Kelly makes himself accessible in the process of teaching. His open manner and wise voice help readers to see the unseeable and speak the unspeakable—to deal with their shame. He guides couples to use their shame instead of fearing it. The result is resilience—both individually and relationally. This book will benefit every couple; it should be required reading for engaging in relationships. —DON R. CATHERALL, PH.D., Professor of Clinical Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences, Feinberg School of Medicine, Northwestern University; Author of Emotional Viewing Couples Through the Lens of Affect (Routledge, 2007).
It surprised me when I learned that classical psychological theories and systems had no definitive theories of that most primal emotion--shame. Silvan Tomkins a PhD psychologist explicated his theories of innate affect and its effect on emotions in the 1950s through the 1990s. Affect psychology is the foundation upon which this highly readable primer is written. I recommend it.