Keith has spent his life pretending to be something that he is not; straight. But after meeting Toby, his first boyfriend, and falling head-over-heels, he finds the strength and courage to step out of the closest and live his truth with pride. For months, everything seems perfect. Until Toby pulls the rug out from below his feet and Keith stumbles through a web of secrets and lies that leave him standing on shaky ground and questioning everything about the man he thought was the love of his life, and his own judgment.
Problems of Our Own, by Stephen Ford, is a story that touches upon the real-life struggles of those who are part of the LGBTQ+ community and the highs and lows of falling in love. Readers will join Keith on his journey as he deals with issues revolving around mental health, relationships, homophobia, and trauma. Problems of Our Own is Keith’s story, but it speaks to the experiences and lives of millions within the LGBTQ+ community who struggle with these same issues and need to know that they are not alone.
As a heterosexual female, I was worried I wouldn’t be able to relate to the main character in this book, but I did in ways I never expected. I felt every single emotion of Keith’s right alongside him. Reading his testimony and the journey he went through to finally be himself was emotionally draining in the best of ways. Keith not only found himself, but he also learned to love himself and I was so happy to read his journey to get there. I so badly want to hug young Keith and Toby and tell them to be themselves no matter what and that those who truly love them will always love and root for them. The author wrote this book in a way that takes the reader on an emotional journey with them. I resonated with Keith and his optimistic personality, willing to overlook the subtle red flags. He just wanted to love and be loved…. but don’t we all? But the ultimate message I got out of this book is to always do what is best for you, no matter what. You can’t pour into your own bucket if you’re always trying to make sure someone else’s is full. And Keith finally figured that out. Love love love. Big fan