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An End to Arguing: 101 Valuable Lessons for All Relationships
Now more than ever, couples need guidance for navigating conflict wisely and skillfully. Drawing on insights from their work with couples since 1975, the Blooms offer practical tools and strategies that apply to all relationships. An End to Arguing convincingly shows how destructive conflicts can be avoided, and provides stimulus for individual and interpersonal growth. They use compelling examples from their clinical work and their own fifty-year marriage, which has had its share of challenges.
An End to Arguing doesn't just provide a way of preventing differences from turning into painful conflict; it gives the reader an insight into what qualities are inherent in argument-free relationships. The way of getting there may be simpler than you think!
An End to Arguing doesn't just provide a way of preventing differences from turning into painful conflict; it gives the reader an insight into what qualities are inherent in argument-free relationships. The way of getting there may be simpler than you think!
332 pages, Kindle Edition
Published February 14, 2023
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March 11, 2023
Some books arrive right when you need them for reasons you might not expect. This is one of those books. An End to Arguing by Linda and Charlie Bloom is a book that every person needs to read, not just those who find themselves struggling with communication or prone to arguing with others. In it, they share 101 lessons from their private practice working with couples and their own fifty-year marriage. While it does not need to be read cover to cover, I did just that and I am grateful for what I learned in the pages. I hoped to gain some communication strategies to help me during a difficult time, but what I got was much, much more than that. I gained permission to feel, to find my voice and feel seen. I gained permission to set boundaries, to stand up for myself and to demand respect. But I also gained a great deal of insight into the way I work: the grudges I hold onto, the shadows that are lurking and my need to finally take responsibility for how I hold onto the past at the expense of the present. Don’t let the title fool you. This book is for everyone who wants to create a healthy relationship within herself to then create healthier relationships with others.
April 1, 2023
Wouldn't you love to know some way to prevent arguments with your spouse? In Linda and Charlie Bloom's new book, we'll learn from their long careers in the fields of psychotherapy.
This book isn't exclusively for adult relationships, but can helpful for other ages as well. Since the book has 101 Valuable Lessons for All Relationships, each chapter covers one lesson. I like this because the chapters are short and the reader can concentrate on the topic at hand.
I voluntarily reviewed a complimentary copy of this book which I received from the author. All views expressed are only my honest opinion.
This book isn't exclusively for adult relationships, but can helpful for other ages as well. Since the book has 101 Valuable Lessons for All Relationships, each chapter covers one lesson. I like this because the chapters are short and the reader can concentrate on the topic at hand.
I voluntarily reviewed a complimentary copy of this book which I received from the author. All views expressed are only my honest opinion.
February 21, 2023
An End to Arguing is a book that actually offers real, practical help to couples in a way that can be put into action.
Linda and Charlie look at what triggers arguments and how each individual of a couple can take accountability for their own actions, stop blaming, and get busy doing the things that will actually change the arguing dynamic in a relationship.
The layout of the book is very attractive in that the tips and tools are presented in short chapters that can be easily digested in a few minutes each.
You can open it to any page and get immediate help.
Linda and Charlie generously share how they have managed to sustain a healthy, dynamic and loving relationship spanning more than 50 years.
They are authentic and compassionate and I really liked the real-life examples that are littered throughout the pages that provide context and clarity.
Probably most importantly, they offer hope that you can too have a healthy and happy relationship despite the every day ups and downs of married life!
This is the type of book that is useful to have to hand to dip in and out of as different challenges arise so you can help navigate the storms better together.
I will absolutely be referring back to it.
Linda and Charlie look at what triggers arguments and how each individual of a couple can take accountability for their own actions, stop blaming, and get busy doing the things that will actually change the arguing dynamic in a relationship.
The layout of the book is very attractive in that the tips and tools are presented in short chapters that can be easily digested in a few minutes each.
You can open it to any page and get immediate help.
Linda and Charlie generously share how they have managed to sustain a healthy, dynamic and loving relationship spanning more than 50 years.
They are authentic and compassionate and I really liked the real-life examples that are littered throughout the pages that provide context and clarity.
Probably most importantly, they offer hope that you can too have a healthy and happy relationship despite the every day ups and downs of married life!
This is the type of book that is useful to have to hand to dip in and out of as different challenges arise so you can help navigate the storms better together.
