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언니, 나랑 결혼할래요?
“우린 오늘 결혼하지만 혼인신고는 거절당할 거야.”
『언니, 나랑 결혼할래요?』에는 동성 결혼이 법제화되지 않은 21세기 대한민국에서 레즈비언이 결혼하는 방식에 대한 모든 것이 담겨 있다. 부모님, 친구, 직장 동료 등 그동안 500번 넘게 커밍아웃을 하면서 체득한 커밍아웃 꿀팁부터 미국에서 혼인신고를 하고 한국에서 결혼식을 준비하는 과정에서 겪은 각종 에피소드, 최근 구청에서 혼인신고를 한 이야기까지, 법적으로는 여전히 미혼이지만 결혼에 한없이 가까운 무언가를 이뤄낸 작은 승리의 역사가 가득하다. 감당할 수 있을 만큼의 자그마한 용기를 가지고 하루하루 사소한 악에 맞서 싸우며 매일매일 작은 승리를 이루는 일상의 히어로들이 결국 세상을 바꾼다. 김규진 작가는 우리에게 주저하지 말라고, 세상은 우리가 생각하는 것보다 많이 달라지고 있다고 용기를 북돋아준다.
『언니, 나랑 결혼할래요?』에는 동성 결혼이 법제화되지 않은 21세기 대한민국에서 레즈비언이 결혼하는 방식에 대한 모든 것이 담겨 있다. 부모님, 친구, 직장 동료 등 그동안 500번 넘게 커밍아웃을 하면서 체득한 커밍아웃 꿀팁부터 미국에서 혼인신고를 하고 한국에서 결혼식을 준비하는 과정에서 겪은 각종 에피소드, 최근 구청에서 혼인신고를 한 이야기까지, 법적으로는 여전히 미혼이지만 결혼에 한없이 가까운 무언가를 이뤄낸 작은 승리의 역사가 가득하다. 감당할 수 있을 만큼의 자그마한 용기를 가지고 하루하루 사소한 악에 맞서 싸우며 매일매일 작은 승리를 이루는 일상의 히어로들이 결국 세상을 바꾼다. 김규진 작가는 우리에게 주저하지 말라고, 세상은 우리가 생각하는 것보다 많이 달라지고 있다고 용기를 북돋아준다.
216 pages, Paperback
Published June 18, 2020
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August 30, 2020
The book’s title is: unnie, will you marry me?
The story is written in casual, friendly form, yet so inspiring and informative. Made me wonder how many people she has influenced and will continue to do so in the future.
And again, allowed me to consider the privilege I have while I identify myself as straight.
There are some parts that definitely stuck with me throughout the book.
While they were preparing for their wedding, they had to always double-check if the businesses they were proceeding with were aware that they were lesbians and their work would be for lesbian wedding. She said what comforted her during the process was a simple reminder that they are equals as such as, “well, isn’t it the same money?”.
Her reason behind signing marriage vows at Manhattan resonated with me as a minority. As she and her wife are Korean citizens, it was inefficient in terms of cost and time to travel to New York for a marriage vow. But that was the best place when considering the criteria for their mission.
“I just wanted our marriage to be considered as important as other marriages. I wanted our family to see the moment of our wedding vows in person. And most importantly, I wanted to show the sincerity we are putting in this promise to myself and unnie, and each other.”
I could also resonate with her fear she faced when asking for a honeymoon vacation in her workplace. Although her workplace was acceptive of her identity, she still fought through that 1%. That 1% of being rejected and ending with questions, “could I still work here then?”-could she still work at a place that doesn’t fully support her identity?
As such, supporting one’s identity isn’t just about words, but really about actions in treating them no differently than someone who identify as straight.
That 1% she fought with-I think is what minorities often fight with in the whole hierarchical society.
She continues her story about having interviews after her wedding, firstly as an article then through a broadcast at KBS. Her vision is to influence others to open their minds with the possibilities of a lesbian couple! Just like how she was inspired after seeing a gay couple holding a wedding.
And through the book, she says she did. Lesbian couples have messaged her in proceeding their honeymoon request form and having a goal to hold a wedding in the future.
Definitely see this book as part of her another step in leading the world for a better tmrw! 🥳💜
The story is written in casual, friendly form, yet so inspiring and informative. Made me wonder how many people she has influenced and will continue to do so in the future.
And again, allowed me to consider the privilege I have while I identify myself as straight.
There are some parts that definitely stuck with me throughout the book.
While they were preparing for their wedding, they had to always double-check if the businesses they were proceeding with were aware that they were lesbians and their work would be for lesbian wedding. She said what comforted her during the process was a simple reminder that they are equals as such as, “well, isn’t it the same money?”.
Her reason behind signing marriage vows at Manhattan resonated with me as a minority. As she and her wife are Korean citizens, it was inefficient in terms of cost and time to travel to New York for a marriage vow. But that was the best place when considering the criteria for their mission.
“I just wanted our marriage to be considered as important as other marriages. I wanted our family to see the moment of our wedding vows in person. And most importantly, I wanted to show the sincerity we are putting in this promise to myself and unnie, and each other.”
I could also resonate with her fear she faced when asking for a honeymoon vacation in her workplace. Although her workplace was acceptive of her identity, she still fought through that 1%. That 1% of being rejected and ending with questions, “could I still work here then?”-could she still work at a place that doesn’t fully support her identity?
As such, supporting one’s identity isn’t just about words, but really about actions in treating them no differently than someone who identify as straight.
That 1% she fought with-I think is what minorities often fight with in the whole hierarchical society.
She continues her story about having interviews after her wedding, firstly as an article then through a broadcast at KBS. Her vision is to influence others to open their minds with the possibilities of a lesbian couple! Just like how she was inspired after seeing a gay couple holding a wedding.
And through the book, she says she did. Lesbian couples have messaged her in proceeding their honeymoon request form and having a goal to hold a wedding in the future.
Definitely see this book as part of her another step in leading the world for a better tmrw! 🥳💜
July 24, 2023
I have learned a great deal from this book in the past week that I have been reading it. https://drift-boss.co/
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