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All the Ways We Lied
Set in Queens, New York, meet the Manoukians—a dysfunctional Armenian family and the fraying rope that binds them.
While a father deteriorates from terminal illness, three sisters contend with one another, their self-destructive pasts, and their indomitable mother as they face the loss of the one person holding their unstable family together.
Kohar, the oldest sister, is happily married, yet grapples with fertility issues and, in turn, her own self-worth. Lucine, the middle child, is trapped in a loveless marriage and haunted by memories of her estranged father. Azad, the beloved youngest child, is burdened by an inescapable cycle of failed relationships.
By turns heartfelt and heart wrenching, All the Ways We Lied introduces a cast of tragically flawed but lovable characters on the brink of unraveling. With humor and compassion, this spellbinding tale explores the fraught and contradictory landscape of sisterhood, introducing four unforgettable women who have nothing in common, and are bound by blood and history.
While a father deteriorates from terminal illness, three sisters contend with one another, their self-destructive pasts, and their indomitable mother as they face the loss of the one person holding their unstable family together.
Kohar, the oldest sister, is happily married, yet grapples with fertility issues and, in turn, her own self-worth. Lucine, the middle child, is trapped in a loveless marriage and haunted by memories of her estranged father. Azad, the beloved youngest child, is burdened by an inescapable cycle of failed relationships.
By turns heartfelt and heart wrenching, All the Ways We Lied introduces a cast of tragically flawed but lovable characters on the brink of unraveling. With humor and compassion, this spellbinding tale explores the fraught and contradictory landscape of sisterhood, introducing four unforgettable women who have nothing in common, and are bound by blood and history.
272 pages, Hardcover
Published January 9, 2024
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About the author
Aida Zilelian
5 books46 followersAida Zilelian is a first generation American-Armenian writer, educator and storyteller from Queens, NY. She is the author The Legacy of Lost Things (2015, Bleeding Heart Publications) which was the recipient of the 2014 Tololyan Literary Award. Her most recent novel All the Ways We Lied, follows an Armenian family of three sisters and an indomitable mother, as they struggle with each other in face of tragedy.
Aida has been featured in the Huffington Post, NPR’s Takeaway, Poets & Writers, Kirkus Reviews, among other reading series and print outlets. Her short story collection These Hills Were Meant for You was shortlisted for 2018 Katherine Anne Porter Prize in Short Fiction. She is currently completing her short story collection Where There Can Be No Breath At All.
Aida has been featured in the Huffington Post, NPR’s Takeaway, Poets & Writers, Kirkus Reviews, among other reading series and print outlets. Her short story collection These Hills Were Meant for You was shortlisted for 2018 Katherine Anne Porter Prize in Short Fiction. She is currently completing her short story collection Where There Can Be No Breath At All.
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January 8, 2024
In a Nutshell: A contemporary fiction focussed on a dysfunctional Armenian family. A brilliant first half and a wavering second half. If only I could recommend it just for the initial 50% or so!
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Story Synopsis:
Bookish Yays:
😍 Some really great descriptive writing and quotable quotes. The writing doesn’t make it seem like a debut.
😍 Well-defined characters, each having their own flaws and quirks and strengths. Even the minor characters have distinct and realistic personalities. The characterisations seemed authentic in the first half.
😍 Kohar’s situation as the elder daughter resonated much with me. Her husband Jonathan was also an excellent character, breaking the mould of a typical “son-in-law from another country” stereotype. Their complicated family dynamics with each other and the rest of the family are the highlight of the book.
😍 The depiction of Armenian culture and beliefs – detailed and genuine. Perfect for an OwnVoices work.
😍 Though primarily a narrative of mothers and daughters, the fathers in the story also have an important role to play, whether in a major or a minor capacity. Gabriel is a trend-breaker in terms of his depiction. He was one of the best characters in the book for me, though he was not at all perfect.
Bookish Mixed Bags:
😐 Despite the slow pace, I was hooked on to the plot for the first thirteen chapters that comprise Part 1. (The book has twenty-four chapters overall.) Part 1 is excellent in its character detailing, writing, and plot. It easily scored well, and I even began drafting my 4.5 star review in my head. But after this came Part 2, and my rating slid steadily downwards. It would still have stopped at 3.75 were it not for the final 25%, which killed the book for me.
😐 There are too many characters at the start but as they are introduced well, the going becomes easier as we move ahead.
😐 Lucine’s arc started great but I wish we could have had more answers about her past and future. The potential of her character was never fully realised.
😐 The story spans several months (years?) but we don’t get an exact time reference. Though this doesn’t affect comprehension THAT much, I would have appreciated clearer references to the passage of time. I am still not sure which year this book is set in, though it’s definitely not too historical.
😐 The story comes to us in the shifting narrative perspectives of the five Manoukians. It takes a little time getting used to the jumps, but after a while, it is easier to go with the narrative flow. Every important character getting an equal voice also means that we get to know them all well, and can’t decide who is more important than the other.
Bookish Nays:
😣 The pacing is too slow, even for a literary fiction.
😣 The plot jump from part 1 to part 2 is too big. It took me a while to settle into the new direction of the story, because most of the characters seemed to have changed personalities in this section.
😣 I couldn't connect much with Azad’s character as she was too Bohemian for my liking, and her arc contained many lifestyle choices I don’t personally like. This isn’t a book flaw but my personal preference.
😣 The final quarter went completely haywire. I could see no logic to such a drastic plot development, a situation not even connected to what was established before about that character. If the ending had been worth the while, my rating would have been higher.
All in all, I did like a few things about the book, with my favourite being the insights about Armenian culture and the tricky parent-child dynamics. If only the latter half had as much to offer as the initial section, I would have been happier to recommend this as a must-read OwnVoices work. As it stands though, it is a mixed bag for me. Mine is somewhat an outlier review, so do read the other readers’ opinions before you take a call on this work.
2.75 stars. (First half – 4.5, next quarter – 2-3 stars, final quarter – not worth a mention, sorry. I'd happily cull this from the book.)
My thanks to Turner Publishing Company, author Aida Zilelian and NetGalley for the DRC of “All the Ways We Lied”. This review is voluntary and contains my honest opinion about the book.
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Story Synopsis:
Queens, New York. The Manoukians are an Armenian family with barely anything in common with each other.
Gabriel – the patriarch – has just been diagnosed with a terminal illness.
Takouhi – the matriarch – has an obsessive need to dominate everyone in her life.
Eldest daughter Kohar, 38, is blessed in her marriage to American Jonathan, but try as they may, they don’t have a child. This affects Kohar’s sense of self-worth.
Middle daughter Lucine is stuck in a loveless marriage and is just a few dollars away from losing all.
Youngest daughter Azad is a free spirit who seeks escape from the pressure of finding a good Armenian boy.
