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Dating Sucks, but You Don't: The Modern Guy's Guide to Total Confidence, Romantic Connection, and Finding the Perfect Partner
Your Step-by-Step Guide to Flirt with Confidence and Attract Your Dream Girlfriend, without Using Creepy Pickup Tricks.
A New Book from NYC's No. 1 Ranked Dating Coach, as seen in Esquire and Men's Health
You want to confidently flirt with attractive women and find your dream girlfriend, right? But...
You aren't sure how to flirt or what to say.
You struggle with texting, and women ghost you.
Approaching feels scary because you might come off as creepy or boring.
You don't get good matches on the apps.
Quality women don't seem into you.
Worst of all? You get lonely and wonder if you'll EVER find love.
Dating can SUCK. But it doesn't have to!
There's a simple way to confidently flirt with women and attract a great girlfriend—even if you're shy, short, or not super handsome.
Use a method that's helped thousands of single men date amazing women.
The secret? Use Radical Authenticity , a tested dating formula to help you confidently flirt and connect with quality girls... no creepy pickup tricks needed!
Written by Connell Barrett , NYC's No. 1 ranked dating coach, Dating Sucks, but You Don't is your step-by-step guide for more dates and more confidence... as the real, best you!
Buckle up, because Radical Authenticity leads to fast results! You're about to
Forget toxic pickup moves. Women want to date the AUTHENTIC you.
It's time to start dating incredible women, and attract the girlfriend you want and deserve.
Scroll up, click the "Buy Now" button, and CONFIDENTLY FLIRT WITH WOMEN today!
A New Book from NYC's No. 1 Ranked Dating Coach, as seen in Esquire and Men's Health
You want to confidently flirt with attractive women and find your dream girlfriend, right? But...
You aren't sure how to flirt or what to say.
You struggle with texting, and women ghost you.
Approaching feels scary because you might come off as creepy or boring.
You don't get good matches on the apps.
Quality women don't seem into you.
Worst of all? You get lonely and wonder if you'll EVER find love.
Dating can SUCK. But it doesn't have to!
There's a simple way to confidently flirt with women and attract a great girlfriend—even if you're shy, short, or not super handsome.
Use a method that's helped thousands of single men date amazing women.
The secret? Use Radical Authenticity , a tested dating formula to help you confidently flirt and connect with quality girls... no creepy pickup tricks needed!
Written by Connell Barrett , NYC's No. 1 ranked dating coach, Dating Sucks, but You Don't is your step-by-step guide for more dates and more confidence... as the real, best you!
Buckle up, because Radical Authenticity leads to fast results! You're about to
Forget toxic pickup moves. Women want to date the AUTHENTIC you.
It's time to start dating incredible women, and attract the girlfriend you want and deserve.
Scroll up, click the "Buy Now" button, and CONFIDENTLY FLIRT WITH WOMEN today!
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Published May 11, 2021
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July 7, 2023
[disclaimer: I rate and review books relative to what they do for my life, and I am not at all in the target audience for this book.]
I read this as part of a 2022 project to broaden my perspective on the role dating plays in people's lives & what people are hoping to find through it. This book, like the other general-audience dating self-help I read, is amazingly silent about what relationships might be for and how one's desires and aims might influence how one approaches them. Together, these books paint a picture for me of a bleak and robotic heterosexual world just out of my queer sight, where people optimize their lives toward a checklist of desires they were handed, and somehow hope to find love without ever becoming all the way human, as if a relationship was a kind of winning, an entrance exam to a meaningful life rather than something that might emerge from it, intertwined.
DSBYD is an illuminating case study in the way that culture can absorb critique without actually changing much. The "Modern Guy" of the subtitle is one who thinks violence against women sucks, is not allergic to the idea that patriarchy is a thing, and would say that he doesn't feel entitled to women's bodies. Barrett is responding to feminism, but more so attempting to preempt the arguments of alt-right counter-feminism that deliberately target lonely straight men, the arguments that tell them that women have doomed them to a hopeless, meaningless life. The "Modern" adjective is skillful branding, directly opposing the "good old days" narrative of the alt-right. That this resistance to an alt-right worldview is Barrett's unique selling point as a dating coach says a lot about how mainstream alt-right ideas have become in the last decade. (Like, maybe it's time to drop the "alt".) Throughout the book, Barrett chummily pushes back against alt-right misogynistic talking points. (Mostly with the argument that they won't get men laid, but still, thanks, man.)
