Get In or Get Out, But Don’t Stay in the Freakn’ Middle: Start Over Stronger After Betrayal, Divorce, or at Any Breaking Point and Even If You Feel Broken: Snatch Back Your Power!

by Lía Roth, Maria Ladron de Guevara (photographer), Miles Austin (illustrator)

✓Are you stuck in a relationship that’s draining you?

✓Do you feel trapped between staying and leaving but can’t seem to make a move?

If you are caught in the gray zone of indecision, endlessly weighing whether to stay, leave, or somehow make things work, this book is your lifeline.

Get In or Get Out, But Don’t Stay in the Freakn’ Middle by Dr. Lia Roth is a no-BS guide to reclaiming your power after betrayal, divorce, infidelity, or emotional abuse. Drawing from her expertise as a psychoanalyst, Dr. Roth doesn’t just talk about healing—she lays out a bold, strategic approach to breaking free from toxic patterns and making decisions that put you back in control.

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Real Love Doesn’t Hurt: Dr. Roth dismantles the compromise myth & reveals why real love is built on balance, not self-sacrifice.Cracking the Code of Did the floor cracked opened under your feet? This chapter will show you why you feel that way, what happened, and what to do about it. Using semiotic theory (yap! the study of signs and symbols) Dr. Roth explains that betrayal doesn’t just break your It redefines who you are. Toxic relationships can impact your sense of self, confidence, and your ability to build relationships.The Roles We From the Orbiter, to the “Unconditional” Lover and so many others, Dr. Roth exposes the hidden roles we slip into... and teaches you how we get hooked on roles, and to drop the act.. no apologies needed.The No-BS Real Deal This checklist is your reality check. A step-by-step guide to recognizing whether your relationship is worth saving or if it’s time to cut ties and move on.The Narcissist’s Ever felt like you’re losing yourself to someone who gaslights, controls, and rewrites reality? This is your survival guide. Spot manipulative tactics. Protect your sanity, and reclaim your self-worth.Jekyll & Why some partners switch from loving to toxic overnight. Dr. Roth breaks down the deep psychological mechanisms that drive these personality shifts, so you can stop romanticizing red flags and start seeing the truth.When Love Feels If you’re in a relationship but still feel emotionally abandoned, this section helps you recognize the red flags and take back your emotional space.Got Kids? Strategic Choices in Troubled For those who have kids, financial entanglements, or deep investments in their relationships, leaving isn’t always straightforward. This section helps you create a powerful action plan to make the best possible decision for yourself and your family.Fix or The ultimate guide to repairing or ending relationships the right way. How do you know whether to work things out, or walk away for good? Dr. Roth lays out a concrete strategy for evaluating your options, taking decisive action, and ensuring that whichever path you choose, you emerge stronger, not shattered.Benefits of Having This

Regain Your Stop second-guessing yourself and take control of your life.Heal from Understand why infidelity and emotional abuse hit so hard... and how to rebuild!Break Free from Toxic Learn to recognize, resist, and escape harmful relationship patterns.

215 pages, Kindle Edition

Published December 25, 2024

Reviews

[Salina Brown · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a type of book that I normally wouldn’t have gravitated towards to read but it was really good. It was packed with a lot of information that was really helpful. Having dealt with infidelity in my first marriage, this would have been something that would have helped me tremendously back then when it happened. Even though it was decades ago that it happened, it brought up a lot for me to work through. There was a lot of great tidbits in this book that I will even need to go back and read again to fully absorb. Please check this book out and don’t be afraid of it being deemed a self help book! It really is a great eye opener!

[Jenni · Rating 5 out of 5]

4.5 Stars
Dr. Lia Roth has a unique way with words; she communicates in a straightforward manner that feels more like a conversation with friends over drinks than a clinical discussion. She cuts through the fluff to help you think and feel clearly, empowering you to make the best decisions for yourself. While some of her insights may resonate and others may not, her ultimate goal is for you to live your best life—free from toxicity and stagnation.
In her book, "Get In or Get Out, But Don’t Stay in the Freakin’ Middle: Snatch Back Your Power and Start Over After Divorce, Separation, Infidelity, and Betrayal. Reclaim Your Boldest Self! (F@ck Freud)," Dr. Roth tackles difficult topics in an simple way, breaking them down piece by piece. She paints a picture of what a healthy, loving, and fulfilling life could look like, encouraging everyone to blossom and stay true to themselves.
This book is truly food for thought, and I highly recommend it. Remember, you are worthy of all good things. While it may be hard to let go, you are in charge of your own life, and embracing change can lead to incredible transformations, just as Dr. Roth illustrates.