The story focusses on the internal and interpersonal dealings of all the above characters, with the narration coming from all their perspectives in third person.
Bookish Yays:
😍 Some really great descriptive writing and quotable quotes. The writing doesn’t make it seem like a debut.
😍 Well-defined characters, each having their own flaws and quirks and strengths. Even the minor characters have distinct and realistic personalities. The characterisations seemed authentic in the first half.
😍 Kohar’s situation as the elder daughter resonated much with me. Her husband Jonathan was also an excellent character, breaking the mould of a typical “son-in-law from another country” stereotype. Their complicated family dynamics with each other and the rest of the family are the highlight of the book.
😍 The depiction of Armenian culture and beliefs – detailed and genuine. Perfect for an OwnVoices work.
😍 Though primarily a narrative of mothers and daughters, the fathers in the story also have an important role to play, whether in a major or a minor capacity. Gabriel is a trend-breaker in terms of his depiction. He was one of the best characters in the book for me, though he was not at all perfect.
Bookish Mixed Bags:
😐 Despite the slow pace, I was hooked on to the plot for the first thirteen chapters that comprise Part 1. (The book has twenty-four chapters overall.) Part 1 is excellent in its character detailing, writing, and plot. It easily scored well, and I even began drafting my 4.5 star review in my head. But after this came Part 2, and my rating slid steadily downwards. It would still have stopped at 3.75 were it not for the final 25%, which killed the book for me.
😐 There are too many characters at the start but as they are introduced well, the going becomes easier as we move ahead.
😐 Lucine’s arc started great but I wish we could have had more answers about her past and future. The potential of her character was never fully realised.
😐 The story spans several months (years?) but we don’t get an exact time reference. Though this doesn’t affect comprehension THAT much, I would have appreciated clearer references to the passage of time. I am still not sure which year this book is set in, though it’s definitely not too historical.
😐 The story comes to us in the shifting narrative perspectives of the five Manoukians. It takes a little time getting used to the jumps, but after a while, it is easier to go with the narrative flow. Every important character getting an equal voice also means that we get to know them all well, and can’t decide who is more important than the other.
Bookish Nays:
😣 The pacing is too slow, even for a literary fiction.
😣 The plot jump from part 1 to part 2 is too big. It took me a while to settle into the new direction of the story, because most of the characters seemed to have changed personalities in this section.
😣 I couldn't connect much with Azad’s character as she was too Bohemian for my liking, and her arc contained many lifestyle choices I don’t personally like. This isn’t a book flaw but my personal preference.
😣 The final quarter went completely haywire. I could see no logic to such a drastic plot development, a situation not even connected to what was established before about that character. If the ending had been worth the while, my rating would have been higher.
All in all, I did like a few things about the book, with my favourite being the insights about Armenian culture and the tricky parent-child dynamics. If only the latter half had as much to offer as the initial section, I would have been happier to recommend this as a must-read OwnVoices work. As it stands though, it is a mixed bag for me. Mine is somewhat an outlier review, so do read the other readers’ opinions before you take a call on this work.
2.75 stars. (First half – 4.5, next quarter – 2-3 stars, final quarter – not worth a mention, sorry. I'd happily cull this from the book.)
My thanks to Turner Publishing Company, author Aida Zilelian and NetGalley for the DRC of “All the Ways We Lied”. This review is voluntary and contains my honest opinion about the book.
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January 19, 2024
I loved that the names for the 3 generations were Takouhi (Queen), Kohar (Jewel), and Ruby, threading them together. Having known the author's family a bit as I read I could only picture them and she did a great job really bringing each person to life. The Armenian Daughter struggle was very relatable. I look forward to reading more by Aida.
September 19, 2023
All the Ways They Lied is exquisitely written, using thoughtful descriptive language that comes across as fresh and innovative, and clear. As the three girls in this family examine their relationships, both with their mother and with each other, it might prompt you, the reader, to rethink your own family conflicts.
Very highly recommended.
Very highly recommended.
January 14, 2024
Recommended: sure
for a thoughtful reflective character study, for a melancholy and sad feel, for difficult characters you grow to understand but maybe not like
Expected publication date: January 9, 2024
Thoughts
It's taken me a long time to do this review since I finished it a month ago. The end of it took a sharp left that I was intrigued by, but the final resolution was a shock and honestly left me reeling and in a bit of a free fall. I was bemused, disbelieving, unsure, unsteady. Whether I "liked" it or not I can't really say, but it certainly did have an effect on me, so I overall would say that it works as an ending. Still, I find myself thinking about it.
The build of the story to that point is meandering and slow, very much a study of each character's individuality as well as the way they connect. Frequently, they don't -want- to connect with each other but they just can't escape it, for better or worse. And we do see both sides of it here -- the better and the worse. A lot of pain has seeped into this family, almost like a heritage, a very sad one. They all try to cope with it in very different ways, and I'm not sure anyone really succeeds. They certainly do try, though.
I don't know that I really liked any of the characters or could root for them as people, but at the same time I felt so much empathy for them and often understood WHY they acted and thought the way they did. I understood them but still possible would have distanced myself in real life.
Their Armenian history and heritage is a part of what makes each of them and is accounted for in some ways in their stories, but it's also not necessarily the main focus of the story. It affects them and some of their decisions, but overall the story is about their relationships with each other.
For the setup, there's sort of a part 1 and part 2 to this story with a significant shift in the middle that changes the narrative a bit. There's maybe even a shorter part 3 towards the end where this really took a left turn, but was an interesting way to re-engage with the story before it concluded.
There are a lot of narrators and perspectives, at least 4 main ones and then sometimes little bits from another character. It took me a bit to remember which character was in which situation, but after a few chapters from each it got easier. If you asked me who the "main" character was I could probably narrow it down to two, but they all interacted so much and affected each other's lives so much that it doesn't really work that way. The main story is all of their stories, together.
Overall this is a really melancholy, sad book with a reflective nature and a lot of consideration of difficult issues and relationships from all the characters.
Thank you to the author for a free advanced copy. This is my honest review!
for a thoughtful reflective character study, for a melancholy and sad feel, for difficult characters you grow to understand but maybe not like
Expected publication date: January 9, 2024
Thoughts
It's taken me a long time to do this review since I finished it a month ago. The end of it took a sharp left that I was intrigued by, but the final resolution was a shock and honestly left me reeling and in a bit of a free fall. I was bemused, disbelieving, unsure, unsteady. Whether I "liked" it or not I can't really say, but it certainly did have an effect on me, so I overall would say that it works as an ending. Still, I find myself thinking about it.
