Go To Help: 31 Strategies to Offer, Ask For, and Accept Help

by Deborah Grayson Riegel, Sophie Riegel

Are you tired of doing everything by yourself? Do you wish people would give you the help you need? Do you get frustrated when your attempts to help others don’t work? Go To Help will teach you concrete strategies to get better at offering, asking for, and accepting help. You’ll gain practical insights to help yourself and others get more done with less stress and longer-lasting success. You’ll learn how

232 pages, Paperback

Published January 17, 2022

Reviews

[Nick · Rating 4 out of 5]

Tons of good advice in here about the ins and outs of asking for help and giving it. I like the distinction between technical problems (like a lawyer helping with a house closing) and adaptive problems (like losing weight) that require a change of behavior or thinking on the part of the person with the problem. The authors offer lots of strategies for both getting and giving help. Listen, find the focus, interrupt the story strategically ("let me summarize here to see if I've heard you correctly"), ask powerful questions, empathize, raise the bar, play to their strengths, help them tolerate ambiguity, share your experience, learn side by side, teach them, and so on. The authors offer lots of good questions, like, "What's special about this for you?" ""What will be different for you when you achieve this?" "What makes now the right time for you to take this on?" "How does this align with your values?" "Where is the energy coming from to take this on now?" "How can you simplify this?" and so on.