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Nice Guys Don't Get Laid
A tongue-in-cheek synopsis of the dating scene - one man's point of view of what women are attracted to and what they are not. Biting, humorous text accompanied by slick pen and ink line drawings, featuring popular hot spots. Highlights feature a Nice Guy test complete with celebrity examples and complete descriptions of three types- Mr. Nice Guy, Mr. Average and Mr. Abuse.
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93 pages, Paperback
First published June 1, 1993
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August 17, 2017
Very funny book and a Great Read that could fall into the Self Help section!
There is a new edition, by the way, on this book. I read the 3rd Edition from an Amazon order. This one is 178 Pages.
For me, the fatal attraction women have for bad, obnoxious, even stupid, abusive and dangerous men has always been the ultimate mystery to me. Now, I understand why so many women are attracted to those men.
AND, I understand why I was not attractive. So I changed that. It was easier than I thought and I did not have to sell my soul and become the type man I despise.
Yet it is very funny because it calls out a lot of situations we have all been in, men and women. If you want to start an interesting discussion, leave it on your coffee table. I was surprised how many women seem to agree with the title, Nice Guys Don't Get Laid. For those that don't, agree, you have the information to crush their belief that women make smart decisions in relationships. Just turn to "Translation Guide for Women, Dating a Bad Boy", on page 29 to have any woman laughing. Most will say they have said "at least" one of the statements listed.
Chapter 5, "How To Tell If You Are a Nice Guy", was difficult for me, because it was convicting. I had multiple flashbacks of failed attempts and bad relationships. But knowledge is power. Chapter 8, "Reprograming the Nice Guy" starts a satirical parade of what to do to change your condition and make you the "chick magnet" you want to be, but actually brings the point home, multiple times, why women are a mystery to men and why the Bad Boy wins out.
PART II is the addition to the original book pictured and is based on the author's experience when doing the radio, media, and television circuit. The question kept coming up about what to do to change a Nice Guy into someone attractive.
I agree. Part I made the reader aware of the Bad Boy Attraction but did not quite give a direction for change. Part 1 is funny and great satire but you do leave it without much to work with. Part II, answers the question, "Ok, I'm a Nice Guy and a loser, what do I do about it." Plus it gives a lot of, what could be called case studies (Bad Boys Hall of Fame, Part II Chapter 7), that came from readers and reporters that did interviews of Meleton.
"Women mistake arrogance for confidence," answers a big question I had. Why does a clearly marked Jerk always have a girlfriend or multiple girlfriends? The answer is that he IS a jerk and most women can't seem to read that element until they are 30 and experienced several of that species. "How to get the Hot, God Digger Barbie, You Truly Desire", returns to the Satire vein of the book.
Then there is PART III. "Bad Boys for Dummies". If you want a list of Rules to follow, it is all there. The book was worth just those pages. Some of the rules on the list seem absurd until you think back on your experience or failures. Very eye opening. The author mentions that the book was made required reading in a sociology class at a university. Part III could be the reason, as well as much of the rest of the book. I would have liked to have seen the discussions in that class.
Pick it up, read it, give it to a nice guy who can't get dates or to a woman in an abusive relationship. I did not find women took offense to the text. It is not a "How to be a jerk to get women" book. It is very funny but really gets you to a point where you can read a woman. You can call a woman out when she tries to plug you into a nice guy box and it teaches you when to walk when you should ditch someone you are attracted to. If for nothing else, "confidence" will be less of an issue, anymore. That was a big lesson. I forgot to point that one out. There were so many.
There is a new edition, by the way, on this book. I read the 3rd Edition from an Amazon order. This one is 178 Pages.
For me, the fatal attraction women have for bad, obnoxious, even stupid, abusive and dangerous men has always been the ultimate mystery to me. Now, I understand why so many women are attracted to those men.
AND, I understand why I was not attractive. So I changed that. It was easier than I thought and I did not have to sell my soul and become the type man I despise.
Yet it is very funny because it calls out a lot of situations we have all been in, men and women. If you want to start an interesting discussion, leave it on your coffee table. I was surprised how many women seem to agree with the title, Nice Guys Don't Get Laid. For those that don't, agree, you have the information to crush their belief that women make smart decisions in relationships. Just turn to "Translation Guide for Women, Dating a Bad Boy", on page 29 to have any woman laughing. Most will say they have said "at least" one of the statements listed.
Chapter 5, "How To Tell If You Are a Nice Guy", was difficult for me, because it was convicting. I had multiple flashbacks of failed attempts and bad relationships. But knowledge is power. Chapter 8, "Reprograming the Nice Guy" starts a satirical parade of what to do to change your condition and make you the "chick magnet" you want to be, but actually brings the point home, multiple times, why women are a mystery to men and why the Bad Boy wins out.
PART II is the addition to the original book pictured and is based on the author's experience when doing the radio, media, and television circuit. The question kept coming up about what to do to change a Nice Guy into someone attractive.
I agree. Part I made the reader aware of the Bad Boy Attraction but did not quite give a direction for change. Part 1 is funny and great satire but you do leave it without much to work with. Part II, answers the question, "Ok, I'm a Nice Guy and a loser, what do I do about it." Plus it gives a lot of, what could be called case studies (Bad Boys Hall of Fame, Part II Chapter 7), that came from readers and reporters that did interviews of Meleton.
"Women mistake arrogance for confidence," answers a big question I had. Why does a clearly marked Jerk always have a girlfriend or multiple girlfriends? The answer is that he IS a jerk and most women can't seem to read that element until they are 30 and experienced several of that species. "How to get the Hot, God Digger Barbie, You Truly Desire", returns to the Satire vein of the book.