The build of the story to that point is meandering and slow, very much a study of each character's individuality as well as the way they connect. Frequently, they don't -want- to connect with each other but they just can't escape it, for better or worse. And we do see both sides of it here -- the better and the worse. A lot of pain has seeped into this family, almost like a heritage, a very sad one. They all try to cope with it in very different ways, and I'm not sure anyone really succeeds. They certainly do try, though.
I don't know that I really liked any of the characters or could root for them as people, but at the same time I felt so much empathy for them and often understood WHY they acted and thought the way they did. I understood them but still possible would have distanced myself in real life.
Their Armenian history and heritage is a part of what makes each of them and is accounted for in some ways in their stories, but it's also not necessarily the main focus of the story. It affects them and some of their decisions, but overall the story is about their relationships with each other.
For the setup, there's sort of a part 1 and part 2 to this story with a significant shift in the middle that changes the narrative a bit. There's maybe even a shorter part 3 towards the end where this really took a left turn, but was an interesting way to re-engage with the story before it concluded.
There are a lot of narrators and perspectives, at least 4 main ones and then sometimes little bits from another character. It took me a bit to remember which character was in which situation, but after a few chapters from each it got easier. If you asked me who the "main" character was I could probably narrow it down to two, but they all interacted so much and affected each other's lives so much that it doesn't really work that way. The main story is all of their stories, together.
Overall this is a really melancholy, sad book with a reflective nature and a lot of consideration of difficult issues and relationships from all the characters.
Thank you to the author for a free advanced copy. This is my honest review!
November 7, 2023
This is a beautifully written story about an Armenian family living in New York. I loved Zilelian's descriptive and enchanting style, her characters have their own strong voices, language, and personalities. I was immediately immersed in the story, I felt like I knew each of the characters so well as I rooted for them, worried for them, and enjoyed learning more about them. This family saga is about relationships, trauma, attachment, struggles, Armenian family dynamics, and of course love.
December 24, 2023
Such a beautiful novel revolving around the complicated relationships between an Armenian mother, her three daughters, and the men who come and go from each of their lives. Relatable characters, a story that moves along at a great pace, and elegant imagery throughout. Zilelian brings you into a world that may not be familiar but keeps you wanting to come back and spend more time examining these characters and spending time with them. And an extra star, if possible, for being set in Queens :)!
January 4, 2024
All the Ways We Lied is an entertaining and heartfelt read about three Armenian sisters and a domineering mother who's at the heart of a dysfunctional family. Each sister has her own life and issues, but they all come together when truly needed by one another.
Each sister's characterization was spot on making this book feel authentic. The cultural aspect of Armenian immigrants originally enticed me to read this book. It was, however, so much more than that.
Thank you, author, publisher, and Netgalley for this ARC.
Each sister's characterization was spot on making this book feel authentic. The cultural aspect of Armenian immigrants originally enticed me to read this book. It was, however, so much more than that.
Thank you, author, publisher, and Netgalley for this ARC.
October 15, 2023
All the Ways We Lied: Aida Zilelian
Family relationships are at the heart of this true-to-life novel which focuses on the ways different sisters deal with their unique lives, their dominant and controlling mother. A family so dysfunctional that they don’t see it clearly even though throughout the novel each sister and their mother present viewpoints and create a kaleidoscope of assorted colors, shapes and forms that define each character in a unique way. Kohar is the older, Lucine the middle and Asad the youngest and yet they are from the same family but not as a unit but as just members each one living her own life and a mother who wants to bind them together in order to have a firm grip on their choices, movements and more. A father that is estranged from Lucine, a mother who dominates her husband Gabriel who does her tasks, drives her around and then goes back into his private space to live the life he wants and yet not knowing he’s creating his own peril.
We meet Kohar and her husband Jonathan about to celebrate his birthday with family and yet wanting time alone with his wife as they prepared for a special announcement. Fertility issues in turn for Koha and yet thinking her less of herself because she loses another child, the author takes both Kohar and Jonathan to a beautiful island to share their love and escape from reality before her school term begins and life gets back to normal.
Three sisters at odds with the world and within themselves and one mother who pits them against each other as the author takes us back to where it began as Kohar wanted to play the piano and learn the guitar and sing. No support criticized and ridiculed. Lucine the middle child seemed to be nowhere and trapped in a loveless marriage and haunted by memories of a father that was never really part of her life. Azad the youngest looking for love in the wrong places and when she thinks that her new boyfriend is the one the interrogation, the questions and personal history asked by his grandmother as she reads his coffee cup, gives the impression that she is not fit to be part of their family.
Takouhi and Gabriel Manoukian with three daughters and each one hoping to a life away from their mother. Each girl is different and has to deal with their mother who is a villain, leader of the family and even more plays the matriarch never to be ridiculed, disobeyed or even allowing her children to leave home before marriage. The tirade in the past when Kohar wanted to move out lets you know just how far Takouhi will go in order to win. In the past Azad was praised for her accomplishments and yet Lucine is not as the mother says whew could not expect more from you. Her mom says hard Azad is working and never realized the struggles of the other two.
Then Lucine is evicted and with nowhere to go as she finally tells Kohar, and the horrific truths come out. Where will she go and how will her mother deal with it? But Gabriel is sick, and his time is coming short as the smoking and drinking took its toll on him and what will happen when and if he is gone?
Kohar gets the good news and has always been there for everyone but does not want her mother to know. No one is going to take control of her child or the child’s name.
Events moved slowly and then the holidays passed and Kohar hoped that Gabriel would hold Ruby Rose just once, but he did not make it. Her mother expected her attention and to jump at her commands. Kohar seems to be the one to tie the family together and the mother who demands her due. Lives within this family and positions of where they stand are decided by their mother and dissensions are the mainstay, sisters pitted against sisters and Jonathan in the middle many times as he seems to be the only her mother does not criticize or contradict. Family dynamics change drastically as Gabriel is no longer there to be a buffer with his wife. A sad and heartbreaking story with each character weaving her own path, a mother who created them from the start and the upheavals and threats when the chain of command is broken and each one starts to become independent on their own. A family she says is ruined when everyone does not live under one roof. A mother who at times seems fearful of losing control, being alone and as no longer has Gabriel no place to go, no job to go to and a lonely existence taking advantage of Kohar .
The dynamics of the family changed when Gabriel died, and her mother became a recluse and felt sorry for herself. Kohar suggested a therapist and she blew it over and more. The other sister’s voices are heard as Lucine realizes that she has no husband, no place to decide what is next. Kohar is there for her but her visit to her mother is an eye opener as she continues to play the martyr and wants it her way. Azad is traveling to a ceremony she does not really want to participate in, meets Luke on the bus and will she continue or do what her heart says and go? Lives that are intertwined yet the threads that are supposed to join them as one, are torn, frayed and unwound. Just how will this all end for this family? Where will they all wind up and how will they ever realize that they need each other to go on?