[Joanne Ellis · Rating 3 out of 5]

Dr. Lia Roth’s Get In and Get Out is a bold, no-nonsense guide to navigating relationships with clarity, confidence, and zero tolerance for emotional limbo. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a relationship that’s neither fulfilling nor completely broken, this book is the wake-up call you didn’t know you needed.

A Revolutionary Take on Relationships
Dr. Roth doesn’t sugarcoat the truth: being in a relationship shouldn’t mean compromising your dreams, identity, or self-worth. Through her binary relationship theory, she challenges the long-held belief that love is all about compromise. Instead, she redefines relationships as a dynamic balance—where both partners thrive together or recognize when it’s time to walk away. There’s no middle ground, no endless waiting for things to “get better.” It’s either working, or it’s not. Period.

Betrayal as an Identity Crisis
One of the book’s most eye-opening discussions is on betrayal. Dr. Roth digs deep into the psychological and symbolic impact of being betrayed—not just as a breach of trust, but as an attack on your very sense of self. Using insights from semiotic theory, she explains how betrayal can shake a person to their core, forcing them to rebuild their identity from the ground up. This perspective is both refreshing and deeply validating for anyone who has struggled to move on after being deceived.

A Direct, Empowering, and Engaging Read
What sets Get In and Get Out apart is Dr. Roth’s fearless, straight-talking style. She delivers tough love with a punch of sass, making even the heaviest topics feel empowering rather than overwhelming. This isn’t just another relationship book filled with feel-good advice—it’s a battle plan for reclaiming your confidence, setting boundaries, and refusing to settle for less than you deserve.

If you’ve ever been stuck in the “gray zone” of a relationship, doubting yourself or waiting for things to change, Get In and Get Out will shake you awake. Dr. Roth’s insights are sharp, her approach is unapologetic, and her message is clear: life is too short for half-measures in love. This is a must-read for anyone ready to break free from emotional stagnation and take charge of their own happiness.

[Linda Riseley · Rating 5 out of 5]

Reading this book is like sitting down with an insightful, warm, and understanding friend who just happens to be brilliant at helping you see the light. It flows effortlessly, with dashes of humor sprinkled throughout—moments that make you smile, chuckle, and even belly laugh when you least expect it. That humor doesn’t just entertain; it eases the weight of deep topics, breaking them into manageable, absorbable bites.

This isn’t your typical self-help book that dictates solutions or offers cookie-cutter advice. No, it’s far more powerful than that. Like a gifted therapist, Dr. Roth doesn’t tell you what to do. Instead, she lays out the landscape of possibilities, gently encouraging you to explore and discover what resonates with your own heart and mind. There’s a kind of liberation in that—freedom to find your own truth, all while being guided by her wisdom.
Practical tips abound, but what truly sets this book apart is its inspirational core. Dr. Roth doesn’t just talk about overcoming struggles; she paints a vibrant picture of what healthy, thriving relationships can be. It’s not just about surviving—it’s about flourishing. The way she expands on these ideas feels like a breath of fresh air, unlike anything I’ve read before.
And oh, the analogies! “Circling around the drain” is a standout—brilliantly capturing something we’ve all felt but couldn’t quite articulate. Those moments of clarity and humor make this book so easy to connect with, so engaging to read.

Thank you, Dr. Roth, for pouring your wisdom into these pages. This book doesn’t just inform; it transforms. You’ve written something that will genuinely change lives for the better, and I, for one, am grateful to have found it. Highly recommend!
"Life-changing wisdom with humor and heart—this book is a must-read!"

