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Las peleas que tendrás después de tener un bebé - una historia de autoyuda: En Español
After Rachel and Matthew had their first child, they had a couple of fights. Well, okay, more than a couple—they fought for over three years. They fought about schedules. They fought about bad habits. They even fought about the lawn mower. And besides actually having their child, it was the best thing that could've happened. Chronicling their greatest hits, from the Great Birth Control Debate to the Divorce Joke Showdown, Fights You'll Have After Having a Baby is a post-partem story with hope. It offers true stories from the field, nitty-gritty advice and, most importantly, a nuanced understanding of what it takes to be married with children. This is the trade paperback edition of Fights You'll Have After Having A Baby, with a 5" x 8" trim size.
178 pages, Kindle Edition
Published September 29, 2021
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About the author
Mollie Player
10 books5 followersMollie Player is a licensed mental health counselor, a self-help writer and a passionate advocate for practical, solution-focused depression treatment. Her goal is to help people perform feats of great strength—feats like achieving personal goals, managing mental health challenges … maybe even finding inner peace. She writes in a lighthearted way about the heavy work of mental health, sharing evidence-based ways to gain strength and get it done.
Her self-help books include Fights You’ll Have After Having a Baby: A Self-help Story, The Naked House: Five Principles for a Minimalist Home, The Power of Acceptance: One Year of Mindfulness and Meditation and We Get Better: 48 Treatment Options for Chronic Depression.
A light-hearted chronicle of her own adventures with depression, Thirty Cures in Thirty Years, is coming soon. Player is also the sole author of an educational book series called School in a Book: A K-12 Review.
Player earned her Master’s of Science in Clinical Mental Health Counseling at Divine Mercy University and practices individual therapy at Steffen Counseling Services in Washington state. She also has degrees in English, history and religion.
Her self-help books include Fights You’ll Have After Having a Baby: A Self-help Story, The Naked House: Five Principles for a Minimalist Home, The Power of Acceptance: One Year of Mindfulness and Meditation and We Get Better: 48 Treatment Options for Chronic Depression.
A light-hearted chronicle of her own adventures with depression, Thirty Cures in Thirty Years, is coming soon. Player is also the sole author of an educational book series called School in a Book: A K-12 Review.
Player earned her Master’s of Science in Clinical Mental Health Counseling at Divine Mercy University and practices individual therapy at Steffen Counseling Services in Washington state. She also has degrees in English, history and religion.
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March 11, 2020
Gives such tangible advice on how to better yourself for marriage. I’ll read again and again.
March 12, 2020
I'm going to preface this review by saying that I don't have any children, but I've been in a thriving marriage for over twenty years. I picked the book up to learn more about the transition from a couple to parenthood.
Ms. Player uses her own experiences to walk us through what can be an emotionally difficult time which she does very well. I was surprised that she didn't add any of the physical issues that sometimes arise other than post-partum depression, but clearly that was her choice. Also, each chapter ended with quotes from specialists and other writers on the subject. There are some interesting interviews at the end which I thought added more depth to the subject matter.
My main issue with this advice book is that the emotional labor of their relationship rested entirely on her shoulders. She was responsible for changing her husband, herself, and their relationship. He bore no responsibility of his own unless she "asked" him. Granted, he seems like a great guy, but she was making herself over to get over the humps in their relationship and he never pro-actively joined her in this quest until much later in their relationship after she had done ALL the heavy lifting.
I also found some of the suggested advice sexist. Referring to John Gray's Venus on Fire, Mars on Ice, where he talks about the hormonal differences between men and women, there is a blanket statement that when men are stressed they seek problem-solving and quiet talk-free rest. Whereas women, seek out talking, bonding, and care-giving. I would patently disagree with that statement as everyone has different coping mechanisms no matter what their gender.
However, to me the most important piece of advice was buried in the middle of the book --Respect. It is crucial for each partner to respect the other or the relationship will never work no matter how many post-it notes you stick on the fridge. That should have been chapter one or least given more discussion.
What this book does well is reassure new parents that everything they are feeling is valid and that they are not alone.
Ms. Player uses her own experiences to walk us through what can be an emotionally difficult time which she does very well. I was surprised that she didn't add any of the physical issues that sometimes arise other than post-partum depression, but clearly that was her choice. Also, each chapter ended with quotes from specialists and other writers on the subject. There are some interesting interviews at the end which I thought added more depth to the subject matter.
My main issue with this advice book is that the emotional labor of their relationship rested entirely on her shoulders. She was responsible for changing her husband, herself, and their relationship. He bore no responsibility of his own unless she "asked" him. Granted, he seems like a great guy, but she was making herself over to get over the humps in their relationship and he never pro-actively joined her in this quest until much later in their relationship after she had done ALL the heavy lifting.
I also found some of the suggested advice sexist. Referring to John Gray's Venus on Fire, Mars on Ice, where he talks about the hormonal differences between men and women, there is a blanket statement that when men are stressed they seek problem-solving and quiet talk-free rest. Whereas women, seek out talking, bonding, and care-giving. I would patently disagree with that statement as everyone has different coping mechanisms no matter what their gender.
However, to me the most important piece of advice was buried in the middle of the book --Respect. It is crucial for each partner to respect the other or the relationship will never work no matter how many post-it notes you stick on the fridge. That should have been chapter one or least given more discussion.