Because of this, Barrett appears, on a surface level, to have absorbed some values about consent and respect. At the same time, he's telling stories about getting women into bed by literally yanking them by the arm away from a conversation. The entire premise of the book only makes sense if sex is a prize to be earned: something one can become entitled to by virtue of one's pure and good inner nature, one's determination, one's plucky heroism, one's inner confidence and authentic masculinity. This is not actually all that different from being entitled as a result of some mythical alphaness - it is in fact extremely similar to typical advice about how to attain that mythical alphaness. It's still a regressive worldview, it's just contrasted with an even more regressive worldview to look like progress.
This bait-and-switch makes me more nauseous in some ways than the alt-right material. It reminds me of blatant discrimination being justified in more-progressive-than-average-for-their-industry companies, people who haven't read past the title of her book quoting Sarah Schulman when excusing relationship abuse, empty land acknowledgements.
The parallel between this approach to relationships and startup hustle culture was striking to me. Any number of underslept former valedictorians, at this moment, are devoting vast amounts of attention to finding the right market, believing in the endeavor when everything looks bleak, growth hacking, convincing others, pivoting, persisting, saving money by drinking Soylent... and comparatively little to the work of actually building a useful, high-quality product. Maybe no work understanding their own aims as founders. Because VCs, to be successful, don't have any use for smart, stable, modestly profitable businesses - they need exponential growth, even if those strategies are worse for the founders. And dating coaches, to be successful, don't have any use for a solid guy gradually winning the heart of their friend's friend - they need to pull off spectacular feats of seduction and promise the same, even if those strategies are, in the long run, worse for their clients' love lives.
Breezy read and some genuinely solid advice and encouragement about persisting at hard, ambitious projects in general (though not about being reflective about them).
I read this as part of a 2022 project to broaden my perspective on the role dating plays in people's lives & what people are hoping to find through it. This book, like the other general-audience dating self-help I read, is amazingly silent about what relationships might be for and how one's desires and aims might influence how one approaches them. Together, these books paint a picture for me of a bleak and robotic heterosexual world just out of my queer sight, where people optimize their lives toward a checklist of desires they were handed, and somehow hope to find love without ever becoming all the way human, as if a relationship was a kind of winning, an entrance exam to a meaningful life rather than something that might emerge from it, intertwined.
DSBYD is an illuminating case study in the way that culture can absorb critique without actually changing much. The "Modern Guy" of the subtitle is one who thinks violence against women sucks, is not allergic to the idea that patriarchy is a thing, and would say that he doesn't feel entitled to women's bodies. Barrett is responding to feminism, but more so attempting to preempt the arguments of alt-right counter-feminism that deliberately target lonely straight men, the arguments that tell them that women have doomed them to a hopeless, meaningless life. The "Modern" adjective is skillful branding, directly opposing the "good old days" narrative of the alt-right. That this resistance to an alt-right worldview is Barrett's unique selling point as a dating coach says a lot about how mainstream alt-right ideas have become in the last decade. (Like, maybe it's time to drop the "alt".) Throughout the book, Barrett chummily pushes back against alt-right misogynistic talking points. (Mostly with the argument that they won't get men laid, but still, thanks, man.)
Because of this, Barrett appears, on a surface level, to have absorbed some values about consent and respect. At the same time, he's telling stories about getting women into bed by literally yanking them by the arm away from a conversation. The entire premise of the book only makes sense if sex is a prize to be earned: something one can become entitled to by virtue of one's pure and good inner nature, one's determination, one's plucky heroism, one's inner confidence and authentic masculinity. This is not actually all that different from being entitled as a result of some mythical alphaness - it is in fact extremely similar to typical advice about how to attain that mythical alphaness. It's still a regressive worldview, it's just contrasted with an even more regressive worldview to look like progress.
