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Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting
Learn to meet women in genuinely confident and high-quality ways, both in-person and online. This isn't a book about pickup artistry; it is the opposite and is far better.
If you have been struggling due to lack of confidence, not knowing what to say, or not having a plan, this book is for you.
If you are tired of being told to act confident around women without being told how, this book is for you.
If you are afraid to approach women in public, this book is for you.
If you aren't having success meeting woman on dating websites or apps, this book is for you.
If you have trouble connecting with women on dates, this book is for you.
If you are worried about how to think about building a long-term relationship with that great lady, this book is for you.
The book is divided into four Parts. In Part 1, we take a candid look at you, your wants, your goals, your mindset, what might be holding you back, and think about what you really want out of the dating process. Parts 2 and 3 are densely packed with effective, practical, real-world advice and ready-to-use examples for meeting great ladies both in person and online. Part 4 covers the dating process and building toward and sustaining a healthy and lasting relationship.
How can this book help anyone of any age? Here is what's inside:
Part 1 – Planning and Preparation: Get yourself and your mindset right. Develop the type of natural self-confidence that makes it easier to approach women. Know what you want. Define precisely what qualities you are looking for in a woman -– the ones she must have for you both to have the best chance at long-term happiness. Lastly, we define our rules of conduct for this entire process.
Part 2 – Meeting In-person: Next, we move to the thought process and mechanics of confidently approaching and meeting women in-person. We will cover effective ways to do this and what to avoid. This part is extensive, and densely packed with modern, field-tested and ready-to-use examples.
Part 3 - Meeting Online: Meeting women using the internet sounds like it should be easier, but many men find that isn’t the case, so we need an entire section for this subject. Toxic behavior on dating sites turns many ladies off. For others, their inboxes are full of unwanted messages daily, crowding out the genuine ones from good guys like you. Here we will use principles from Part 1 to set up your profile, and provide effective methods for reaching out to and connecting with ladies of interest in a confident, safe, productive and fun way. Loads of practical and reusable real-world examples are provided.
Part 4 – Cultivating and Sustaining: You’ve met someone. Now you invest more time to get to know her even better. You need to use the first few dates to see if she is right for you. Practical guidance to help you through these conversations is provided with many examples that will “wow” her, and keep her laughing, engaged, and interested. Here you are also showing her who you really are: someone she can rely upon; someone that she, her family, and her friends will value having in their lives; a strong asset for any future family that you might choose to have together; and someone that your children will look up to with their hearts full of pride.
There is no reason for you to be alone. Do it for yourself. Do it for the family that you envision building.
If you have been struggling due to lack of confidence, not knowing what to say, or not having a plan, this book is for you.
If you are tired of being told to act confident around women without being told how, this book is for you.
If you are afraid to approach women in public, this book is for you.
If you aren't having success meeting woman on dating websites or apps, this book is for you.
If you have trouble connecting with women on dates, this book is for you.
If you are worried about how to think about building a long-term relationship with that great lady, this book is for you.
The book is divided into four Parts. In Part 1, we take a candid look at you, your wants, your goals, your mindset, what might be holding you back, and think about what you really want out of the dating process. Parts 2 and 3 are densely packed with effective, practical, real-world advice and ready-to-use examples for meeting great ladies both in person and online. Part 4 covers the dating process and building toward and sustaining a healthy and lasting relationship.
How can this book help anyone of any age? Here is what's inside:
Part 1 – Planning and Preparation: Get yourself and your mindset right. Develop the type of natural self-confidence that makes it easier to approach women. Know what you want. Define precisely what qualities you are looking for in a woman -– the ones she must have for you both to have the best chance at long-term happiness. Lastly, we define our rules of conduct for this entire process.
Part 2 – Meeting In-person: Next, we move to the thought process and mechanics of confidently approaching and meeting women in-person. We will cover effective ways to do this and what to avoid. This part is extensive, and densely packed with modern, field-tested and ready-to-use examples.
Part 3 - Meeting Online: Meeting women using the internet sounds like it should be easier, but many men find that isn’t the case, so we need an entire section for this subject. Toxic behavior on dating sites turns many ladies off. For others, their inboxes are full of unwanted messages daily, crowding out the genuine ones from good guys like you. Here we will use principles from Part 1 to set up your profile, and provide effective methods for reaching out to and connecting with ladies of interest in a confident, safe, productive and fun way. Loads of practical and reusable real-world examples are provided.