I will absolutely be referring back to it.
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May 5, 2023As a long-time follower of Linda & Charlie Bloom's work, I found their latest book, "An End of Arguing" their best book yet. I can't believe they have packed so many great conversations into less than 300 pages. I was glad they created small chapters which gave me an opportunity to ponder & digest each topic before moving into the next conversation. It was satisfying to take my time going through their book.
When I started the book "An End of Arguing", I was thinking to myself, "NO WAY," but within the first few chapters, my thinking changed to, "THIS IS REALLY POSSIBLE". What a joy and a relief to discover for myself the possibility exists in all my relationships that THERE IS TRULY AN END OF ARGUING. Thank you Linda & Charlie for your on-going conversations with me through your books. You are rocking my world & shaking my beliefs!
When I started the book "An End of Arguing", I was thinking to myself, "NO WAY," but within the first few chapters, my thinking changed to, "THIS IS REALLY POSSIBLE". What a joy and a relief to discover for myself the possibility exists in all my relationships that THERE IS TRULY AN END OF ARGUING. Thank you Linda & Charlie for your on-going conversations with me through your books. You are rocking my world & shaking my beliefs!
March 1, 2023
In Linda and Charlie Bloom’s new book, An End to Arguing: 101 Valuable Lessons for All Relationships, they share creative and conscious ways that lead to peace and deep connection in all relationships. End to Arguing allows the reader to relate to real-life situations and gives tangible ideas to look at conflict in relationships with a more positive outcome that benefits both self and others. This book will prepare its reader to journey on a path to self-awareness when connecting with others while creating healthy boundaries to move their relationships to a high level full of love, respect, and intimacy.
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May 2, 2023A beautifully levelheaded guide from the Blooms
Linda and Charlie Bloom really know relationship dynamics inside and out, and it shows—and glows—on every page. This is a beautifully levelheaded guide to managing the conflicts that love inevitably flushes up to the surface and is full of the Blooms' relentless faith in people's ability to navigate them gracefully, and effectively. They make a solid case for the fact that differences between partners aren't the problem, but how they react and respond to those differences, and an equally compelling case for the radical idea that conflict is optional and not inevitable in relationships. Readers are sure to benefit from the heartfulness and thoroughness of this book’s explorations.
Gregg Levoy, author of Callings and Vital Signs
Linda and Charlie Bloom really know relationship dynamics inside and out, and it shows—and glows—on every page. This is a beautifully levelheaded guide to managing the conflicts that love inevitably flushes up to the surface and is full of the Blooms' relentless faith in people's ability to navigate them gracefully, and effectively. They make a solid case for the fact that differences between partners aren't the problem, but how they react and respond to those differences, and an equally compelling case for the radical idea that conflict is optional and not inevitable in relationships. Readers are sure to benefit from the heartfulness and thoroughness of this book’s explorations.
Gregg Levoy, author of Callings and Vital Signs
April 18, 2023
In An End to Arguing: 101 Valuable Lessons for All Relationships, Linda and Charlie Bloom share their fifty years of marriage experience, offering insight into how to make relationships work and gently resolve conflicts. In addition, the book provides tips on avoiding arguments and shares essential lessons on managing differences in a relationship.
The authors' background as psychotherapists is infused into their writing, resulting in a gentle and positive tone that makes the reader feel included in the discussion. The text is clear, and the phrases used are memorable, making the reading experience feel communal. This inspirational book provides value for readers, including life lessons, free marriage advice, virtual counseling sessions, and a positive outlook on relationships. The book contains 101 chapters, each tackling different but related topics, making it an engaging read for individuals of all ages and relationship types.
The authors offer insights on critical issues such as nonreactive listening, projection, negotiation, arrogance, people-pleasing, and agreements, among other topics. This book stands out because the lessons are not limited to just romantic relationships. The knowledge in the book can be applied to friendships, family relationships, professional settings, and any spaces that involve human relationships and interactions. The first chapter, which discusses the inevitability of differences in relationships and how to meet in the middle with your partner, is particularly profound and electrifying to read. The authors use multiple scenarios to expound on the topic being discussed, making it easy for readers to fully comprehend the main point.
