You Are Not Lazy, You Are Wired Wrong!

by Dr Bhhavya Tharejaa

You Are Not Lazy, You Are Wired Wrong is not your typical self-help fluff-fest. It’s a straight-talking, slightly sarcastic, deeply insightful crash course into habit mastery—distilled from 30 of the most game-changing books ever written on behavior, mindset, and human potential.
Designed to be read in just 30 days, this book is your witty companion through one powerful idea a day—each rooted in bestselling research-backed classics like Atomic Habits, The Power of Habit, Tiny Habits, Drive, and more. Whether you’re someone who’s tired of overthinking and under-doing, or you’re simply fed up with making goals that ghost you by week two—this book rewires your understanding of habits from the ground up.
Structured into four smart weeks—Foundation, Systems, Mindset, and Long-Term Mastery—you’ll go from “why can’t I stick to anything?” to “wait, I actually enjoy this routine?!”
Featuring a relatable story arc with Rohan (your not-so-perfect habit buddy), plug-and-play real-life applications, workbook-style prompts, and ‘aha’ moments on every page, this is the ultimate no-BS manual to help you build a life that slaps—one small habit at a time.
And here’s the it’s just Volume 1 of a 12-part series (365 Unlocked) that brings you 365 transformative ideas from 365 books—so you never have to waste time sifting through fluff again.

Kindle Edition

Published September 11, 2025

Reviews

[Ankit Rastogi · Rating 5 out of 5]

You Are Not Lazy, You Are Wired Wrong by Dr. Bhhavya Tharejaa is one of those rare self-help books that feels both science-backed and deeply human. It doesn’t guilt you into changing, it helps you understand why you struggle to change in the first place.

The book breaks down 30 practical ideas drawn from some of the best habit books ever written, but in a refreshingly simple and relatable way. Every chapter gives you something you can actually apply like linking new habits to existing ones, making habits rewarding, and starting with just two minutes.

What makes it stand out is the tone, it feels like a kind, insightful friend explaining how to work with your brain, not against it.

If you have ever felt stuck, unmotivated, or guilty about “not being consistent,” this book will make you see yourself differently. You are not broken, your system just needs a redesign.

A must-read for anyone ready to rebuild their habits, focus, and energy - one small shift at a time.

[Debashish · Rating 4 out of 5]

You Are Not Lazy, You Are Wired Wrong is a revolutionary book that shifts the focus from habit change to mindset as it discusses the problem of the so-called lazy people. The author has a very friendly style of writing, which is also very profound at the same time, and the 30-day arrangement always reminds you of your goals but without putting too much pressure on you. I liked to see how Rohan's life story is so similar to the everyday problems of people regarding their lack of willpower and procrastination. The irony made the lessons feel more like a joke than a burden. The author takes the very potent ideas of many books and turns them into simple daily insights. By the end of the book, I was no longer a self-blamer but a day designer. Waking up in the morning was no longer a punishment but a reward because the book really keeps its promise of turning your habits upside down.

[Bookishreview · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book changed how I think about habits, motivation, and even myself. You Are Not Lazy, You Are Wired Wrong isn’t your usual pep-talk type of self-help—it’s funny, brutally honest, and comforting all at once. I used to think I lacked willpower, but after reading this, I realized I just needed a better system. The author’s sarcastic tone made it fun to read, and Rohan’s story felt so relatable—it was like seeing my own messy progress on paper. The daily structure gave me something small and doable each morning, which made change feel real. I loved how each lesson connected back to everyday struggles. It’s not about pushing harder—it’s about understanding yourself better. For the first time, I didn’t feel guilty about failing; I felt curious about improving. This book truly helped me rewire my habits and, in a way, my self-belief too.

[Rekha · Rating 4 out of 5]

You Are Not Lazy, You Are Wired Wrong was exactly what I needed when I’d almost given up on self-help books. It’s not filled with fancy theories or unrealistic expectations, it’s raw, witty, and real. The author talks about habits in a way that feels fresh and personal. I loved Rohan’s story because it reminded me of my own struggles, the guilt of breaking routines, the frustration of restarting. Each day’s idea made me pause and reflect without feeling pressured. The humor kept it light, but the lessons hit hard. I appreciated how it draws wisdom from books like Atomic Habits and The Power of Habit but keeps things simple. By the end, I wasn’t just motivated; I felt capable. This book helped me shift my mindset from “I’m failing again” to “I’m learning better.” It genuinely feels like the kind of guide I’ll come back to every few months.

