I Don't Share Cheesecake: ...because my life is too good to share with just anybody

by Stephanie Mills

I was six years old when I first heard “the voice”. It wasn’t an audible voice; more like a feeling. There was an older woman in my church who had never been married. I wondered to myself, why? That’s when the voice spoke clearly to me: “That’s going to be you. Nobody is ever going to want to marry you.” That voice created a fear in me that day that caused me to spend half my life manufacturing relationships that weren’t right for me out of fear of being alone. I have spent the last ten years, single and on a journey of self-discovery. I discovered the difference between having a desire to be married and needing to be married. I stopped putting my life on hold for a wedding and I began to live! While discussing my last chapter with my friend Pastor Cynthia, the origin of “the voice” suddenly came flooding back to memory…“Oh my gosh! I remember when it happened!” At the age of 40, I was able to call that thirty-three year old lie out of the dark and remove it from my life forever. This is my story…

197 pages, Kindle Edition

Published July 11, 2019

About the author

Stephanie Mills is an author, lecturer and longtime bioregionalist. Her books include Tough Little Beauties, Epicurean Simplicity, and In Service of the Wild.

Reviews

[Micah Larsen · Rating 3 out of 5]

Refreshingly open and vulnerable account of a single girl's journey through life at age 40. We men never fully realize just how much thought is put into relationships and friendships by women because with us it's more like, "Oh you like the same stuff I do? Let's hang out." Her openness and honesty gives a glimpse into the complicated web of the female brain. Unfortunately the story was saturated in the modern culture of evangellyfishism influenced by people like Joyce Meyer and Steven Furtick rather than a robust biblical worldview. For that I can go no higher than 3 stars.