Part 4 – Cultivating and Sustaining: You’ve met someone. Now you invest more time to get to know her even better. You need to use the first few dates to see if she is right for you. Practical guidance to help you through these conversations is provided with many examples that will “wow” her, and keep her laughing, engaged, and interested. Here you are also showing her who you really are: someone she can rely upon; someone that she, her family, and her friends will value having in their lives; a strong asset for any future family that you might choose to have together; and someone that your children will look up to with their hearts full of pride.
There is no reason for you to be alone. Do it for yourself. Do it for the family that you envision building.
300 pages, Paperback
Published March 23, 2021
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May 8, 2021
‘There is no reason for you to be alone’ – Wise and practical concepts for successful flirting
Author David Sharpe provides a manual that likely will appeal to all men who wish to improve their skills in opening – and maintaining - relationships with women. And while the book does indeed provide practical, sage, and useful coaching on ‘flirting’ with women, it is also a very appropriate resource for examining and correcting our often flawed skills in relating to others - men with women and with other men, women with men and with other women. In other words, this book has a potentially wider audience – if we examine the ways we all interact.
One of the reasons Sharpe’s book works so well is his approach to the techniques he supports: the structure of the book is user-friendly and up to date in that the methods he proposes are equally valid in both in person and on line situations. And returning to the author’s reason for writing this book on flirting skills, he offers, ‘Learn to meet women in genuinely confident and high quality ways, both in person and online.’
Part One of the guide addresses planning and preparation – work before approaching the flirting experience. As he summarizes, ‘Get yourself and your mindset right. Develop the type or natural self-confidence that makes it easier to approach women…Define what qualities you are looking for in a woman…define rules of conduct for the entire process.’ In Part Two, Sharpe addresses the meeting ‘in person’ situation – ‘effective ways to do this and what to avoid.’ Part Three very appropriately explores and advises as to the ‘online’ getting acquainted (aka flirting) advice: avoiding toxic behavior on dating sites (this is a turnoff for women), establish a profile, avoid a plethora of unwanted daily messages, etc.
Once through Parts 1 – 3, Part Four is about cultivating and sustaining the relationship. ‘You’ve met someone. Now you invest more time to get to know her even better…Here you show her who you really are: someone she can rely upon, someone that she, her family and her friends will value having in their lives…someone that your children will look up to with their hearts full of pride.’
Though the book’s title suggests a picaresque tone, David Sharpe is quite the gentleman and the tone of the book, while very supportive and instructive, is honorable and practical as opposed to anecdotal. Solid instruction from the pen of a gentleman.
Author David Sharpe provides a manual that likely will appeal to all men who wish to improve their skills in opening – and maintaining - relationships with women. And while the book does indeed provide practical, sage, and useful coaching on ‘flirting’ with women, it is also a very appropriate resource for examining and correcting our often flawed skills in relating to others - men with women and with other men, women with men and with other women. In other words, this book has a potentially wider audience – if we examine the ways we all interact.
One of the reasons Sharpe’s book works so well is his approach to the techniques he supports: the structure of the book is user-friendly and up to date in that the methods he proposes are equally valid in both in person and on line situations. And returning to the author’s reason for writing this book on flirting skills, he offers, ‘Learn to meet women in genuinely confident and high quality ways, both in person and online.’
Part One of the guide addresses planning and preparation – work before approaching the flirting experience. As he summarizes, ‘Get yourself and your mindset right. Develop the type or natural self-confidence that makes it easier to approach women…Define what qualities you are looking for in a woman…define rules of conduct for the entire process.’ In Part Two, Sharpe addresses the meeting ‘in person’ situation – ‘effective ways to do this and what to avoid.’ Part Three very appropriately explores and advises as to the ‘online’ getting acquainted (aka flirting) advice: avoiding toxic behavior on dating sites (this is a turnoff for women), establish a profile, avoid a plethora of unwanted daily messages, etc.
Once through Parts 1 – 3, Part Four is about cultivating and sustaining the relationship. ‘You’ve met someone. Now you invest more time to get to know her even better…Here you show her who you really are: someone she can rely upon, someone that she, her family and her friends will value having in their lives…someone that your children will look up to with their hearts full of pride.’
Though the book’s title suggests a picaresque tone, David Sharpe is quite the gentleman and the tone of the book, while very supportive and instructive, is honorable and practical as opposed to anecdotal. Solid instruction from the pen of a gentleman.
June 23, 2021
Self-help guide for shy guys in the art of flirting
Calling all shy guys who would like to become experts in the art of flirting, and meet the woman of their dreams. The author’s aim is to help you avoid unhappiness and misery in your relationships, and to be happy with your choice in the love department.