This bait-and-switch makes me more nauseous in some ways than the alt-right material. It reminds me of blatant discrimination being justified in more-progressive-than-average-for-their-industry companies, people who haven't read past the title of her book quoting Sarah Schulman when excusing relationship abuse, empty land acknowledgements.
The parallel between this approach to relationships and startup hustle culture was striking to me. Any number of underslept former valedictorians, at this moment, are devoting vast amounts of attention to finding the right market, believing in the endeavor when everything looks bleak, growth hacking, convincing others, pivoting, persisting, saving money by drinking Soylent... and comparatively little to the work of actually building a useful, high-quality product. Maybe no work understanding their own aims as founders. Because VCs, to be successful, don't have any use for smart, stable, modestly profitable businesses - they need exponential growth, even if those strategies are worse for the founders. And dating coaches, to be successful, don't have any use for a solid guy gradually winning the heart of their friend's friend - they need to pull off spectacular feats of seduction and promise the same, even if those strategies are, in the long run, worse for their clients' love lives.
Breezy read and some genuinely solid advice and encouragement about persisting at hard, ambitious projects in general (though not about being reflective about them).
January 2, 2023
A Healthy, Optimistic, Self-Challenging Guide.
This may be my first book I've read on the subject, but having seen blogs, editorials, and videos, on the subject, the encouraging tone of Connell's voice is a breath of fresh air. He puts faith in his readers like someone who he knows personally, is never condescending, and doesn't carry the instructional stiffness of a doctor/psychologist/"well-meaning keyboard-warrior".
This book is very much Dating 101. It begins with reminding men that they do not have to front with an alpha-male/toxic-masculine persona and instead lead with what you are most passionate about. In other words--being yourself. Secondly, it works on changing your mindframe in your self-esteem, confidence, and how you can change your thoughts regarding approaching and rejection. Finally, it gives you the tips on how to talk to and flirt with girls. This is a book that can be read by a man who knows *nothing* about dating or women, and should transition him towards getting dates, kisses, and entering into a relationship. Your Mileage May Vary though.
One thing to be careful about is how you pace the book. Connell has a fun and infectious tone, which may inspire you to keep reading, but each chapter ends with "missions" which is putting his advice to the test. These missions can take 15 minutes (write a list/meditate on your positive qualities) to multiple hours to execute (schedule a photo shoot for your online dating profile, find a wing-woman who can vouch for you at bars, have a reject-a-thon and get turned down by 5 women)--and so the book would probably be more effective reading with a friend once or twice a week rather than solo at whatever pace feels comfortable. A second issue is that Connell takes advantage of living in a big city (mentions New York & Vegas and other flashy places with sprawling opportunities to meet women). He resorts to bar/club scenes frequently. He uses lines like, In a week, you might see 12 "Wow" (single) women you would like to talk to. I can see many grown adults (including myself) in suburbs or mid-sized cities not having THAT many prospects in their day-to-day life. Personally, I've found some of the suggested one-liners largely hit-or-miss (though there are plenty given over the course of the book). I think the book could use a tad more emphasis on the unsuccessful encounters and ghosting that can occur--and even prepare the reader that even after what might be an objectively successful conversation, you can still get ghosted after getting the phone number or following up for a date.
But overall, the book was a pleasant read and I'll be looking to circle back to execute more of its advice. I would recommend it to any single men who are doubting the dating game or struggling getting themselves out there.
This may be my first book I've read on the subject, but having seen blogs, editorials, and videos, on the subject, the encouraging tone of Connell's voice is a breath of fresh air. He puts faith in his readers like someone who he knows personally, is never condescending, and doesn't carry the instructional stiffness of a doctor/psychologist/"well-meaning keyboard-warrior".
