about the whole Fifty Shades thing. I thought 50 Ways to Play was a fun although shorter book with plenty of caveats abouts mental and physical safety issues. Another reviewer had talked about that, but I didn't see that as a problem and frankly didn't find anything in the book to be dangerous if you have any common sense. I would have wanted this book to be a little longer but other than that a good choice as far as sex guides go.
July 13, 2012
This book begins with the husband-and-wife team writing: "Sex is supposed to pack a punch. It's supposed to take you off guard, make you hold your breath for what might come next, gasp with discovery, quicken your pulse and consume you, mind, body and soul." This slim volume certainly packs a punch.
Like a lot of people, I enjoyed FIFTY SHADES OF GREY (and before that series, Anne Rice's SLEEPING BEAUTY trilogy) and it certainly piqued my interest in BDSM. But, frankly, my imagination needed a jump-start when it came to translating fictional erotica into actual bedroom play.
The Macleods cover a wide variety of scenarios from glass toys, nipple clamps, electrostimulation, blindfolds and sensory deprivation, restraints, bondage positions and temperature play to the softer, soapier side of BDSM including lubricants (one kind heats up and another cools down).
I certainly got my moneys worth out of this gem and the 50 chapters got my blood pumping and adrenaline flowing.
Like a lot of people, I enjoyed FIFTY SHADES OF GREY (and before that series, Anne Rice's SLEEPING BEAUTY trilogy) and it certainly piqued my interest in BDSM. But, frankly, my imagination needed a jump-start when it came to translating fictional erotica into actual bedroom play.
The Macleods cover a wide variety of scenarios from glass toys, nipple clamps, electrostimulation, blindfolds and sensory deprivation, restraints, bondage positions and temperature play to the softer, soapier side of BDSM including lubricants (one kind heats up and another cools down).
I certainly got my moneys worth out of this gem and the 50 chapters got my blood pumping and adrenaline flowing.
July 25, 2012
Great book for people who want to mix things up a bit without being over the top
August 2, 2012
50 Ways to Play was very informative. Throughout the book it references to other sections of the book so you can easily just skip to the parts you want to read without being confused about what they are referring to, which is a great quality about this book. It included many details for each section. I'm not sure if I would do any of the things mentioned in the book but it was informative and was a good read. It was easy to understand which is a plus. I received the book for free through Goodreads First Reads.
July 25, 2012
This is exactly what so many couples look for but are hesitant to ask about!! Inspiring fun way to ignite some spark into our busy crazy lives and think about each other finally...in a fun and not so boring way!!!! Let's have a bit of reality in our lives...way to go for the Macleod's...job well done!! I am recommending this to all!!
July 16, 2012
Reads like a how to manual. Not bad and there are some things in my household I will never look at quite the same way again. lol Though is a nice reference if you want to add more to you sex life.
December 3, 2012
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Judging a book by its cover (yeah, don’t give me that look, we all do it!) it didn't look like much and to be honest, the “for Nice People” didn't make me want to take this book serious and it actually bothered me. Are people who practice BDSM not nice? Of course not!! Jeez! A better title would have been “Intro to BDSM” or “BDSM for Newbies” (okay, so that’s not really a good title, but it brings truth to the book!) or even “Curious about BDSM”. Well, you get the idea.
Moving on……
This is an introduction to the world of BDSM. It doesn't dive deep into BDSM, rather it leads those who are curious in possibly starting their journey at a leisurely pace. The authors have provided the readers with a glimpse of the BDSM world and provided enough information to help guide them in the process of new discoveries. They did a great job in simplifying terms and letting the reader to know it’s not all about whips, chains, and restraints. Oh My!
Again, this is an introductory book into a world that isn't simple. There’s lots of emotions and trust between the partners that needs to be had. This is a great book though for a couple who wants to add a little spice to bedroom (or any other room or no rooms at all).
The book did crack me up in two places and I’ll share one with you all now.
“Section 19 – Talk Dirty to Me
Voice tone is another element of dirty talk that should be considered. Dirty talk should be low, throaty and erotic. Remember: you’re reveling in sexual abandon, not placing an order at a drive-thru window.”
Okay, tell me that you’re not imagining the scene in your head…. Right?
I was surprised that I liked the book as much as I did. I was concerned that it would be adding to the misconception of what BDSM entails due to the popular book its referencing but they did a good job bringing it down to the basics and simplifying it.
