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An Eight-Cow Woman Deserves and Eight-Cow Man: Eight Critical Character Traits for a Fulfilling Lasting Relationship
Many people today allude to the "Character Crisis" but Ms. Cutler shows us how to deal with that issue on the most fundamental of all levels, as individuals in relationships - all of this in a fun and concise read. Her book is jam packed with original thought that prompts action as well as intense discussion. Ms. Cutler invites each of us to set a new standard of expectation from ourselves and those closest to us - eight cows!
121 pages, Paperback
First published January 15, 2010
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July 17, 2017
This book was suggested to me by one of my church sisters and it has inspired our RS lessons each month. And although we haven't followed the same cows as this book for helping to teach our girls nor have made the cows to reflect the same value parameters such as Love - Romantic & Intimate vs Love All it has been a wonderful way of facing the same values and morals that we should have as we grow up in the Lord.
As for this book the author puts forth eight traits that she believes are necessary for single people to have or to be working on improving when they come to the wedding altar with a potential partner and at the same time that married people should also be working on in their own relationships no matter the age. She then further breaks down each cow to explain to the reader in short and simple terms what that cow means, how it translates into real life and sometimes gives examples where that trait can be shown whether in literature or real life.
Furthermore each chapter has a small story using the characters from the Johnny Lingo to show what life may have been like with the main characters and their following friends after the main cow-trading and how the need or having of this particular cow works on their relationship. Although this is creative in some cases it wasn't really needed. Also the reader continues to relate her work to Johnny Lingo by speaking to her male readers as Johnny and to her female readers as Sarita to hopefully help you to put yourself into the story.
At the same time each chapter ends with thoughtful and well meaning questions that the reader is suppose to share with their partner as a help exercise to get to know each other more, especially focusing on that one particular cow. If you are a single person who are reading this book or even a teen some of the questions can feel awkward or may be skippable, especially if you are without a partner at this time.
What I didn't truly care about the book, though, is that the author does get a bit repetitive while at those points I truly wasn't thrilled with the pace of the book. Otherwise the book is full of quotes and although quotes can be good I think the book overdid itself. With quotes as headers and taking up a whole closing page as well as stories and/or quotes being used in the actual body it just seemed too much as well as that it was taking up some pages just to give the book a bit more weight.
All in all this is a great and fast way of looking at character traits for those who are usually interested in self-help types of reads. Although the reader is encouraged to build these cows into their own lives, these cows can be tweaked to reflect the individual who they are for so that like with Considerate Cow you can be either mainly a comforter, a listener or just even-tempered. Just remember, though, even working on adding this information to your life won't magically fix your dating status.
As for this book the author puts forth eight traits that she believes are necessary for single people to have or to be working on improving when they come to the wedding altar with a potential partner and at the same time that married people should also be working on in their own relationships no matter the age. She then further breaks down each cow to explain to the reader in short and simple terms what that cow means, how it translates into real life and sometimes gives examples where that trait can be shown whether in literature or real life.
Furthermore each chapter has a small story using the characters from the Johnny Lingo to show what life may have been like with the main characters and their following friends after the main cow-trading and how the need or having of this particular cow works on their relationship. Although this is creative in some cases it wasn't really needed. Also the reader continues to relate her work to Johnny Lingo by speaking to her male readers as Johnny and to her female readers as Sarita to hopefully help you to put yourself into the story.
At the same time each chapter ends with thoughtful and well meaning questions that the reader is suppose to share with their partner as a help exercise to get to know each other more, especially focusing on that one particular cow. If you are a single person who are reading this book or even a teen some of the questions can feel awkward or may be skippable, especially if you are without a partner at this time.
What I didn't truly care about the book, though, is that the author does get a bit repetitive while at those points I truly wasn't thrilled with the pace of the book. Otherwise the book is full of quotes and although quotes can be good I think the book overdid itself. With quotes as headers and taking up a whole closing page as well as stories and/or quotes being used in the actual body it just seemed too much as well as that it was taking up some pages just to give the book a bit more weight.
All in all this is a great and fast way of looking at character traits for those who are usually interested in self-help types of reads. Although the reader is encouraged to build these cows into their own lives, these cows can be tweaked to reflect the individual who they are for so that like with Considerate Cow you can be either mainly a comforter, a listener or just even-tempered. Just remember, though, even working on adding this information to your life won't magically fix your dating status.
January 9, 2019
If your kids are getting married or dating and know the johnny lingo story this is a helpful book. If they don't know it then it might be kind of confusing, yet there are so many truths in this book. Enjoyable short read for when you hit those rocky spots in your marriage.
April 24, 2010
Now that I am done with this Cow book; it went a lot faster then I thought that it would. I am still trying to figure out why my parents gave me this book.