This book is very much Dating 101. It begins with reminding men that they do not have to front with an alpha-male/toxic-masculine persona and instead lead with what you are most passionate about. In other words--being yourself. Secondly, it works on changing your mindframe in your self-esteem, confidence, and how you can change your thoughts regarding approaching and rejection. Finally, it gives you the tips on how to talk to and flirt with girls. This is a book that can be read by a man who knows *nothing* about dating or women, and should transition him towards getting dates, kisses, and entering into a relationship. Your Mileage May Vary though.
One thing to be careful about is how you pace the book. Connell has a fun and infectious tone, which may inspire you to keep reading, but each chapter ends with "missions" which is putting his advice to the test. These missions can take 15 minutes (write a list/meditate on your positive qualities) to multiple hours to execute (schedule a photo shoot for your online dating profile, find a wing-woman who can vouch for you at bars, have a reject-a-thon and get turned down by 5 women)--and so the book would probably be more effective reading with a friend once or twice a week rather than solo at whatever pace feels comfortable. A second issue is that Connell takes advantage of living in a big city (mentions New York & Vegas and other flashy places with sprawling opportunities to meet women). He resorts to bar/club scenes frequently. He uses lines like, In a week, you might see 12 "Wow" (single) women you would like to talk to. I can see many grown adults (including myself) in suburbs or mid-sized cities not having THAT many prospects in their day-to-day life. Personally, I've found some of the suggested one-liners largely hit-or-miss (though there are plenty given over the course of the book). I think the book could use a tad more emphasis on the unsuccessful encounters and ghosting that can occur--and even prepare the reader that even after what might be an objectively successful conversation, you can still get ghosted after getting the phone number or following up for a date.
But overall, the book was a pleasant read and I'll be looking to circle back to execute more of its advice. I would recommend it to any single men who are doubting the dating game or struggling getting themselves out there.
July 6, 2021
This isn't the kind of book I'd ordinarily pick up on my own. Having read a few books of dating advice in particular and even more of the self-help genre in general, I usually find myself unimpressed. Most such books veer either toward the sleazy or toward rampant pseudo-psychology, neither of which necessarily offers much of value to the reader. But I was given a copy of this book (what that says about the quality of my own love life is, perhaps, a question best left unanswered), so I dutifully read it and I have to say I'm pleasantly surprised.
To be sure, the book doesn't explore human psychology in any great depth. Yes, there are some citations, including a few of genuine scholarly papers on social psychology, but the bulk of the book treats the reader to a more watered down surface-level reading of psychology. And admittedly, while most of the book's advice is solid, the author presents a few questionable ideas here and there and certainly covers a lot of material I suspect most readers have heard many times before.
However, what the book lacks in cutting-edge originality or rigorous scientific documentation, it makes up for in reading pleasure and wit. Some of the lines are genuinely funny, but even more to the point, the book reads like advice one might offer a friend. Importantly, most of the book's ideas are good advice that steer clear of the often-sleazy advice offered by many dating coaches. The devil's in the execution, though. Anyone can read a book and agree with its advice. I suspect many readers will do so and then fail to actually act on that advice, even though the core message of this book (refreshingly so, even if it is repeated a few too many times for such a short text) is quite simply to take such action. As such, this book is recommended perhaps above all for those both need and will act upon a motivational pep talk.
To be sure, the book doesn't explore human psychology in any great depth. Yes, there are some citations, including a few of genuine scholarly papers on social psychology, but the bulk of the book treats the reader to a more watered down surface-level reading of psychology. And admittedly, while most of the book's advice is solid, the author presents a few questionable ideas here and there and certainly covers a lot of material I suspect most readers have heard many times before.
However, what the book lacks in cutting-edge originality or rigorous scientific documentation, it makes up for in reading pleasure and wit. Some of the lines are genuinely funny, but even more to the point, the book reads like advice one might offer a friend. Importantly, most of the book's ideas are good advice that steer clear of the often-sleazy advice offered by many dating coaches. The devil's in the execution, though. Anyone can read a book and agree with its advice. I suspect many readers will do so and then fail to actually act on that advice, even though the core message of this book (refreshingly so, even if it is repeated a few too many times for such a short text) is quite simply to take such action. As such, this book is recommended perhaps above all for those both need and will act upon a motivational pep talk.
