Play or Be Played: What Every Female Should Know About Men, Dating, and Relationships

by Tariq Nasheed

Street-smart and straightforward, Play or Be Played will help you get with a king without being a hoochie, groupie, or a chickenhead.

Got Game? It's a fact. Every woman needs game. Take Oprah, Jada Pinkett-Smith, and Beyoncé Knowles. All three of these women have the one intangible quality that every mack, male or female, must they all have game. In other words, they have intelligence, hustle, and common sense that they apply to every aspect of their lives -- especially in their relationships.

Play or Be Played is an instruction manual for women who are tired of being played by men and who want to be players themselves. Though women may not want to play games, the truth is men often do. So women who hope to win in the game of love must first learn the rules. Bestselling author and true mack, Tariq "K-Flex" Nasheed

-ways to spot a scrub
-what it takes to get with a baller
-why men cheat
-how men really judge women
-the top three mistakes women make in relationships

Genres: Relationships

224 pages, Paperback

First published December 30, 2003

Reviews

[Brittany · Rating 3 out of 5]

I'm reading this in 2020, it came out in 2004. So, some of the references, and I'll even say some of the authors opinions are a little outdated. Overall an interesting insight into the way a certain type of man views male female relations. There were certain comments and pieces of advice that I scoffed at or disagreed with that wreaked of "pick me" behavior which I do not condone. But I general I kept and open mind and kept reading for the different perspective. It was a decent enough read but I don't see myself recommending it (or deterring, for that matter) to anyone else

[May Ling · Rating 3 out of 5]

While there is a lot of slang that may not appeal to everyone, this book is quite an honest account of tips on what to do and not do in life. I think in many ways the author is attempting to teach basic skills of confidence and self-sufficiency to women. While the advice seems pretty basic, I think there are still a lot of women that would find it helpful, as they get lost in the complicated world of modern dating. I am ok and enjoyed the dialectical tone used to convey the message. However, some may be put off by it.

Where it may fall short is in the actual examples of what to do and what not to do. The obvious things are covered. But once you have made yourself an "a" class woman, what then? That one is not always as straight forward as you think. I certainly have tons of A class women who have had a hard time of it. While the author hints that patience is key, I think further elaboration could have been beneficial.

[suzy · Rating 2 out of 5]

I saw this on the "new books" shelf at the library and had to read it. The author had some interesting ideas, but I wouldn't want to hang out with him. Also, I despise when people refer to women as females when they don't simultaneously use male, as in the subtitle of the book.......I'm not a ranting feminist, but come on people, it dehumanizes women to an animal level. It seems to be chic for some African Americans to call women "females" instead of women. Just my own personal rant, thank you.

[Afrijewel · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was surprisingly very good, informative, and well written. Every teenage girl should read this at their 16th birthday if they do not have a father to educate them to the schemes of men and how they view women.

[Mark · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book on the reality of dating for young women

[Catherine · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is the most comprehensive book to understand what evil men play and prey on women. Women do this too, but men are more viscous in their wake of procuring the score.

The verbage used is a little different but its the truth and well put. Worth keeping and buying all your girlfriends and daughters and granddaughters.


Having almost been played and finding this book by chance because my "Suitor" used the term Dry Spells and I googled it and up came players. A topic I had no idea about. I was even more stunned when I looked up how to be a Player. This guy i speak of exudes all the signs down to the pristine home and furnishings. He is that good. Arm yourself with knowledge. I now know more than I care to learn about these type of egomaniacs and the one I was dealing with is a true sociopath. Thank you Tariq!

I highly advise all women to read this book. Give you better insight and learn all you can to never be tricked by these types. Remember these types regard you as a NOTHING! A COMPLETE NOTHING, JUST A TOY - YOU DON'T MATTER! Once Played you are done and left with emotional pain nothing you can do to get back at them for whatever reason.

Tariq goes through step by step and groups the specifics into categories. LEARN THEM. He is correct! Play or be played is an excellent title. Learn the game.

[Sassy · Rating 5 out of 5]

i must say this is a great read. i love the point of view tariq gives to the readers. it is a male point of view...he is not afraid to step on anyones toes. which i like ... i dislike most authors because they try to not to offend and in the end they do. i also find this author to be very cool and personal. i wrote him and he responded... all around good read...

[Kai Yaniz · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book is hilariously in-your-face. The author makes honest indications on why some women struggle in their relationships with men and how the system created decades ago can hinder men in their dealings with women. If you want to read a different perspective on men vs. women, this is for you. It is not for the easily offended.

[Racehorse732 · Rating 5 out of 5]

this book changed my life, the way i look at marriage and relationships. was so powerful. if you haven't been in a relationship for more then a year..i wouldn't recommend it, because it will ruin it. lol also best take i've heard on the double standard.

[Nandi · Rating 3 out of 5]

To the point! You will learn something from this book, if your mind is open and you are not defensive. I enjoyed the read. I did learn some things that I did not know and got validation for some things that I have experienced, but did not know the reasoning behind it.

[Angela · Rating 5 out of 5]

THis is a must read for any woman. It great because its a male point of view and he doesnt really bash either sexes.....I think I will read it again befire I think about another relationship

[Nandi Crawford · Rating 5 out of 5]

Probably the best "unofficial" relationship book for the ladies in my opinion, and I still read it from time to time. To break it down, he will show you to use what you got to get what you want.

[Anu · Rating 4 out of 5]

Really entertaining

[Tricey Brown · Rating 4 out of 5]

I had a few problem with the gramma and the fact that he talks as if everyone knows his prior or opinions on the subject this book is very honest and to the point.

[April · Rating 4 out of 5]

lesson learned

[Veronika Ulina · Rating 3 out of 5]

this book is so loud and clear. another handbook to knows a man's mind.