As the story draws to a dramatic and tragic close, her mother gets scammed by a man aged 29 as she travels to Africa, gets wined and dined and then at the airport the unthinkable happens. But, before her trip the three girls lash out at her, at each other and you wonder if they will ever become sisters in the true world of love and friendship. Kohar is there for them all, her mother demands that she travels to get her and the true link to their family and keeping them together Gabriel. The truth behind her being detained and the ending of the story leaves you wondering if their mother will ever see the light , will ever stop demeaning her children and ever really understand what Kohar is learning :Love for a child and more. Author Aida Zilelian creates a true to life story of four people in one family who might never realize the there is more to life than just being tied by Blood and Family and History. Look inside yourself and picture being Azad the enabled and special child even though she needed more than superficial relationships, Kohar who tried hard to please her mom and gain her approval but did she, and Lucine who at the end learns some valuable lessons about life and family and the hope that she will find more.
Fran Lewis just reviews
Family relationships are at the heart of this true-to-life novel which focuses on the ways different sisters deal with their unique lives, their dominant and controlling mother. A family so dysfunctional that they don’t see it clearly even though throughout the novel each sister and their mother present viewpoints and create a kaleidoscope of assorted colors, shapes and forms that define each character in a unique way. Kohar is the older, Lucine the middle and Asad the youngest and yet they are from the same family but not as a unit but as just members each one living her own life and a mother who wants to bind them together in order to have a firm grip on their choices, movements and more. A father that is estranged from Lucine, a mother who dominates her husband Gabriel who does her tasks, drives her around and then goes back into his private space to live the life he wants and yet not knowing he’s creating his own peril.
We meet Kohar and her husband Jonathan about to celebrate his birthday with family and yet wanting time alone with his wife as they prepared for a special announcement. Fertility issues in turn for Koha and yet thinking her less of herself because she loses another child, the author takes both Kohar and Jonathan to a beautiful island to share their love and escape from reality before her school term begins and life gets back to normal.
Three sisters at odds with the world and within themselves and one mother who pits them against each other as the author takes us back to where it began as Kohar wanted to play the piano and learn the guitar and sing. No support criticized and ridiculed. Lucine the middle child seemed to be nowhere and trapped in a loveless marriage and haunted by memories of a father that was never really part of her life. Azad the youngest looking for love in the wrong places and when she thinks that her new boyfriend is the one the interrogation, the questions and personal history asked by his grandmother as she reads his coffee cup, gives the impression that she is not fit to be part of their family.
Takouhi and Gabriel Manoukian with three daughters and each one hoping to a life away from their mother. Each girl is different and has to deal with their mother who is a villain, leader of the family and even more plays the matriarch never to be ridiculed, disobeyed or even allowing her children to leave home before marriage. The tirade in the past when Kohar wanted to move out lets you know just how far Takouhi will go in order to win. In the past Azad was praised for her accomplishments and yet Lucine is not as the mother says whew could not expect more from you. Her mom says hard Azad is working and never realized the struggles of the other two.
Then Lucine is evicted and with nowhere to go as she finally tells Kohar, and the horrific truths come out. Where will she go and how will her mother deal with it? But Gabriel is sick, and his time is coming short as the smoking and drinking took its toll on him and what will happen when and if he is gone?
Kohar gets the good news and has always been there for everyone but does not want her mother to know. No one is going to take control of her child or the child’s name.
Events moved slowly and then the holidays passed and Kohar hoped that Gabriel would hold Ruby Rose just once, but he did not make it. Her mother expected her attention and to jump at her commands. Kohar seems to be the one to tie the family together and the mother who demands her due. Lives within this family and positions of where they stand are decided by their mother and dissensions are the mainstay, sisters pitted against sisters and Jonathan in the middle many times as he seems to be the only her mother does not criticize or contradict. Family dynamics change drastically as Gabriel is no longer there to be a buffer with his wife. A sad and heartbreaking story with each character weaving her own path, a mother who created them from the start and the upheavals and threats when the chain of command is broken and each one starts to become independent on their own. A family she says is ruined when everyone does not live under one roof. A mother who at times seems fearful of losing control, being alone and as no longer has Gabriel no place to go, no job to go to and a lonely existence taking advantage of Kohar .
The dynamics of the family changed when Gabriel died, and her mother became a recluse and felt sorry for herself. Kohar suggested a therapist and she blew it over and more. The other sister’s voices are heard as Lucine realizes that she has no husband, no place to decide what is next. Kohar is there for her but her visit to her mother is an eye opener as she continues to play the martyr and wants it her way. Azad is traveling to a ceremony she does not really want to participate in, meets Luke on the bus and will she continue or do what her heart says and go? Lives that are intertwined yet the threads that are supposed to join them as one, are torn, frayed and unwound. Just how will this all end for this family? Where will they all wind up and how will they ever realize that they need each other to go on?
As the story draws to a dramatic and tragic close, her mother gets scammed by a man aged 29 as she travels to Africa, gets wined and dined and then at the airport the unthinkable happens. But, before her trip the three girls lash out at her, at each other and you wonder if they will ever become sisters in the true world of love and friendship. Kohar is there for them all, her mother demands that she travels to get her and the true link to their family and keeping them together Gabriel. The truth behind her being detained and the ending of the story leaves you wondering if their mother will ever see the light , will ever stop demeaning her children and ever really understand what Kohar is learning :Love for a child and more. Author Aida Zilelian creates a true to life story of four people in one family who might never realize the there is more to life than just being tied by Blood and Family and History. Look inside yourself and picture being Azad the enabled and special child even though she needed more than superficial relationships, Kohar who tried hard to please her mom and gain her approval but did she, and Lucine who at the end learns some valuable lessons about life and family and the hope that she will find more.
Fran Lewis just reviews
November 20, 2023
All the Ways We Lied is a masterpiece of a story. It is set in Queens, New York and depicts a dysfunctional Armenian family led by Takouhi and Gabriel Manoukian, with their three daughters, Kohar, Lucine, and Azad. Each girl could not be more different from the next, but what they have in common is the burden of dealing with their mother, who vacillates between being the martyr, the villain, the victim, and the feared leader of the Manoukian clan. As their father begins to grapple with a life threatening illness, each woman begins to grapple with her own personal demons.
Ms. Zilelian weaves a beautiful and heartbreaking tapestry of images with unequivocal honesty. As the reader you can feel the painful way in which she internalized each interaction. This story will stick with you long after you’ve finished reading and will take you on an emotional journey, to say the least.
It is a heart-wrenching, yet beautiful journey of how we must come to terms with the family ties that bind us too tightly until we ultimately learn how to let them go.