May 26, 2023
I came across this book thanks to a friend who recommended it to me since he knows I'm putting myself out there.
I finished this book out of discipline, but I must admit I didn't enjoy it at all.
As any other dating book out there, it focuses on quantity over quality, it gives you advice on how to get laid, how to neg women and call it banter or being playful or whatever.
Also, as any other dating book out there for men, they give you formulas and swear to you they work, implying women are some sort of a hivemind and they all love puns, flirt with them even if their boyfriend is right next to them and so on.
On the other hand, I'm giving it two stars because it has a great chapter about #metoo and set up some stuff straight (even if it contradicts his advice in an implicit or explicit manner) about how to treat women right.
Look, I read this books because they told me it gives you great insight into oneself but I totally disagree, this book focuses entirely on rules of engagement with women, generalizing a lot of stuff that we know it's just not true since there cannot be consensus about this.
Work on yourself and disregard any formulas in the dating world, they do not exist.
I finished this book out of discipline, but I must admit I didn't enjoy it at all.
As any other dating book out there, it focuses on quantity over quality, it gives you advice on how to get laid, how to neg women and call it banter or being playful or whatever.
Also, as any other dating book out there for men, they give you formulas and swear to you they work, implying women are some sort of a hivemind and they all love puns, flirt with them even if their boyfriend is right next to them and so on.
On the other hand, I'm giving it two stars because it has a great chapter about #metoo and set up some stuff straight (even if it contradicts his advice in an implicit or explicit manner) about how to treat women right.
Look, I read this books because they told me it gives you great insight into oneself but I totally disagree, this book focuses entirely on rules of engagement with women, generalizing a lot of stuff that we know it's just not true since there cannot be consensus about this.
Work on yourself and disregard any formulas in the dating world, they do not exist.
May 28, 2024
I don't often read books about dating but this book is sort of in an awkward place.
I saw this title on Amazon by chance and gave it a shot for a change of pace.
After finishing the book, I gotta be blunt.... this novel is focusing more on player-like tendencies and going with whoever is the best choice.
I like the ideas of this book, some simple and some impressively clever. I even know things about dating and importantly, before dating I never knew. Who would have thought there is so much more to the process of "women" besides just approaching -> failure or success?
Each chapter dives into the author's personal experiences with dating. Sometimes I found myself questioning if he was making up some of the things he was saying.
Once you read this book yourself, you will realize he is encouraging men to "keep gunning towards baddies and go with the best one."
There is no other way to categorize it and I am not sugarcoating anything either.
He calls women "options" and that alone is enough to ruin the credibility of the entire book.
Likewise, there were some great tips about love and pre-love so I will only give a moderate rating.
I saw this title on Amazon by chance and gave it a shot for a change of pace.
After finishing the book, I gotta be blunt.... this novel is focusing more on player-like tendencies and going with whoever is the best choice.
I like the ideas of this book, some simple and some impressively clever. I even know things about dating and importantly, before dating I never knew. Who would have thought there is so much more to the process of "women" besides just approaching -> failure or success?
Each chapter dives into the author's personal experiences with dating. Sometimes I found myself questioning if he was making up some of the things he was saying.
Once you read this book yourself, you will realize he is encouraging men to "keep gunning towards baddies and go with the best one."
There is no other way to categorize it and I am not sugarcoating anything either.
He calls women "options" and that alone is enough to ruin the credibility of the entire book.
Likewise, there were some great tips about love and pre-love so I will only give a moderate rating.
February 8, 2025
Just started reading this book and so far this book sounds like lies.
Author has repeatedly said this is NOT a pick artist book about sex, but page xvii says "I began attracting models, actresses, dream-girl-next-door.... I began hearing 'Let's go to your place', etc"... so I don't have much hope.
Are models, actresses, and dream-girls the only attractive women?? Books targeted at women dating men tell them to lower their standards and go on a date with that bald guy, that short guy, or that dad bod, because they might have a great personality that makes up for the unattractive physical flaws.