Yes! I did highlight some things. I’m sure you would too! ;)
Judging a book by its cover (yeah, don’t give me that look, we all do it!) it didn't look like much and to be honest, the “for Nice People” didn't make me want to take this book serious and it actually bothered me. Are people who practice BDSM not nice? Of course not!! Jeez! A better title would have been “Intro to BDSM” or “BDSM for Newbies” (okay, so that’s not really a good title, but it brings truth to the book!) or even “Curious about BDSM”. Well, you get the idea.
Moving on……
This is an introduction to the world of BDSM. It doesn't dive deep into BDSM, rather it leads those who are curious in possibly starting their journey at a leisurely pace. The authors have provided the readers with a glimpse of the BDSM world and provided enough information to help guide them in the process of new discoveries. They did a great job in simplifying terms and letting the reader to know it’s not all about whips, chains, and restraints. Oh My!
Again, this is an introductory book into a world that isn't simple. There’s lots of emotions and trust between the partners that needs to be had. This is a great book though for a couple who wants to add a little spice to bedroom (or any other room or no rooms at all).
The book did crack me up in two places and I’ll share one with you all now.
“Section 19 – Talk Dirty to Me
Voice tone is another element of dirty talk that should be considered. Dirty talk should be low, throaty and erotic. Remember: you’re reveling in sexual abandon, not placing an order at a drive-thru window.”
Okay, tell me that you’re not imagining the scene in your head…. Right?
I was surprised that I liked the book as much as I did. I was concerned that it would be adding to the misconception of what BDSM entails due to the popular book its referencing but they did a good job bringing it down to the basics and simplifying it.
Yes! I did highlight some things. I’m sure you would too! ;)
September 27, 2012
Talking dirty, bondage and spanking was about all I know of BDSM and that's through some erotic romances. 50 Ways To Play brings out a whole arsenal of tricks and tips to spice up a bedroom with some good non-sex related advises as well. Like how unsexy a bedroom can be and how to spice it up - though let's be honest I won't be painting my bedroom a bordello red anytime soon, ;)
Sex is supposed to be exciting and adventurous, and the vanilla sex most couples think they should be having can easily be spiced up! One way to do so? Read 50 Ways To Play : BDSM For Nice People! Now one won't necessarily wanna try out all of them, like the whole sadism and masochism side freaks me out, but seriously who doesn't want a little dirty talk and the occasional little smack on the butt for being a bad girl. ;)
Debra and Don Macleod have written a clean tricks and tips book about something quite dirty. Dirty in a good way. 50 Ways To Play : BDSM For Nice People is no nonsense guide book to knowing what BDSM is and how to get started, it's also quite a hot read and you'll definitely wanna show it to your significant other and go, "Wanna try this chapter out?" I sure will, though as this is a public blog, I won't tell... ;) But all men should take a look at chapter 36. Sexual Positions & Thrusting Technique. Just saying.
So who is 50 Ways To Play : BDSM For Nice People for - not your average nun I'm sure or your grandmother ( though I won't guarantee that ) but those who are bored with the three mainstream positions of missionary, cowgirl and doggy style will be sure to get something out of this book! If you want your man to talk dirty to you, get a little rough in the bedroom or give you a spanking - but don't know how to go about it then this book is for you.
Can't find any fault in this book, it gives just what it says it will - and does it professionally! Awesome job Macleods!
Sex is supposed to be exciting and adventurous, and the vanilla sex most couples think they should be having can easily be spiced up! One way to do so? Read 50 Ways To Play : BDSM For Nice People! Now one won't necessarily wanna try out all of them, like the whole sadism and masochism side freaks me out, but seriously who doesn't want a little dirty talk and the occasional little smack on the butt for being a bad girl. ;)
Debra and Don Macleod have written a clean tricks and tips book about something quite dirty. Dirty in a good way. 50 Ways To Play : BDSM For Nice People is no nonsense guide book to knowing what BDSM is and how to get started, it's also quite a hot read and you'll definitely wanna show it to your significant other and go, "Wanna try this chapter out?" I sure will, though as this is a public blog, I won't tell... ;) But all men should take a look at chapter 36. Sexual Positions & Thrusting Technique. Just saying.
So who is 50 Ways To Play : BDSM For Nice People for - not your average nun I'm sure or your grandmother ( though I won't guarantee that ) but those who are bored with the three mainstream positions of missionary, cowgirl and doggy style will be sure to get something out of this book! If you want your man to talk dirty to you, get a little rough in the bedroom or give you a spanking - but don't know how to go about it then this book is for you.
Can't find any fault in this book, it gives just what it says it will - and does it professionally! Awesome job Macleods!
April 8, 2015
This book reads like stereo instructions, and is easy to follow. It's great for generating questions about the subculture and forcing a person to do more research into their specific sexual tastes.
