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Mark enjoyed his carefree bachelor’s life in Los Angeles. He had no steady girlfriend, no children, few responsibilities outside of work. But that all changed when “The Call” came. Genevieve, his eighty-nine-year-old mother, was on her deathbed. He rushed to New Jersey to be by her side. Hours became days, days became weeks, then she woke up. So, he moved back into his childhood home to take over her care. His first task was to remove all hazards, which included the current caregivers.

After, Mark asked his mother, “Do you trust me?” She whispered, “Yes.” “Do you understand I will do everything in my power to keep you healthy and safe?” She smiled and nodded. “That means I’m in charge, and that means now you must obey me.” Her mood shifted in an instant. She looked him dead in the eye, then puckered up her lips. He wasn’t sure if this was a sign of surrender or one wishing him luck. He kissed her and hoped for the best.

The parent/child role reversal may not have been unique to Mark, but how he dealt with it was. One day, hoping to make Genevieve’s time on the commode a tad more pleasant, he offered her a cup of her favorite beverage. It was a hit, and a cup of tea on the commode became a staple on the morning menu, and the clear choice for the title of this intimate, funny, and heartwarming memoir of how eldercare can be done.

A Cup of Tea on the Commode chronicles Mark’s multitasking adventures of filling his mother’s last years with love, laughter, and joy. Though not always successful, he came pretty damn close.

448 pages, Paperback

Published April 28, 2023

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Mark Steven Porro

1 book19 followers
2025 Global Book Awards Gold Medal
2025 Pencraft Awards Winner
2025 Independent Press Award Winner
2025 Feathered Quill Book Awards Finalist
2024 Best Indie Book Award Winner
2024 NYC Big Book Award Winner
2024 Paris Book Festival Winner
2024 IndieReader Discovery Award Winner
2024 Living Now Book Awards Winner
2024 International Book Awards Winner
2024 Book Excellence Award Winner
2024 Firebird Book Award Winner
2024 Readers' Favorite International Book Awards Finalist
2024 National Indie Excellence Awards Finalist
2024 Eric Hoffer Book Award Finalist
2024 Chanticleer International Awards Finalist

Mark Steven Porro, a New Jersey native (Exit 163), holds an Industrial Design degree from The Ohio State University. After years of agency work, his love of acting led him to Hollywood, where he appeared in dozens of television, film, and theatre productions. Mark also spent his twenty-eight years in Hollywood, entrepreneuring. He started five non-profit companies. But hold the applause, none were intended to be. He now lives in the South of France. But hold your pity. He of sound mind and body chose to suffer in the heart of wine country where the locals insist his French isn’t so bad—at least that’s what he thinks they’re saying.

Mark is an award-winning designer, writer, and director. He has written lots of jokes, several screenplays, and one award-winning short film. A Cup of Tea on the Commode—a sad, sweet, and funny memoir—chronicles his adventures of filling his mother’s last years with love, laughter, and joy. Though not always successful, he came pretty damn close. And he survived to tell the tale. WriteLife Publishing released the book on May 14, 2023. It has won 16 literary honors to date.

Praise for A Cup of Tea on the Commode:
"A Cup of Tea on the Commode. My Multi-Tasking Adventures of Caring for Mom. And How I Survived to Tell the Tale" by *Mark Steven Porro* requires laughter, tears, and heartbreak to read. It also will ring a tolling bell for many caregivers out there, especially sons, husbands, and brothers. This could only have been written by a Jersey boy and it echoes my journey of returning to New Jersey to care for my Mom and Dad. Here's yet another amazing caregiver being honest and raw inspiring us to keep keeping on.
— Susanne White, Caregiver Warrior, author of "Self-Care for Caregivers"

"A Cup of Tea on the Commode" is a beautifully told story that will likely prove comforting to others on similar journeys. Very highly recommended."
— Reader's Favorite Five-Star Review

This is a beautiful book from the heart of a beautiful man! Do yourself a favor—it is an inspiring read. — Jocelyn Jones, author of Artist: Awakening the Spirit Within