Are there books targeted at men dating women that tell them to lower their standards and go on a date with that plain faced woman, that tall woman, or that mom bod, because they might have a great personality that makes up for the unattractive physical flaws??
Ugh, page 3 the author has finished a story that ends with a beautiful tan woman having sex with him after he grabs her arm and demands she "Come with me. Now". Ew. "'You just yanked me away from those guys like you own me', she said with a hint of a smile. holy shit - this was turning her on. 'I don't own you. I barely know you, but I want to know you better. And when I want something I go after it. I want you.'" WTF dude. This is just pickup artist bullshit. Most women I know would have yelled and/or punch him in the face.
"She's leaving the bar tonight with either you or him. Who's it gonna be?" Sir. Women out at bars are NOT solely looking to leave with a man to have sex. *sigh* it's still only page THREE.
Okay, page 10 has the Five Pillars of Radical Authenticity; Honesty, Vulnerability, Taking Action, Kindness, and Growing and Giving. Which seem like standard human being advice... So don't lie to your date, show emotions other than anger, your actions should align with your words and values, be kind, and grow as a person while giving and not only taking from your relationships. Be yourself and not what media/society tells you you should be while dating and in life in general. Good advice.
Author has repeatedly said this is NOT a pick artist book about sex, but page xvii says "I began attracting models, actresses, dream-girl-next-door.... I began hearing 'Let's go to your place', etc"... so I don't have much hope.
Are models, actresses, and dream-girls the only attractive women?? Books targeted at women dating men tell them to lower their standards and go on a date with that bald guy, that short guy, or that dad bod, because they might have a great personality that makes up for the unattractive physical flaws.
Are there books targeted at men dating women that tell them to lower their standards and go on a date with that plain faced woman, that tall woman, or that mom bod, because they might have a great personality that makes up for the unattractive physical flaws??
Ugh, page 3 the author has finished a story that ends with a beautiful tan woman having sex with him after he grabs her arm and demands she "Come with me. Now". Ew. "'You just yanked me away from those guys like you own me', she said with a hint of a smile. holy shit - this was turning her on. 'I don't own you. I barely know you, but I want to know you better. And when I want something I go after it. I want you.'" WTF dude. This is just pickup artist bullshit. Most women I know would have yelled and/or punch him in the face.
"She's leaving the bar tonight with either you or him. Who's it gonna be?" Sir. Women out at bars are NOT solely looking to leave with a man to have sex. *sigh* it's still only page THREE.
Okay, page 10 has the Five Pillars of Radical Authenticity; Honesty, Vulnerability, Taking Action, Kindness, and Growing and Giving. Which seem like standard human being advice... So don't lie to your date, show emotions other than anger, your actions should align with your words and values, be kind, and grow as a person while giving and not only taking from your relationships. Be yourself and not what media/society tells you you should be while dating and in life in general. Good advice.
June 8, 2024
Overall this book is a solid strategic guide to optimising your approach to dating. Some good structural items on things like profiles, starting conversations (both in person and on the apps), dating activities. there's also alot in here to help get over psychological barriers. there's also some self-work stuff upfront .
He's not a "game" or pickup artist type of dating advise guy, nor is he a bro... he's a bit of a nerd. The problem I personally found was he has a weird infatuation about action. as if he never got any action in his teen years so may be doing some compensation later in life. going in for this kiss and bringing someone home seem to be a very urgent objective to him, which is off-putting. Which is why I dinged 1 star. it would be great messaging for hormone-raging teens, but once I turned 30 I stopped caring so much about getting those things right off the bat. But at least he generally respects gals more than say a pickup artist type of dating coach. We can't all be perfect, but Connell, stop being so desperate to get in pants before you get in minds. You're older than me so it's approaching 'Dirty Old Man' territory
He's not a "game" or pickup artist type of dating advise guy, nor is he a bro... he's a bit of a nerd. The problem I personally found was he has a weird infatuation about action. as if he never got any action in his teen years so may be doing some compensation later in life. going in for this kiss and bringing someone home seem to be a very urgent objective to him, which is off-putting. Which is why I dinged 1 star. it would be great messaging for hormone-raging teens, but once I turned 30 I stopped caring so much about getting those things right off the bat. But at least he generally respects gals more than say a pickup artist type of dating coach. We can't all be perfect, but Connell, stop being so desperate to get in pants before you get in minds. You're older than me so it's approaching 'Dirty Old Man' territory
January 8, 2023
This book helped me with my dating life by giving me valuable insight. It corrected numerous hang-ups and poor advice I received throughout my adult life. Dating Sucks, but You Don't offers advice on getting through rejection, connecting with women, and valuable tips on getting consent.