An End to Arguing is an invaluable resource for anyone seeking to improve their relationships, whether romantic or otherwise. The book provides practical tips, free advice, and a positive outlook on human interactions. It is an encouraging and enlightening read that is sure to provide value to its readers.In An End to Arguing: 101 Valuable Lessons for All Relationships, Linda and Charlie Bloom share their fifty years of marriage experience, offering insight into how to make relationships work and gently resolve conflicts. In addition, the book provides tips on avoiding arguments and shares essential lessons on managing differences in a relationship.
The authors' background as psychotherapists is infused into their writing, resulting in a gentle and positive tone that makes the reader feel included in the discussion. The text is clear, and the phrases used are memorable, making the reading experience feel communal. This inspirational book provides value for readers, including life lessons, free marriage advice, virtual counseling sessions, and a positive outlook on relationships. The book contains 101 chapters, each tackling different but related topics, making it an engaging read for individuals of all ages and relationship types.
The authors offer insights on critical issues such as nonreactive listening, projection, negotiation, arrogance, people-pleasing, and agreements, among other topics. This book stands out because the lessons are not limited to just romantic relationships. The knowledge in the book can be applied to friendships, family relationships, professional settings, and any spaces that involve human relationships and interactions. The first chapter, which discusses the inevitability of differences in relationships and how to meet in the middle with your partner, is particularly profound and electrifying to read. The authors use multiple scenarios to expound on the topic being discussed, making it easy for readers to fully comprehend the main point.
An End to Arguing is an invaluable resource for anyone seeking to improve their relationships, whether romantic or otherwise. The book provides practical tips, free advice, and a positive outlook on human interactions. It is an encouraging and enlightening read that is sure to provide value to its readers.
The authors' background as psychotherapists is infused into their writing, resulting in a gentle and positive tone that makes the reader feel included in the discussion. The text is clear, and the phrases used are memorable, making the reading experience feel communal. This inspirational book provides value for readers, including life lessons, free marriage advice, virtual counseling sessions, and a positive outlook on relationships. The book contains 101 chapters, each tackling different but related topics, making it an engaging read for individuals of all ages and relationship types.
The authors offer insights on critical issues such as nonreactive listening, projection, negotiation, arrogance, people-pleasing, and agreements, among other topics. This book stands out because the lessons are not limited to just romantic relationships. The knowledge in the book can be applied to friendships, family relationships, professional settings, and any spaces that involve human relationships and interactions. The first chapter, which discusses the inevitability of differences in relationships and how to meet in the middle with your partner, is particularly profound and electrifying to read. The authors use multiple scenarios to expound on the topic being discussed, making it easy for readers to fully comprehend the main point.
An End to Arguing is an invaluable resource for anyone seeking to improve their relationships, whether romantic or otherwise. The book provides practical tips, free advice, and a positive outlook on human interactions. It is an encouraging and enlightening read that is sure to provide value to its readers.In An End to Arguing: 101 Valuable Lessons for All Relationships, Linda and Charlie Bloom share their fifty years of marriage experience, offering insight into how to make relationships work and gently resolve conflicts. In addition, the book provides tips on avoiding arguments and shares essential lessons on managing differences in a relationship.
The authors' background as psychotherapists is infused into their writing, resulting in a gentle and positive tone that makes the reader feel included in the discussion. The text is clear, and the phrases used are memorable, making the reading experience feel communal. This inspirational book provides value for readers, including life lessons, free marriage advice, virtual counseling sessions, and a positive outlook on relationships. The book contains 101 chapters, each tackling different but related topics, making it an engaging read for individuals of all ages and relationship types.
The authors offer insights on critical issues such as nonreactive listening, projection, negotiation, arrogance, people-pleasing, and agreements, among other topics. This book stands out because the lessons are not limited to just romantic relationships. The knowledge in the book can be applied to friendships, family relationships, professional settings, and any spaces that involve human relationships and interactions. The first chapter, which discusses the inevitability of differences in relationships and how to meet in the middle with your partner, is particularly profound and electrifying to read. The authors use multiple scenarios to expound on the topic being discussed, making it easy for readers to fully comprehend the main point.
An End to Arguing is an invaluable resource for anyone seeking to improve their relationships, whether romantic or otherwise. The book provides practical tips, free advice, and a positive outlook on human interactions. It is an encouraging and enlightening read that is sure to provide value to its readers.
