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No Drama Bonus Mama: The Guide Book For Non-Wicked Step Mothers
Have you ever wished that you had a play book or manual for being a stepparent? I know I have! I am a Bonus Momma to two incredible Bonus Kids that I absolutely love and adore. We have an amazing relationship, but it was not always easy, and it took a lot of time to build. Early on I wished that they came with a book, a step-by-step guide if you will. A Rule Book of what “to do” and what “not to do” in a blended family. What I really wanted to know was what is expected from us “Evil Wicked Step Moms”.
After many years of struggles, making mistakes and building the relationships I wanted with my Bonus Kids, I decided that I wanted to help. My hope is to help other Bonus Mommas figure everything out a little faster than I did and maybe avoid some mistakes I made. In this book you will find some helpful tips on making the situation the best you can. You will learn to control the things you can and let go of the things you can’t. Each chapter will go over a topic that I struggled with or a topic that a lot of Bonus Moms have shared that they really had a hard time navigating.
Most of all, I want to tell you that you shouldn’t be too hard on yourself.
You are already doing great by simply trying to learn more and do better!
After many years of struggles, making mistakes and building the relationships I wanted with my Bonus Kids, I decided that I wanted to help. My hope is to help other Bonus Mommas figure everything out a little faster than I did and maybe avoid some mistakes I made. In this book you will find some helpful tips on making the situation the best you can. You will learn to control the things you can and let go of the things you can’t. Each chapter will go over a topic that I struggled with or a topic that a lot of Bonus Moms have shared that they really had a hard time navigating.
Most of all, I want to tell you that you shouldn’t be too hard on yourself.
You are already doing great by simply trying to learn more and do better!
80 pages, Kindle Edition
Published October 18, 2022
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January 23, 2024
Honestly I couldn’t have resonated more with this book. I read it all in one sitting - took me about an hour. It was not an hour wasted.
I literally related to the majority of this book. To the people saying that all she did was bash biomom - she was telling HER truth. A difficult person is a difficult person. You can’t tell a story about how to deal with difficult people whilst saying they’re amazing, wonderful, easy going people. Sorry not possible. Sometimes the truth isn’t a perfect story.
This book really struck home with me because I don’t often think people realize how hard being a bonus mom is. Especially when you don’t already have kids of your own. Especially when the biomom is so outwardly hateful that the kids tell you all the time how much she hates you (they still love me, though).
Especially when the biomom would love to see you and her ex suffer for the rest of our lives and have no part in the children’s lives. It’s sad, but I know she would be happier if they did not love either of us. She would be happy if the kids never spoke to their father again… and especially me.
This novel made me realize that I have always had the right goal in mind, but that I may need to work harder at concealing my emotions at times. It’s very hard to not want to tell the children the truth, but it is true that they should not have to be brought into that. Personally, that is the most difficult part for me. Wanting so badly to explain to them how their mother is a monster in so many ways. Wishing they understood how much she has ruined for us and how she tries to control every aspect of ours and their lives. Wishing they knew what turmoil she has caused. That is hard for me to let go of because it feels so unfair. It feels so unfair to watch the person I love suffer because someone else is a jealous, manipulative, argumentative, narcissistic *****.
Back to the novel - it made me realize how lucky I am to have the children’s love and that I do not want to jeopardize that as they grow older and become more aware. I have always let them be who they want be - I have had deep discussions with them about life and emotions - I have done my best to love them fully and wholeheartedly as if they were my own. I will never understand how someone could be so hateful to someone who has given so much time, money, and love to their children. I would forever be grateful for a stepmother like that if the situation were reversed… but here we are.
The book has many great takeaways about the importance of love and family and support. Also has true and great advice - the fact that biomom WILL NEVER CHANGE. Acceptance for me is the HARDEST pill to swallow. I will probably forever struggle with it. Maybe I will re-read this book once a year to remind myself of what is the most important.
I found myself withdrawing from kids’ things to avoid interacting with her but I, too, decided that I would not let her deter my support for the children. She doesn’t get to ruin my love for them.
Very glad I read this. & sorry to all the other bonusmoms out there who have to deal with the same hate, drama, toxicity, jealously, and manipulation that myself and this author do.
I literally related to the majority of this book. To the people saying that all she did was bash biomom - she was telling HER truth. A difficult person is a difficult person. You can’t tell a story about how to deal with difficult people whilst saying they’re amazing, wonderful, easy going people. Sorry not possible. Sometimes the truth isn’t a perfect story.
This book really struck home with me because I don’t often think people realize how hard being a bonus mom is. Especially when you don’t already have kids of your own. Especially when the biomom is so outwardly hateful that the kids tell you all the time how much she hates you (they still love me, though).
Especially when the biomom would love to see you and her ex suffer for the rest of our lives and have no part in the children’s lives. It’s sad, but I know she would be happier if they did not love either of us. She would be happy if the kids never spoke to their father again… and especially me.
This novel made me realize that I have always had the right goal in mind, but that I may need to work harder at concealing my emotions at times. It’s very hard to not want to tell the children the truth, but it is true that they should not have to be brought into that. Personally, that is the most difficult part for me. Wanting so badly to explain to them how their mother is a monster in so many ways. Wishing they understood how much she has ruined for us and how she tries to control every aspect of ours and their lives. Wishing they knew what turmoil she has caused. That is hard for me to let go of because it feels so unfair. It feels so unfair to watch the person I love suffer because someone else is a jealous, manipulative, argumentative, narcissistic *****.
Back to the novel - it made me realize how lucky I am to have the children’s love and that I do not want to jeopardize that as they grow older and become more aware. I have always let them be who they want be - I have had deep discussions with them about life and emotions - I have done my best to love them fully and wholeheartedly as if they were my own. I will never understand how someone could be so hateful to someone who has given so much time, money, and love to their children. I would forever be grateful for a stepmother like that if the situation were reversed… but here we are.
The book has many great takeaways about the importance of love and family and support. Also has true and great advice - the fact that biomom WILL NEVER CHANGE. Acceptance for me is the HARDEST pill to swallow. I will probably forever struggle with it. Maybe I will re-read this book once a year to remind myself of what is the most important.
I found myself withdrawing from kids’ things to avoid interacting with her but I, too, decided that I would not let her deter my support for the children. She doesn’t get to ruin my love for them.
Very glad I read this. & sorry to all the other bonusmoms out there who have to deal with the same hate, drama, toxicity, jealously, and manipulation that myself and this author do.
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May 24, 2025
Amazing
I am currently going through some hard times with the biomom in my story and one of the stepchildren in my story, and I have considered calling it quits and walking away a lot lately. This book has given me hope and some ideas on how to proceed and try to make things work for both myself, my partner, and the kids.
I am currently going through some hard times with the biomom in my story and one of the stepchildren in my story, and I have considered calling it quits and walking away a lot lately. This book has given me hope and some ideas on how to proceed and try to make things work for both myself, my partner, and the kids.
December 6, 2022
Was this cheesy? Yes. However, it was a quick read with a LOT of good points.
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