When You Feel Like Screaming

by Patricia Holt, Grace H. Ketterman

A best-seller revised...with a value-added bonus!Many moms feel guilty about screaming at their children but don?t know how to stop. Ketterman says, ?Having grown up with a loving but screaming mother, I know the emotional damage it causes. Being a mother of three, I also know how easy it is to fall into the habit of screaming.? From their research and personal and professional experience, Dr. Ketterman and Pat Holt share why mothers fall into the habit of yelling and what factors drive mothers to lose control.Using real stories from real moms, they discuss examples of how screaming and anger affects children, and also the debilitating affects it has on moms. The authors challenge parents to look at their own anger and choose to react differently. Practical steps are given for more effective and positive ways to get children to do what they must do. The second part of the book offers commonsense answers to specific questions relating to all areas of child-rearing, from infancy through teens.

Genres: Parenting, Nonfiction, Christian

Paperback

Published March 22, 2000

Reviews

[Emily · Rating 2 out of 5]

This was quite repetitive with very few practical tips, unfortunately.

[McKayla · Rating 4 out of 5]

Great information for parents!

[Laura · Rating 4 out of 5]

So, I suppose in order to do this book review I have to admit that I am a screamer. Yes, I get frustrated and lose my temper all too frequently around here. After sharing with a friend how I struggled with this, she suggested I read this book, which had been helpful to her when her children were younger. Once again, I wish I could give half-stars on Goodreads, because I would give it a 3.5 of 5, but then I realized that the part of the book that I found the least helpful was in fact “Part 2″ which was an excerpt from a second book altogether on “Answers to Questions Parents Ask Most” and not in fact, part of the original book on screaming. So, taking that into account, I would rate the original book 4 of 5 stars.

It’s hard to say yet whether this book will have a profound impact on my life, but it does give some good points to think about, and I did feel like it was a helpful read. If anything, it made me more aware of the negative impact my yelling can have on my children and reiterated the fact that I don’t want to be that way. I want to be a positive, nurturing influence on my children and not the kind of parent that will put them in therapy as an adult!

So, would I recommend this book? Yes. If losing your temper and yelling are things that you struggle with like I do, maybe it will help put some things in perspective. As for me, I continue to work on this one day at a time. I’d like to think it’s getting easier. Only time will tell.

[Pink · Rating 5 out of 5]

I'm ashamed to admit I needed to read this book. Unfortunately I grew up in a home where this was my mother's preferred way of instructing, and it got passed on to me. I have since been blessed and reached out enough to learn MANY different strategies to deal with situations instead of resorting to screaming as my first reaction. Fortunately I no longer scream, unfortunately I do still yell occasionally. This book relieved me from a lot of the pressures and guilt that sent me into a crazy cycle of feeling guilty so I would get more frustrated and feel like screaming even more.

[Amy Flickinger]

I found this book to be great. Lots of insight and helpfulness.... definitely a keeper

[Mrs · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book really helped me when my first two were little.