[Naomi Valkyrie · Rating 3 out of 5]

I’ve read a lot of self-help/self-empowerment books over the years and occasionally have run across one that falls into the trap of being redundant – this is one of those books. A lot of this could have been condensed way down. Out of 21 chapters and a few sub-sections, I felt like 11 of them provided some useful, practical information.
I initially picked up this book because the description mentioned semiotic theory (the study of signs and symbols) and that interested me. I was disappointed that this was barely mentioned at all.
Some of the things talked about in the book feel off to me. For instance, it’s mentioned that it’s believed the first emotion coming into the world is hate. This doesn’t feel right. Hate is learned. If anything, I’d think the thing we feel most coming into the world would be fear because we’re entering a new environment after being in a protected space. But that’s just my opinion. Reading their theory, it felt… not right.
And there’s a statement in there that betrayal and PTSD are different because PTSD is due to something life-threatening, and betrayal attacks the ego. But it doesn’t allow for CPTSD (except to be briefly mentioned in a sarcastic statement about a therapist may have “thrown around that term”), which is something that happens over time and isn’t necessarily directly life-threatening – like prolonged emotional trauma. Prolonged emotional trauma can affect the ego (your sense of self and identity). Therefore, betrayal could be a valid source of CPTSD depending on how long it happens and the way it’s done. I feel like there’s a relationship here that is ignored.
Overall, there are some useful bits in the book. But as with any self-help book, you’ll have to pick out what resonates with you.

[Stephanie · Rating 4 out of 5]

"Dr. Lia Roth, a psychoanalyst with a wealth research, academic and clinical background, combines her deep expertise in the complex world of the human mind and relationships. With a psychology degree from the University of Buenos Aires and advanced studies at Washington University in St. Louis and the Boston Graduate School of Psychoanalysis, she knows her way around the messy minds and twisted emotions we all try to hide. Her new book? It’s a fire-starting manifesto for anyone who’s been spinning in the middle of a relationship without moving forward. Stuck in the ‘gray zone’? Dr. Roth says that’s no place to be. Here’s the deal: it’s not about giving an inch, taking a mile, or lying down for the sake of so-called “compromise.” No way. If you’re selling out your own dreams just to keep the peace, you’re not living in love, you’re surviving. Which is a huge difference. Dr. Roth dives into her ‘binary relationship theory,’ blowing up the idea that love is a compromise. It’s a dynamic balance where it’s all about you, me, and the spark we’re creating together. If it’s dead, if it’s toxic, if it’s stealing your vibe: fix it or nix it, but for the love of sanity, don’t just hang around hoping it’ll magically get better. That’s what this book is here to shake out of you. And betrayal? Oh, it’s deeper than “someone did me wrong.” Dr. Roth cracks it open, betrayal doesn’t just crush trust; it shakes you to your core, twisting your sense of self until you barely recognize who you are ..and, no, this isn’t some PTSD story. It’s an identity crisis, a total wake-up to everything you’re made of. Drawing from semiotic theory (yup, the study of signs and symbols), she shows you how betrayal strikes on a level most people don’t even see coming."
This book talks about potential divorce, divorce, talks about how to handle your children with the divorce. It also talks about strategies if you are in a gray zone with your relationship and how to possibly change it for yourself or each other. This book talks about different strategies to use with these relationships. I give this book 4 stars.

[Roxsanne Lesieur · Rating 5 out of 5]

Have you ever been betrayed, felt like you have lost yourself, or realised that you are in a situation which has changed into something else over time? This might be the book you are looking for.

Betrayal is a really tough thing to experience, but this book talks you through it step by step, it starts with defining what betrayal is, and it's not what you think, it's much more complicated and in order to truly recover from it, you need to know how to identify it. Learning these signs and symbols can help make the decision and make a plan for the future, even if at the time it looks bleak.

Next, it talks about the roles in relationships, and how these change from beginning to end, what exactly these roles even are and how to identify what you may have lost, in order to regain it. The reasons behind these roles and how they can be manipulated by individuals to get what they want and take it from you in the process.

Finally, this book shows you how to recover your power and heal from the betrayal and plan for a strong and independent future, become your authentic self and show it to the world because you are worth taking up space. This book also talks about situations where children, complex financial issues and the other entanglements which make leaving or fixing a relationship difficult and how to make this change with the minimal harm.

This is an extremely informative and insightful book which can help anyone detangle themselves from a relationship, or non-romantic situation while regaining a sense of self in an easy to understand and follow way.

[Jennie · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is about moving on from being stuck in a relationship. The author believes “a healthy relationship has three essential elements: you, me, and the relationship itself.” She stresses the importance of going beyond the traditional, nuclear relationship style of giving up oneself for the betterment of the other partner. Rather, she emphasizes a binary relationship style. She encourages both partners to pursue their own dreams both before entering into, and while being in, a relationship.
I felt this book was written more for women than men, although men could certainly still read it and may even benefit from it. The title implies the book will discuss both getting out of a relationship and choosing to stay in a relationship. However, I feel it was very pro-divorce. The book did say it is up to each person to decide to stay or get out of the relationship, but mostly gives advice on how to end a relationship and move forward after a break-up.
If you are considering leaving a relationship, this book is an excellent guide. Chapter 15 is particularly helpful if you want to end your relationship but must continue cohabitating.
Overall, I recommend this read if you are looking to get “unstuck” from your relationship by ending it. If you are looking for a self-help guide on how to rebuild a relationship after betrayal, I recommend finding another book.