He divided the book into four parts. First, it starts with your self improvement, to present the best version of yourself to society. And, before you test your flirting prowess, he encourages you to think of what you are looking for in a woman, and compile a compatibility scorecard. This is to help you practice and build your confidence. Then, you’re given 10 rules for success that you must abide by in all your interactions. These include being confident, having a plan, never to flirt at your workplace, and to accept no as an answer.
Parts 2 and 3 provide you with in-person and online scenarios complete with practical prompts, notes and observations at the end. Finally, Part 4 focuses on cultivating and sustaining your new relationship. There are plenty of tips, dos and donts, and loads of encouragement sprinkled throughout the book, in an easy-to-read style of writing.
The author tested the 10 rules for success in a survey that included actresses, medal-winning athletes, and beauty contest winners. Now the average guy is more likely to meet everyday women at the mall than this kind of accomplished woman. But, kudos to the author for going the extra mile and cramming in loads of tips for potential success.
What I like about the book is the warning not to flirt at work, the emphasis on manners, grooming and listening. And to “leave the lady feeling better about herself not worse” when you make a “gentlemanly exit”.
But a word of caution is necessary. The author calls “Hello, Pretty” as “pure gold” and the greatest opener of all time. My snap survey of 13 women of different ages revealed they might construe this opener as creepy, which breaks rules four and five. This affected my rating of the book. Some situations and reactions described sound funny, and over-optimistic. Your success may well depend on the country and culture you live in. And, what the book lacks is a survey on the success rate of guys who’ve tried out the openers.
Overall, it is a worthwhile read for would-be gentlemen flirters.
(I received an ARC copy from Reedsy and am voluntarily leaving a review).
Calling all shy guys who would like to become experts in the art of flirting, and meet the woman of their dreams. The author’s aim is to help you avoid unhappiness and misery in your relationships, and to be happy with your choice in the love department.
He divided the book into four parts. First, it starts with your self improvement, to present the best version of yourself to society. And, before you test your flirting prowess, he encourages you to think of what you are looking for in a woman, and compile a compatibility scorecard. This is to help you practice and build your confidence. Then, you’re given 10 rules for success that you must abide by in all your interactions. These include being confident, having a plan, never to flirt at your workplace, and to accept no as an answer.
Parts 2 and 3 provide you with in-person and online scenarios complete with practical prompts, notes and observations at the end. Finally, Part 4 focuses on cultivating and sustaining your new relationship. There are plenty of tips, dos and donts, and loads of encouragement sprinkled throughout the book, in an easy-to-read style of writing.
The author tested the 10 rules for success in a survey that included actresses, medal-winning athletes, and beauty contest winners. Now the average guy is more likely to meet everyday women at the mall than this kind of accomplished woman. But, kudos to the author for going the extra mile and cramming in loads of tips for potential success.
What I like about the book is the warning not to flirt at work, the emphasis on manners, grooming and listening. And to “leave the lady feeling better about herself not worse” when you make a “gentlemanly exit”.
But a word of caution is necessary. The author calls “Hello, Pretty” as “pure gold” and the greatest opener of all time. My snap survey of 13 women of different ages revealed they might construe this opener as creepy, which breaks rules four and five. This affected my rating of the book. Some situations and reactions described sound funny, and over-optimistic. Your success may well depend on the country and culture you live in. And, what the book lacks is a survey on the success rate of guys who’ve tried out the openers.
Overall, it is a worthwhile read for would-be gentlemen flirters.
(I received an ARC copy from Reedsy and am voluntarily leaving a review).
June 10, 2021
It started out pretty good. I totally agree with the idea of building confidence through self improvement and achieving goals. The 10 rules seem like sound advice. The last 5% or so of the book also wrapped things up with what I felt were good observations. But then, about a third of the way through, the author sets up scenarios with suggested dialogue. Here is where it went seriously off the rails.
Sharpe claims to have surveyed a “large number” of women, including models, movie stars, and gold medal Olympic athletes. I’ve never dated a movie star, super model, or gold medal Olympian, so maybe those women react differently from the ones I’ve had experience with. Still I’m pretty certain that the approximately 3.9 billion women remaining on earth would likely find the example dialogues creepy, insulting, or so inept as the be amusing. I’ve solicited opinions from 10 women ranging in age from early 20s through late 60s. They all absolutely agreed that the dialogues were horrendous. And the female responses are completely preposterous. Fellas … NEVER walk up to a girl you don’t know and say, “Hi pretty.” Just don’t. Almost every sample dialogue violates rule 5. (Don’t be creepy) And the scenario where a girl you’ve never met, sitting in the car next to you at a traffic light, will pull into a parking lot that you’ve pointed to so you can chat her up is a stretch at best.