This book was like sitting down at the kitchen table and sharing troubles with and old friend. Having parents is common, taking care of them with all the intimate details involved is not. Mark Steven Porro shared all the victories and defeats, sorrows, and disappointments along with making you giggle at some of the sillier exchanges between he and his mother. This book helps us to appreciate the tremendous effort that goes into caregiving and why we should all look to help lighten caregiver's emotional and physical load when we can. Thank you NetGalley for providing this opportunity for me to read this book. It's a keeper."
— Laurie Mosey, Librarian, a NetGalley Review

"A Cup of Tea on the Commode is a beautiful tribute to Genevieve Porro. As a reader, I felt like I got to know her as a person—she is funny, endearing, sensitive, and I laughed many times throughout. I love the narrator's tone of voice is unique, humorous, definitive, and conversational. It speaks to the readers. Mark doesn't shy away from expressing all emotions he felt as he took care of his mother, and it is very endearing. There are many touching stories in the manuscript, and many that will resonate with readers on an emotional level."
— Allison Itterly, Acquisitio

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4,523 reviews136 followers
May 4, 2023
This is a humorous account about Mark Steven Perot and his family’s story from his siblings to his parents to the suicides in his family it all makes for A mostly humorous but at times a sad tail and how in a in a time where people are only looking for what makes them happy and man gave up everything to move back across the country to 10 to his dying mother it really is touching heart warming and so worth reading and I am so glad I read it. I almost didn’t do to the title but was curious enough to read the summary in OMG I’m glad I did. I received this book from NetGalley and the publisher but I am leaving this review voluntarily please forgive any mistakes as I am blind and dictate my review.
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103 reviews
January 8, 2025
Read this for book club - not one I would pick for myself (that’s why I love book club) - but as a millennial with aging parents I appreciated this book. Eventually my siblings and I will have to deal with their end of life care - and this personal and humorous insight was a peak into what is to come… hopefully not for a long while though. ;) His endearing honesty was appreciated & the love for his mother palpable. ❤️
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Author 6 books116 followers
November 25, 2024
A Cup of Tea on the Commode by ​Mark Steven Porro ​is a memoir about his time as a caregiver for his ailing mother. Porro takes readers on a real-life journey complete with personal childhood memories, funny ancedotes, and poignant details about his time as a caregiver.

What I loved most is Porro's honesty. Being a caregiver is difficult. As a caregiver, he did his best but sometimes, his best and his family's best, led to not-so-great outcomes. Yet, overall, caring for his mom was something he wouldn't have wanted to miss because it gave him precious time with someone he loved dearly.

As a caregiver, I related completely. However, this book will touch more than caregivers. It will resonate with anyone who has a relationship with a parent - good or difficult - and provide the reader with new ways to look at aging.
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267 reviews16 followers
May 12, 2025
A Cup of Tea on the Commode by Mark Steven Porro is a heartfelt and often humorous memoir about stepping into the unexpected role of caregiver. When his 89-year-old mother, Genevieve, falls gravely ill, Mark leaves behind his comfortable life in Los Angeles to move back home to New Jersey. What begins as a temporary visit quickly becomes a full-time commitment, filled with love, chaos, and a steep learning curve.

Mark shares the day-to-day realities of caregiving—from preparing warm water and changing diapers to firing ineffective caregivers he dubs “Tweedle Dee and Tweedle Dumb.” Despite the challenges, he approaches his mother’s care with deep compassion and a healthy dose of humor, turning even the toughest moments into stories worth sharing. The infamous "cup of tea on the commode" is both hilarious and touching—a perfect symbol of finding comfort in unlikely places.

His storytelling is warm, honest, and relatable, especially for anyone who has cared for an aging parent or loved one. He doesn’t shy away from the difficult parts, but his writing is always filled with heart and humanity. You’ll laugh, you’ll reflect, and you might even cry.

This book is a tribute not just to his mother, but to the journey of caregiving itself. It’s a reminder that even during life’s hardest chapters, there’s room for connection, humor, and love. A truly memorable read.
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2,522 reviews151 followers
May 9, 2025
"A Cup of Tea on the Commode" by Mark Steven Porro is a compelling and heartfelt memoir. In it, the author shares his experience—along with his siblings—of caring for their ailing mother, Genevieve. Mark recounts the daily caregiving routine he followed for his mother—waking her, preparing warm water, changing her diapers, and more.

