Hearts and Collars: Twenty Years in a Power Exchange Relationship

by Dan Williams, Dawn Williams

When we started our power exchange relationship, we didn't have many models for it. We didn't know people who practiced authority transfer. We both came into it with emotional burdens and trauma. And in spite of that, we were able to consciously design a power exchange relationship that helps us both grow, brings us closer emotionally, helps us heal some of those hurts, and fulfills our deep desires. The tools we share in this book are ones that have worked for us over the last twenty years. We hope some of them will help you avoid pitfalls we stumbled into. Some of them may be right for you, or for your partner(s), and some of them may not. Like going clothes shopping, we invite you to try everything on; and if it doesn’t fit, leave it on the rack. If there's one thing we hope you take away from this book, it's whoever you are, whatever you've been through, you have the ability to reflect, and grow, and become the person you want to be. Although it does take work, unflinching honesty with yourself, and compatible partner(s), it is possible to create relationships that hold you up, and help you thrive. We did it. So can you. Dan and dawn began their power exchange relationship in 2001. Since then, they have presented at hundreds of events, co-authored five books, and hosted over six hundred episodes of the Erotic Awakenings podcast. They were part of the team that created the Columbus Space, and they have served as co-producers of PXS (Power eXchange Summit) and BTL (Beyond the Love, a Polyamory Summit). Dan and dawn have been recognized as MAsT International Member’s Choice Presenters of the Year (2016); Great Lakes title holders (2010); and as featured educators on both Kink Academy and Creative Sexuality. Find more about Dan and dawn at www.eroticawakening.com.

Genres: Sexuality

287 pages, Kindle Edition

Published June 19, 2022

About the author

Dan and dawn, a lifestyle couple of many years - as well as authors, educators and co-producers of the new annual event, The Power eXchange Summit - bring their diverse backgrounds and experiences to each presentation and workshop they lead. With their blend of training and experience in Sacred Sexuality, BDSM, M/s & energy work, they offer a unique perspective to their audience. Although they have presented hundreds of workshops at dozens and dozens of events over the past 10 years, they continue to bring great enthusiasm and energy to each presentation.

Dan and dawn are the authors of Living M/s: A book for Masters, slaves, and Their Relationships and Sex, Stories, and Power Exchange.

They are also the co-hosts of the Erotic Awakening internet radio show, an educational podcast that explores “all things erotic”; Great Lakes region Master & slave title holders (2010); creators of the Scarlet Sanctuary and Path of the Qadishti (sacred sexuality spaces); featured educators on both Kink Academy and Creative Sexuality; leaders of the respected Leather tribe “House Metta”; and mentioned in a number of books, articles, and other media.

Reviews

[Tracy · Rating 5 out of 5]

I think it’s the best lifestyle book about real life Power Exchange that I have come across. Dan and dawn have an engaging way of sharing their story of 20 years in power exchange. The book provides specific examples of the stumbling blocks in their own relationship and the tools they created to navigate. The information is presented in a way that makes it easy to customize for your own flavor of Power Exchange. Hearts and Collars is a great tool for a new power exchange couple and a fresh perspective for established power exchange relationships.

[Wendy · Rating 5 out of 5]

I loved this book.
I saw Dan and dawn speak at a convention in KY and I bought the book. It was filled with helpful information and ideas and the glimpses into their personal dynamic was interesting.
I recommend this book for anyone considering power exchange or even someone like me, who is in one but sees that there is always room for improvement and growth.

[Oliver · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was a great book on the topic of M/s, but damn do I wish they had an editor.

[Samu · Rating 3 out of 5]

Aika paljon traumaa ja mindfulnessia, vähemmän itse aihetta. Skippailin tylsien juttujen yli surutta.

[Justin · Rating 5 out of 5]

I enjoyed this book. It’s nice to see both perspectives of a power exchange relationship. Too many times it’s just the dominants side.