May 2, 2023
"An End to Arguing" is packed with bite-sized pieces of wisdom you can apply to keep your relationship thriving. The idea is not to agree on everything; it's to acknowledge differences, communicate respectfully and grow individually and as a couple as solutions emerge.
I especially like how the authors state about marriage counseling. As a couples therapist, I agree that many enter couple therapy hoping that the counselor will fix their partner. Instead, real work and success happen when both partners assume responsibility for how they, themselves, have been contributing to the situation that causes them to seek professional help. The Blooms wisely point out that counselors are consultants, not fixers.
It's up to us to focus on learning and practicing, practicing and practicing new ways of relating until they come naturally. This book has so many choices for ways you can transform your relationship. So pick one that resonates, go from there, and enjoy the journey!
I especially like how the authors state about marriage counseling. As a couples therapist, I agree that many enter couple therapy hoping that the counselor will fix their partner. Instead, real work and success happen when both partners assume responsibility for how they, themselves, have been contributing to the situation that causes them to seek professional help. The Blooms wisely point out that counselors are consultants, not fixers.
It's up to us to focus on learning and practicing, practicing and practicing new ways of relating until they come naturally. This book has so many choices for ways you can transform your relationship. So pick one that resonates, go from there, and enjoy the journey!
April 17, 2023
I enjoyed this book a lot and gained knowledge about how to approach conflict in a healthier and combative way. One of the main things that blew my mind was something that the Blooms call "Enlightened Self-interest". It's a way of looking at the amount of energy and time we invest in our relationships, and how it comes back to us in wonderful and fulfilling ways. Truly overcoming a big conflict is one way to achieve this enlightened self-interest, because we don't always consider the whole picture when we are in the heat of an argument, (and want our own way). I really appreciated the individual stories, from real people, and the Blooms themselves; stories which helped me see that there really are creative ways out of seemingly impossible positions. Well done Blooms!!
May 3, 2023
Easy and practical relationship tips
Communication has always been difficult for me in any relationship because I am admittedly very conflict-phobic. However, I knew I needed to change - I just didn't know how or have the tools to do so. An End to Arguing made me feel seen. Throughout the book, Linda and Charlie expertly weave in the very couples therapy techniques they teach to their thousands of clients with their own personal lessons from the difficult beginnings of their relationship to offer countless, practical ways to adjust our communication style before conflict turns into nasty arguments. This is definitely a must-read for anyone looking to avoid arguments that could make or break a relationship!
Communication has always been difficult for me in any relationship because I am admittedly very conflict-phobic. However, I knew I needed to change - I just didn't know how or have the tools to do so. An End to Arguing made me feel seen. Throughout the book, Linda and Charlie expertly weave in the very couples therapy techniques they teach to their thousands of clients with their own personal lessons from the difficult beginnings of their relationship to offer countless, practical ways to adjust our communication style before conflict turns into nasty arguments. This is definitely a must-read for anyone looking to avoid arguments that could make or break a relationship!
May 12, 2023
I don’t know about you, but I am sick to death of self-help books that regurgitate the same tired lines in different ways over and over and over again. I also hate the ones that preach at me as so I’m a bit of an idiot and the author is some inspired guru. The best thing about Linda and Charlie Bloom is that they write from their own personal experience. They’ve been married over 50 years, and they really like each other! They simply share how it is that they’ve made that happen over so many years. This book is relatable, valuable, and can be read all at one sitting or in pieces. And when you’re finished with this one, the good news is they have four or five others. Definitely recommend this book.
March 12, 2023
This was such an easy book to pick up and read! I loved how the authors broke up each chapter in manageable sections that you can just read at random if you prefer. This is a wonderful book if you want to draw from their expertise without feeling overwhelmed by info. I also think it’s a very understandable book too. Although Linda and Charlie Bloom are both experts in their field, they don’t speak over your head. I also really appreciate that they are honest about their own relationship. Overall, I highly recommend this book!
May 21, 2023
I appreciated reading the realistic, practical, relatable tools and life experiences that Linda and Charlie have to offer and their book lays out so well. In addition, the chapter setups making it easy to dive into without feeling overwhelmed. I feel grateful for the wisdom of a long-lasting relationship that provides feelings of "we are normal." Meaning this too is attainable! I have been referring "An end to Arguing..." to my clients and other therapist colleagues. Looking forward to an audible for those who have long commutes. Enjoyable read, grateful.