[Christina Sanders · Rating 5 out of 5]

Loved the prologue it’s really grabs you and lets you know what you are there for. This book really spoke to me I’ve been through a bad betrayal and completely understand and relate to the story. What I really like is how it shifts you to look at things and to push yourself forward. This is the book I definitely needed back then but I’m glad to have read it now because it’s a reminder to myself (right when I needed it) to always love myself and chase my dreams no matter what happens in life, and I appreciate that. It may sound simple to some people but it’s easy to forget about yourself when you have a lot of people you are taking care of. I found this to be a great read, and I couldn’t put it down. It very accurately described how severe betrayal felt to me and how much I love being my authentic self and loving myself no matter what life throws at me (although some things take me down for a min I always get back up and keep going).
Even if you aren’t going through any type of betrayal, divorce, etc it’s a great read for learning how to look at things differently and regain your power for yourself! It can help you to better understand how to choose which route is best for you (to fix or get out) in any relationship (friendship even).

[Debbie · Rating 5 out of 5]

Dr. Roth’s book focuses primarily on what she terms, “Binary Relationships” where the focus is not on couples thinking as a unified whole, but in which each individual focuses on his/her self-actualization and then treats the relationship as a separate, independent entity. She recommends this approach especially in situations where betrayal has occurred within the relationship. “Love isn’t about one person bending over backward to make everything work. It’s about both people working their own path, while nurturing the relationship as a third entity … something that belongs to both of you.” Her book offers solid advice which she has gleaned from years of study (research and academic) and clinical experience. I found it to be especially enlightening regarding addressing a breakup involving children. Her writing is conversational and easily understandable to the lay-person who may purchase this book. Her claim, “the best relationships aren’t a crutch or a Band-Aid for our wounds; they’re a partnership that challenges us to be better, get stronger, and give as much as we receive”, may mean a great deal of individual work, put certainly makes sense in today’s modern world.

[Sue · Rating 5 out of 5]

Get in or Get Out, But Don’t Stay in the Freakn’ Middle
by Dr. Lia Roth

Ok so this book is not in the normal genre of what I would normally read. So, I was not sure what I would make of reading it, but I can honestly say I wish I had this book to read years ago. I have had relationships in the past where I was cheated on and I have asked myself what did I do? Anyway, let me introduce you to your new best friend, Get in or Get Out, But Don’t Stay in the Freakn’ Middle by Dr. Lia Roth. If your life is currently in a place where you have no idea which way to go, then this book may very well help you. This book can appear to be a little in your face with the content of the book, but I seriously feel sometimes it is the in your face approach that gives us clarity of where we are currently in decision making. I can also honestly say that I thought some parts of the book due to how it is worded comes across a but rough. If you feel this emotion, ask yourself has this book got you facing something you do not wish to face? Lastly if you want validation of your emotions this book you need to read.

[Sue · Rating 4 out of 5]

Get in or Get Out, But Don’t Stay in the Freakn’ Middle
by Dr. Lia Roth

Ok so this book is not in the normal genre of what I would normally read. So, I was not sure what I would make of reading it, but I can honestly say I wish I had this book to read years ago. I have had relationships in the past where I was cheated on and I have asked myself what did I do? Anyway, let me introduce you to your new best friend, Get in or Get Out, But Don’t Stay in the Freakn’ Middle by Dr. Lia Roth. If your life is currently in a place where you have no idea which way to go, then this book may very well help you. This book can appear to be a little in your face with the content of the book, but I seriously feel sometimes it is the in your face approach that gives us clarity of where we are currently in decision making. I can also honestly say that I thought some parts of the book due to how it is worded comes across a but rough. If you feel this emotion, ask yourself has this book got you facing something you do not wish to face? Lastly if you want validation of your emotions this book you need to read.