At one point, the family brought in a mother-daughter duo to assist with meals, household chores, and to provide company for Genevieve. Mark humorously refers to them as Tweedle Dee and Tweedle Dumb, noting that their behavior partially influenced his mother's wish to pass on. His apprehension grows when he learns they’ll be returning to care for her again.

Mark was running a snack-food business in Los Angeles, he eventually decided to move back into his childhood home to care for his mother full-time. Read this memoir to find out how he’ll cope when the moment finally arrives to say goodbye.

This book is both engaging and laced with humor. Mark’s writing style is warm and accessible. I read it with a cup of coffee and found myself deeply moved, reflecting on the final days I spent with my own grandparents as my family came together to care for them. Readers who’ve experienced similar caregiving roles will find much to relate to in this memoir. I couldn’t put it down. The title, in particular, feels like the perfect reflection of the book’s tone and heart.
11 reviews1 follower
June 26, 2023
This is a great book if you have ever been a caretaker or child of someone in declining health. At time the book is funny, other times you will want to cry. The book is so true and very similar to experiences that other caretakers see on a daily basis. Like Mark I have been in his position and I would highly recommend the book to anyone caring for someone close to them.
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June 17, 2023
Mark took on the difficult topic of end-of-life care with insight, grace and humor grounded from personal experience. Flashbacks to his formative years brought me back to my own, having grown up in a nearby town from the same era. Accordingly, all references to the past are 100% verified.
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Author 12 books56 followers
April 9, 2023
Really detailed story about Porro. I appreciated how he crafted this memoir. I enjoyed his story-telling and felt like I was part of his family at times. Thanks to NetGalley for the ARC. Five stars! Well-written!
1 review
January 4, 2024
You gotta love it!

A breezy and fun read, poignant and beautifully written. Great humor, takes you thru so many different emotions. Congrats, Mark!
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119 reviews1 follower
July 19, 2024
What a great memoir!

I loved this book! Funny and sad and memorable! I couldn’t put it down. I hope I have as great a memory and time to spend with my parents when they pass and with my kids when I do.
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Author 3 books14 followers
September 6, 2025
As the author of a different memoir focused in great part on caring for my older parents, The Pianist's Only Daughter, I've been meaning to read this book to "check out the competition." Mark Porro's book has had some excellent reviews, has won prizes, and undoubtedly has sold well so far, for a memoir of this type. His writing style is highly readable, humorous and frank, and the story of how he did most of the hands-on care for his 90+ year-old mother is quite amazing. Many people end up caring for their parent or older relative at home, doing the physical and emotional labor themselves, because there simply is not a good alternative - not enough money to hire good caregivers or place the person in a high quality facility. Porro, with the help of his siblings and limited hired help, decided to keep his mother at home out of love and devotion. She is *almost* bed-ridden, though eventually with loving care and good food, she recovers some of her strength and can walk a little with a walker, using a wheelchair most of the time. I didn't give the book 5 stars, though it is very good, because I found it needed a tighter edit. Some of Porro's stories about his childhood or life before his mother's care struck me as irrelevant, and I also found some of the back and forth of the timeline to be repetitive at times. Nevertheless, I recommend this book for those interested in the care of older parents. Kathryn Betts Adams, MSW, PhD
3 reviews
September 18, 2023
This is a beautifully written book from the heart and mind of a devoted son who answers the call to take care of his mother in her last days, which turns out to be 3 ½ years. The only thing harder than the 24/7 care a mother gives to her infant child, may be the care for our elders who have returned to that stage of dependency. Confronting that impossibly difficult reality and determined to make his mother’s final memories as joyous as possible, Porro creates a blueprint of how to honor and love those who brought us into the world during that inevitable and sad decline we all come to in the end. This funny, intimate, and deeply honest account will touch your heart and welcome you into the life and times at 247 Emmett Place, in Ridgefield New Jersey—where the Porro family of 6, lived for 60 years.