I firmly recommend this book to any male who's had issues with dating or talking to women. This also serves as a fantastic reinforcement book for the common man getting back into dating. Along with helping motivate you, it will boost your self-confidence while you learn from a dating coach!
As a final note, if you're struggling or feeling "red-pilled," then I especially recommend this book to you. You'll find it to offer greater insight into your struggles and how to correct your errors and enhance your dating life!
I firmly recommend this book to any male who's had issues with dating or talking to women. This also serves as a fantastic reinforcement book for the common man getting back into dating. Along with helping motivate you, it will boost your self-confidence while you learn from a dating coach!
As a final note, if you're struggling or feeling "red-pilled," then I especially recommend this book to you. You'll find it to offer greater insight into your struggles and how to correct your errors and enhance your dating life!
March 30, 2025
It is a great book to read if someone wants to learn the mechanism of dating with women. However I should say it is too much optimistic. It says 1/3 women will interest on you but reality is worse than this ratio. :)
May 3, 2021
Excellent read. Entertaining, informative and above all, inspiring. Highly recommend!
May 4, 2021
Best book I have read in a long time, clever, honest, informatie
June 23, 2021
Good book! Worth the read!
July 14, 2021
Great insight.
December 28, 2022
Pushing the envelope. Getting you out of your comfort zone permanently. Get ready to feel your heart trembling and fear kicking in imagining what is possible that yet seems way too much.
December 14, 2023
Funny and entertaining
December 24, 2023
Wants authenticity. Needs empathy.
February 26, 2024
Dating sucks but this book sure don't!
December 31, 2024
Useful tips, but many are literally stolen from other authors verbatim. Moderately entertaining though.
March 3, 2025
I like the chapter about online dating, specifically the pictures.
July 30, 2025
I read these dating books ironically but they do have some advice that takes the crappers up to a more neutral level. The problem is, those people would never pick up a book.
Overall it was a little cringe and dated (age shows a little bit) but he tried. Some sections did come off as trying to “collect” women like trophies almost, while giving tips for confidence.
Overall it was a little cringe and dated (age shows a little bit) but he tried. Some sections did come off as trying to “collect” women like trophies almost, while giving tips for confidence.
March 18, 2025
It's been over 20 years since Mystery came on the scene. It's almost 20 years since Strauss The Game was published in ~2005. The Natural by Richard La Ruina was published in 2014.
Now 2021, Dating Sucks, published in 2021, is a modern iteration of dating and pickup. With some minor modifications, I found it interesting that many of the principles remain the same. I recognize some of the lines/"routines" from Mystery, Strauss, La Ruina. There were a couple new things I learned in this book, but much was rhyming of past PUAs. I will say I appreciate how Barrett paraphrases many of the PUA principles. Noteworthy was a chapter on dating apps where past dating books dismissed it or it was a minor. Goes to show that even with the culture changing, the arrival of this whole "red pill" movement, social media, and dating apps, the Game remains the Game.
Now 2021, Dating Sucks, published in 2021, is a modern iteration of dating and pickup. With some minor modifications, I found it interesting that many of the principles remain the same. I recognize some of the lines/"routines" from Mystery, Strauss, La Ruina. There were a couple new things I learned in this book, but much was rhyming of past PUAs. I will say I appreciate how Barrett paraphrases many of the PUA principles. Noteworthy was a chapter on dating apps where past dating books dismissed it or it was a minor. Goes to show that even with the culture changing, the arrival of this whole "red pill" movement, social media, and dating apps, the Game remains the Game.
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