[Tausha Treadway · Rating 5 out of 5]

Get In or Get Out, But Don’t Stay in the Freakin’ Middle: Snatch back your power and start over after divorce, separation, infidelity, and betrayal. Reclaim your boldest self! (F@ck Freud) by Dr Lia Roth. This is a wonderful self help book and this author is not one to sugar coat anything, which I like, a lot. Its a book about helping you realize that you don't have to be stuck for the rest of your life in a dead end marriage, a toxic job or any other form of bad relationship. In this book she deals with all kinds of hurt, breakups, cheating, not speaking to family members, mean people in the workplace and all other kinds of toxicity. It guiders to realize that we don't have to live stagnate or stuck in the same old situation.The older I get the easier this concept is to swallow. I'm a major people pleaser and this book really opened my eyes to a lot of things. I think people would be lying if they said that they never felt "stuck in the middle" of certain situations. This is such a insightful book on relationships either personal or professional. I highly recommend this book.

[Trisha · Rating 5 out of 5]

Get in or Get Out, but Don’t Stay in the Freakn’ Middle by Dr. Lia Roth is a bold, no-nonsense wake-up call for anyone stuck in the gray zone of a relationship. With her deep expertise in psychoanalysis and human behavior, Dr. Roth dismantles the illusion that love is about compromise, instead advocating for clarity, action, and self-respect. Her ‘binary relationship theory’ challenges readers to either fix what’s broken or walk away, rather than linger in a stagnant, soul-sucking middle ground. The book also delivers a powerful take on betrayal, redefining it as an identity-shaking event rather than just a breach of trust. Packed with sharp insights and unapologetic honesty, this guide is a must-read for those ready to reclaim their power and stop settling for less.Dr. Roth makes it easy to to read, easy to understand, and easy to implement the tools she’s provided. Even if you’re not ‘in the freakin middle’, this book will still provide amazing insights that you can use throughout your lifetime with challenges that you may face.

[Kerry carr · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was an interesting and thought provoking read. It is a self help book wirrten by the author to help people who are going through bad relationships, divorcee or the possiblity of divorcee, and more importantly about how you find yourself when you are lost. This book was really hard hitting for me because I could relate to quite a bit of it. It was comforting to realise that I am not the only one who feels like I have lost part of who I was by becoming a wife/mother.
I really liked the authors outlook on relationships. How both partners need to have their own lives separately but create something in the middle which encompasses them both.
The author provides many tips and advice in here of ways to implement things and rediscover yourself which I will be trying.

Overall it was a educational and eye oepening read for me and one I am glad I picked up. Parts of it were a bit hard to read however it didn't take away from the overall message I got which was that to be a good partner and mother I first need to have a good relationship with myself.

[Tammy Turner · Rating 5 out of 5]

Get in or Get Out, But Don’t Stay in the Freakin’ Middle by Dr. Lia Roth is a refreshing kick in the pants for those stuck in the middle of staying in or getting out of a relationship. Dr. Roth educates about betrayal and how to rebuild yourself after that devastation. She also provides a guide on traversing the pitfalls of separation with and without kids. I found her information on the steps suggested for handling a separation with children both thoughtful and inspirational. Her breakdown of each age group and what to expect from each was a blessing. I wish I had had this information when I went through my divorce with 2 young children. I would have handled things very differently. This book is not only about extrication from a relationship, but the main focus is finding yourself along the way. I recommend this book to everyone in a relationship because the information is so enlightening.

[Tara Johnson · Rating 4 out of 5]

Get In or Get Out, But Don't Stay in the Freakin Middle: Snatch back your power and start over after divorce, separation, infidelity and betrayal is a self-help book aimed at helping you move on after you have become separated or divorced. This book offers tips and strategies meant to help you feel empowered enough to move forward after betrayal and infidelity. The author discusses a lot about the topic of betrayal and how it does more than just have you lose trust in someone; it can break your sense of self worth. The author gently encourages you to discover what your own truth is while guiding you along with a little bit of wisdom and inspiration. She discusses what a thriving and healthy relationship can and should be. How it comprises three parts: you, me, and the relationship itself. Sprinkled with a little bit of humor throughout the author shows you how to become unstuck in a relationship.

[Jennifer P Ramos · Rating 5 out of 5]

Human relationships are not an easy thing to navigate. Many have experienced hurt and trauma in a variety of ways that affects their long term human connections and relationships. Dr. Roth knows from experience far too well and has brought her experience and expertise into this motivating new selection. Whether it is a toxic family situation or an unfulfilling romantic relationship, people tend to get stuck in the rut and Roth helps the readers navigate through a personal process that will benefit them in the long run. The examples presented are straight forward, bit comedic and unnervingly realistic where we are drawn in and start considering if our relationship truly reap the personal intent we are fully needing to seek out. This book is a guide in helping recognize these types of relationships and ways to fix or dissolve them. Highly recommended for those in situations of indecision.

