Loving Across Borders: How to Navigate Conflict, Communication, and Cultural Differences in Your Intercultural Relationship

by K.C. McCormick Çiftçi

Loving Across Borders is the essential guide for navigating a new intercultural relationship. Faced with challenges ranging from immigration to different value systems, fiance visas to communication, and everything in between, if you're in an intercultural relationship you might feel alone and unequipped for handling all the obstacles in your path. Get on track create and maintain the intercultural marriage of your dreams. “This book is the go-to guide to multicultural relationships! KC sensitively and skillfully provides a roadmap on how to navigate common challenges cross-border couples encounter. Whether you’ve recently fallen in love or have been in a committed relationship for a long time, Loving Across Borders will be a valuable resource – for you, your partner and the closest people around you!“ - Camilla Quintana, Cert. Life & Relationship Coach for Expat Women In Loving Across Borders , find insights into navigating relational, personal, practical, and family challenges that may present themselves in your cross-cultural relationship. Learn author KC‌ McCormick Çiftçi’s framework for working your way through conflicts of all kinds from the inside out. You’ll An intercultural relationship can feel isolating in the beginning – no one else in your life can understand or relate, so you find yourself opting for silence to avoid being judged or misunderstood. In this book, you’ll find a sister in KC McCormick Çiftçi, sharing her own experience both from her own relationship and as an intercultural coach and community leader. You’ll turn the last page feeling equipped, empowered, and knowing with confidence that you aren’t alone. This book is a great resource for anyone in the process of marrying someone from another country, and it contains lessons and wisdom with applications far beyond. "KC provides a thorough overview, as well as valuable tactics and mindset shifts, for navigating the unique challenges faced by intercultural couples (or their family members). She consistently draws attention to the single most important element of appropriate and effective cross-cultural our own self-awareness. Drawing on personal experiences, KC leads the reader through critical lessons and skills in cultivating or supporting a successful intercultural relationship. If you're in need of a friend, ally, or guide as you sail these uncharted seas, then you need to read this book." - Lena Papadopoulos, Interculturalist and Transformation Coach "KC does a beautiful job to share all the small nuances of intercultural relationships in Loving Across Borders. A mix of guidance and KC's story, her book captures all of the details (big and small) of loving someone who's from a different culture, learning about yourself, setting boundaries, and self-awareness. While reading I finally felt seen, heard, and understood from someone who is in a similar situation as my own. If you find yourself loving someone from a different culture or country, KC and her expertise in this area are like a warm comfort to know you're never alone in this!" - Cassandra Le, Founder of The Quirky Pineapple Studio

172 pages, Hardcover

Published February 7, 2020

About the author

KC McCormick Çiftçi is an English teacher turned romance writer. She is from Michigan, but spent the majority of her twenties living and working abroad, collecting the experiences that inform the stories she tells. She enjoys telling multicultural and international love stories through sweet romance, romantic comedy, and women’s fiction. She lives in Turkey with her husband and a herd of cats.

Reviews

[Dawid Dethan · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is a great book that talks about the ins and outs of what intercultural relationships look like. Lots of differing views of how other people view you and you feel like you can only relate to couples that can only understand the different cultures that’s clashing. Since most people have only lived with a certain mono culture their whole life people often see the world with that lense with that certain set of Moral, cultures, traditions, therefore it’s easy for others to judge and side with whoever aligns more with that particular culture.

I like that aspect of showing how that’s normal. She talks about how weddings go, marriages, and transition, kids etc. so many expectations need to be verbally said. Since it’s so easy to expect something that the other doesn’t understand.

What I don’t like about this book as a Christian is that she frames mixed religious marriages as ok. If you’re already in a mixed culture/race/region relationship. Having a partner that also doesn’t view the world in terms of a moral and values perspective is dangerous. Especially if both couples chose to stay in their perspective religions. Will be a crazy upbringing for the kids. Speaking from personal experience know many people in Indonesia that tried this and end up in divorce.

Take the good in this book and leave the bad. Overall beneficial for a mixed relationship couple. I’d like to see a Christian version of this though.

[Miream · Rating 5 out of 5]

I've been looking for a good book on this topic for a long time! I love how practical and down-to-earth it is. My boyfriend (Tanzanian) and I (Romanian) are going to read it and discuss it together. This is such a great resource!