Ms. Zilelian weaves a beautiful and heartbreaking tapestry of images with unequivocal honesty. As the reader you can feel the painful way in which she internalized each interaction. This story will stick with you long after you’ve finished reading and will take you on an emotional journey, to say the least.
It is a heart-wrenching, yet beautiful journey of how we must come to terms with the family ties that bind us too tightly until we ultimately learn how to let them go.
July 11, 2023
I loved the book! I savored it over just a few days, taking it with me everywhere I went. I was so sad during one afternoon walk when my toddler fell asleep & I did not have it with me.
It felt really whole & complete.
As an avid reader of Ms. Zilelian’s work, I know she’s quite an expert at presenting short stories where the resolution is that there is no resolution. This felt different with its clear outcome. This was great for a reader because I was really hoping to know how things would end for each character.
The novel meanders through a family, giving insight from all characters. The author does a great job of describing so many things: moments, feelings, clothing- a room. She names the losses and the joys that we continue to live through in such a comforting way. The book labels them which helps a reader to put them away and to maybe even let them go.
It felt really whole & complete.
As an avid reader of Ms. Zilelian’s work, I know she’s quite an expert at presenting short stories where the resolution is that there is no resolution. This felt different with its clear outcome. This was great for a reader because I was really hoping to know how things would end for each character.
The novel meanders through a family, giving insight from all characters. The author does a great job of describing so many things: moments, feelings, clothing- a room. She names the losses and the joys that we continue to live through in such a comforting way. The book labels them which helps a reader to put them away and to maybe even let them go.
September 22, 2023
All the Ways We Lied is a beautifully told story of family dysfunction, love, and heartache. Each character feels like someone you've known for years and their stories are woven together into their own unique family tapestry.
January 25, 2024
Loved this! It was very relatable…especially the Armenian cultural elements but also just the complicated family dynamics. I love reading stories about families and the mother-daughter relationship too.
January 9, 2024
*Happy Publication Day*
2.7 Stars
One Liner: Started okay but got a bit too messy
What happens to the dysfunctional immigrant Armenian family in Queens (NY) when a tragedy strikes?
With the news of their father’s terminal illness, Kohar, Lucine, and Azad have to handle the mess in their personal lives, come to terms with the present, and lay rest to the past. Having a volatile and strict mother further strains their relationships. Will the family survive or break?
The story comes in the third-person POV of the main characters (Kohar, Lucine, Azad, Jonathan, Garbiel, and Takouhi).
My Thoughts:
I follow an Armenian lady on Instagram and love the pictures of her native place (the farms, plants, ancient cathedrals, etc.). This book seemed like a good way to get a glimpse into the community, even if it is from the immigrant perspective.
Soon, I noticed it had a few parallels with other immigrant books – dysfunctional families, torn between two cultures, the attempts of first-gen immigrants to keep the native culture and traditions alive however possible, etc. Another similarity was in parental control, something we often find in Asian families. I rather liked this sense of familiarity.
The writing is very good. I even forgot this was a debut work. Despite the lack of indication for time jumps, the plot was easy enough to follow. And most importantly, the characterization is good. It doesn’t matter that half of them are unlikeable and toxic. They make a strong impact. I even felt suffocated in some scenes.
I like how Gabriel and Jonathan have such unconventional roles. Even with the book being dominated by women, we cannot imagine the plot without these two men.
You may wonder why such a low rating when the book has such good elements. Well, we’ll tackle them next. There is where I should probably say, ‘it’s not you, it’s me’.
Though I knew the book would be about toxic families and relationships, this was much like watching a massive collision. Can’t say I particularly liked it. And when things could have gotten a little better, they take a turn for worse. There’s only so much I can bear before getting annoyed.
Azad was irritating. If there’s one person I couldn’t empathize with, that’s her. I don’t mind Bohemian characters, but she didn’t work for me.
The book is divided into three parts. The first was good, and the second was okay, even though we see a change in the narrative. The third was off, and since I lost interest by then, I just wanted it to end soon.
While I don’t mind the time jumps, I still had a hard time following the change in the characters. Of course, a few reveals made things clear, which I appreciate.
The multiple POVs give us an insight into each character, even if we don’t agree with their actions. But for me, only Kohar’s POV was compelling. Next was Gabriel.
Being lit fiction, I expected the narrative to be slow, but this one is super dragging. It feels as if the plot couldn’t carry its own burden, especially in the second half. And when there isn’t anything happy or light about the story, such pacing is a disadvantage (at least with readers like me who don’t equate the genre with misery and toxicity).
And what’s with the last part of the book? I know such things happen often. I also know that woman deserved what she got. I am also glad the character I liked could finally move on. Still, it felt like were pushed from one universe to another.
To summarize, All the Ways We Lied is a book about toxic people and what one person’s narcissism can do to the family. It is heavy, slow, and tough to read. Got a few triggers, too.
Thank you, NetGalley and Boldwood Books, for the eARC. This review is voluntary and contains my honest opinion about the book.
#NetGalley #AllTheWaysWeLied
**
TW:
2.7 Stars
One Liner: Started okay but got a bit too messy
What happens to the dysfunctional immigrant Armenian family in Queens (NY) when a tragedy strikes?
With the news of their father’s terminal illness, Kohar, Lucine, and Azad have to handle the mess in their personal lives, come to terms with the present, and lay rest to the past. Having a volatile and strict mother further strains their relationships. Will the family survive or break?
The story comes in the third-person POV of the main characters (Kohar, Lucine, Azad, Jonathan, Garbiel, and Takouhi).
My Thoughts:
I follow an Armenian lady on Instagram and love the pictures of her native place (the farms, plants, ancient cathedrals, etc.). This book seemed like a good way to get a glimpse into the community, even if it is from the immigrant perspective.
Soon, I noticed it had a few parallels with other immigrant books – dysfunctional families, torn between two cultures, the attempts of first-gen immigrants to keep the native culture and traditions alive however possible, etc. Another similarity was in parental control, something we often find in Asian families. I rather liked this sense of familiarity.
The writing is very good. I even forgot this was a debut work. Despite the lack of indication for time jumps, the plot was easy enough to follow. And most importantly, the characterization is good. It doesn’t matter that half of them are unlikeable and toxic. They make a strong impact. I even felt suffocated in some scenes.
I like how Gabriel and Jonathan have such unconventional roles. Even with the book being dominated by women, we cannot imagine the plot without these two men.
You may wonder why such a low rating when the book has such good elements. Well, we’ll tackle them next. There is where I should probably say, ‘it’s not you, it’s me’.
Though I knew the book would be about toxic families and relationships, this was much like watching a massive collision. Can’t say I particularly liked it. And when things could have gotten a little better, they take a turn for worse. There’s only so much I can bear before getting annoyed.
