What do you think?
Rate this book
The Orphaned Wife: The story of how one woman survived emotional abandonment in a Christian marriage, and her healing journey toward emotional wholeness.
The life of the Orphaned Wife is a quiet nightmare. She lives in isolation from her emotionally detached husband, cutting her off from the close connection found in a healthy marriage. She feels starved for intimacy. It crushes her self-esteem. She feels unheard and unwanted. She's frustrated and unhappy. Even though she lives for years in a soulless, dying or dead marriage, her friends and family don't believe her. She can't explain the hidden reality of her situation, because everyone around her sees that she is married to a "nice" man. She feels trapped and powerless because she can't save the marriage by herself. In The Orphaned Wife, the author tells her story of living in a marriage with an emotionally disconnected man, and how God used that marriage as a catalyst for her healing journey of transformation from isolation to belonging, desolation to wholeness, and bondage to freedom.
165 pages, Paperback
Published January 11, 2020
19 people are currently reading
7 people want to read
Ratings & Reviews
Friends & Following
Create a free account to discover what your friends think of this book!
Community Reviews
Displaying 1 - 3 of 3 reviews
August 25, 2021
This was bought for me by a family member. We knew the author was a woman writing with women in mind, but thought it might have been written more in the middle than it was.
The author doesn’t seem to have learned as much as she thinks:
1) she says that husbands should be the spiritual protectors of their wives, then says they are often spiritually attacked for doing so, but never states that these are the times when the wife needs to step up & help him with prayer & temporarily take the lead if needed.
2) She makes the generalized statement that men don’t really want to work on issues, are unwilling to dig to the root of issues to truly deal with them. However, I’m not from another planet but I am a man that does in fact look to the root of things in order to actually deal with & solve problems. It seems the author still has some attitudes against men.
3) her theology is terribly wrong, there is absolutely nothing in a correctly rendered Bible version that teaches that God is triune in nature; such ignorance stems from poor biblical scholarship
The author doesn’t seem to have learned as much as she thinks:
1) she says that husbands should be the spiritual protectors of their wives, then says they are often spiritually attacked for doing so, but never states that these are the times when the wife needs to step up & help him with prayer & temporarily take the lead if needed.
2) She makes the generalized statement that men don’t really want to work on issues, are unwilling to dig to the root of issues to truly deal with them. However, I’m not from another planet but I am a man that does in fact look to the root of things in order to actually deal with & solve problems. It seems the author still has some attitudes against men.
3) her theology is terribly wrong, there is absolutely nothing in a correctly rendered Bible version that teaches that God is triune in nature; such ignorance stems from poor biblical scholarship
February 12, 2022
The Book I Wish I'd Had 40+ Years Ago
When I was an orphaned wife, I had no idea, no knowledge of what was happening. I only knew after many years of struggling, that I had done everything I knew to save my marriage. I had to release it to God. He buried it. I knew divorce was necessary, but I felt failure. Until I read this book, I accepted it, but never understood it. Julie Cunningham has done a brilliant job of analyzing and encouraging. Her ideas have made my life's missing piece slip into place so I could see the whole picture. I concur with everything she says. I appreciate the suggestions for further reading and the faith-filled stance should has taken, as I also struggled to reconcile Biblical teaching and the reality of my life. I initially wanted to read this book to help someone else. God meant it for me!
When I was an orphaned wife, I had no idea, no knowledge of what was happening. I only knew after many years of struggling, that I had done everything I knew to save my marriage. I had to release it to God. He buried it. I knew divorce was necessary, but I felt failure. Until I read this book, I accepted it, but never understood it. Julie Cunningham has done a brilliant job of analyzing and encouraging. Her ideas have made my life's missing piece slip into place so I could see the whole picture. I concur with everything she says. I appreciate the suggestions for further reading and the faith-filled stance should has taken, as I also struggled to reconcile Biblical teaching and the reality of my life. I initially wanted to read this book to help someone else. God meant it for me!
October 19, 2023
Read the description of this book. If you feel alone and abandoned in your marriage, unheard, unloved, then read this book. Gather your courage as Julie did, open your heart to God's guidance and move forward into the life God truly wants for you.
Displaying 1 - 3 of 3 reviews