Why Do I Have to Think Like a Man?: Knowing How to Be a Woman is What Will Teach Your Man How to Be a Man

by Shanae Hall

Ready To Up Your Game?

This page-turner leaves readers buzzing with oohs, ahhhs and OMG's from the first paragraph.

Written as a straight talk, no chaser retort to the Steve Harvey's runaway bestseller 'Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man,' Shanae Hall's 'Why Do I have To Think Like a Man?' is a fitting resounding response regarding men, sex, relationships and women getting what they really 'reeeally' want. Finally … THE LADIES GET THEIR SAY!

As a Sirius Satellite Radio personality on Jaime Foxx's 'Foxxhole' and a former NFL wife appearing on 'E! True Hollywood Story, Sports Stars, Private Lives,' Shanae Hall doesn't shy away from life's difficult conversations. If it has to be said, Shanae will say it. And this book unequivocally proves the point.

In their own funny, fresh and bold way, Shanae and her co-author and mother Rhonda Frost, tell it like it is and like it most definitely is not as they hilariously chronicle their marriages, their divorces, and their dating of men from the NBA, NFL, and Hollywood stars to everyday rank-and-file guys who seem worthy. From engagingly different intergenerational perspectives, Shanae and Rhonda make it clear that the persistent 'player' mentality in today's men is fashioned, nurtured and created by the very women who hate it so much.


' Shanae Hall is a candid and witty personality who has a unique way of telling you the truth just how she sees it.
Read this book and you'll know what I'm say'n. '
—Cedric the Entertainer

'Are you ready for a real self-help relationship book that is an eye-opener, and will leave you speechless?'
—Gena James Pitts, Founder, Professional Sports Wives Association

'Thank goodness for Shanae Hall being a voice I can relate to! God forbid the moment when women believe we have to think like men in order to be in relationships with them. What is this world coming to?'
—Best Selling author Attorney Rita Ewing, ex-wife of Patrick Ewing

and Partner in Hue-Man Bookstore in Manhattan

'From the first time I met Shanae, I knew she was a no nonsense person that would give it to you straight-up holding nothing back. This book has proved me right!'
—FRANK SKI, V103-FM Atlanta

Genres: Relationships, Nonfiction

266 pages, Kindle Edition

First published January 1, 2010

Reviews

[Carah H]

I was thoroughly disappointed in this book. I am literally throwing the book into the garbage (actually the recycle bin) after I finish this review. The concept of the book is great. A former NFL wife schools women on the TRUE rules of the dating game. And the cover is pretty well-designed, so I thought I'd be in for a treat. Unfortunately not. Both of the authors (Shanae Hall and Rhonda Frost, mother and daughter) are divorced, with no man. Yet they're telling the reader how to get a man, when their relationships didn't work out. I'm all about learning from other peoples' mistakes, but they just came off as bitter, angry and misguided throughout the book.

You can kind of see why the relationships didn't work out: too much emphasis was placed on a man's looks and wealth, instead of the more important factors -- relationship with God, personality, conversation, character and work ethic. Now of course "conversation" alone won't pay the bills, but you can't really establish a relationship that's long-lasting and real by being a gold digger, either. I appreciate the women being so transparent in the book. They shared a number of stories that were deeply personal. But overall, the book fell completely flat. It was all over the place -- quoting Bible scriptures in one breath, recounting the numerous tales of failed dates/relationships with sketchy playas in the next breath. Such a let down. Such a waste.

Ditch this book, and stick with Steve Harvey's advice instead.

[SerenaBeReading]

I enjoyed this book and am thinking about buying my own copy because it is right on time. It felt like I was hearing the voice of a trusted friend girl. Enjoyed the chapters "Setting Standards with a Capital S" and "Goodies Have Power, So Use Them Wisely." We shouldn't have to settle for less. I loved the life lessons that were throughout the book by the author.

[Crys]

very good book. It was practical.

[Drea Denise]

book was interesting to read and have Shanae Hall and Rhonda Frost tips and views on dating and relationships. Parts of the book made me LoL thinking about past mishaps myself. An entertaining read

[Adrienna]

This was a hilarious read. Shanae did share some of her instances with relationships and former marriage, so did coauthor too. Since I'm not married, it wasn't as easy to relate but understood. I had to really consider when men send poems, check Google to see if they took passages or the poem from elsewhere. "Why do married men approach single women?" was another concept to consider especially on social networking sites like Facebook! There were a couple other things I gathered from the book, but not sure if I would call a man a "goat roach." That's the best name we can do ladies to get on men, please, when they call us "chicken heads" and "gold-diggers" and worse names than this. I love most when Shanae had to find herself by seeking GOD and then see who she was after her marriage/children, since she got used to nurturing her former husband and children--time to breathe and discover your worth and who you are.

*Double-standards.
*Married men who cheats is doing it because of the plethora of single low self-esteem women willing to give themselves to a married man? She went into saying he's weak, serious low-self esteem issues, sex addict, or his lack of respect and appreciation for his wife, and can just say "no." on p. 38 I had was glued on this page for awhile. Her argument from Steve Harvey book (p. 106).

Think like a lady is to take care of your body, mind, spirit and welcome a man who can do the same; staying conscious, being honest, removing the blinders, setting standards, connection to your source, and knowing who you are at all times according to Rhonda on p.235--just say GOD, YHWH vs. Source.

2.5 (okay read and finished in a couple hours)

[Anita Dawson]

Interesting. After reading some of the stories of the things that women have done in relationships, I was apalled that many of them didn't have more common sense and see the writing on the wall in their failed relationships. But a my grandfather used to say; common sense ain't so common anymore. This book will help some women who aren't familiar with the men that play games, and I hope that if they are looking for a good self-help book that will help with them spot the signs.

I only read this book as they had a response to Steve Harvey's book, but as I said with that book, I hope someone can benefit.

[Mel]

Written in response to Steve Harvey's book "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man". Shanae Hall and Rhonda Frost share their personal stories of heartache when they didn't respect themselves or know to how. Nor did they know how to ask for what they wanted from men, in a relationship.
They share what men want; information they gathered from various men in their lives. Then they give information on what do do with this information including knowing your place. With knowing your place, (and you choose this), you set the boundaries. Are you the wife, girlfriend, girlfriend on the side, or a booty call? if you don't like the place you've chosen, then you need to change your boundaries.

[Nikki]

This was okay. Everything in it was common sense.

[Nje]

I really enjoyed the sassy style of writing that these two ladies used. It felt like engaging in girl talk :). Got me smiling and exclaiming "so true!" all the way.

[Lake]

This was more of a memoir than a self-help book. Every other page was a story about how one of the authors met some guy who was a liar, cheat, outrageous, etc. not a lot to take away that was useful.

[Dodong]

How can i download this?