Azad was irritating. If there’s one person I couldn’t empathize with, that’s her. I don’t mind Bohemian characters, but she didn’t work for me.
The book is divided into three parts. The first was good, and the second was okay, even though we see a change in the narrative. The third was off, and since I lost interest by then, I just wanted it to end soon.
While I don’t mind the time jumps, I still had a hard time following the change in the characters. Of course, a few reveals made things clear, which I appreciate.
The multiple POVs give us an insight into each character, even if we don’t agree with their actions. But for me, only Kohar’s POV was compelling. Next was Gabriel.
Being lit fiction, I expected the narrative to be slow, but this one is super dragging. It feels as if the plot couldn’t carry its own burden, especially in the second half. And when there isn’t anything happy or light about the story, such pacing is a disadvantage (at least with readers like me who don’t equate the genre with misery and toxicity).
And what’s with the last part of the book? I know such things happen often. I also know that woman deserved what she got. I am also glad the character I liked could finally move on. Still, it felt like were pushed from one universe to another.
To summarize, All the Ways We Lied is a book about toxic people and what one person’s narcissism can do to the family. It is heavy, slow, and tough to read. Got a few triggers, too.
Thank you, NetGalley and Boldwood Books, for the eARC. This review is voluntary and contains my honest opinion about the book.
#NetGalley #AllTheWaysWeLied
**
TW:
October 22, 2023
All the Ways We Lied by Aida Zilelian is a story about a family at odds with themselves, each other, and ultimately their world. It is easy to find something relatable in each of the three sisters, Kohar, Lucine, and Azad, just as much as the reader can find something in the dynamic of the family. Zilelian weaves a marvelous web of disfunction with the richest group of characters, the most heartbreakingly real scenarios, and the intricacies with which we navigate love in all of its forms, even when that love is tested or doubted.
Takouhi, the mother of the three girls, is revealed to the reader in a multitude of ways. First, in her interactions with her daughters and her husband, Gabriel, and then, in tales and memories of her own troubled youth, in the life she lived before her children, during her first marriage, and then, ultimately, in the life she created for herself as an Armenian American, and the importance of family, tradition, and what it means to be a matriarch. What Zilelian has done so wonderfully in this rich, tale, set in Queens, New York, is allow us to understand each of the characters individually, and also see them so clearly in the eyes of the other members of their family, and through extended family members, in which we learn so much about them that they become as real as our sisters, our own mother, our own father/stepfather.
As the family faces their own dysfunction, their own regrets and misgivings, the father, Gabriel, the true glue that has held the family together through so many years, is confronted with a life-threatening illness, which puts the Manoukian family into a new trajectory- a path they had not predicted, a place where they must come together, a journey they must take. With surprising twists, absolute truth, and characters so deeply and artfully crafted, All the Ways We Lied is a monumental achievement in the art of storytelling. Each chapter builds upon the other, each decision and choice and piece of dialogue connects to this larger story of a family that we have all known, or have once lived.
This novel, at times, will take your breath away with both its simplicity and its raw honesty. Zilelian has brought to the page real people, with real problems, and delivered them to the literary world in a way that, once you begin to read, you believe these are real people. They could be your neighbors, your sisters, your husband, your own friends. And, whether you want to admit it, Takouhi and Gabriel may even be your parents. I have intentionally written this review free of spoilers, because I believe you must encounter the Manoukians for yourself and immerse yourself in this unflinching portrayal of a real family written in beautiful prose, a purposeful and thoughtful piece of fiction.
Takouhi, the mother of the three girls, is revealed to the reader in a multitude of ways. First, in her interactions with her daughters and her husband, Gabriel, and then, in tales and memories of her own troubled youth, in the life she lived before her children, during her first marriage, and then, ultimately, in the life she created for herself as an Armenian American, and the importance of family, tradition, and what it means to be a matriarch. What Zilelian has done so wonderfully in this rich, tale, set in Queens, New York, is allow us to understand each of the characters individually, and also see them so clearly in the eyes of the other members of their family, and through extended family members, in which we learn so much about them that they become as real as our sisters, our own mother, our own father/stepfather.
As the family faces their own dysfunction, their own regrets and misgivings, the father, Gabriel, the true glue that has held the family together through so many years, is confronted with a life-threatening illness, which puts the Manoukian family into a new trajectory- a path they had not predicted, a place where they must come together, a journey they must take. With surprising twists, absolute truth, and characters so deeply and artfully crafted, All the Ways We Lied is a monumental achievement in the art of storytelling. Each chapter builds upon the other, each decision and choice and piece of dialogue connects to this larger story of a family that we have all known, or have once lived.
This novel, at times, will take your breath away with both its simplicity and its raw honesty. Zilelian has brought to the page real people, with real problems, and delivered them to the literary world in a way that, once you begin to read, you believe these are real people. They could be your neighbors, your sisters, your husband, your own friends. And, whether you want to admit it, Takouhi and Gabriel may even be your parents. I have intentionally written this review free of spoilers, because I believe you must encounter the Manoukians for yourself and immerse yourself in this unflinching portrayal of a real family written in beautiful prose, a purposeful and thoughtful piece of fiction.
December 2, 2023
"All the Ways We Lied" is an enchanting exploration of the intricacies within an Armenian-American family, weaving a tapestry of complex relationships that tugs at the heartstrings. Set against the backdrop of Queens, New York, this novel masterfully delves into the lives of the Manoukians—a family teetering on the edge of unraveling.
One of the standout features of the book is its narrative structure, which unfolds through multiple viewpoints. This technique offers readers a nuanced and insightful understanding of the characters, allowing us to witness the same events through different lenses. The result is a rich and layered tapestry of perspectives that adds depth to the storytelling.
The author skillfully navigates the challenges faced by the Manoukian sisters as they grapple with their father's terminal illness. Each sister—Kohar, Lucine, and Azad—brings a unique struggle to the table, be it fertility issues, loveless marriages, or the burden of failed relationships. Their individual journeys are woven together seamlessly, creating a narrative that is both heartfelt and heart-wrenching.
The exploration of the stories we tell ourselves about our families is a central theme, beautifully illustrating how these narratives shape our perceptions. The characters are tragically flawed yet lovable, and the reader is drawn into their world with a perfect blend of humor and compassion. The author's portrayal of sisterhood is particularly poignant, highlighting the contradictions and complexities that often define these relationships.
While the book is a captivating read, the only flaw is the yearning for even more insight into the lives of the characters. The Manoukians are so compelling that one can't help but crave a deeper exploration of their individual stories. Nevertheless, this desire for more is a testament to the author's ability to create characters that resonate with readers on a profound level.
