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Ten Powerful Things to Say to Your Kids: Creating the relationship you want with the most important people in your life
Gold Medal Winner - Best Parenting Book! Independent Publisher Book Awards.
Whether you re a parent, teacher, grandparent, counselor, or school volunteer, you will find practical, down-to-earth ideas for creating remarkable relationships with the children in your life. Paul Axtell has spent twenty-five years helping individuals in enhance their personal effectiveness by changing the way they look at relationships and conversation. In this book, he applies that wisdom to navigating life as a parent. He helps you think about your conversations in a new light and guides you toward deeper, more meaningful connections. Father to two wonderful adults and grandfather to thirteen children in his blended family, he knows it's never too late to work on creating great relationships.
"This book should come with every newborn. The new parents would be grateful and so would their children." Donna Hughes, retired nurse, Davenport, IA
"I've worked with Paul Axtell in the corporate environment and watched some of these same principles strengthen relationships in the workplace. As a father of three teen-aged daughters, I am thrilled to see him extend this work to the family. Read the book. You'll see powerful and immediate results!" Phil Eckman, President & CEO, Transamerica Retirement Management
"Ten Powerful Things not only creates great relationships with kids, it will create great kids." Elle Allison, author of What Wise People Do and Renewal Coaching
"This book sheds a powerful new light on connecting with your children that is clear and straight-forward." Melissa Thomas, Licensed Professional Counselor, Eugene, OR
"This should be required reading for every teacher." Kathy Rades, retired teacher, Lakewood, WA
"This book raises awareness, which creates the opportunity to be more purposeful and intentional about our relationships with our children. A wonderful read!" Robert Boyle, Milan, IL
"This was the best investment of two hours and the best parenting book that I have ever read." Stacy Callahan, Overland, KS
"Reading this book has made me more attuned to parent/child conversations and relationships in general. It s also helping me with my boys, even though they are in college." Don Gallagher, Olathe, KS
"We all want our children to grow up to be successful, caring individuals. How we talk to them now has great influence on this, and the ideas in this book can help us change the conversation." Liz James, Davenport, IA
"With today's demanding schedules, our time with our kids is so limited. Ten Powerful Things to Say to Your Kids highlights ways to make these precious moments even more meaningful while building powerful relationships with those we care about most." Aaron Wetzel, Vice President Sales and Marketing, Deere & Co., Latin America
"I love that it is an easy read, which is helpful when you are a busy mom with limited time. Plus, you don't want to feel intimidated when reading a parenting book because the job is intimidating enough!" Jennifer Schmidt, Appleton, WI
Whether you re a parent, teacher, grandparent, counselor, or school volunteer, you will find practical, down-to-earth ideas for creating remarkable relationships with the children in your life. Paul Axtell has spent twenty-five years helping individuals in enhance their personal effectiveness by changing the way they look at relationships and conversation. In this book, he applies that wisdom to navigating life as a parent. He helps you think about your conversations in a new light and guides you toward deeper, more meaningful connections. Father to two wonderful adults and grandfather to thirteen children in his blended family, he knows it's never too late to work on creating great relationships.
"This book should come with every newborn. The new parents would be grateful and so would their children." Donna Hughes, retired nurse, Davenport, IA
"I've worked with Paul Axtell in the corporate environment and watched some of these same principles strengthen relationships in the workplace. As a father of three teen-aged daughters, I am thrilled to see him extend this work to the family. Read the book. You'll see powerful and immediate results!" Phil Eckman, President & CEO, Transamerica Retirement Management
"Ten Powerful Things not only creates great relationships with kids, it will create great kids." Elle Allison, author of What Wise People Do and Renewal Coaching
"This book sheds a powerful new light on connecting with your children that is clear and straight-forward." Melissa Thomas, Licensed Professional Counselor, Eugene, OR
"This should be required reading for every teacher." Kathy Rades, retired teacher, Lakewood, WA
"This book raises awareness, which creates the opportunity to be more purposeful and intentional about our relationships with our children. A wonderful read!" Robert Boyle, Milan, IL
"This was the best investment of two hours and the best parenting book that I have ever read." Stacy Callahan, Overland, KS
"Reading this book has made me more attuned to parent/child conversations and relationships in general. It s also helping me with my boys, even though they are in college." Don Gallagher, Olathe, KS
"We all want our children to grow up to be successful, caring individuals. How we talk to them now has great influence on this, and the ideas in this book can help us change the conversation." Liz James, Davenport, IA
"With today's demanding schedules, our time with our kids is so limited. Ten Powerful Things to Say to Your Kids highlights ways to make these precious moments even more meaningful while building powerful relationships with those we care about most." Aaron Wetzel, Vice President Sales and Marketing, Deere & Co., Latin America
"I love that it is an easy read, which is helpful when you are a busy mom with limited time. Plus, you don't want to feel intimidated when reading a parenting book because the job is intimidating enough!" Jennifer Schmidt, Appleton, WI
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196 pages, Paperback
First published November 1, 2011
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August 21, 2016
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July 16, 2020
I need to pull this off my shelf and read it again!
