One of Us Must Be Crazy...and I'm Pretty Sure It's You: Making Sense of the Differences that Divide Us

by Tim Downs, Joy Downs

Sometimes a conflict is more than a simple disagreement--it's a virtual clash of worldviews, and the disagreement appears impossible to resolve because it seems inconceivable to consider the issue from any perspective other than the one you know to be correct. Thus, the title of the book... One of Us Must Be Crazy... and I'm Pretty Sure It's You.

In this companion to Fight Fair! (a treatise on "winning at conflict without losing at love"), Tim and Joy Downs capture the heart of marital differences. This time they concentrate less on how to fight fair, and more on making sense of the differences that divide us. With marriages coming under attack from seemingly every angle these days, conflict is seen as grounds to end a marriage, rather than an opportunity to grow closer to each other and to God. One of Us Must Be Crazy... and I'm Pretty Sure It's You is a unique and manageable resource for equipping couples to learn the true nature of their conflicts and deal with them in a way that will actually help their marital fulfillment. By interacting candidly and honestly with such issues as security, loyalty, responsibility, caring, order, openness, and connection, Tim and Joy Downs have created a resource that might simply make all the difference in your world.

Genres: Marriage

176 pages, Paperback

First published June 20, 2010

About the author

Tim Downs is a Phi Beta Kappa graduate of Indiana University. After graduation in 1976 he created a comic strip, Downstown, which was syndicated by Universal Press Syndicate (Calvin & Hobbes, Doonesbury, The Far Side) from 1980 to 1986. His cartooning has appeared in more than a hundred daily newspapers worldwide. Tim has written seven mystery/suspense novels: Shoofly Pie, Chop Shop, PlagueMaker, Head Game, First the Dead, Less than Dead, and Ends of the Earth. PlagueMaker was awarded the Christy Award for the best CBA mystery/suspense novel of 2006, and Less than Dead was a finalist for the 2009 Christian Book Award in suspense fiction. Tim lives in Cary, North Carolina, with his wife Joy. They have three grown children.

Reviews

[Roman Ramsey · Rating 5 out of 5]

First of all: one of the best book titles ever. But beyond that, this book gives practical, while entertaining, information about how to communicate in relationship. Those conversations are HARD, but necessary if you want your relationship to be beyond what most people experience. This book will help with actual work tracks to use in communicating what is inside your head and heart to your partner.
Highly recommended.

[Lindsey Felty · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is essential in breaking down grey-area conflict. I’d recommend it for not only couples but any form of relationship.

[Angel · Rating 5 out of 5]

I find myself referring back to this book often, it is one of my favorites. The title of the book is sarcastic, so don't let it mislead you in anyway.