In summary, "All the Ways We Lied" is a charming and poignant tale that skillfully captures the essence of family dynamics. Through its exploration of the Manoukian family, the novel offers a relatable and emotional journey, reminding us of the power of the stories we tell ourselves about the ones we hold dear.
A sincere thank you to Netgalley and the publisher for an ARC in exchange for an honest review.
One of the standout features of the book is its narrative structure, which unfolds through multiple viewpoints. This technique offers readers a nuanced and insightful understanding of the characters, allowing us to witness the same events through different lenses. The result is a rich and layered tapestry of perspectives that adds depth to the storytelling.
The author skillfully navigates the challenges faced by the Manoukian sisters as they grapple with their father's terminal illness. Each sister—Kohar, Lucine, and Azad—brings a unique struggle to the table, be it fertility issues, loveless marriages, or the burden of failed relationships. Their individual journeys are woven together seamlessly, creating a narrative that is both heartfelt and heart-wrenching.
The exploration of the stories we tell ourselves about our families is a central theme, beautifully illustrating how these narratives shape our perceptions. The characters are tragically flawed yet lovable, and the reader is drawn into their world with a perfect blend of humor and compassion. The author's portrayal of sisterhood is particularly poignant, highlighting the contradictions and complexities that often define these relationships.
While the book is a captivating read, the only flaw is the yearning for even more insight into the lives of the characters. The Manoukians are so compelling that one can't help but crave a deeper exploration of their individual stories. Nevertheless, this desire for more is a testament to the author's ability to create characters that resonate with readers on a profound level.
In summary, "All the Ways We Lied" is a charming and poignant tale that skillfully captures the essence of family dynamics. Through its exploration of the Manoukian family, the novel offers a relatable and emotional journey, reminding us of the power of the stories we tell ourselves about the ones we hold dear.
A sincere thank you to Netgalley and the publisher for an ARC in exchange for an honest review.
December 4, 2023
I read an advanced reader copy to review on behalf of The Armenian Weekly and found it impossible to tear myself away from "All the Ways We Lied." Yet, there were moments when I had to set the book aside, as it spoke deeply to me. Through authentic dialogue and intricate family dynamics, particularly among mothers, daughters, and sisters, this novel unveils the universal narratives of families from all backgrounds.
Each line in the book possesses a standalone beauty, characterized by a seamless flow, an authentic tone, and a captivating writing style. "All the Ways We Lied" is a much-needed addition to contemporary Armenian literature. In the wake of decades since the Armenian Genocide, the narrative bravely explores generational trauma and its impact on individuals and families today. Zilelian fearlessly addresses topics that have long been shameful, amot, to discuss within proud Armenian families, such as mental illness, fertility struggles, failed marriages, broken and estranged families.
I believe that the burden of carrying generational scars, stemming from grieving loved ones, missed opportunities, and unrealized dreams, aligns with the author's intent behind the title — exposing "all the ways we lied to others and ourselves."
The exploration of the Manoukian family, especially the matriarch Takouhi and her upbringing, provided me with a new understanding and perspective of the lengths a resilient individual would go to reclaim their life from desperation and loneliness. A particularly cherished scene involves the adult sisters spending a night at their childhood home, showcasing the normal and often comical shenanigans that resonate with sisters from all walks of life and likely from the beginning of time.
Zilelian offers readers a mirror through which they can see themselves in the characters, fostering a sense of connection and alleviating feelings of isolation. I believe that one of the author’s intentions in writing this extraordinary narrative is to encourages meaningful conversations with others who may find resonance with the unforgettable characters and scenarios presented.
In conclusion, I highly recommend "All the Ways We Lied" for its profound storytelling, relatable characters, and the opportunity it provides to reflect on our own lives.
Each line in the book possesses a standalone beauty, characterized by a seamless flow, an authentic tone, and a captivating writing style. "All the Ways We Lied" is a much-needed addition to contemporary Armenian literature. In the wake of decades since the Armenian Genocide, the narrative bravely explores generational trauma and its impact on individuals and families today. Zilelian fearlessly addresses topics that have long been shameful, amot, to discuss within proud Armenian families, such as mental illness, fertility struggles, failed marriages, broken and estranged families.
I believe that the burden of carrying generational scars, stemming from grieving loved ones, missed opportunities, and unrealized dreams, aligns with the author's intent behind the title — exposing "all the ways we lied to others and ourselves."
The exploration of the Manoukian family, especially the matriarch Takouhi and her upbringing, provided me with a new understanding and perspective of the lengths a resilient individual would go to reclaim their life from desperation and loneliness. A particularly cherished scene involves the adult sisters spending a night at their childhood home, showcasing the normal and often comical shenanigans that resonate with sisters from all walks of life and likely from the beginning of time.
Zilelian offers readers a mirror through which they can see themselves in the characters, fostering a sense of connection and alleviating feelings of isolation. I believe that one of the author’s intentions in writing this extraordinary narrative is to encourages meaningful conversations with others who may find resonance with the unforgettable characters and scenarios presented.
In conclusion, I highly recommend "All the Ways We Lied" for its profound storytelling, relatable characters, and the opportunity it provides to reflect on our own lives.
November 6, 2023
All the Ways We Lied is an engrossing novel following the women of an Armenian-American family as they each reconsider how exactly to thrive on the path they've carved out for themselves when sisterhood, motherhood, marriage, and career were not what they expected. I think what makes all of the well-drawn characters in the Manoukian family compelling is that they are all yearning, at their core, to love and be loved. Yet in Kohar, the oldest sibling, Zilelian captures the burden and overwhelm of the eldest immigrant daughter's plight expertly (I say from personal experience), along with the relatable resentments and grievances of a life spent straining against one's prescribed role in the (codependent? Again, I say from experience) family ecosystem. It's safe to say that this book hit close to home for me in a lot of ways, not least of which is Zilelian's authentic representation of Queens and NYC, from the particular stress of alternate side of the street parking to the bustling weekend streets and markets of Little India in Jackson Heights.
The plot is engaging and well-paced, and I found myself flying through the pages, eager to learn what happens next. Highly recommended reading, especially for other second-generation children of immigrants.
The plot is engaging and well-paced, and I found myself flying through the pages, eager to learn what happens next. Highly recommended reading, especially for other second-generation children of immigrants.
May 5, 2025
This contemporary novel examines the relationships between three sisters, their mother, and in the case of the older two, their stepfather, who is the father of the youngest sister. They are a lively Armenian-American family based in Queens, NY, with one sister living in Philadelphia and another in New Jersey.
When Gabriel, the stepfather, is diagnosed with cancer, everyone's world falls apart, but at the same time, the sisters and their mother are coping with their own challenges.
The family's Armenian background adds interest – the food, which plays a big role in this book, certainly sounds delicious (while similar to that of other ethnic groups from around the Mediterranean). Many customs are reminiscent of other groups as well – the emphasis on finding a mate from the community, for example.