However I feel that some of the substitutions offered in the book are a little unsafe, with safety being the key in any kind of BDSM activity. But one book cannot cover all the things that could go wrong, So it is up to the reader to study in more depth the activities they choose to engage in.
However I feel that some of the substitutions offered in the book are a little unsafe, with safety being the key in any kind of BDSM activity. But one book cannot cover all the things that could go wrong, So it is up to the reader to study in more depth the activities they choose to engage in.
July 26, 2012
After receiving a copy in the mail I was curious enough to read the first page and then continued. It is a quick read, I was through half the book within the first hour. This is not a book I would personally pay $10 for. I would see it more of a step by step how to and would probably buy it as a part of a theme gift rather than something to decorate my book shelf. For those that enjoyed 50 shades of Grey its a nice companion that more or less sums up the three books in a more directional way.
July 31, 2012
I won this book on good reads. This is very different from what I usually read, but I was interested to see what it had to say. First of all BDSM is not for everyone. It was a short book but I found it informative, well written and very eye opening. Depending on what you may be into is to if this book is for you.
July 26, 2012
This book was a good reads giveaway. Lot's of fun.
July 27, 2012
Insightful and fun read into the world of BDSM. I redecorated my bedroom based on the tips I read in here :)
February 5, 2018
I hated this book because it didn't get into any details about BDSM. I felt like the authors downloaded an encyclopedia about BDSM and formatted it a little bit, then went straight to publishing. Every chapter is damn too short and kind of theoretic. I can not suggest it to anyone.
August 24, 2012
Full review can be seen at Seductive Musings.
I read the book first and then gave it to my husband. It’s a quick read and we were each able to finish it in a couple of hours. We both thought it was a very user friendly book and appreciated the small bits of humor that were thrown in. It starts out with the basics and gives easy to understand descriptions of the methods and tools used in BDSM. I liked that everything was presented and it was up to us to pick and choose which things were appealing to us. My husband was happy to see that the authors covered such a wide range of topics. They went from extremely basic concepts all the way through more advanced practices. We agreed that this book would be good for people just discovering BDSM or with only a little bit of experience. We fall into the slightly experienced category so it was great for us.
When we finally had some uninterrupted, child-free time, we sat down and discussed all 50 ideas in depth. My husband and I regularly talk about fantasies and turn-ons, so I was surprised at how many topics the book brought up that we had never discussed before. There were things we both dismissed immediately, some things only one of us found arousing, things we had been doing previously, and then the new things we both found appealing and wanted to try. We each learned some new things about our partner that day. We ended up talking and shopping for new toys online for a couple of hours. It was fun and a nice bonding experience for us.
There were a few things we weren’t impressed with. We both thought that kitchen utensils as sex toys or spanking devices weren’t a great idea. My husband thought the detailed thrusting techniques for penetration were common knowledge and most of them should not have been included. I disagreed and told him that if he already knew all of them, he should have been using more of those techniques previously :) I thought the anal play and anal sex sections were lacking in a lot of details. My husband disagreed and said I have an abnormal interest in all things anal and it was more than adequate for normal people :)
In the end, we were already practicing 24 items, we dismissed 19 items due to lack of mutual interest, and that left 7 new things we plan on trying. We have a fairly well stocked toy box but decided to add a few more things to it. My husband has been wanting a special piece of furniture for a while now and finally convinced me that it would be a good idea with the help of this book. The others were variations in practice or behavior we plan on adding. Some of them have already been tried and approved and others are still waiting to be tried. None of them are going to drastically change our sex life, they will simply add a bit more variation in what we’ve been doing. I think the biggest benefit for us was getting to know each other and our turn-ons a little bit better and we have this book to thank for that.
I read the book first and then gave it to my husband. It’s a quick read and we were each able to finish it in a couple of hours. We both thought it was a very user friendly book and appreciated the small bits of humor that were thrown in. It starts out with the basics and gives easy to understand descriptions of the methods and tools used in BDSM. I liked that everything was presented and it was up to us to pick and choose which things were appealing to us. My husband was happy to see that the authors covered such a wide range of topics. They went from extremely basic concepts all the way through more advanced practices. We agreed that this book would be good for people just discovering BDSM or with only a little bit of experience. We fall into the slightly experienced category so it was great for us.
When we finally had some uninterrupted, child-free time, we sat down and discussed all 50 ideas in depth. My husband and I regularly talk about fantasies and turn-ons, so I was surprised at how many topics the book brought up that we had never discussed before. There were things we both dismissed immediately, some things only one of us found arousing, things we had been doing previously, and then the new things we both found appealing and wanted to try. We each learned some new things about our partner that day. We ended up talking and shopping for new toys online for a couple of hours. It was fun and a nice bonding experience for us.