[Seema · Rating 4 out of 5]

When I picked up You Are Not Lazy, You Are Wired Wrong, I was tired of feeling stuck. I’ve read so many “change your habits” books before, but this one was different—it felt human. The humor pulled me in, but the insights kept me thinking. I could see myself in Rohan’s story—someone who tries to change but slips back into old patterns. The author explains things in such a relatable way that I didn’t feel judged, just understood. I loved how the lessons were short but powerful, and the workbook prompts made me stop and reflect on my daily choices. It’s not about being perfect, just consistent, and that message stayed with me. The best part? I didn’t feel overwhelmed for once. This book helped me replace guilt with awareness, and now I actually enjoy improving myself. It’s simple, honest, and surprisingly life-changing.

[Rhea · Rating 4 out of 5]

Reading You Are Not Lazy, You Are Wired Wrong felt like taking a deep breath after years of self-blame. I’ve always struggled with keeping habits—start strong, then disappear after a week. This book helped me see that I wasn’t lazy, just doing things the wrong way. The author’s sarcastic humor made me laugh while facing some uncomfortable truths. Rohan’s story hit home because it mirrored my own cycle of trying, failing, and trying again. What I loved most was the simplicity—no complicated theories, just small, doable ideas that actually stick. The 30-day format worked beautifully; each page felt like a mini life lesson. By the end, I didn’t just learn about habits—I started trusting myself again. This book felt less like advice and more like a friend who understands your chaos and still believes you can fix it, one small step at a time.

[ilovereading · Rating 4 out of 5]

You Are Not Lazy, You Are Wired Wrong honestly felt like someone finally understood me. I’ve spent years feeling guilty about not following through on habits, thinking something was wrong with my discipline. But this book changed that. It’s funny, honest, and deeply relatable. The sarcastic tone made it feel like a friend talking sense into me, not a self-help guru preaching motivation. I loved how the author used Rohan’s story, it felt like watching myself go through the ups and downs of trying to stay consistent. Each day’s lesson was short, simple, and thought-provoking. What made it special was how real it felt, no fake positivity, just practical advice that works. The daily structure helped me stick around, and for once, I didn’t feel pressured to be perfect. I finished it with a smile and a sense of calm, realizing I just needed to rewire, not restart.

[booksforme · Rating 4 out of 5]

The first day’s lesson, “You Are Not Broken — You Just Don’t Understand the Habit Loop,” hit me hard. I’ve always blamed myself for not sticking to routines, but this chapter made me see patterns, not personal flaws. The references to The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg connected everything beautifully. By Day 3, when I read “Big Wins Start Small,” I actually smiled, it reminded me that tiny changes matter. The week built gently but powerfully, showing me how my environment, mindset, and awareness shape everything. Day 7’s mindfulness-inspired reflection was my favorite; it grounded me. Instead of chasing motivation, I started noticing triggers, energy, and routines. This week wasn’t just about learning habits, it was about finally understanding myself. It truly laid the foundation for real, lasting change.

[Nayka · Rating 4 out of 5]

I never thought I could relate so much toward You Are Not Lazy, You Are Wired Wrong. It was just like someone finally articulating why I go strong at the beginning but fade half-way through. The humor kept it enjoyable while the lessons irreversibly altered my way of thinking about habits. I loved that it doesn't require that you be perfect; it celebrates any and all progress. Rohan's story gave another punch of personality that made a lot click in my mind. The daily reflections were short yet very meaningful. This book I will be returning to more than once whenever I feel the need to restart without guilt.

[Migo · Rating 4 out of 5]

You Are Not Lazy, You Are Wired Wrong isn't just another self-help book about habits- it's a complete mindset. Casual, yet profoundly insinuating, the 30-day layout keeps one in check but without the pressure. I enjoyed how the author narrated through the journey of Rohan who dealt with real-life motivation and procrastination struggles. The sarcasm kept it light and fun! I loved how the author ties the huge, beautiful ideas across so many books into easy, simple insights we use daily. Pretty soon, I stopped blaming myself and started re-engineering my days. It does indeed rewire your habits as promised.