In the end, though, there are a number of clichés that bring the book down – the family is Armenian, but they could also be Italian, Greek, or Jewish – the struggles are essentially the same...and there is also an incident concerning the mother which smacks of ageism, an unfortunate and heavy-handed twist as the book nears its conclusion.
When Gabriel, the stepfather, is diagnosed with cancer, everyone's world falls apart, but at the same time, the sisters and their mother are coping with their own challenges.
The family's Armenian background adds interest – the food, which plays a big role in this book, certainly sounds delicious (while similar to that of other ethnic groups from around the Mediterranean). Many customs are reminiscent of other groups as well – the emphasis on finding a mate from the community, for example.
In the end, though, there are a number of clichés that bring the book down – the family is Armenian, but they could also be Italian, Greek, or Jewish – the struggles are essentially the same...and there is also an incident concerning the mother which smacks of ageism, an unfortunate and heavy-handed twist as the book nears its conclusion.
November 7, 2023
All the Ways We Lied has pretty much everything I enjoy in a book, from difficult women to Armenian family dynamics to Sound of Music & Julie Andrews references. It’s certainly not a page-turning thriller; rather, it’s more akin to slowly absorbing the world and characters that Aida Zilelian has constructed, and then realizing at the novel’s climax just how heartbreakingly beautiful her characters and their stories are.
There’s a lot of gorgeous writing in this book, but my favorite line is towards the end (non-spoiler): “Her mother did not hate her…mothers treat their daughters the way they feel about their own selves.” This line, for me, sums up the essence of this book: it’s about people who care for each other very much, in very complicated ways, in a world that sees care as a weakness and does not support us in caring for each other.
There’s a lot of gorgeous writing in this book, but my favorite line is towards the end (non-spoiler): “Her mother did not hate her…mothers treat their daughters the way they feel about their own selves.” This line, for me, sums up the essence of this book: it’s about people who care for each other very much, in very complicated ways, in a world that sees care as a weakness and does not support us in caring for each other.
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December 26, 2024I wanna give Lucine and Kohar a hug
Edit: This book deserves a more complete ish review. I had the privilege of being mentored by Aida and I adore the way her brain works. Her characters feel incredibly real because her approach to character building is so holistic and psychologically-oriented (she is also a psych teacher which is amazing). Obviously I relate to this book as an Armenian eldest daughter, so I’m not sure if other people will resonate with it the same way, but it’s also not really an Armenian book, that is to say the issues aren’t exclusive to Armenians. What I like about this book is that there’s no happy ending or even a clear cut solution. Life is shitty but also full of so much love and grief and everyone is a complex character and no one is coming to save you.
Edit: This book deserves a more complete ish review. I had the privilege of being mentored by Aida and I adore the way her brain works. Her characters feel incredibly real because her approach to character building is so holistic and psychologically-oriented (she is also a psych teacher which is amazing). Obviously I relate to this book as an Armenian eldest daughter, so I’m not sure if other people will resonate with it the same way, but it’s also not really an Armenian book, that is to say the issues aren’t exclusive to Armenians. What I like about this book is that there’s no happy ending or even a clear cut solution. Life is shitty but also full of so much love and grief and everyone is a complex character and no one is coming to save you.
January 26, 2024
Aida Zilelian's All the Ways We Lied is a beautifully crafted yet intensely readable portrait of an Armenian family in Queens, New York. Told from four perspectives--of a mother and three daughters--the novel is a lesson in empathy, as it delves into the complicated backstories of each character and reminds the reader that we never really know what's going on in someone else's life. At turns heartbreaking and triumphant, the novel shows the ways our mothers shape who we become as people, and as mothers ourselves. I couldn't put it down!
February 15, 2024
The book is written well, I just did not find it compelling enough to prioritize reading it to completion, yet. The characterization was good, and the material was relevant, but I found I didn’t really like the characters and I find it difficult to read a book with characters I don’t care for. Perhaps I will give it a second go, at another time. I found myself wanting to read something that was more interesting to me.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
March 18, 2024
The book explores complex dynamics in an American Armenian family affected by generational trauma. How does one become a happy, functional adult, a wife and a parent when raised by a mother whose life has been shaped by Armenian genocide, poverty, abusive husband and unsupportive parents and siblings? Although Kohar’s story is unique, her struggle to come to terms with her family and find love and understanding is universal and relatable.
November 22, 2024
This was a moving story of family trauma. The first half reads much more quickly than I expected-- it's easy to get pulled into the three daughters' lives and their toxic relationship with their mother. I normally don't love character perspective switches, but Zilelian does it seamlessly, while shifting stories and perspectives on the same past event. The second half was completely unexpected for me, but interesting (I don't want to ruin it). I would definitely recommend this.
October 25, 2023
All the Ways We Lied is a gripping story of family dysfunction - not because of lack of love but failed connections. Highly recommend! An especially welcome read if you are on an extended visit with your family ... The shifting perspectives between the different characters heightened both the empathy and frustration with each one until they felt as real as my own family members.
February 17, 2024
I found the book to be somewhat dry.
It’s about the relationship between a very controlling mother and her three daughters.
I liked Kohar and Gabriel the best out of all the characters because they seemed genuine.
The mother was insufferable and the other two daughters were self absorbed.
Thanks to the publisher and Edelweiss for the early copy.
It’s about the relationship between a very controlling mother and her three daughters.
I liked Kohar and Gabriel the best out of all the characters because they seemed genuine.
The mother was insufferable and the other two daughters were self absorbed.
Thanks to the publisher and Edelweiss for the early copy.
October 18, 2024
Loved how this book explored the way intergenerational trauma affects families, in this case an Armenian immigrant one. This book is honest and beautifully written, with a cast of characters that are complex, flawed, and uniquely depicted. The relationships between the sisters and the mother and her daughters is complex and honestly written. Highly recommend this book if you love family sagas.
November 18, 2023
Aida Zilelian’s masterful depiction of a dysfunctional three-generation Armenian family vividly brings to life the real-life impact of intergenerational trauma and hope for grace and healing. It spoke to me on a deep level and will surely resonate with many readers. Brava!
November 22, 2023
Aida Zilelian is a master at the art of storytelling. Through her uniquely beautiful voice, engaging plot and authentic characters she has crafted a story that is to be savored. I highly recommend reading this novel!
December 19, 2023
Thanks to NetGalley and Turner Publishing Company for an advanced copy of this ebook for free in exchange for an honest review. All opinions are my own.
All the Ways We Lied was simply superb. I was so drawn into the family dynamic, I had a hard time putting this book down.
All the Ways We Lied was simply superb. I was so drawn into the family dynamic, I had a hard time putting this book down.
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