[Shannen · Rating 5 out of 5]

I wasn’t sure what to expect when I picked this up, but it far exceeded every expectation. This is the first book I have read by this author. It is nothing short of a wake-up call for anyone caught in the endless cycle of unfulfilling relationships. The author confronts the messy, often uncomfortable dynamics of love and self-worth, offering a powerful manifesto for those stuck in the so-called "gray zone." What sets Roth’s book apart is her exploration of betrayal, which she identifies as a deep identity crisis, not just a violation of trust. She reveals how betrayal can uproot your sense of self in ways you’ve never considered. This feels like a no-nonsense, sassy book full of insights and a deep understanding of human psychology. It’s a blueprint for anyone looking to break free from toxic patterns and reclaim their confidence. Growth isn’t easy, but it’s always worth the discomfort. For anyone ready to stop surviving and start living, this book is an essential read.

[Shadel ayerbe · Rating 5 out of 5]

Get in or Get out, But Don’t Stay in the Freakin’ Middle by Dr.Lia Roth is a great informational book

Dr. Lia Roth is a psychoanalyst who combines her extensive knowledge of the intricate realm of human connections and the mind with her extensive research, academic, and clinical background. With a degree in psychology from the University of Buenos Aires and further education at the Boston Graduate School of Psychoanalysis and Washington University in St. Louis, she is well-versed in the complex emotions and disordered minds that we all attempt to conceal. Dr. Roth debunks the notion that love is a compromise by delving into her "binary relationship theory." It's all about you, me, and the spark we're sharing in this dynamic balance.


Every page was interesting and I couldn’t wait to see what would happen. The story really brings knowledge into your life. I couldn’t put the book down.

[Ashleigh · Rating 4 out of 5]

Get in or Get Out, But Don’t Stay in the Freakn’ Middle by Dr. Lia Roth is a bold, in your face self-help book that is aimed at people who are stuck in indecision mode. Doesn’t matter if it’s relationships, careers, or life in general, this book is marketed as a no BS take on helping readers to realize when it’s time to commit or quit, helping them to push forward on a new path in life.
I am not one to usually read self-help books, but the style of this one, with its in-your-face approach, really worked to make this book an interesting read for me. I can see where some readers could take offense at the tone of Dr. Roth’s writing, but she resonated with me. If you are someone that is tired of staying in the same situation – relationships, career, or life in general – then Dr. Roth could be the cup of kick ass you need to change your life. If you are at a crossroads and ready for a change, Dr. Roth’s new book is one you should definitely check out.

[Darian - Books With A Chance · Rating 4 out of 5]

I thought this was a great read. I liked that it didn't blame just husbands or just wives, the author put it in as your partner so I feel any gender can read the book. I also like that she included looking at yourself, honestly sometimes we need to remind ourselves that we can also be part of the problem. Not only that I like that she asks you throughout the book what is it that you need, some of my favorite quotes were: " Allow yourself to weep." "You do not need to know all the answers or to have clear perfect goals." "Flip the page and start crafting the next chapter of your life. Make it bold, make it count." Honestly, I feel readers should check out the book before they officially decide that their relationship is over, I think it could help them figure out what they want from it first and try to set boundaries or this book can help you realize that this isn't the relationship you want.

[Angela · Rating 4 out of 5]

3 - 3.5 Stars

“..Reset, rebuild, and rise into the next chapter of your life.”

Get In or Get Out, But Don’t Stay in the Freakn’ Middle by Dr. Lia Roth is a self-help book which aims to help you move forward in your life after situations that might have left you reeling, unmoored, or like you are in a stagnant situation.
It’s about self-empowerment- and offers strategies to help to release yourself from the quagmire you feel may ‘stuck’ in. Reinforcing the old saying of ‘what you don’t change, you choose’…
While there were, for the most part, helpful, thought-provoking insights, strategies, and advice- there were times I felt that the book got a little wordy, repetitive, and ‘heavy’- which might be off-putting for some readers. But overall, it had a lot of good ideas to help grasp a fresh start.
Happy Reading…

Thank you, Dr. Lia Roth!