Read it right up to the dialogues. There some good stuff up to that point. Then quit.
Sharpe claims to have surveyed a “large number” of women, including models, movie stars, and gold medal Olympic athletes. I’ve never dated a movie star, super model, or gold medal Olympian, so maybe those women react differently from the ones I’ve had experience with. Still I’m pretty certain that the approximately 3.9 billion women remaining on earth would likely find the example dialogues creepy, insulting, or so inept as the be amusing. I’ve solicited opinions from 10 women ranging in age from early 20s through late 60s. They all absolutely agreed that the dialogues were horrendous. And the female responses are completely preposterous. Fellas … NEVER walk up to a girl you don’t know and say, “Hi pretty.” Just don’t. Almost every sample dialogue violates rule 5. (Don’t be creepy) And the scenario where a girl you’ve never met, sitting in the car next to you at a traffic light, will pull into a parking lot that you’ve pointed to so you can chat her up is a stretch at best.
Read it right up to the dialogues. There some good stuff up to that point. Then quit.
June 27, 2021
Reading this book from a woman's point of view is a lot more interesting than I've thought. Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting by David Sharpe is a self-help book for all the bachelors who wants to be successful in dating and relationship. I have learned a lot in this book, things that I haven't learned before. Just a little heads up that this book is not intended for the purpose of scamming or playing someone's heart. This is for the sincere people who want a sincere relationship;
The book was fun to read about. I love that it explores the things that women are comfortable with. It emphasizes the importance of respect. Both personal and online aspects were tackled in this book. The approach was really sensible. It will be a huge help for gentlemen out there who want to strengthen their positive traits and make them their winning characters in landing a relationship.
The book was fun to read about. I love that it explores the things that women are comfortable with. It emphasizes the importance of respect. Both personal and online aspects were tackled in this book. The approach was really sensible. It will be a huge help for gentlemen out there who want to strengthen their positive traits and make them their winning characters in landing a relationship.
May 10, 2021
Gentlemen's Guide to Flirting by David Sharpe is the go-to book if you are interested in pursuing a meaningful relationship. The book lays out steps to help you on your way to cultivating personal relationships that are not only worthwhile to you but to the people you meet. The tone and tenor of the book is one of respect and subtlety. Specifically, this book is not for those who are trying to scam or con women into an untoward situation. Rather it almost comes across as a book of preferred manners in most social situations, but especially with women. Build up your confidence by reading this book, it will help you both in-person and online if you are interested in meeting quality women.
June 10, 2021
This is not for pick-up artists and the like. This is for men who genuinely want to make a connection with someone and need a few hints and tips how to go about that. Broken into 4 parts with a major chapter dedicated to the online dating realm, this book will walk you through the initial phases of meeting and then dating someone.
I suppose this is a good book for those who sincerely have no clue or confidence and are intimidated by starting a conversation with someone. I liked that the author took responses form women and how they would want an encounter to go, this helps keep the tips realistic. Nothing groundbreaking, straightforward book.
I suppose this is a good book for those who sincerely have no clue or confidence and are intimidated by starting a conversation with someone. I liked that the author took responses form women and how they would want an encounter to go, this helps keep the tips realistic. Nothing groundbreaking, straightforward book.
June 24, 2021
Finding the Right Woman Requires Some Skill and Grooming
Gentlemen’s Guide to Flirting by author David Sharpe is one book that will appeal to everyone who wants to learn better ways to meet women and improve their relationships. The book contains useful tips that can help men build their confidence. The book goes beyond the relationship between men and women to discuss other forms of relationships. The book appeals to a wider audience and not just men alone. The author has a unique way of approaching the subject matter in this book and highlighting his points for easier understanding. If you are looking for healthy relationship advice, I strongly recommend you get a copy of this book.
Gentlemen’s Guide to Flirting by author David Sharpe is one book that will appeal to everyone who wants to learn better ways to meet women and improve their relationships. The book contains useful tips that can help men build their confidence. The book goes beyond the relationship between men and women to discuss other forms of relationships. The book appeals to a wider audience and not just men alone. The author has a unique way of approaching the subject matter in this book and highlighting his points for easier understanding. If you are looking for healthy relationship advice, I strongly recommend you get a copy of this book.
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