[Panwi · Rating 5 out of 5]

Quite an extraordinary take on discipline entered my mind after reading this book. You Are Not Lazy, You Are Wired Wrong feels honest, witty, and surprisingly warm. The style of writing used was largely conversational, which allowed the book to never delve too deeply into its big ideas and keep it easily accessible. I related to Rohan deeply, for his struggles with habit chaos in many ways are parallel to mine. I liked the use of different examples from famous books by the author without complicating the material for me. It is just good humor and science put side by side that stays with you. This book looks like a good friend hugging and helping you after failures at building routines.

[Readandfun · Rating 4 out of 5]

Reading "You Are Not Lazy, You Are Wired Wrong" was like to having a brutally honest best friend walk me through my messy habits. It punches through all the motivational fluff and explains why habits simply don't work for us. With simple daily lessons, the impact hits right away, and I loved that each idea was related to popular books without ever feeling repetitive. The stories from Rohan brought humor and realism into the picture, reminding me that progress rarely has to be perfect. I closed the book feeling lighter, more motivated, and oddly proud of all those small steps forward. The most fun I've had while learning discipline, for sure!

[Kushal · Rating 5 out of 5]

I forgot what it felt like to believe in myself until this. Every page reminded me I'm capable, just misunderstood my own wiring. Rohan's transformation felt like permission to try again without the shame spiral. The daily wins stacked up quietly, and suddenly I was someone who follows through. Week four hit different I actually saw myself differently. If you've been beating yourself up for "never changing," this book hands you hope with a real plan attached. I'm genuinely excited about who I'm becoming.

[Escapingreality · Rating 4 out of 5]

You Are Not Lazy, You Are Wired Wrong felt like a wake-up call wrapped in humor and honesty. It’s not preachy, it’s practical. The author’s sarcastic tone made me laugh, but also hit deep truths about why I keep quitting my own goals. I loved Rohan’s story; it felt like watching myself struggle through new habits. Each day’s lesson was short yet powerful, helping me understand that it’s not about motivation but wiring. This book made me realize I’m not broken, I just needed a better system. Easily one of the most relatable self-help books I’ve ever read.

[Shweta · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book met me where I was stuck and skeptical. It didn't preach perfection; it offered understanding wrapped in sharp wit and practical wisdom. Each insight felt like unlocking a door I didn't know existed. The guilt lifted, replaced by quiet confidence. I stopped waiting for motivation and started building momentum. This book didn't just teach me about habits; it fundamentally rewired how I approach change itself.

[Krish · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book cut through the noise with raw honesty and unexpected humor. It understood my struggles without judgment, offering wisdom that felt personally crafted for me. Every page delivered manageable steps, not impossible standards. I stopped feeling broken and started feeling capable. The motivation didn't fade after reading it lingered, driving real action. This wasn't another self-help book gathering dust; it became the catalyst for genuine, sustainable transformation in my life.

[Tanya · Rating 5 out of 5]

Somewhere along the way, I stopped believing I could change. This book didn't just teach me habits it gave me back my spark. Reading Rohan figure things out felt like watching a friend win, then realizing I could too. The small daily victories added up into something bigger: self-trust. By the final week, I wasn't just completing tasks I was genuinely proud of myself. If you've lost faith in your ability to grow, this brings it rushing back with warmth and wisdom.

[Ishan · Rating 5 out of 5]

Picked this up expecting another "just wake up at 5am" lecture. Instead, got punched with actual neuroscience and zero judgment. The sarcasm helps the medicine go down, and Rohan's storyline kept me hooked daily. What shocked me? How much I'd been fighting my own brain instead of working with it. Three weeks in, my morning routine exists without willpower white knuckling. It's weird. It works. If you're exhausted from self-improvement that never sticks, this rewires the game.

[Ishika · Rating 5 out of 5]

I've started and quit more habits than I care to admit. This book didn't lecture me it explained me. Rohan's mess felt like my mess, and suddenly my "laziness" had actual science behind it. The 30-day format kept me accountable without burnout. By week two, something clicked. I'm not perfect now, but I finally understand why I wasn't before. That alone was worth it. Sometimes you just need someone to say "you're wired different, not defective."