It is a metaphor on the great story of Jonny Lingo. Ok to confess, I hate the story of Jonny Lingo. To me the story was about abuse. Social, emotional, and verbal abuse, and poor Jonny had to fix the damage that was inflected. So maybe they got me this book so that I can have a different view of the old story of Jonny Lingo, or to get me married, what-ever-came-first. It was to look at the story of Jonny Lingo not differently; not only do I hate still, but now I think that it is weird.
This metaphorical book was focus on the *eight* cows. Instead of the eight cows symbolizing wealth, in this book the eight cows symbolized Character Traits, and she breaks down these traits, and lengthens the story of Jonny Lingo.
Now I don't know if I should look for a cow or a man. Maybe I should barter for a husband with cows? Nah, now that is beyond weird.
It is a metaphor on the great story of Jonny Lingo. Ok to confess, I hate the story of Jonny Lingo. To me the story was about abuse. Social, emotional, and verbal abuse, and poor Jonny had to fix the damage that was inflected. So maybe they got me this book so that I can have a different view of the old story of Jonny Lingo, or to get me married, what-ever-came-first. It was to look at the story of Jonny Lingo not differently; not only do I hate still, but now I think that it is weird.
This metaphorical book was focus on the *eight* cows. Instead of the eight cows symbolizing wealth, in this book the eight cows symbolized Character Traits, and she breaks down these traits, and lengthens the story of Jonny Lingo.
Now I don't know if I should look for a cow or a man. Maybe I should barter for a husband with cows? Nah, now that is beyond weird.
October 26, 2016
A book everyone should read, especially teenagers. This book will help your teenager focus on certain areas of development that will make them a great spouse. they obviously have to marry someone that brings eight cows to the table too.
Eight Cow Characteristics are:
1. Confidant Cow- Be someone others can trust.
2. Fire Cow- Passion for life & for what you do.
3. Clever Cow- wit and wisdom. Leaders are readers.
4. Cash Cow - Financial responsibility. Be a wealth creator.
5. Holy Cow – spirituality, daily prayer & scripture study.
6. Wow Cow- Do your best & go extra mile.
7. Cuddle Cow - Romance and intimacy.
8. Considerate Cow- Kindness.
Super Highly recommended!
Eight Cow Characteristics are:
1. Confidant Cow- Be someone others can trust.
2. Fire Cow- Passion for life & for what you do.
3. Clever Cow- wit and wisdom. Leaders are readers.
4. Cash Cow - Financial responsibility. Be a wealth creator.
5. Holy Cow – spirituality, daily prayer & scripture study.
6. Wow Cow- Do your best & go extra mile.
7. Cuddle Cow - Romance and intimacy.
8. Considerate Cow- Kindness.
Super Highly recommended!
March 31, 2010
This is a short, easy read on 8 character traits needed for lasting relationships. The author relates them through the Johnny Lingo story, gives why important, discussion questions, and quotes. I thought she had a lot of good ideas and I liked alot of the quotes she used. I think anyone can benefit from reading it.
April 5, 2011
Great book. While mostly talking about relationships I felt that it touched a lot on characteristics we all need to be aware of and things that can help us in all aspects of our lives such as Passion for Life, and finding our Extraordinary uniqueness within. I've recommended this book to some already and will continue to do so in the future.
February 22, 2012
I don't normally read self help or relationship books, but the title really stood out to me because of concerns I was currently experiencing. It was a quick, easy read and just the tips, reminders, and insights I needed. I enjoyed the author's perspectives and interpretations of the Johnny Lingo story.
October 18, 2010
It was a quick read (started on the plane after finishing another and finish long before my other flight was done) and had some good ideas. The premise was cute using Johnny Lingo and the principles or character traits covered are things we all need to work on.
May 23, 2011
I'm not usually a fan of self help books. Just not my genre. This book was a quick, easy read, and while it was a little silly, it had a few precious gems hidden within some of the chapters. Not a bad read, but nothing stellar either.
July 20, 2012
I really thought this book was so thought provoking. My husband even like this book and read it without pressure. It's a fast read and the story was easy to follow. The book is easily applied to those that are single, or someone who have been married for 20 years or more.
July 13, 2010
This was so fun. I enjoyed reading the original Johnny Lingo and turning the tables on the men, what qualities would you like in a man , what would they be? great insight. recommend to every one
January 11, 2011
I always look for ways to improve my marriage and this book had some good ideas but I've read better "relationship" books.
February 8, 2011
loved it made me really think about realtionships I have been in and the kind of realtionship that I would like to have.
July 27, 2010
Short, easy read, eight ways to make a marriage healthy!
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