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ADHD Effects on Relationships:
understanding & loving your partner with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, defusing conflicts and misunderstandings
176 pages, Kindle Edition
Published April 12, 2022
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March 29, 2023
Possibly the first ADHD book on relationships that actually tells you what to do when problems arise. I will be purchasing this book and highlighting.
September 16, 2025
I picked up this book really wanting some helpful and practical advice for being there for my partner with ADHD. I finished the book feeling a lot better about our relationship, but with a slightly bad taste in my mouth with how this book explores some topics with ADHD.
First of all, there is a lot of really GOOD practical advice for helping your partner, with identifying negative traits in your relationship and overcoming it in a way where you feel more equal. It also helped me immensely with empathising with my partner's ADHD, understanding the things he cannot control.
But, I still have some major issues with this book. First of all, I felt that people with ADHD were hugely infantilised during the whole book, being referred to as 'victims' or 'sufferers' throughout. Also, the focus on how ADHD can effect sex and intimacy, being focused on how people with ADHD are apparently prone to cheating, I felt wasn't helpful. My biggest issue with the whole book though was the focus on heterosexual dynamics - putting people with ADHD in boxes based on their gender, and then defining how their relationships will work based on that. I am gay, and me and my partner are both men, and because of that, a lot of advice in the book felt alienating because of the constant focus of gender and gender roles. Only one sentence in the whole book referred to potential homosexual relationships with ADHD partners, and even that gave a misinformed opinion on how our relationships work.
Overall, I do think this book is helpful, and I will be using it in the future to help inform myself with techniques to help my partner and help our relationship. But, I hope my comments help people think more about their choice of language when it comes to books about people and relationships - because not every relationship is between a traditional man and a woman.
First of all, there is a lot of really GOOD practical advice for helping your partner, with identifying negative traits in your relationship and overcoming it in a way where you feel more equal. It also helped me immensely with empathising with my partner's ADHD, understanding the things he cannot control.
But, I still have some major issues with this book. First of all, I felt that people with ADHD were hugely infantilised during the whole book, being referred to as 'victims' or 'sufferers' throughout. Also, the focus on how ADHD can effect sex and intimacy, being focused on how people with ADHD are apparently prone to cheating, I felt wasn't helpful. My biggest issue with the whole book though was the focus on heterosexual dynamics - putting people with ADHD in boxes based on their gender, and then defining how their relationships will work based on that. I am gay, and me and my partner are both men, and because of that, a lot of advice in the book felt alienating because of the constant focus of gender and gender roles. Only one sentence in the whole book referred to potential homosexual relationships with ADHD partners, and even that gave a misinformed opinion on how our relationships work.
Overall, I do think this book is helpful, and I will be using it in the future to help inform myself with techniques to help my partner and help our relationship. But, I hope my comments help people think more about their choice of language when it comes to books about people and relationships - because not every relationship is between a traditional man and a woman.
October 23, 2024
I appreciate what the author is doing. I’m not sure where her anecdotes in the book come from, but I did not find them relatable. They seemed totally random versus broader experiences.
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