[Himesh · Rating 5 out of 5]

I'm that person who buys planners then abandons them by January 8th. This book called me outgently, but firmly. Reading Rohan's story felt like looking in a mirror, except he actually figured it out. The daily structure kept me from spiraling into analysis paralysis, and for once, I didn't feel shame-bombed for being "inconsistent." Week three genuinely shifted how I see my own resistance. It's personal, practical, and doesn't pretend change happens overnight.

[Aryan · Rating 5 out of 5]

Forget toxic positivity and empty promises. This book admits you're not broken your approach is. Thirty bite-sized chapters decode behavioral science's biggest secrets through Rohan's relatable failures and wins. It's like having a brutally honest friend who actually read all those bestsellers you keep meaning to. Weekly themes build momentum without overwhelm. If you're done with guru nonsense and ready for frameworks that respect your actual human brain, start here.

[Sukanya Yadav · Rating 5 out of 5]

This isn't another motivational manifesto gathering dust on your nightstand. It's 30 days of unfiltered wisdom stripped from psychology's greatest hits no fluff, just systems that actually work. Follow Rohan's messy journey while dismantling your "I'm just lazy" narrative with science-backed strategies from Atomic Habits to Drive. Smart, snarky, and surprisingly actionable. Consider this your intervention delivered with a smirk and a roadmap that doesn't require superhuman willpower.

[Aditya · Rating 5 out of 5]

I sobbed reading this not from sadness, but relief. Every page dismantled the harsh voice in my head that screamed "lazy" whenever I struggled. The science here isn't cold; it's tender, validating struggles I thought were character flaws. I finally understand why certain tasks feel impossible, why my brain rebels against what seems easy for others. This book didn't just educate me it liberated me. I'm learning to work with myself, not against myself. Transformative.

[Hardik Badlani · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book cracked me open. For years, I called myself lazy, carried shame like a second skin. But these pages revealed a different truth I'm not broken, just wired differently. Each chapter felt like permission to finally breathe, to stop fighting my own brain. The compassion here is radical and life changing. I wish I'd found this sooner, but I'm grateful it found me now. Essential reading for anyone who's ever felt "not enough."

[Abhishek · Rating 5 out of 5]

I purchased this hoping for answers, and I wasn't disappointed. The author validates feelings of failure while providing actionable tools. Chapters on executive dysfunction, dopamine regulation, and environment design are particularly helpful. I finally understand why traditional productivity advice fails me. The writing is accessible without being condescending. This book deserves shelf space alongside clinical psychology texts. Genuinely grateful for this perspective shift.

[Anisha · Rating 5 out of 5]

Finally, someone explains why willpower alone doesn't work for everyone. The book breaks down neurological differences with clarity and without judgment. I shared chapters with family members, and it helped them understand me better. The distinction between laziness and neuro divergence is crucial. The author combines research with real world examples beautifully. This resource has saved relationships and improved my self compassion significantly. Worth every penny.

[Geeta Ahuja · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book fundamentally shifted how I view myself and my struggles. Instead of blaming myself for laziness, I discovered I have ADHD traits that affect my motivation differently. The author's compassionate approach validates years of self-criticism I've internalized. The practical strategies are immediately applicable. Highly recommend for anyone who's felt broken or inadequate. This isn't just another self-help book it's genuinely transformative and backed by neuroscience.

[Raj Shekhar · Rating 5 out of 5]

Reading this book felt like someone finally understood me. For years, I struggled with feeling lazy or unmotivated, but this helped me see that my brain is just wired differently and that’s okay. It gave me permission to stop beating myself up and instead focus on my strengths. The honest, compassionate tone made me feel seen and supported. This book didn’t just change my mindset; it gave me hope and confidence to embrace who I truly am. I’m so grateful for this powerful perspective.

[Prashant · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is a powerful reminder that being different isn’t a flaw it’s a unique strength.It reframes what many mistake for laziness into a fresh understanding of how our minds truly work.Reading it felt like a breath of fresh air, inspiring me to embrace my true self with confidence and compassion.If you’ve ever felt misunderstood or stuck, this book will uplift you and light the way toward self-acceptance and growth.

[Yashi Agrawal · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is an energizing and eye-opening read that completely transformed how I see my habits and struggles. Rohan’s honest voice and playful humor make science feel exciting and deeply relatable. Every page sparks self-awareness and motivation, showing that discipline isn’t about flawlessness but self-understanding. It’s more than a book it’s a burst of encouragement that makes personal growth feel empowering, hopeful, and fun.