February 25, 2021
This book is AMAZING. Whether you have children or you work with children, you need to read this book!!!
October 28, 2013
I read this because I am taking a religion class where I have to work on my language for 5 weeks. I decided to go beyond just eliminating negative language and to try to embrace language that will build and strengthen others. I liked the opening chapters. There are lots of good quotes and the author really helped me to internalize how important language is in raising our children. Once we got to the 10 things I quickly remembered...oh man, this is a self-help book and I don't like self-help books. I was a little bored in those chapters with the stories and heroic examples of how I could be so much more effective and robotic in the way I speak to my children, but like I said, I do not like self-help books. There were still some good ideas and quotes throughout and I did like the chapter on saying yes as well as the questions at the end of each chapter to help the reader evaluate how they ranked at that particular skill and where they could improve. I will say that this helped me to be more aware of what I do say and what I could say so I liked it, just wish self-help authors could learn to present their material in a less self-helpy way.
August 25, 2013
This was a great book and I will probably read it again someday. At first I just read quickly through the 10 things (thinking I could just cut to the chase and start saying these phrases to my kids at breakfast), but therein lies the problem, right? The parent who wants the quick answer instead of stopping & listening....! And the stopping & listening seems to be the key - - in order to develop the relationship you always thought you'd have with you kid, it takes work, time & your attention. It opened my eyes to that, but I know that these lessons will require continual refreshers!
December 23, 2014
This is a wonderful book! I will be coming back to this one many more times I am sure. I want to be more intentional with building strong relationships with my kids and this book has so many great tips and ideas. The whole book was great but I also felt the end section, "ideas into action", had some really helpful examples of ways to communicate. Overall, the author made me more aware of how I talk and listen to my kids (and my husband) and motivated me to be intentional and build my kids up in a meaningful way.
July 27, 2012
I really felt this book was relevant to my life. It is a book for parents but can work in any relationship. My advice is for young parents to get it ASAP and start the communication now. I particularly like the problem solving communication technique found in the "Let's agree to.." chapter. What a great tool to teach your children and yourself how t communicate through a problem. I am also trying to apply the techniques in my marriage.
May 18, 2016
This was a very uplifting, though at times wordy, book that parents and caregivers of small children (and even teenagers) can use to bridge the gap in communication and help children gain a better sense of self-confidence. The author encourages the reader to set aside time to reconnect and visibly take interest in the lives of their young charges.
July 24, 2012
This book can apply to so many relationships. I loved the ideas and insights the author has. It's a short fast read. Well worth reading. There are too many parenting books and this author is like the readers digest version of some.
May 26, 2016
Me puso a pensar cómo somos las personas cuando hablamos por hablar y no nos damos cuenta de lo que estamos programando en la cabeza de los niños principalmente pero también de las personas adultas con las que convivimos
August 14, 2018
I loved this book- there are so many great tips and ideas of how to interact better with your kids. Every parent and grandparent can benefit from it. It is well worth your time. I plan to refer back to it in the future.
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July 2, 2015Great advise - food for thought!
October 8, 2012
Great reminders of how to improve our relationships with our kids
June 15, 2015
A very fast read with wonderful advice!
March 21, 2016
Quick read, good reminder that our words can affect others (especially the smallest ones) more than we think. Keep your words sweet, you may have to eat them.
July 10, 2019
Muy bien explicado que decir a los pequeños y por que
January 31, 2018
What I appreciated most about this book was the realistic tone. So many of us are ill trained in the art of productive conversing with are kids. Our guts tell us the methods of our parents were at best counter-productive, yet we find ourselves falling into this patterns. Paul Axtell exams the most commonly used phrases parents say to their kids with "No" being at the top of the list. He speaks on why these phrases dominate our conversations with our kids and offers replacement phrases and exercises to help cultivate the relationship you want with your little people!
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