April 27, 2023
I Wish I Had Gotten This Book As A Wedding Present
The Blooms have done a remarkable job of sharing the do's and don'ts of growing and maintaining love and peace in a relationship. I love how clear and concise the messages are and the real life stories of other couples, including some actual dialogue of how to have a clear conversation. In the future I plan to give this book to every newly engaged couple I come across!
The Blooms have done a remarkable job of sharing the do's and don'ts of growing and maintaining love and peace in a relationship. I love how clear and concise the messages are and the real life stories of other couples, including some actual dialogue of how to have a clear conversation. In the future I plan to give this book to every newly engaged couple I come across!
April 27, 2023
The Blooms are some of the wisest and most helpful coaches, therapists, and guides to the rocky terrain of romantic relationship. How we fight determines the joy or misery of our relationships and our lives more generally. The Blooms give 100 very practical tips for smoothing that bumpy road of love and commitment. My wife and I have benefited from their other books and are benefiting from this one. Should come with every marriage license.
May 3, 2023
A Gem for Creating a Healthy Relationship
This little book serves up so many invaluable tools for those difficult times that happen in every relationship. The Blooms offer honest, personal stories and examples that make the reading engaging and real. The reader knows that the tools have been used and practiced. The tools are practical and not always easy to practice which demonstrates their understanding of humanity and relationships. Kudos and thank you to the Blooms for this gift.
This little book serves up so many invaluable tools for those difficult times that happen in every relationship. The Blooms offer honest, personal stories and examples that make the reading engaging and real. The reader knows that the tools have been used and practiced. The tools are practical and not always easy to practice which demonstrates their understanding of humanity and relationships. Kudos and thank you to the Blooms for this gift.
May 16, 2023
This book is ESSENTIAL! It's filled with golden nuggets for all relationships.
I have read and learned so much from Linda & Charlie's previous books and was so excited when An End to Arguing came out. I ate it up! It's THE most important book that I have ever read about elevating our awareness, skills, communication, and potential for richer, more fulfilling connections in all relationships.
November 5, 2023
What I find most impressive about the book An End To Arguing is not the pages but the authors. Linda and Charlie Bloom are an amazing couple who not only talk the talk but have walked the walk. They are a beautiful couple with a long-term relationship giving them a wealth of knowledge on how to negotiate the world of relationship and couplehood. They have not only shared with us their professional knowledge but also personal knowledge of what makes friendships and companionship work.
April 26, 2023
This book is filled with much helpful information from two people who have obviously lived through many of their own relationship challenges. I loved reading about their struggles and resolutions, as well as stories about their clients. Everyone in a relationship with a partner, a parent, a friend, or a coworker, can benefit from this book.
February 25, 2023
An End to Arguing gives couples a chance to work out problems in their marriages on their own time. This book can be done all at once or the chapters are small enough they can be done one a day giving you time to work on the things the Authors suggest in a positive way.
April 30, 2023
I loved this book. It offers practical tools and real-world insights to nurture and support lasting and meaningful relationships. Linda and Charlie have created a Bible with 101 commandments. Break them and you will suffer the wrath. Follow them and you will experience heaven on earth.
May 30, 2023
Linda and Charlie have done it again with an incredible series of lessons which have already been tremendously valuable in practice. My learnings from this book have paid dividends in my relationship and it was well worth the read.
April 25, 2023
Charlie and Linda have once again delivered outstanding work in their book, "An End to Arguing: 101 Valuable Lessons for All Relationships." This book is a game-changer for all kinds of relationships as it presents a plethora of information in a concise and easily understandable format. The book is packed with insightful observations, practical advice, and personal anecdotes, making it an invaluable resource for anyone seeking guidance on improving their relationships.
May 15, 2023
Practical wisdom!
There are plenty of relationship advice books. What distinguishes those by Linda and Charlie Bloom, including An End to Arguing, is their fusion of wisdom and personal transparency. This well-written compassionate book is worth any couple's time.
There are plenty of relationship advice books. What distinguishes those by Linda and Charlie Bloom, including An End to Arguing, is their fusion of wisdom and personal transparency. This well-written compassionate book is worth any couple's time.
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