There were a few things we weren’t impressed with. We both thought that kitchen utensils as sex toys or spanking devices weren’t a great idea. My husband thought the detailed thrusting techniques for penetration were common knowledge and most of them should not have been included. I disagreed and told him that if he already knew all of them, he should have been using more of those techniques previously :) I thought the anal play and anal sex sections were lacking in a lot of details. My husband disagreed and said I have an abnormal interest in all things anal and it was more than adequate for normal people :)
In the end, we were already practicing 24 items, we dismissed 19 items due to lack of mutual interest, and that left 7 new things we plan on trying. We have a fairly well stocked toy box but decided to add a few more things to it. My husband has been wanting a special piece of furniture for a while now and finally convinced me that it would be a good idea with the help of this book. The others were variations in practice or behavior we plan on adding. Some of them have already been tried and approved and others are still waiting to be tried. None of them are going to drastically change our sex life, they will simply add a bit more variation in what we’ve been doing. I think the biggest benefit for us was getting to know each other and our turn-ons a little bit better and we have this book to thank for that.
February 17, 2014
Reviewed by Deana
Book provided by NetGalley for review
Review originally posted at Romancing the Book
50 Ways to Play is a great on the surface look at the world of BDSM. For some people this topic is very taboo and for others it is an everyday lifestyle. For people like me who want to know more and are a bit too shy to ask, this book is a great starting point. 50 Ways to Play: BDSM for Nice People is the perfect book to start a new journey which can increase your basic knowledge taking you from reader to partaking.
I thought it was a very user friendly book and enjoyed the small bits of wit and humor that were though out the book. It begins out with the basics and gives easy to understand descriptions of the practices and tools used in BDSM. I liked how everything was presented, allowing the reader to pick and choose which things were appealing without going beyond your own safe area. I was happy to see that the authors covered such a wide range of topics. They went from simple, basic concepts all the way through more advanced practices. I think this book is good for people just discovering BDSM or with only a little bit of experience. Or the people that just want to spice up your love life.
I enjoyed reading this book and learned a few things through reading. You may find it amazing what can be considered a BDSM act!!
Book provided by NetGalley for review
Review originally posted at Romancing the Book
50 Ways to Play is a great on the surface look at the world of BDSM. For some people this topic is very taboo and for others it is an everyday lifestyle. For people like me who want to know more and are a bit too shy to ask, this book is a great starting point. 50 Ways to Play: BDSM for Nice People is the perfect book to start a new journey which can increase your basic knowledge taking you from reader to partaking.
I thought it was a very user friendly book and enjoyed the small bits of wit and humor that were though out the book. It begins out with the basics and gives easy to understand descriptions of the practices and tools used in BDSM. I liked how everything was presented, allowing the reader to pick and choose which things were appealing without going beyond your own safe area. I was happy to see that the authors covered such a wide range of topics. They went from simple, basic concepts all the way through more advanced practices. I think this book is good for people just discovering BDSM or with only a little bit of experience. Or the people that just want to spice up your love life.
I enjoyed reading this book and learned a few things through reading. You may find it amazing what can be considered a BDSM act!!
February 5, 2017
The closest thing I knew about BDSM came from fifty shades of grey. At that time, it was very new to me. I read all 3 books and it turned out to be more or less of fan fiction or smut writing. To be honest, I will never get to apply the knowledge that I get from this book based on 2 reasons :
1) My religion forbid me to have any sexual relationship outside of marriage.
2) I will never get married because I despise the marriage institution.
*I'm sure you can connect the dot. Why I read it despite all of this? My best friend bought it for me just to play around. When I got it, I was a bit embarrassed but being a book lover, I can't just ditch it so I read it. To sum it up, I'm sure majority of readers finding this book provide so many assistance on the subject concerned based on the given rating.
1) My religion forbid me to have any sexual relationship outside of marriage.
2) I will never get married because I despise the marriage institution.
*I'm sure you can connect the dot. Why I read it despite all of this? My best friend bought it for me just to play around. When I got it, I was a bit embarrassed but being a book lover, I can't just ditch it so I read it. To sum it up, I'm sure majority of readers finding this book provide so many assistance on the subject concerned based on the given rating.
February 13, 2017
nice primer but not a ton of substance
October 3, 2014
Obtained: Through Goodreads First Reads
Okay, so 50 Ways to Play: BDSM for Nice People had me totally, one-hundred percent, absolutely fooled. It was stated that this book was like Fifty Shades of Grey, so thinking it was something similar to Fifty Shades of Grey and not a book full of -ahem- ways to get dangerously down and dirty, I entered the giveaway. And surprisingly won.