Then there is PART III. "Bad Boys for Dummies". If you want a list of Rules to follow, it is all there. The book was worth just those pages. Some of the rules on the list seem absurd until you think back on your experience or failures. Very eye opening. The author mentions that the book was made required reading in a sociology class at a university. Part III could be the reason, as well as much of the rest of the book. I would have liked to have seen the discussions in that class.
Pick it up, read it, give it to a nice guy who can't get dates or to a woman in an abusive relationship. I did not find women took offense to the text. It is not a "How to be a jerk to get women" book. It is very funny but really gets you to a point where you can read a woman. You can call a woman out when she tries to plug you into a nice guy box and it teaches you when to walk when you should ditch someone you are attracted to. If for nothing else, "confidence" will be less of an issue, anymore. That was a big lesson. I forgot to point that one out. There were so many.
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June 20, 2007It's true that Meleton doesn't give prescriptions, but nor does he emit the stupid criticisms I've heard elsewhere: that "nice guys" are boring, too nice, or basically, not macho sexists. His picture of nice guys' situation in dating is painfully on the money, as many of us know and few seem willing to discuss. Whether to laugh, cry or become a jerk is not clear. I can make a strong case that dating is sexist, even that male initiation of and paying for dates is linked to rape (I call dating soft-core prostitution). Whether to remain the sensitive but lonely "nice guy" (who I assume is a feminist), or sell out and become the more successful "jerk" is a question I'm sure many others are also struggling with--and that no author can answer for you.
Though it's overdone, see also Warren Farrell's _The Myth of Male Power_. Or Muehlenhard and Linton's study, "Date Rape and Sexual Aggression: Incidence and Risk Factors", found in the Journal of Counseling Psychology, 1987, Vol. 2, p. 186.
Though it's overdone, see also Warren Farrell's _The Myth of Male Power_. Or Muehlenhard and Linton's study, "Date Rape and Sexual Aggression: Incidence and Risk Factors", found in the Journal of Counseling Psychology, 1987, Vol. 2, p. 186.
February 14, 2008
Simply hilarious - and though exaggerated, in many ways sadly true.
July 29, 2018
A book about the tragedy of nice guys not being able to get women and why women tend to be attracted to bad guys.
Also looks into if nice guys are really nice guys like they pretend to be.
It is an interesting read. If you feel like you get rejected despite being a genuiely nice guy you might get use of this and even find it funny.
It is basically a satire on women who like bad guys but don't admit it. There are many funny clichee stories and conversation in this book.
You might actually learn some funny dialogues/comebacks to women who you feel are being unfair to you or using you as an atm.
There are many sections in this book that try to decipher what women mean when they say something but mean something entirely else. The author says it is useless to guess what women are actually thinking and just try to be you or a "bad boy" for women who like that.
Although if you follow some of the advice in this book like pretending you went to jail, take drugs or anything that makes you look hard. You might actually attract trouble. Also a lot of the dialogues that are given by the author. Ex: If a girl says she thinks she is gaining weight you tell her it is typical for her age(making her feel old and overweight).
That's just one of them. Although I laughed at some of these, if you were to use them in a real setting you will either get slapped or a weird laugh at best.
Of course not all women are like the ones the author is talking about but there are definitely bad women just like there are bad men.
Also looks into if nice guys are really nice guys like they pretend to be.
It is an interesting read. If you feel like you get rejected despite being a genuiely nice guy you might get use of this and even find it funny.
It is basically a satire on women who like bad guys but don't admit it. There are many funny clichee stories and conversation in this book.
You might actually learn some funny dialogues/comebacks to women who you feel are being unfair to you or using you as an atm.
There are many sections in this book that try to decipher what women mean when they say something but mean something entirely else. The author says it is useless to guess what women are actually thinking and just try to be you or a "bad boy" for women who like that.
Although if you follow some of the advice in this book like pretending you went to jail, take drugs or anything that makes you look hard. You might actually attract trouble. Also a lot of the dialogues that are given by the author. Ex: If a girl says she thinks she is gaining weight you tell her it is typical for her age(making her feel old and overweight).
That's just one of them. Although I laughed at some of these, if you were to use them in a real setting you will either get slapped or a weird laugh at best.
Of course not all women are like the ones the author is talking about but there are definitely bad women just like there are bad men.
March 22, 2019
Στα τεστ την εποχή που το είχα διαβάσει (2004) είχα βγεί Μετρίως-μέτριος το βιβλίο κατάφερε να με κάνει καθήκι ολκής μιας και είχε δίκιο σε όλα ! Ευχαριστώ τον συγγραφέα που μου άνοιξε τα μάτια και κατάλαβα ότι οι γυναίκες είναι παντελώς ηλίθιες όσο καλές και αν φαίνονται !
August 25, 2024
found this in my parents bookshelf and decided to read it. very funny but a little (very) offensive. it was basically a guide on how to fuck with a woman’s mind but in a joking way. fine to read but don’t try to reenact this cause i will slap u if u do :)
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December 2, 2014
i honestly thought this book was horrible. perhaps it was meant more to amuse but overall -it's pretty shallow. i wouldn't recommend it - only read it cuz i got it as a gift eons ago! quick read nonetheless.
May 31, 2025
My kind of sophomoric humor. Sometimes I'm such a child.
Sadly there is more than a sliver of truth here. Wake the fuck up ladies.
Sadly there is more than a sliver of truth here. Wake the fuck up ladies.
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