What this book does well is reassure new parents that everything they are feeling is valid and that they are not alone.
August 14, 2025
Having a baby is a pivotal moment in anyone's life. But with all the cheer and blessings of a growing family comes struggles and tribulations. This book took a good look at some of the less glamorous parts of what comes after having a baby.
In this depiction of a mother's transition into motherhood, we get a look at things that aren't talked about as much as they should be such as postpartum depression and the simple exhaustation that comes from having a newborn. It also highlights the strain that a new mother experiences not only on her social life but on the relationships they have with close family, especially their partner.
Motherhood is definitely not always easy, but this book gives advice and offers an optimistic outlook that these difficulties are normal and adjustments are to be expected. It's a good reminder that in the end, everything will be okay.
In this depiction of a mother's transition into motherhood, we get a look at things that aren't talked about as much as they should be such as postpartum depression and the simple exhaustation that comes from having a newborn. It also highlights the strain that a new mother experiences not only on her social life but on the relationships they have with close family, especially their partner.
Motherhood is definitely not always easy, but this book gives advice and offers an optimistic outlook that these difficulties are normal and adjustments are to be expected. It's a good reminder that in the end, everything will be okay.
November 27, 2019
Helpful resolutions, quotes, and experience are brought together in a gripping narrative in a manner which not only offers great advice, but is fun and enjoyable to read. In Mollie Player's Fights You'll Have After Having a Baby, you have the author bearing their soul, and sharing thoughts and feelings that at one time or another we have all experienced. Entertaining, informative, and enjoyable, making this a great read for people at any point in the parenting journey from expecting a first child to expanding on an already established family. I also felt the advice was also transferable to marriage itself, even without children. I read this on KU, and not only really enjoyed it, bit found it useful as well.
March 17, 2020
For those of you who have embarked on, or are planning to embark on the journey of being a parent, FIGHTS YOU'LL HAVE AFTER HAVING A BABY is a must read. This self-help book offers humor, wisdom, and lots of personal experience. From the First Trimester Tussle to the Bad Wife Blowout, this delightful and sometimes difficult rendition of being a parent paints quite a visual picture for those who may be in doubt. Useful tidbits of advice abound, and the struggle that follows some couples who face the adjustment to that 'new little addition' is a personal and sensitive topic well worth delving into. This book makes the grade.
December 17, 2019
Recommend to couples embarking on parenthood. Even if they choose not to follow the suggested resolutions, the book will reassure them that what they're going through is normal and they're not going crazy. I found it very relatable to my own past experience and if/when my children decide to start a family I will provide them with a copy.
The book is written with clarity and humility as the author goes through how she felt at different stages, the arguments she had with her husband and how they resolved them.
The book is written with clarity and humility as the author goes through how she felt at different stages, the arguments she had with her husband and how they resolved them.
January 11, 2020
Fights you´ll have after having a baby: by Mollie player.
I loved the writing style of this author who gives a frank, raw, sincere view of married life after having a baby.
As a new mother, Rachael feels an automatic affinity with her new-born Poppy. She humbly accepts her new role as care giver and provider of her demanding baby daughter. However, when she assesses her relationship with her husband, she finds it sadly lacking. She needs him to associate with her feelings, she wants to feel appreciated, and she needs him to step up and help out more.
The beginning of this book made me feel that the relationship was probably doomed, but as it progresses, Rachael reaches out to others through friends, books and anything which can help her resolve their constant fights and bickering.
I would say that this is a self-help book with a difference. Anyone going through, or about to go through bringing children into their relationship should read this. The book is humorous and eye opening. I think any woman could easily relate to this situation whether they have children or not. Everyone in a relationship sometimes feels unappreciated and frustrated. Highly recommended.
I loved the writing style of this author who gives a frank, raw, sincere view of married life after having a baby.
As a new mother, Rachael feels an automatic affinity with her new-born Poppy. She humbly accepts her new role as care giver and provider of her demanding baby daughter. However, when she assesses her relationship with her husband, she finds it sadly lacking. She needs him to associate with her feelings, she wants to feel appreciated, and she needs him to step up and help out more.
The beginning of this book made me feel that the relationship was probably doomed, but as it progresses, Rachael reaches out to others through friends, books and anything which can help her resolve their constant fights and bickering.
I would say that this is a self-help book with a difference. Anyone going through, or about to go through bringing children into their relationship should read this. The book is humorous and eye opening. I think any woman could easily relate to this situation whether they have children or not. Everyone in a relationship sometimes feels unappreciated and frustrated. Highly recommended.
February 5, 2020
Great advice on how to manage a relationship during and after a pregnancy...
Very insightful look at what happens to a relationship while a couple goes through a pregnancy. I tough to it would be more about the baby and how to handle parenthood but it was mostly about the relationship of the parents. Must read for any couple expecting.
Very insightful look at what happens to a relationship while a couple goes through a pregnancy. I tough to it would be more about the baby and how to handle parenthood but it was mostly about the relationship of the parents. Must read for any couple expecting.
December 9, 2019
An interesting self-help book for couples dealing with life changes after having a baby. There are some good suggestions for any couple really and plenty of resources cited. Includes interviews from a number of different couples to see how they handled certain situations as well.
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