[Rhonda Pulk · Rating 5 out of 5]

Get In or Get Out, But Don’t Stay in the Freakin’ Middle by Dr. Lia Roth
5 Star Review
Dr. Roth is one of the most entertaining and down to earth authors of non-fiction that I have read in a very long time! This book digs into the hard truth and pain that happens after one’s heart is broken. It gives solid advice on taking back what is yours. The advice on ways to feel better, to reclaim yourself are extremely helpful. It is many years into a second marriage after being betrayed by my ex, and this book helped me to realize things that will help me regain more of myself to put into my current marriage.
This book is well written and easy to read. It was easy to just get caught up in the chapters and to be ten chapters in before you even realize it! Great read! 100% recommend to anyone who has been in this situation.

[Maisie Camille · Rating 4 out of 5]

Dr Lia A Roth’s ‘Get In or Get Out But Don’t Stay in the Freakin’ Middle’ explores the aftermath of experiencing betrayal, mainly in romantic relationships. Dr Roth provides information many people will be able to relate to, as well as both personal and professional advice to help readers in a mental, emotional, and physical sense. I thought it came across as a bit paranoid at times, but it was genuinely helpful. It spent a lot more time on the post-break up than the pre-break up stage but it seemed helpful nonetheless. I recommend this book because I know it’s easy to get stuck in an unhappy relationship, and how hard it is to get out of it. I hope this book finds someone who needs it. ‘What broke was never meant to hold you together in the first place.’

[Katie Burgess · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a real, no BS book. This book is written like your best friend is pulling off the rose coloured glasses and giving you the facts. Dr. Lia Roth not only tells you how it is, but she gives you real, practical steps to getting out of the self-sabotaging behaviours and into a place where you are happy with your life. She has real and practical advice about being in a relationship, navigating divorce, coparenting, parenting and finding yourself again! With parenting agreements, coliving agreement, steps to navigating a divorce and how to put yourself first, you have no excuse for living in misery! Highly recommend this read for everyone who wants to get off the hamster wheel and start enjoying life again!

[Ashley Zuehl · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was a book I never could have guessed I needed...
Dr. Roth really felt like a friend telling me the good, bad and ugly! Felt like a friend giving advise on how to get out of a crappy situation and relationship and saying wake up girl!!!! This book really helped open my eyes! This is not the usual self help books you see, but a book full of very informative information! It felt like she went thru what I've been dealing with! Never did i think I would cry soooo much reading a book!!! If you need relationship advice or how to deal with a situation or betrayal, you really should read this! Her words are like a roadmap to the light at the end of the tunnel of hope and happiness!
She helped me see issues I didn't realize I was even experiencing and gives the tools and guidance.

[Heather Rae Brandt · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really enjoyed this self help! There is a bunch of good information for you to see yourself from another perspective. I appreciated the personal experience stories in here as well as what to do from there. I could relate to the powerless feelings and easily lost mindset. I related to the stories in this book so I was able to see the point in where Dr. Roth was coming from. Its easy to be so broken that you can't see light at the end. This seemed to be more what I was looking for as an actual help to me. To see situations from different angles and be able to come out of it helped me the most! I like being able to go to specific sections if I need a refresh and its easy to find what I'm looking for. Of all the self help books, this one is a must read!

[Laura · Rating 5 out of 5]

If you have ever felt broken and as though you have lost yourself after infidelity, betrayal or a breakup then I highly recommend this book. Dr. Lia Roth breaks down how to come back in your power with easy to follow steps mixed with some humor. Sharing insightful stories as examples along with her expertise in relationships and the mind. Her resourcefulness shines through whether she's sharing a breakdown on what makes up betrayal or giving healthy relationship advice. You'll no longer feel stuck in the middle and unsure of your next steps as you'll get all the answers you're looking for on how to move forward in this incredible read.

[Kerry Baker · Rating 5 out of 5]

As is quite a typical thing for me to do, I picked up this book without reading the blurb. So I went into the book expecting a crime, thriller type story and instead got such a thought provoking, analytical view of relationships. It was such an unexpectedly insightful book that really resonated with me and things happening in my own life. It really makes you sit down and reflect on your own relationship and whether you are falling foul of any of the things to book outlines.
I loved the way the author has put the book together. Her writing was so captivating and gives you confidence in what she is saying. This is a book I would never have normally picked up but I am so glad that I did.