When I finally received the book and opened it up to a random page, I was scarred for life. Then I actually did some minor research on Fifty Shades of Grey and well, it explained everything.
Maybe I'll actually enjoy and love 50 Ways to Play: BDSM for Nice People when I grow older and can actually use the book. I don't know.
Okay, so 50 Ways to Play: BDSM for Nice People had me totally, one-hundred percent, absolutely fooled. It was stated that this book was like Fifty Shades of Grey, so thinking it was something similar to Fifty Shades of Grey and not a book full of -ahem- ways to get dangerously down and dirty, I entered the giveaway. And surprisingly won.
When I finally received the book and opened it up to a random page, I was scarred for life. Then I actually did some minor research on Fifty Shades of Grey and well, it explained everything.
Maybe I'll actually enjoy and love 50 Ways to Play: BDSM for Nice People when I grow older and can actually use the book. I don't know.
December 6, 2012
Shey's review posted on Guilty Pleasures Book Reviews
4 Stars
I won’t be shy, I jumped on this one to review hell it even came with some rope!! After 23 years of marriage I mean who isn’t looking for a little spice but not wanting to hit full on BDSM this book hit on many highlights than even “nice people” can handle.
This short book covered quite a bit from the basic what is BDSM all the way to Aftercare and everything in between and I do mean EVERYTHING!!!
I will be honest I am a BDSM junkie but this book lays it all out for you and not in romantic terms. We are talking the nitty gritty! It was wonderfully written and with a little added humor as well. If you have any thoughts about BDSM and are curious, start out small and start out here with this insightful and very informative read you will not be disappointed!!!
Review copy provided for an honest review.
4 Stars
I won’t be shy, I jumped on this one to review hell it even came with some rope!! After 23 years of marriage I mean who isn’t looking for a little spice but not wanting to hit full on BDSM this book hit on many highlights than even “nice people” can handle.
This short book covered quite a bit from the basic what is BDSM all the way to Aftercare and everything in between and I do mean EVERYTHING!!!
I will be honest I am a BDSM junkie but this book lays it all out for you and not in romantic terms. We are talking the nitty gritty! It was wonderfully written and with a little added humor as well. If you have any thoughts about BDSM and are curious, start out small and start out here with this insightful and very informative read you will not be disappointed!!!
Review copy provided for an honest review.
September 14, 2012
Husband and wife writing team, Don and Debra Macleod take readers through 50 elements of BDSM and how "nice" people might incorporate them into their sexual routine. While this might not be something that everyone will enjoy reading, for any reader who enjoys a good BDSM story it might give you some ideas of even some small aspects of BDSM can enter be put to use.
It was interesting and fun (like reading the Kama Sutra). If nothing else, it will make you think about your sexual relationship(s) and see if you might want to incorporate some of these elements.
It was interesting and fun (like reading the Kama Sutra). If nothing else, it will make you think about your sexual relationship(s) and see if you might want to incorporate some of these elements.
April 21, 2014
This book lacks fantasy, even when it wants to engourage it...it's very much stuck in the gender roles, and sees things way too narrowly. I think dominatrixes I know would be offended by the way it sees female Dominants...and I think that a book for complete beginners should always include pictures or sketches to make some things more understandable, because safety of these practices depends on it...
February 18, 2013
Received this one as a first reads giveaway. I thought it might be a fun twist to the "50 shades" craze. I was to say the least somewhat disappointed. If you are in a relationship talk to your partner. Healthy communication is the best way to spice up your love life, from there you can find out anything you want to try from the internet.
September 15, 2012
Not the best book to give to a beginer. Some things could have been explained better than what they were so a novice could possibly avoid injuring their partner. It's basically several Cosmo sex tips in one short read. I'd just buy a copy of cosmo and read their tips, at least they offer up some nice man candy to look at.
September 8, 2012
First-reads Review: Won this book in a giveaway and it was introduction into a world that I only knew from the "50 shades" phenomenon. It gives definitions and descriptions of the world of BDSM that normalizes while adequately preserving the "naughty".
October 2, 2012
This could be dubbed as an instruction manual for kinky fuckery! It was insightful and a good bedside read with great suggestions for steaming up your sex life. But beware! it is mildly graphic but with good descriptions. :o
March 23, 2023
Excellent book!!!
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December 9, 2012didnt really read the title properly when i bought this neverthess a good read with some excellent tips for spicing up your sex life
September 4, 2013
This was a good beginner's guide.
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