Losing our parents is a tremendous milestone in all of our lives, and this lovely book reminds us that the job is difficult, rewarding, and calls for us to summon compassion, humor, love and our very best self.

A great read—devoured it in two days!
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4 reviews
May 30, 2025
I wasn’t sure what to expect from A Cup of Tea on the Commode, but wow—it hit me in the gut and the heart. It’s honest in a way that’s almost uncomfortable at times, but that’s what makes it so powerful. The author doesn’t sugarcoat caregiving, grief, or the weird, sacred moments that happen in between. Instead, he holds them up to the light—messy, tender, and real—and in doing so, reminds us that love always wins.
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January 25, 2025
A beautiful tribute to his mother and family memories, but I’d been expecting more of the memoir structure
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May 12, 2025
Note: These are not my reviews, but ones taken from Amazon to get the ball rolling.

2025 Pencraft Awards Winner
2025 Independent Press Award Winner
2025 Feathered Quill Book Awards Finalist
2024 Best Indie Book Award Winner
2024 NYC Big Book Award Winner
2024 IndieReader Discovery Award Winner
2024 Living Now Book Awards Winner
2024 International Book Awards Winner
2024 Book Excellence Award Winner
2024 Firebird Book Award Winner
2024 Readers' Favorite International Book Awards Finalist
2024 National Indie Excellence Awards Finalist
2024 American Bookfest Finalist
2024 Eric Hoffer Book Award Finalist
2024 Chanticleer International Awards Finalist

"A Cup of Tea on the Commode. My Multi-Tasking Adventures of Caring for Mom. And How I Survived to Tell the Tale" by *Mark Steven Porro* requires laughter, tears, and heartbreak to read. It also will ring a tolling bell for many caregivers out there, especially sons, husbands, and brothers. This could only have been written by a Jersey boy and it echoes my journey of returning to New Jersey to care for my Mom and Dad. Here's yet another amazing caregiver being honest and raw inspiring us to keep keeping on.
— Susanne White, Caregiver Warrior, author of "Self-Care for Caregivers"

This book was like sitting down at the kitchen table and sharing troubles with and old friend. Having parents is common, taking care of them with all the intimate details involved is not. Mark Steven Porro shared all the victories and defeats, sorrows, and disappointments along with making you giggle at some of the sillier exchanges between he and his mother. This book helps us to appreciate the tremendous effort that goes into caregiving and why we should all look to help lighten caregiver's emotional and physical load when we can. Thank you NetGalley for providing this opportunity for me to read this book. It's a keeper."
— Laurie Mosey, Librarian, a NetGalley Review

A Cup of Tea on the Commode is a beautiful tribute to Genevieve Porro. As a reader, I felt like I got to know her as a person—she is funny, endearing, sensitive, and I laughed many times throughout. I love the narrator’s tone of voice is unique, humorous, definitive, and conversational. It speaks to the readers. Mark doesn’t shy away from expressing all emotions he felt as he took care of his mother, and it is very endearing. There are many touching stories in the manuscript, and many that will resonate with readers on an emotional level.
— Allison Itterly, Acquisitions Editor

“In his own words, ‘Dedication is not my problem….’ Mark proves that beyond a doubt in this lovingly emotional dedication to (not only) his mother but his whole family and his life. Having a frighteningly similar experience with my own mother (albeit not as “hands on” as Mark) I couldn’t imagine the tale told better than here in this book.”
— Larry Thomas, The Soup Nazi from Seinfeld

“I always believe that the impact of a book is measured by the lingering thoughts and reflections that remain afterwards. And A Cup of Tea on The Commode scores highly in this respect.”
— Paul Jeremaes, Co-author of Enter Your Flow, an Interactive Journey Toward Fulfillment and Happiness in Your Work Life.

“This book, A Cup of Tea on The Commode, had me clutching it until done!”
— Nancy May, host of Doing It Best with Eldercare Success podcast

"I found A Cup of Tea on the Commode very moving. I like the writing style - the humour highlights Genevieve's stoic sense of fun. It is an inspirational story that bravely tells it like it is. I must confess, it brought me to tears, but then it also made me laugh. Good combination.”
— Dr. Sharon Ager Wray, PhD in Sociology
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